The Gifts of Trauma

Presented by Compassionate Inquiry®, the Gifts of Trauma is a weekly podcast that features personal stories of trauma healing and the gifts revealed on the path to authenticity. Compassionate Inquiry® is a psychotherapeutic approach created by Dr. Gabor Maté over several decades while working with both patients and retreat participants.Join us to hear what it was like for our guests to live with the tension of trauma, and what happened when they turned inward with compassionate curiosity. These highly relatable stories illustrate how they transformed their trauma generated fear, anger, pain or shame triggers into understanding, acceptance and love. www.compassionateinquiry.com

Mandy Rodstrom & Debbie Mason on, Creating Spaces for Stuttering to Exist 01/29/2026

Mandy Rodstrom & Debbie Mason on, Creating Spaces for Stuttering to Exist Mandy Rodstrom & Debbie Mason on, Creating Spaces for Stuttering to Exist Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. What if traditional fluency-focused approaches designed to "fix" stuttering cause more harm than healing? In this conversation, speech therapists Mandy Rodstrom and Debbie Mason share personal and clinical insights that reveal how trauma, nervous system dysregulation and social stigma profoundly impact those who stammer. They highlight the critical importance of connecting people who stutter with supportive communities where stuttering is welcomed and celebrated as authentic expression. Debbie and Mandy also reflect on: - The neurological underpinnings of developmental stammering - How an overburdened nervous system is related to functional stammering - How fluency-focused approaches can disconnect people from their authentic selves - how suppressed grief and emotion can manifest as functional stammering This conversation connects stuttering to so much more than verbal expression. It's about feelings, thoughts, environments, community, trauma and the courage to exist authentically in a world that demands fluency. About Mandy Rodstrom, Speech-Language Therapist After spending 30+ years hiding her stutter and her Self—Mandy made the life-changing decision to embrace her authentic voice and her community. Many who stutter carry invisible wounds from years of being silenced, interrupted, or misunderstood in ableist systems that prioritize fluency over authenticity. Through compassionate trauma-informed conversation, Mandy provides greater understanding of stuttering as a deeply embodied experience which shapes, and is shaped by, societal narratives and how we relate to ourselves and others. With 19 years of school-based experience, she specializes in developmental stuttering through a client- and family-centered, neurodiversity- affirming, and trauma-informed lens. In her private practice, Mandy’s stuttering-affirming therapeutic approach honors each person's unique journey. A passionate advocate for transforming how speech therapists understand and support people who stutter, Mandy supervises graduate clinicians and shapes the next generation of speech-language therapists through the university stuttering courses she teaches. Mandy is a STARR Commonwealth Certified Trauma and Resilience Specialist / Coach, holds the Spero Ally of Stuttering seal and is a Special Projects Ambassador for Spero Ally of Stuttering, who works to expand access to affirming care and professional development. She's also a freelance audio narrator for The Informed SLP, using her openly stuttering voice to challenge conventional narratives about fluency and representation. Her international presentations—including the International Conference on Stuttering in Rome and the World Congress of Stuttering and Cluttering—advocate for a paradigm shift that celebrates stuttering as part of human diversity rather than something to fix. About Debbie Mason, CI, IFS and Hypnotherapy Trained Speech & Language Therapist Debbie has worked with children and adults who stammer for 30+ years. In her private practice, she supports them in reaching their potential by connecting to their intuition, values and personal truth. Currently she is interested in functional stammering, which is increasing significantly in the UK. Debbie also leads a National Health Stammering Service in South West England, delivers trainings and workshops to Speech and Language Therapists, students and people who stammer. She co-hosts a group; “Stammering and Spirituality” for Stamma, the British Stammering Association and is committed to supporting the goals of the Stammering Pride movement which aims to create a society that understands, values and honours the stammering voice. To support a positive and affirming view of stammering, Debbie has acted as an advisor on several plays featuring characters who stammer. She has also written about the use of NLP with people who stammer and been part of a research project that examined the impact of the Covid-19 pandemic on adults who stammer in the UK. Always interested in the role of the unconscious mind and the mind-body link, Debbie has trained in Compassionate Inquiry, Internal Family Systems, Hypnotherapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Neuro-Linguistic Programming. She practices meditation and enjoys exploring the links between psychology and spirituality. When not working with clients, students or movements, Debbie enjoys recharging in nature, and taking long country walks with her partner and friends which may involve a beach, definitely involve a dog, a pub and lots of treats. Promotional Message The Compassionate Inquiry Suicide Attention Training is for therapists, health professionals and others working in therapeutic, healing, educational, medical, or coaching roles. If you’re seeking sensitive training to help you recognize and support people in your communities who may be experiencing suicidal distress, . It will take you to a web page where you can learn more about this training, and decide if it’s a good fit for you. Resources: Websites Related Links: Podcasts: Video: Books: ; Articles: Quotes: “Trauma is not what happens to you, it's what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you." - Gabor Maté “It takes two to stutter.” - Dr. Joshua St. Pierre “...there's no other area of parenting where a child is obviously struggling to master something, where the parents don't offer support in some way. And I'm not sure why we see stammering as different.” - Debbie Mason “If we meet someone who stutters, how can we support them? Slow down for more connection, be as present as possible, neutral [in your body language] and non verbal. But also ask, how can I support you?” - Mandy Rodstrom “...people who tend to have difficulty saying no, who suppress emotion, who are hyper responsible, take on the problems of everyone else and ignore their own needs, are more susceptible to functional stammering.” - Debbie Mason Social Media: Mandy’s IG @arod.581 /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/39913705

