Unraveling the Layers of Childhood Trauma with Ron Jenkins - Ep 176

"I didn't realize how strong I was until, you know, I got into therapy and started to understand all the things that I've overcome." - Ron Jenkins

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EPISODE SUMMARY:

In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the privilege of speaking with Ron Jenkins, a remarkable individual whose journey through the complexities of foster care and adoption is both harrowing and inspiring. Ron's story begins with the tragic loss of his mother as a young child, leading him and his siblings into the foster care system. He was eventually adopted by a woman who, rather than providing a safe haven, exploited the system for drug money, resulting in a chaotic and violent environment.

Ron candidly shares the trauma he experienced, including the loss of several brothers to violence and the pervasive fear that defined his childhood. Despite these challenges, he made a conscious decision to steer clear of gangs and drugs, ultimately finding a mentor who changed the trajectory of his life. This mentor not only provided guidance but also became a father figure, helping Ron navigate his way to a football scholarship at Fresno State University.

Throughout our conversation, Ron emphasizes the importance of self-advocacy, therapy, and the need to break the cycle of trauma. He encourages listeners, especially men, to seek help and recognize that they deserve the same opportunities as anyone else. Ron's journey of healing and his commitment to helping at-risk youth through mentorship and advocacy work is truly inspiring.

We also touched on the impact of sexual abuse in Ron's life and how it shaped his relationships. He highlights the importance of addressing these issues through therapy, which has been instrumental in his healing process.

As we wrapped up, Ron shared exciting news about a movie being made about his life, and he invited anyone interested in supporting this project to reach out. This episode is a powerful reminder of resilience, the importance of community, and the potential for transformation, even in the face of overwhelming adversity. I hope Ron's story resonates with you and inspires you to seek help, advocate for yourself, and support others in their journeys.

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RESOURCES:

Ron’s information:

• Ron’s email: [email protected]

• Documentary coming 2025-2026 - email Ron to find out how best to support that project

Other resources mentioned in this episode:

• Celia Center, led by Jeanette Yoffe: https://celiacenter.org/

• Runaway Girl: Escaping Life on the Streets by Carissa Phelps: https://www.amazon.com/Runaway-Girl-Escaping-Life-Streets/dp/0143123335

• Carissa’s nonprofit organization’s website: https://runawaygirl.com/

 

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TIME STAMPS:

00:00:00 - Introduction
Welcome to Unraveling Adoption with host Beth Syverson and guest Ron Jenkins.

00:01:43 - Ron’s Adoption Story
Ron shares his early experiences in foster care and adoption.

00:02:21 - Foster Care Challenges
Discussion of difficulties faced due to his adoptive mother's drug use.

00:03:57 - Violence and Trauma
Recounting violent incidents and trauma in his childhood.

00:06:36 - Avoiding Gangs
Ron discusses his choices to stay away from gang involvement.

00:10:07 - Loss of a Brother
Heartbreaking story of his brother's murder and its impact.

00:12:39 - Self-Advocacy
Ron reflects on learning to advocate for himself.

00:14:23 - Mentorship
Introduction of Mr. Burnett, a key mentor in Ron's life.

00:16:30 - Impact of Sports
How sports provided structure and discipline.

00:20:08 - Helping Youth
Ron talks about his work with at-risk youth.

00:22:43 - Trust and Self-Advocacy
The importance of learning to trust and advocate for oneself.

00:25:04 - Value of Therapy
Emphasizing therapy's role in healing from trauma.

00:28:05 - Sexual Abuse Experiences
Ron shares his experiences with sexual abuse.

00:33:16 - Relationship Patterns
How past abuse influenced his adult relationships.

00:36:10 - Breaking the Cycle
The importance of addressing abusive patterns.

00:38:49 - Healing and Strength
Reflections on healing through faith and therapy.

00:39:39 - Book Recommendation
Ron recommends "Runaway Girl" for inspiration.

00:40:52 - Movie Project
News about a movie being made about Ron's life.

00:42:17 - Closing Remarks
Beth thanks Ron and encourages listeners to connect with resources.