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Finding Chronic Pain Relief in Parts Work with Terry Baranski

The Gifts of Trauma

Release Date: 07/17/2025

Reducing Relationship Issues Through Proactive Design & Planning, with Dr Stan Tatkin and Leila Bahri-Lucas show art Reducing Relationship Issues Through Proactive Design & Planning, with Dr Stan Tatkin and Leila Bahri-Lucas

The Gifts of Trauma

Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes & Leila Bahri-Lucas. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This episode reminds us that the unconscious processes that drive humans, our memories and survival instincts, often lead to misunderstandings and reactive behaviors. Consequently, most relationship issues, while they may seem personal, actually stem from our innate drives. Stan outlines that rather than being approached casually, successful relationships require deliberate design, shared purpose, defined roles, and agreed-upon principles.   We also explore: - The PPPRRR Approach: Couples can...

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Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This episode introduces Polyamory, a form of consensual non-monogamy, as a relational style involving multiple loving, consensual, romantic partners simultaneously. It emphasizes trust, open communication (as opposed to secretive ‘cheating’) and mutual agreement. Jessica and David, themselves polyamory practitioners and co-authors of two books on Polyamory, are joined by JP Bolhuis, a Psychosocial Therapist, Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner and Private Mentor who recently entered the world of polyamory. Jesica and David...

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Hosted by J’aime Rothbard and Rosemary Davies-Janes.  Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this soft and flowing conversation, Silva Neves differentiates the term "sex addiction" from "sexual compulsivity," as addiction is an independent disorder, while compulsion arises from environmental distress. Like food, sex is a primary drive, and has a natural physiological stopping point  not present in other addictions. The analogy of food and diverse cuisines to normalize conversations about sexuality, highlighting that different tastes and preferences in food are accepted, but similar...

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Hosted by Kevin Young.  Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this conversation, Kevin introduces us to Dr Paul Gallagher, a lecturer in trauma studies at Cork University who started his formal education at age 40, after a significant "gap" in his life. Born in Belfast in 1972 at the height of "The Troubles," Paul recounts growing up in a war zone, where at 21, his home was invaded and his family held hostage. During this attack, he was shot and paralysed, and while physical and medical care were provided, psychological support was not.  Paul highlights: - The crucial roles of...

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Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. Tony shares his personal journey, from growing up gay in the 60s, to experiencing sexual trauma and seeking healing in his 50s. He views safety, kindness, and gentleness as essential for healing, as they invite us to lower our shields and ‘just be.’ Having worked in the psychedelic world for 2 decades, Tony stresses that profound psychedelic experiences are only valuable if they lead to a greater sense of ease and conscious awareness with which we can navigate our challenging world. He also recounts: - The development of gentler, more...

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The Gifts of Trauma

Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes.  Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this gentle, heart-felt conversation, Leila guides us through the emotional landscape of infertility debunking common myths and misconceptions. She also shares her personal story, from 11 rounds of IVF to complete emotional collapse, which led her to agency, freedom, a new beginning and a baby.   Leila also addresses: - How Infertility, as a trauma in its own right can unearth feelings of shame and worthlessness - Why trauma-informed support can ease the emotional toll of infertility medical interventions...

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Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this conversation, our guests forge a link between childhood trauma and the severity of menopausal symptoms. Aisling, a GP who is herself experiencing perimenopause, notes that the menopausal women who consult her often carry immense stress from being "sandwiched" between their peak career responsibilities and caring for children, grandchildren and aging parents.  Together Aisling and Rati contrast: - "Estrogen Washing" a term Aisling coined to suggest that HRT often serves as a "wash" which may offer temporary relief but is...

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Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes.  Produced by J’aime Rothbard Join us for this wide ranging conversation between a Menopausal Naturopathic doctor and a Therapist who lives with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome while mothering a neurodivergent family and experiencing Menopause. Together, Rosie and Priya address the many physiological, emotional and practical implications of Menopause "tipping points" for women’s health. They highlight that: -  Living an inauthentic life (always "doing" for others) can create physical symptoms, likewise addiction patterns may emerge or intensify if unmet...

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Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard This conversation moves from the medicalization of menopause to reclaiming it as a natural process; an important, transformative life stage marked by growth, development, and renewal, not an illness or pathology. Kate and Inés advocate for shifting from symptom management to trusting the body's innate capacity and involving the entire community in understanding this transition. Inés and Kate highlight:: - Brain Pruning which "chops away" old ways of thinking and being, making way for authenticity, new identity, and a...

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Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This conversation exposes the impact of cultural trauma on Indian mental and emotional well-being and  the conflicts these cultural pressures can cause. After outlining how therapeutic approaches can ease the pain, transform lives and begin to shift cultural norms, expectations and beliefs, Mansi asserts that having dreams, desires, and boundaries is an expression of one's wholeness, not a betrayal of others. Cultural dynamics explored include: - The expectation that women will sacrifice their personal happiness for family...

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Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes.  Produced by J’aime Rothbard.

Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Compassionate Inquiry® (CI) both aim to reconnect individuals with their core Self. Learn how understanding parts' reality' roles, and feeling into the somatic flow of Self facilitates healing.

In this conversation, Terry illuminates the IFS approach, including the nature of Self, how our how parts manifest chronic pain and why addressing these internal conflicts is essential for healing. Having been trained in both CI and IFS, Terry adeptly distinguishes the two approaches’ areas of convergence and divergence. 

Terry also explains that our:
- Core (capital "S") Self is resilient, consistently calm and present
- Parts emerge developmentally, not created by trauma but significantly impacted by it
- Parts operate as signals to bring our attention to unresolved past issues
- Healing process involves interacting with our parts and allowing our Self to provide leadership 

The stories Terry shares illustrate the somatic nature of IFS therapy, as his clients often feel a flow of energy, a felt sense of presence when connecting with their Self, which can be healing. He notes that in both IFS and CI trainees work first on healing their own wounded parts / trauma wounds

Terry Baranski, Mental Health Practitioner
As a trauma-informed Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner, rather than focusing on symptoms, Terry searches for root causes. He believes self-healing is a natural function of any organism and facilitates a process of assisted self-discovery that untangles trauma dynamics, restores harmony and balances to the inner system.

His compassionate, non-judgmental, non-pathologizing approach is well-suited to effect real change, whether his clients’ challenges manifest in relationships, parenting, or at work. Terry’s goal is to enable a level of deep healing that allows each person to uncover their true Self, which is always present - even when hidden by maladaptive patterns. 

Terry works with people all over the world, one-on-one, in couples and groups, helping them root out the behaviors, thought patterns, and diagnoses that cause problems in their lives. 

The father of a wonderful 7 year-old girl, he loves walking, climbing and is a pretty serious dark chocolate truffle connoisseur.

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Related Links:

Internal Family Systems

Compassionate Inquiry

Authentic Relating

Gabor Maté’s YouTube Channel

Dick Schwartz’ YouTube Interviews

Articles: 

Perspectives

Publications

Books:

When the Body Says No

Scattered Minds

You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For

No Bad Parts

Quotes: 

“...the parts that we meet… can drive physical symptoms, they can drive chronic pain, they
can drive autoimmune, all these things Gabor talks about… So when we're triggered, that's
a part getting activated based on what that part's carrying from the past. These are inner
children… They're stuck in the past in a prior space and time, and they really need our help.”
- Terry Baranski

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