Cat McCarthy on Emergent Authenticity & Rewriting Scripts 01/22/2026

Cat McCarthy on Emergent Authenticity & Rewriting Scripts Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. What happens when we stop performing and start being? Cat guides us through her transformational journey from codependent conditioning to embodied authenticity. With wisdom drawn from 30+ years of yoga practice, plant medicine journeys, and navigating her own healing from Breast Cancer, Cat reveals why the answers we seek aren't outside ourselves, but waiting to be uncovered within. Cat reflects on: - How shedding her protective layers enabled her to access her true strength - Her expanded her capacity to be present, hold space for others and become a conduit for transformation - How humor helps her navigate life’s challenges, as everything is funny... eventually - The importance of receiving—from others and ourselves Through humor, vulnerability, and profound insight, Cat shares many life lessons, including how learning to trust her innate healing capacity revealed the ease that comes from truly holding ourselves from the inside. About Cat McCarthy, Trauma-informed Somatic Coach Cat integrates the practice of Yoga, the empathy skills of Compassionate/Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and trauma-Informed somatic movement therapy. Her approach to the relational container in which others safely explore the heart-mind-body terrain is deeply respectful. She supports Compassionate Inquiry’s year-long and Circles programs, and co-leads its NVCI Focus group. A dedicated yoga practitioner and international teacher/trainer, Cat holds certifications in Anusara Yoga, Kripalu Yoga, NYCNVC Facilitation, Compassionate Inquiry® and is registered with the Yoga Alliance and the American Yoga Council. Her extensive studies span the traditions of Rajanaka Philosophy, Neelakantha meditation, The Breathing Project’s Embodied Anatomy, and Polyvagal Theory practices. As an experiential learner and fellow traveler, Cat holds space as a plant medicine journey integrator at a psychedelic wellness center in NYC. She also leads Body-Mindfulness (meditation/breathwork/sound work) classes for the global Spinal Cord Injury population via the Back2Life Center at NYC’s Mt. Sinai Hospital. Cat’s entertaining teaching style blends her vulnerable humor, dynamic clarity and attuned presence. When not traversing the globe teaching and training, this Emmy-nominated filmmaker directs/produces non-fiction projects. Her podcast, The Upside of Over, focuses on integrating NVC into our daily lives. An avid singer who offers vocal and sound resonance courses for embodied self-expression and collective healing, Cat‘s aim is to support people in rewriting their self-narratives for evolution and growth. She’s also developing programs for actors using therapeutic approaches to character development. But her biggest offering is sharing lessons learned in her “cancer discovery” and ongoing life journey. Promotional Message If you're not a therapist or healer, but you've heard our guests describe the personal transformations they experienced during their Compassionate Inquiry® journeys, and wonder what that would be like for you... Circles is a 10-week small group experience offered to anyone who wants to experience the power of Gabor Maté’s approach to trauma healing. to find out if this program is for you. Resources: Websites: Related Links: Books: Quotes: "I watched my mother die. Not of cancer, but of a type of resentment and grief about having to live, choosing to live a certain way when there weren't too many options for women." - Cat McCarthy "These beliefs that I held to be true, that I'm not enough…there must be something wrong with me…my opinion doesn't matter…I'm alone in the world… All these interpretations that helped me get very far, are not true. They never were true. But they needed to be true then." - Cat McCarthy "We all have the healing capacity. We all can tap into the quantum field. We all get these downloads. It's not about doing more. It's actually about letting more and more of these layers, this armor, these protections, all these things that we have created to get through life, letting them go one by one and trusting that there is going to be a strength and a resource inside that might need to be mirrored from outside, but it ultimately is an inside job." - Cat McCarthy "We are not the healers. We are the context in which healing is inspired." - Ron Kurtz “To be practicing together in communal spaces, building communities, sharing, caring, supporting. I think that's the Viva la revolution. Bring it on." - Kevin Young "I am a work in progress, constantly becoming a more essential version of myself.” - Cat McCarthy “For Aquinas, beauty also included the notion of integrity...He understands that each thing is alive and on a journey to become fully itself. Integrity is achieved when there is a complete realization of whatever a thing is supposed to be...Integrity is the adequacy of a thing to itself." - John O'Donohue Social Media /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/39811135

