Part 2: Self Awareness: The Three Key Components to Successful Relationships
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
Release Date: 06/08/2023
A Closer Look at Jesus' Love Language
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
We all have a preferred love language, certain acts of love that we desire more than others. This is true in all of our relationshps not just our romantic relationships. Love languages are how we communicate love to each other, they are: · Words of affirmation · Quality time · Physical touch · Acts of service · Receiving gifts Jesus has a preferred love language, not listed above but...
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The Value of Storytelling
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
Today on Bethe3rd we’re going to be talking about storytelling and how important this simple act of communication is to our world and our wellbeing. Storytelling goes back to the very beginning of time. It is one of our best and most beneficial learning tools. It emphasizes the storyteller’s creativity and engages the listener in critical thinking. It helps the storyteller convey critical life skills and lessons without long drawn out technical or complicated words or phrases. Human beings love stories and God knew this because. He created us in His image, and this is how Jesus...
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The Beauty of the Face
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
If we are to love others as ourselves and have been made for relationship and to be in community with others than I can only believe that its true that…. “Our survival depends on understanding the actions, intentions and emotions of others.” (Dr. Giacomo Rizzolatti) We have heard that the eyes are the window to the soul. Although very poetic this just isn’t so. According to most experts in order to know the human soul we must see the face. Today on Be the 3rd we will be discussing how important the face is. Weather the world judges your face as beautiful or homely it...
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Do Not Let The Sun Go Down on Your Anger
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
So many times we read a verse and know exactly what it means, but other times we read the same verse and get a totally different perspective on it. What does it mean to not let the sun go down on your anger? Eph 4:26-27 Does it mean literally, don't go to bed with unresolved conflict or is there a different meaning all together? What if this verse along with it's related verse Psalm 4:4 is a lesson in self-awareness? What if it is a warning against staying in a estranged relationship for years. What if instead of a literal day, this verse actually references...
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Part 3 Confrontation vs Conversation: What is the Difference?
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
Today's podcast will continue our deep dive into the root meaning of the words confrontation and conversation. If you haven't had the opportunity to listen to parts one and two make sure to go back so you don't miss a thing. (; ). We've been talking about the differences and similarities between confrontation and conversation. When we break these two words down to their roots we realize that they come from the same place and have pretty much the same meaning. Today we will finally address my bold statement that althought we admit to loving converstion while simultaneously hating...
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Part 2 Confrontations vs. Conversations: What's the Difference?
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
Today's podcast will continue our deep dive into the root meaning of the words confrontation and conversation. If you haven't heard last weeks episode make sure to go back so you don't miss a thing. We've been talking about the differences and similarities between confrontation and conversation. When we break these two words down to their roots we realize that they come from the same place and have pretty much the same meaning. Today we will use a sports analogy to understand how we view confrontation. We will also learn some of the characteristics or rules to conversation. ...
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Part 1 Confrontation vs conversation: What's the Difference?
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
Most of us admit to enjoying conversation while simultaneously hating confrontation. When we break these two words down to their roots we realize that they come from the same place and have pretty much the same meaning. Regardless of what we say, we tend to particpate more in confrontation than in conversation that is not small talk or agreeableness. Simply put, conversations require much of us including an abundance of self-control Confrontations on the other hand require very little with virtually no self-control. This series will compare and contrast confrontation...
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Part 4: Self Esteem: The Three Key Components to Successful Relationships
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
If we want to have to have deeper more meaninful relationships we need to start thinking more about our Self's and less about our relationship partner. This goes against everything we know about relationships and is in direct contradiction to our theme here at Be the 3rd. Yet, there are three key components of our communication process that never get the attention that they need, and they all require that we focus quite a bit of time thinking about these three aspects of ourselves. Self-Awareness Self-Control Self-Esteem Once we start to focus and understand these...
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Part 3: Self Control: The Three Key Components to Successful Relationships
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
If we want to have to have deeper more meaninful relationships we need to start thinking more about our Self's and less about our relationship partner. This goes against everything we know about relationships and is in direct contradiction to our theme here at Be the 3rd. Yet, there are three key components of our communication process that never get the attention that they need, and they all require that we focus quite a bit of time thinking about these three aspects of ourselves. Self-Awareness Self-Control Self-Esteem Once we start to focus and understand these...
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Part 2: Self Awareness: The Three Key Components to Successful Relationships
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
If we want to have to have deeper more meaninful relationships we need to start thinking more about our Self's and less about our relationship partner. This goes against everything we know about relationships and is in direct contradiction to our theme here at Be the 3rd. Yet, there are three key components of our communication process that never get the attention that they need, and they all require that we focus quite a bit of time thinking about these three aspects of ourselves. Self-Awareness Self-Control Self-Esteem Once we start to focus and understand these...
info_outlineIf we want to have to have deeper more meaninful relationships we need to start thinking more about our Self's and less about our relationship partner.
This goes against everything we know about relationships and is in direct contradiction to our theme here at Be the 3rd.
Yet, there are three key components of our communication process that never get the attention that they need, and they all require that we focus quite a bit of time thinking about these three aspects of ourselves.
Self-Awareness
Self-Control
Self-Esteem
Once we start to focus and understand these three components of self, not only will our relationships with each other deepen and strengthen but so will our relationship with God.
Today's podcast is part 2 in this series and focuses on self-awareness the foundation to the other Selfs (refer to S1Ep9 for part 1)
Self awareness is one of the five aspects to emotional intelligence. A high level of self awareness allows us to know and control our emotions. It gives us an insight into our own behaviors, styles, and sins. It also gives us confidence in our abiliities, talents, and our true calling from God.
We must know and understand ourselves wholly before we can know and understand others. When we find our true selves, through intervention from God, He will meet our needs. We then will look less toward others to meet them raising us to the top tier of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. This level of consciousness allows us to move our focus to our relationship partners and away from ourselves.
References
Daniel, G. (2020). Emotional intelligence. Bloomsbury Publishing PLC.
Duval, S., & Wicklund, R. A. (1972). A theory of objective self-awareness. Academic Press.
Encyclopedia Britannica, inc. (n.d.). Abraham Maslow Hierarchy of needs. Encyclopedia Britannica. https://www.britannica.com/biography/Abraham-H-Maslow
The holy bible. (2002). American Bible Society.
Murthy, V. H. (2020). Together: The healing power of human connection in a sometimes Lonely World. Harper Wave, an imprint of HarperCollinsPublishers.
Newell, C. D. (2022, February 10). Seeing Myself Through God’s Eyes. Encouragement Cafe. encouragementcafe.com
Silvia, P. J., & Duval, T. S. (2001). Objective self-awareness theory: Recent progress and enduring problems. Personality and Social Psychology Review, 5(3), 230–241. https://doi.org/10.1207/s15327957pspr0503_4
Bible Verses
Ephesians 4:22-24
You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to bel like God in true righteousness and holiness.
2 Corinthians 5:17-19
Therefore, is anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come. The old has gone, the new is here. All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation, that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them.
Proverbs 21:2
A person may think their own ways are right, but the Lord weighs the heart.
Psalm 26:2
Test me Lord, and try me, examine my heart and my mind; for I have always been mindful of your unfailing love.
Psalm 139:23-24
Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.
Romans 12:3
For by the grace given me I say to every one of you; Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you.
John 8:12
When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness but will have the light of life.”
1 Samuel 13:14
But now your kingdom will not endure; the Lord has sought out a man after his own heart and appointed him ruler of his people, because you have not kept the Lord’s command.”