I’m All I Wanted to Be. Now What? With Sat Dharam Kaur
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This conversation opens with Sat Dharam sharing her realization that her original life goals have been achieved, and asking herself, “What’s next?” She goes on to look forward and explore the possibilities. A therapist’s state is known to influence the client's experience and expand the potential for healing. That’s why Compassionate Inquiry® brings empathetic presence into therapeutic contexts. But if current psychological and spiritual understandings were expanded to include environmental consciousness and creative expression,...
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What Happens in Women’s Circles with Tanya Lynn
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted and Produced by J’aime Rothbard In this lively conversation, Tanya reveals why women gather in Circles and the personal growth that can happen when they do. She shares her long Circling history and what recently motivated her to train in Somatic Experiencing and integrate it into her Circle Work. Tanya also demystifies: - Sisterhood - The Mother Wound, Sister Wound and Witch Wounds - The Role of Circles - The Roles of Perimenopause and Menopause - The Wild Woman - The Council of Queens - The Grandmother Clan Join us to learn what happens in Woman’s Circles. You might...
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Longing to Belong with Cristina Bâra
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted and Produced by J’aime Rothbard The gentle conversation flows from Cristina’s personal journey to her professional role within the Compassionate Inquiry® organization to the approach’s impact on individual and group development. She highlights how Compassionate Inquiry® groups foster a sense of community and mutual support by inviting individuals to explore their emotions and experiences in the safe facilitated spaces that are essential for meaningful personal exploration. Cristina also explains: - Why the self-discovery and healing path often require us to experience our...
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Bonus Song: U.K. Blessed with Jacob Kishere AKA Culture Pilgrim
The Gifts of Trauma
In our most recent episode, host Kevin Young sat down with the multi-faceted and multi-talented Jacob Kishere in . If you missed it, you can find the conversation . If you've already listened, you'll be pleased to hear that we didn't let Jacob get away without offering a taste of this artform he fully produces and performs independently under his stage name, Culture Pilgrim. U.K. Blessed is a hiphop testament of Jacob's enduring pursuit of mining hope from within when the exterior world is perceivably void of it -- and coming up with glistening things born of weathering the pressures of such...
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Evoking the Resonant Man with Jacob Kishere
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This deep, esoteric and practical conversation addresses the lack of positive role models and meaningful traditions for men, today. Jacob introduces the "Resonant Man," an archetype that aims to evolve masculinity into a sacred form that addresses current societal contexts and the importance of male identity. After recognizing the need for a communal space that fosters growth and understanding in relation to masculinity, Jacob encourages men to connect with supportive communities, engage in dialogues, explore their emotional...
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Enhancing Bodywork & EFT (Tapping) with Compassionate Inquiry with Pam Sommer
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this intimate, flowing conversation, Pam unravels the interconnections of emotions and physical sensations, particularly pain, in therapeutic settings including Massage Therapy, RMT, Emotional Freedom Technique, EFT (tapping), and Compassionate Inquiry® CI. She shares the therapeutic effects on her anxiety and physical pain she experienced while training in EFT and CI, highlighting that while both issues are still present, she now has the tools to manage them. Pam also touches on: - Generational trauma and how earlier...
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Awakening from Shutdown, Numbness & Not-Enoughness with Irina Sadakova
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard In this revealing conversation, Irina shares her experience as a child growing up in Soviet Russia, the impact of generational trauma and her journey of personal transformation. She weaves in repeating ancestral themes, highlights the abandonment trauma that impacted three consecutive generations in her maternal line, and explains how grief can fuel growth and healing. In this interview Irina also emphasizes the significance of: - Compassionate Inquiry in the expansion of her understanding of trauma - Personal experiences in...
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Multicultural & Ancestral Healing Perspectives with Soraya Romao-Inglis
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This gentle conversation explores Soraya’s multifaceted approach to therapy which acknowledges personal, cultural, and systemic factors. She shares her personal trauma experiences as a BIPOC female immigrant in Canada, her ancestors' influence in her life and work, and the multicultural compassionate lens she uses to support her clients’ healing. Soraya also explains: Trauma’s roots and manifestations in human behavior - Emotional eating as a coping mechanism for unaddressed trauma. - How nervous system...
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The Art of Integrating CI in Relational Trauma Therapy with Rita Bozi
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard This nuanced conversation begins with a deep dive into healing relational trauma. Rita explains developmental trauma, relational trauma and how both are rooted in ancestral and intergenerational trauma. After deftly highlighting how trauma experienced during critical developmental periods can lead to gaps in our self-awareness, emotional and relational functioning, she goes on to explore: - Forgiveness as a natural outcome of personal healing rather than a prerequisite for it. - Embodiment’s role in fully experiencing and...