Zach Bush, MD & Eva Dalak on ⁠Relating to Our Original Imprint: Nature & Collective Healing. 01/15/2026

Zach Bush, MD & Eva Dalak on ⁠Relating to Our Original Imprint: Nature & Collective Healing. Hosted by J’aime Rothbard & Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. What if the path to inner and outer peace—and to the survival of our species—runs through our biology, not just our psychology? In this bonus finale to our Relating Series, Eva and Zach guide us beyond the familiar terrain of human-to-human relating to the new ground of relating to our original imprint. This conversation weaves hard science with systems thinking and spiritual wisdom to show that rather than transcending our humanity, healing our separation wound is about fully embracing our original design as vessels of biodiversity, wisdom and interconnected intelligence. Our guests explain: - The energetic upgrade offered by, ‘remembering through water’ - How the victim-perpetrator-saviour triad (The Drama Triangle) has served us, and why it's time to transmute it - What constriction and expansion reveal about the human experience - Why the human colon holds more biodiversity than any other species If you've been seeking peace through fixing, escaping, or transcending the darkness, this episode offers a radically different perspective: “What if we came here to experience it all?” Listen to this mind-expanding discussion to see how shifting from polarization to polarity, and welcoming both compression and expansion, can transform your own life journey. About Eva Dalak Founder, Peace Activation A skilled conflict transformation facilitator and peacebuilding trainer, for 20+ years Eva has worked with international organisations in 22+ conflict zones across Africa, the Middle East and Asia, blending systemic change with personal and collective healing. After 30+ years as a gender and conflict expert, she leads trauma- informed, soul-centered initiatives as a women’s empowerment coach. Growing up as a Palestinian-Muslim in Israel, Eva experienced a fragmented identity within a system designed to ‘divide and rule.’. Fluent in five languages, she’s trained in international development and law, spiritual psychology, and somatic experiencing. Currently based in Costa Rica, Eva launched Peace Activation on October 7, 2023 in response to the escalating crisis in Palestine and Israel. A global peace initiative, it’s rooted in the belief that sustainable peace begins within. Eva also hosts the Peace is Possible podcast and authors The Other Narrative Substack. About Zach Bush, MD A physician specializing in internal medicine, endocrinology and hospice care, Zach is an internationally recognized educator and thought leader on the microbiome as it relates to health, disease, and food systems. He founded the Seraphic Group and the non-profit Farmer’s Footprint to develop root-cause solutions for human and ecological health. His passion for education reaches across many disciplines, including topics such as the role of soil and water ecosystems in human genomics, immunity, and gut/brain health. Zach’s education has highlighted the need for a radical departure from chemical farming and pharmacy, and his ongoing efforts are providing a path for consumers, farmers and mega-industries to work together for a healthy future for people and our planet. Promotional Message: If you're not a therapist or healer, but you've heard our guests describe the personal transformations they experienced during their Compassionate Inquiry® journeys, and wonder what that would be like for you... Circles is a 10-week small group experience offered to anyone who wants to experience the power of Gabor Maté’s approach to trauma healing. to find out if this program is for you. Resources Websites: Related links: Courses: Books: (Available Aug 18) Podcasts: Quotes: “More so than the victim or the perpetrator, the savior is actually the one going in to poison the system and see who can survive.” - Zach Bush, MD “I'm inviting people to come to that field, beyond right doing and wrongdoing. This field where you exist and you have all legitimacy to exist without doing anything.” - Eva Dalak “...there is no saving a system that sees itself as its own enemy. And every cancer cell is an inherent part of every human body, and it is your self.” - Zach Bush, MD “In Arabic, we say, “Yom asal yom basal.” One day it's gonna be honey, and one day it's gonna be onion. When you're in a honey day, you know that tomorrow might be an onion, and it's going to stink.” - Eva Dalak “... the loneliest cell in the body is the cancer cell… If you welcome it back into the fold, it will eliminate all of its own cancer properties and will actually call in stem cells to lay down healthy tissue.” - Zach Bush, MD "Stop waiting for the king. Be a queen.” - Caroline Myss “... abandonment disorder is the fundamental foundation of human behavior. In our improving sciences around addiction, we find addiction is the necessary and absolute reaction to abandonment disorder.” - Zach Bush, MD “The way in which we tend to drown in guilt again is addiction. So our choice is either to perpetuate our own victimization through addiction, or hold our ground and switch the direction of guilt to shame as a weapon.” - Zach Bush, MD Social Media: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/39734095

