Episode 367: When You Know How You Want to Respond... But Just Can't Do It
Release Date: 12/11/2025
Episode 369: Notes from a Client Session: Why We TALK TOO MUCH
Your Parenting Long Game
When our kids aren't listening, we often default to talking more in an attempt to be more clear...more firm...more persuasive. But as we know, our EXTRA words often don't lead to better results. Fortunately, the solution to motivating more responsibility in our kids takes less energy, not more. In this episode, you’ll hear: Why a child's "not listening" may not be a listening problem What to say and do so that your child is more likely to do things they don't feel like doing What YOU likely need in order to implement this strategy --
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Episode 368: Notes from a Client Session: Increasing Your Influence
Your Parenting Long Game
As parents, we want to be a steady, positive influence...someone our child trusts, listens to, and feels safe with. But in the hardest moments, that influence often slips away, not because we don’t care or aren’t trying, but because our child’s reactions pull us into doubt, urgency, or over-accommodation. In this episode, I explain why influence breaks down under pressure, and how rebuilding it starts with balancing confidence and connection. In this episode, you’ll hear: Why confidence without connection can lead to shame, power struggles, and self-doubt in kids How connection...
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Episode 367: When You Know How You Want to Respond... But Just Can't Do It
Your Parenting Long Game
Most parents don’t realize that the hardest moments aren’t hard because you don’t know what to do... They’re hard because your child’s behavior is directly impacting your energy, your time, or your sanity. In this episode, I’ll break down why that matters more than you think, and how to reclaim your sense of control without needing your child to change first. In this episode, you’ll hear: The hidden ways your child’s behavior affects your ability to stay regulated Why struggling in these moments doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong The simple 3-step process that helps...
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Episode 366: Notice What You ARE Doing (Use This Checklist)
Your Parenting Long Game
YOU rarely get acknowledged for the emotional load you carry, especially when raising kids with big feelings. In this episode, I’m going to point out some of the things you likely do — even if you don’t notice them, and even if you don’t do them perfectly! In this episode, you’ll hear: A piece of the invisible emotional load you carry that rarely gets noticed How your imperfect effort strengthens your child’s confidence and safety What your child would thank you for if they had the words A simple way to finally give yourself credit for the...
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Episode 365: Stop Micronagging
Your Parenting Long Game
https://rachel-bailey.com/365It's incredibly exhausting to feel like a broken record, constantly reminding your kids to get ready, start homework, or get off of their device. And these constant reminders, or "micronags," can reduce your influence and impact your relationship. Fortunately, there is another way to motivate more responsible behavior. In this episode, you'll learn: Why micronagging becomes the default, even when we don’t want to do it The real reason kids don’t follow through the first time, and why it isn’t defiance Three practical steps to replace reminders...
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Episode 364: When Your Child Is Disrespectful... Say Less
Your Parenting Long Game
When your child rolls their eyes, snaps “You’re so annoying,” or yells “Whatever!”, it’s natural to jump in with, “Don’t talk to me that way!” or “That’s unacceptable.” You want to teach them to be respectful... but those reactions usually only make situations worse. In fact, the best thing to do when your child is disrespectful is to do less. In this episode, you'll learn: Why doing less is not "letting them get away with it" and not the same as being weak, passive or permissive How to stay grounded and model regulation instead of reacting to your...
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Episode 363: How We Often Prevent Children's Growth (And How to Fix It)
Your Parenting Long Game
As parents, so many of our decisions in the moment are focused on keeping the peace, calming the meltdown, protecting our nerves. But while that might reduce drama in the short term, it often prevents our children from developing the confidence and resilience they need for long-term success. In this episode, you'll learn why discomfort is essential for growth and how to respond in those hard moments without rescuing, over-explaining, or giving in. In this episode, you'll learn: The hidden ways we unintentionally block our child’s resilience by avoiding discomfort Why discomfort is not...
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Episode 362: Your Child Can Focus on Things They Enjoy... Why Can't They Unload the Dishwasher?
Your Parenting Long Game
Have you ever wondered how your child can spend hours building a virtual world… yet when you ask them to do any daily task, they act like it's torture? In this episode, I explain the REAL reason your child resists everyday tasks and why it has nothing to do with laziness, disrespect, or lack of motivation. Once you understand how the brain responds to stimulation and Yuck, you’ll be able to shift from fighting your child’s resistance… to understanding it and leading them through it. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why your child’s brain sees boring tasks as “dangerous” and...
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Episode 361: A Quick Tip to Stop Responding in a Way You Regret
Your Parenting Long Game
http://rachel-bailey.com/361When our kids resist, melt down, or push back, our instinct is to get them to calm down or cooperate...fast. We talk more, repeat rules, and try to convince them to “get it together.” But the more urgent we become, the more our kids resist and the harder everything feels. Fortunately, there a quick shift can help you respond more effectively, and in a way that you don't regret. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why urgency fuels kids' resistance (and why it’s so hard to stop being urgent in the moment) How to recognize when your own fight-or-flight...
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Episode 360: When Your Child Says That Coping Strategies "Don't Work"
Your Parenting Long Game
When our kids are upset, we often suggest strategies to help them calm down or manage tough situations—like taking deep breaths, counting to ten, or breaking down assignments into smaller steps. But when those strategies don’t instantly erase the discomfort, both kids (and parents!) often conclude that “nothing works.” In this episode, you’ll learn: How to assess whether a strategy really “works” or not (so kids stop insisting that nothing works!) A powerful exercise you can try with your child to help them build tolerance for discomfort Simple ways to introduce the idea of...
info_outlineMost parents don’t realize that the hardest moments aren’t hard because you don’t know what to do... They’re hard because your child’s behavior is directly impacting your energy, your time, or your sanity. In this episode, I’ll break down why that matters more than you think, and how to reclaim your sense of control without needing your child to change first.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- The hidden ways your child’s behavior affects your ability to stay regulated
- Why struggling in these moments doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong
- The simple 3-step process that helps you feel more grounded and effective
- How to support your child’s needs and your own so things start to shift more quickly
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