A Closer Look at Jesus' Love Language
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
We all have a preferred love language, certain acts of love that we desire more than others. This is true in all of our relationshps not just our romantic relationships. Love languages are how we communicate love to each other, they are: · Words of affirmation · Quality time · Physical touch · Acts of service · Receiving gifts Jesus has a preferred love language, not listed above but...
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The Value of Storytelling
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
Today on Bethe3rd we’re going to be talking about storytelling and how important this simple act of communication is to our world and our wellbeing. Storytelling goes back to the very beginning of time. It is one of our best and most beneficial learning tools. It emphasizes the storyteller’s creativity and engages the listener in critical thinking. It helps the storyteller convey critical life skills and lessons without long drawn out technical or complicated words or phrases. Human beings love stories and God knew this because. He created us in His image, and this is how Jesus...
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The Beauty of the Face
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
If we are to love others as ourselves and have been made for relationship and to be in community with others than I can only believe that its true that…. “Our survival depends on understanding the actions, intentions and emotions of others.” (Dr. Giacomo Rizzolatti) We have heard that the eyes are the window to the soul. Although very poetic this just isn’t so. According to most experts in order to know the human soul we must see the face. Today on Be the 3rd we will be discussing how important the face is. Weather the world judges your face as beautiful or homely it...
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Do Not Let The Sun Go Down on Your Anger
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
So many times we read a verse and know exactly what it means, but other times we read the same verse and get a totally different perspective on it. What does it mean to not let the sun go down on your anger? Eph 4:26-27 Does it mean literally, don't go to bed with unresolved conflict or is there a different meaning all together? What if this verse along with it's related verse Psalm 4:4 is a lesson in self-awareness? What if it is a warning against staying in a estranged relationship for years. What if instead of a literal day, this verse actually references...
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Part 3 Confrontation vs Conversation: What is the Difference?
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
Today's podcast will continue our deep dive into the root meaning of the words confrontation and conversation. If you haven't had the opportunity to listen to parts one and two make sure to go back so you don't miss a thing. (; ). We've been talking about the differences and similarities between confrontation and conversation. When we break these two words down to their roots we realize that they come from the same place and have pretty much the same meaning. Today we will finally address my bold statement that althought we admit to loving converstion while simultaneously hating...
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Part 2 Confrontations vs. Conversations: What's the Difference?
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
Today's podcast will continue our deep dive into the root meaning of the words confrontation and conversation. If you haven't heard last weeks episode make sure to go back so you don't miss a thing. We've been talking about the differences and similarities between confrontation and conversation. When we break these two words down to their roots we realize that they come from the same place and have pretty much the same meaning. Today we will use a sports analogy to understand how we view confrontation. We will also learn some of the characteristics or rules to conversation. ...
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Part 1 Confrontation vs conversation: What's the Difference?
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
Most of us admit to enjoying conversation while simultaneously hating confrontation. When we break these two words down to their roots we realize that they come from the same place and have pretty much the same meaning. Regardless of what we say, we tend to particpate more in confrontation than in conversation that is not small talk or agreeableness. Simply put, conversations require much of us including an abundance of self-control Confrontations on the other hand require very little with virtually no self-control. This series will compare and contrast confrontation...
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Part 4: Self Esteem: The Three Key Components to Successful Relationships
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
If we want to have to have deeper more meaninful relationships we need to start thinking more about our Self's and less about our relationship partner. This goes against everything we know about relationships and is in direct contradiction to our theme here at Be the 3rd. Yet, there are three key components of our communication process that never get the attention that they need, and they all require that we focus quite a bit of time thinking about these three aspects of ourselves. Self-Awareness Self-Control Self-Esteem Once we start to focus and understand these...
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Part 3: Self Control: The Three Key Components to Successful Relationships
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
If we want to have to have deeper more meaninful relationships we need to start thinking more about our Self's and less about our relationship partner. This goes against everything we know about relationships and is in direct contradiction to our theme here at Be the 3rd. Yet, there are three key components of our communication process that never get the attention that they need, and they all require that we focus quite a bit of time thinking about these three aspects of ourselves. Self-Awareness Self-Control Self-Esteem Once we start to focus and understand these...
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Part 2: Self Awareness: The Three Key Components to Successful Relationships
Be the 3rd: Communicating the Way God Intended
If we want to have to have deeper more meaninful relationships we need to start thinking more about our Self's and less about our relationship partner. This goes against everything we know about relationships and is in direct contradiction to our theme here at Be the 3rd. Yet, there are three key components of our communication process that never get the attention that they need, and they all require that we focus quite a bit of time thinking about these three aspects of ourselves. Self-Awareness Self-Control Self-Esteem Once we start to focus and understand these...
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If we are to love others as ourselves and have been made for relationship and to be in community with others than I can only believe that its true that….
“Our survival depends on understanding the actions, intentions and emotions of others.” (Dr. Giacomo Rizzolatti)
We have heard that the eyes are the window to the soul. Although very poetic this just isn’t so. According to most experts in order to know the human soul we must see the face.
Today on Be the 3rd we will be discussing how important the face is. Weather the world judges your face as beautiful or homely it just doesn’t matter. All of our faces are beautiful in the fact that they allow others to know us, and understand us, to feel what we feel and to share in our experiences with us. In conjunction with our mirror neuron system our faces are indeed the window into our souls and the very tool that God gave us to truly know others so that loving them like ourselves becomes the easy, selfless act it was always meant to be.
God has given us this gift of the face. Regardless of how the world judges it, God has made a beautiful window that allows us to see into the souls of others. With the help of our mirror neurons, we get past our selfishness. Once we feel what others feel naturally, subconsciously it becomes easy to put them just below God yet above us and love them as ourselves.
Scripture
1 Pet 3:8 - Finally, all of you, be like minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble.
Rom 12:15 - Rejoice with those who rejoice, mourn with those who mourn.
1 John 3:17 - If anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them, how can the love of God be in the person?
Matt 22:39 - And the second is like it: Love you neighbor as yourself.
Matt 9:36 - When he saw the crowds, he had compasisonn on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.
Luke 7:13 - When the Lord saw her, his heat went out to her and he said, "Don't cry."
Psalm 103:13-14 - As a father has compassionn on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him; for he knows how we are formed, he remembers that we are dust.
1 Pet 5:7 - Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
John 11:35 - Jesus wept.
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