Unsafe! Navigating Domestic, Public and Systemic Violence, with Dr Valerie (Vimalasara) Mason-John and Jordan Decker 01/08/2026

Unsafe! Navigating Domestic, Public and Systemic Violence, with Dr Valerie (Vimalasara) Mason-John and Jordan Decker Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes and J’aime Rothbard. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This vulnerable conversation continues exploring relating through the LGBTQ+ lens, as Vimalasara and Jordan share insights rarely disclosed to the heteronormative population. Jordan reflects on the inner work required to create safety for others—unpacking his own trauma so he can hold space for someone else's. Vimalasara addresses the harsh realities of domestic violence in LGBTQ+ communities, highlighting the barriers to seeking help—being subjected to transphobia, homophobia, or violence in shelters intended to provide refuge. They also explore: - Why trans women face the most heinous violence - The erosion of trans rights which give people "permission" to be openly transphobic - Why supporting trans youth requires parents' unconditional love - The trauma of conversion therapy, and the impact of ‘unsafe’ school policies Both guests emphasize that change begins within as "humans are capable of transformation," and cultivating self-compassion allows us to see others more clearly. The conversation concludes with Jordan offering his mantra: "Every minute is a choice. I choose to get better by the minute." About: Dr Valerie (Vimalasara) Mason-John, M.A (hon.doc) Hailed by Dr. Ken Hardy as, "One of the premier social, cultural, and psychological healers of our time" Vimalasara is an award-winning author of 11 books including Detox Your Heart, Meditations for Emotional Trauma, and Eight Step Recovery Using The Buddha’s Teachings to Overcome Addiction. They are a co-founder of the secular 8-week course Mindfulness-Based Addiction Recovery (MBAR) and one of the new leading African Descent Voices in the field of Mindfulness Approaches for Addiction. Their latest book, a First Aid Kit for the Mind, Breaking the Cycle of Habitual Behaviours has been described by Gabor Maté as distilling 'Aeons of Wisdom." About Jordan Decker Jordan “SameHeart” Decker is a National and International Speaker, Course Creator of the HeartLine Approach to Gender Affirmation, Creator of the Alchemy of Authenticity Coaching, a Polarity Integration Consultant, a Plant Medicine Guide and Accidental Activist for Transyouth Suicide Prevention. His background in Neuro-linguistic programming, Somatic Experiencing, Compassionate Inquiry® Training with Dr. Gabor Maté, and Diversity, Equity and Inclusion Certificate ground him in educating, consulting and healing trauma through hands-on bodywork. Tapping into his Indigenous ancestry, he lives to be in alignment with the land, trees, water, air and self. In his spare time he is a cat whisperer and animal lover. Promotional Message: The Compassionate Inquiry® Suicide Attention Training is for therapists, health professionals and others working in therapeutic, healing, educational, medical, or coaching roles. If you’re seeking sensitive training to help you recognize and support people in your communities who may be experiencing suicidal distress, . It will take you to a web page where you can learn more about this training, and decide if it’s a good fit for you. Resources: Websites: Related Links: Videos: Courses: Books: Quotes: “Humans are capable of change. Humans are capable of transformation and liberation of the mind and we are capable of true compassion.” - Dr. Valerie Mason-John “If we look at the emotional component of a heart attack, it's a heartbreak. My heart broke.” - Jordan Decker “Healing is not the erasure of pain, but the capacity to hold it with consciousness until it transforms.” - Solea Anani “There needs to be more services, and to make it safe for [LGBTQ+] people to go somewhere and say, this is happening in my relationship. I need help.” - Dr. Valerie Mason-John “Every minute is a choice. So, yeah, I choose to get better by the minute." - Jordan Decker Social Media: IG: @_jdeck__ FB: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/39639930