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Transforming Corporate Organizations into Soulful Workplaces with Amy Elizabeth Fox
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This episode explores the role of trauma awareness in leadership and organizational development. By integrating psycho-spiritual insights, Amy’s work supports leaders in fostering healthier, more sustainable, workplaces which can lead to individual and company-wide healing and transformation. Her initiatives invite leaders to explore their early traumas and free themselves from the old survival strategies and untreated traumas that affect their daily decision-making and organizational dynamics. In this deep, rich conversation,...
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This informative and deeply personal conversation offers a nuanced understanding of ADHD(1). By integrating personal narratives with broader societal observations, the multifaceted nature of ADHD is demonstrated. Its complexities are also explored, from the disputes around its origins and treatment, to its tendency to overlap with other conditions, such as high sensitivity, anxiety, depression, and more. Common misconceptions about ADHD are challenged, and Gabor Maté's view of ADHD as a developmental issue, influenced by childhood stress and trauma, is contrasted with other theories.
Nancy reflects on her parenting journey, acknowledging the challenges she faced in being present for her children due to her own ADHD. She emphasizes the importance of love and acceptance in fostering healthy relationships with children.
Nancy also highlights the:
- Role that social media platforms, like TikTok, play in increasing public awareness
- Reasons for the rapid growth of ADHD diagnosis rates, particularly among adults
- Importance of attunement in early emotional development
- Impact of early childhood experiences on emotional regulation
- Value of support communities, where individuals can freely share, without being judged or shamed
- Need for a compassionate approach to those experiencing neurodiversity.
- Societal pressures that can exacerbate ADHD symptoms, particularly in modern parenting contexts
- Coping mechanisms, or ‘hacks’ that are developed to ‘work around’ ADHD symptoms
The conversation ends on an inspiring note that shows how understanding ADHD as a developmental issue opens pathways for healing and growth, both for individuals with ADHD and their families.
(1)ADHD, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, is part of the neurodiversity spectrum.
About Nancy Evans
A certified Compassionate Inquiry® (CI) practitioner, life coach and meditation teacher, Nancy is also a seasoned intern for the CI Professional Training and co-facilitates two CI focus groups, one for ADHD and another for Peer Supervision.
Nancy is passionate about the Compassionate Inquiry® approach which she uses alongside her coaching and meditation skills, holding people with a calm gentleness. She often works with ‘people pleasers’, ADHD’ers, mid-lifers and sober folk who are ready to heal their core wounds.
Nancy balances her work with raising a family of three joyful neurodiverse sons, alongside her husband of 23 years. They live in West Sussex, with two scruffy rescue dogs, and enjoy nature, music and travelling together.
Through her recovery and deep personal healing with Compassionate Inquiry®, Nancy has become the mother to herself that she always needed in order to thrive.
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Resources:
Websites: Nancy’s Professional Website
Nancy’s Compassionate Inquiry Profile
Relevant Links:
Compassionate Inquiry
Are You Highly Sensitive?
ADD / ADHD Focus Group
Videos:
Dr Gabor Maté: IS ADHD a Disease?
The Surprising Causes of ADD & ADHD, Explained by DR Gabor Maté
Books:
Scattered Minds
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts
When the Body Says No
The Myth of Normal
Hold On to Your Kids
Statistics:
Adult ADHD ranks in the top 10 mental health searches
7-Fold Increase in Adult ADHD Prescriptions Over 10 Years
ADHD US Diagnostic Trends
Quotes: “If we recognize that most of the problems that people are troubled with are actually problems of development, and it’s those developmental conditions that we need to look at… we’ll be asking ourselves. What are the conditions in this society that lead so many people to have a failure or or slowing down of the impulse regulation circuitry, and capacity? That's the first point. So it’s a developmental problem rather than a medical problem per se. Number two, if you look at the tuning out of ADHD, why do we have this capacity to tune out? Protection from overwhelming stress. If I were to stress you right now by becoming abusive or threatening what options would you have?
The options are standing up and telling me to shut up. You also have the option of leaving. So you have the options of fight or flight. And if you couldn’t do either, you would also have the option, given that there’s many dozens of people here in the room with you, you have the option of asking for help. But what if I were to stress one of you and you didn’t have the option to ask for help or escape or to fight back - then what would you do? You wouldn’t do anything and so freezing is one option. Tuning out is another, just going absent minded, dissociating so you wouldn’t have to feel the pain of the stress. Can you see I might have lots of reasons to tune out as a one-year-old, as a two month old, as a three month old? So maybe ADHD begins as a coping mechanism.”
- Gabor Maté
“If your plants are not developing the way you expect them to, the first thing you would look at are the conditions. Too much or too little sunlight. Too much or not enough irrigation. How about the quality of the soil? You look at the conditions of development and if you want those plants to develop properly, you would fix those conditions. You wouldn’t try to treat the plants for some kind of disease. Most of the time you’d be looking at the conditions for development.”
- Gabor Maté
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