Navigating Identity: A Korean Adoptee's Journey with Nathan Nowack - Ep 174
Release Date: 12/09/2024
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info_outline"I...sometimes I forget that I'm Asian unless I see myself in a mirror." -- Nathan Nowack
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EPISODE SUMMARY:
In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of speaking with Nathan Nowack, a Korean adoptee, professional photographer, and co-host of The Janchi Show. Nathan shared his adoption story, having been adopted from Korea at just five and a half months old and raised in a predominantly white community in Oklahoma. He reflected on his childhood, noting the lack of cultural representation and the challenges of navigating his Asian identity in a world that often sees him as different.
We discussed the complexities of transracial adoption, including the impact of his parents' approach to race and culture. Nathan emphasized the importance of understanding and acknowledging one's racial identity, especially in a society that often overlooks these nuances. He shared his experiences with microaggressions and the emotional toll they can take on adoptees, highlighting the need for greater awareness and sensitivity.
Nathan also spoke about his involvement with KAAN (Korean American Adoptee Adoptive Family Network) and how connecting with other adoptees has been instrumental in his healing journey. He described the sense of community he found there and the importance of sharing diverse adoption stories, acknowledging that each experience is unique.
As a father of three multiple-ethnicity children, Nathan is committed to helping them understand their cultural heritage. He shared how he incorporates Asian traditions and celebrations into their lives, ensuring they have a strong sense of identity.
This conversation was rich with insights into the complexities of adoption, identity, and community. I hope listeners find Nathan's story as inspiring and enlightening as I did. Be sure to check out The Janchi Show and connect with Nathan on Instagram for more of his journey and perspectives. Thank you for joining us, and I look forward to our next episode!
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Nathan’s information:
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Find Nathan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nnowack/
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Check out Nathan’s Podcast: www.janchishow.com and https://www.instagram.com/janchishow/
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Find out more about KAAN: www.wearekaan.org and https://www.instagram.com/wearekaan/
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TIME STAMPS:
00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption
Welcome to the podcast and introduction of host Beth Syverson and guest Nathan Nowack.
00:01:26 - Nathan's Adoption Story
Nathan shares his background as a Korean adoptee raised in a predominantly white environment.
00:02:50 - Cultural Representation in Upbringing
Discussion on the lack of Asian cultural representation in Nathan's childhood.
00:03:50 - Transracial Adoption and Parental Awareness
Nathan reflects on his adoptive parents' understanding of transracial adoption.
00:05:32 - The Melting Pot Mentality
Exploration of the "colorblind" approach to race and its implications for Nathan.
00:06:52 - Microaggressions and Identity
Nathan discusses experiences with microaggressions and their impact on his identity.
00:08:38 - Community and Connection
The importance of finding community among other adoptees for support and understanding.
00:09:18 - Involvement with KAAN
Nathan explains his role in the Korean American Adoptee Adoptive Family Network (KAAN).
00:10:56 - Upcoming KAAN Conference
Details about the next KAAN conference and its themes.
00:11:41 - Healing Through Shared Stories
How connecting with other adoptees aids in Nathan's healing journey.
00:12:30 - The Complexity of Adoption Stories
Discussion on the varied experiences of adoptees and the ongoing nature of loss.
00:13:44 - Reunion with Biological Family
Nathan shares his experience of reuniting with his biological siblings.
00:15:17 - Communication Challenges with Siblings
The difficulties of connecting with his siblings due to language barriers.
00:16:37 - Sibling Trauma and Adoption
Exploration of the trauma experienced by Nathan's siblings regarding his adoption.
00:17:45 - Parenting Mixed-Race Children
Nathan discusses raising his children with awareness of their diverse heritage.
00:19:15 - Cultural Education for Children
How Nathan incorporates Asian culture and representation into his children's lives.
00:20:37 - Food and Cultural Connection
Nathan's love for food and how it connects him to his heritage and family.
00:21:50 - Living Through His Children
Reflections on how Nathan experiences his own identity through his children's upbringing.
00:22:45 - Closing Thoughts and Resources
Nathan expresses gratitude for the opportunity to share his story and offers ways to connect.