Gender & Identity, From Unconscious to Conscious with Valerie (Vimalasara) Mason-John and Jordan Decker 01/01/2026

Gender & Identity, From Unconscious to Conscious with Valerie (Vimalasara) Mason-John and Jordan Decker Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes and J’aime Rothbard. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This thought provoking conversation explores relating through the LGBTQ+ lens, but not only presented to that community. Instead it is a vulnerable and honest sharing in which Vimalarara and Jordan offer insights and perspectives rarely disclosed to the heteronormative population. In this inclusive episode they touch on the: - Use of pronouns can create a sense of safety and inclusion - Perspective of gender as a social construct rather than a personal identity - Historical impact of religious and colonial beliefs on gender and sexuality - Concept of "care" being used to justify harmful practices (residential schools/conversion therapy) This conversation concludes with reflections on the importance of self-awareness regarding one's own biases, and how understanding personal challenges can help in supporting others. It also pauses the conversation on care, which will be resumed in the second part of this episode. About: Dr Valerie (Vimalasara) Mason-John, M.A (hon.doc) Hailed by Dr. Ken Hardy as, "One of the premier social, cultural, and psychological healers of our time" Vimalasara is an award-winning author of 11 books including Detox Your Heart, Meditations for Emotional Trauma, and Eight Step Recovery Using The Buddha’s Teachings to Overcome Addiction. They are a co-founder of the secular 8-week course Mindfulness-Based Addiction Recovery (MBAR) and one of the new leading African Descent Voices in the field of Mindfulness Approaches for Addiction. Their latest book, a First Aid Kit for the Mind, Breaking the Cycle of Habitual Behaviours has been described by Gabor Maté as distilling 'Aeons of Wisdom." About Jordan Decker Jordan “SameHeart” Decker is a National and International Speaker, Course Creator of the HeartLine Approach to Gender Affirmation, Creator of the Alchemy of Authenticity Coaching, a Polarity Integration Consultant, a Plant Medicine Guide and Accidental Activist for Transyouth Suicide Prevention. His background in Neuro-linguistic programming, Somatic Experiencing, Compassionate Inquiry® Training with Dr. Gabor Maté, and Diversity, Equity and Inclusion Certificate ground him in educating, consulting and healing trauma through hands-on bodywork. Tapping into his Indigenous ancestry, he lives to be in alignment with the land, trees, water, air and self. In his spare time he is a cat whisperer and animal lover. Promotional Message: If you're not a therapist or healer, but you've heard our guests describe the personal transformations they experienced during their Compassionate Inquiry® journeys, and wonder what that would be like for you... Circles is a 10-week small group experience offered to anyone who wants to experience the power of Gabor Maté’s approach to trauma healing. to find out if this program is for you. Resources: Websites: Related Links: Videos: Courses: Books: Quotes: “... about heart disease… what these cardiologists are saying, it's not coronary disease, it's culinary disease. “ - Vimalasara “...we don't think about gender. Because in a way… I really believe that these are social constructs. However, we do live in a world which is gendered, so actually we are treated differently. These constructs …have an impact.” - Vimalasara “I am going with the flow. I'm definitely learning how to be in the river and float, not drown.” - Jordan Decker “I’m not nonbinary in the sense of a third gender or something in-between. I’m nonbinary in the sense that the binary itself is the problem. … My gender is a disruption, a disidentification, a structural exit, a refusal of the classificatory logic that makes gender a legible commodity in the first place.” - Social Media: IG: @_jdeck__ FB: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/39577895

Reducing Relationship Issues Through Proactive Design & Planning, with Dr Stan Tatkin and Leila Bahri-Lucas 12/25/2025

Reducing Relationship Issues Through Proactive Design & Planning, with Dr Stan Tatkin and Leila Bahri-Lucas Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes & Leila Bahri-Lucas. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This episode reminds us that the unconscious processes that drive humans, our memories and survival instincts, often lead to misunderstandings and reactive behaviors. Consequently, most relationship issues, while they may seem personal, actually stem from our innate drives. Stan outlines that rather than being approached casually, successful relationships require deliberate design, shared purpose, defined roles, and agreed-upon principles. We also explore: - The PPPRRR Approach: Couples can "Predict, Plan, Prepare, and Revise or Repair" potential issues. - What’s required for ‘real repair - How life changes, like adding a baby, tend to impact a relationship - Co-regulation vs. Self-regulation - Safety and Security: The bedrock of any successful relationship. Stan also explains the unique communication challenges presented by technology (texting) and driving both of which lack the crucial visual cues co-regulation requires. “Never get into emotional conversations when driving because you will fight. We're legally blind. It can't work. So pull over.” About Stan Tatkin PsyD, MFT, Clinician, Author and Researcher Dr. Tatkin was an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine, is the developer of ‘A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy®’ (PACT) and with his wife, Dr. Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, co-founded the PACT Institute. Stan maintains a private practice in Southern California, leads PACT programs in the US and internationally and is the author of We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship Rx, Wired for Dating, What Every Therapist Ought to Know, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships, and In Each Other’s Care. About Leila Bahri-Lucas MA, Counselor and Therapeutic Coach Integrating Relational Life Therapy, Positive Psychology, Compassionate Inquiry and a Master’s in Psychology and Neuroscience of Mental Health from King’s College London, Leila’s approach is trauma informed, emotionally precise, and grounded in real relational change. Specializing in infertility, blended families, and the many challenges of family building. Leila supports couples through their most difficult moments. Based in Dubai, Leila works internationally with people who want to understand what drives disconnection and how real connection becomes possible again. Promotional Message: If you're interested in experiencing Gabor Maté's trauma healing approach, consider working with a certified Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner. Access healing support for mental, emotional and physical symptoms, unresolved trauma, relationship issues, addictions, and more. Use this to access our global directory of multilingual certified professionals. In addition to their years of CI training and regular Certification reviews, our Practitioners bring the depth of their own personal lived experiences and skills in additional, complementary therapeutic approaches. Resources Websites: Training: (Starts 1/14/26) No matter what we’re going through, infertility, relationship strain, blended-family transitions, loss, or simply feeling disconnected, these experiences shape how we relate to ourselves and others. They can create isolation, silence or distance, even in relationships that matter deeply. Leila’s upcoming CI Circle on Relating is a supportive space for all who want to explore these relational layers in a supportive community with honesty and care. Videos: Books: (1st Edition: 2012, 2nd Edition: 2024) (2023) (2021) (2021) (2018) (2018) (2016) (2012) (2010) (2000) Quotes: “Couples choose each other with an unerring instinct for finding the very person who will exactly match their own level of unconscious anxieties and mirror their own dysfunctions and who will trigger for them all their unresolved emotional pain.” - Gabor Maté, Scattered Minds “When we recite our relationship vows, perhaps we should say, I take you as my pain in the rear with all your history and baggage, and I take responsibility for all prior injustices you endured at the hands of those I never knew, because you are now in my care.” - Stan Tatkin, Wired for Love “We don't have to remain at the mercy of each other's runaway moods and feelings. Rather, as competent managers of our partners, we can become expert at moving, shifting, motivating, influencing, soothing and inspiring one another.” - Stan Tatkin, Wired for Love “They were too familiar to ignore, but too different to tolerate." - Yuval Noah Harari “There's no perfect partner. What makes a partner right for you is a shared willingness to create a secure relationship. If you're both willing to go all in together, you are perfect for each other.” - Stan Tatkin Social Media IG: @drstantatkin @realwithleila FB: YT: @stanleytat LI: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/39531080

Polyamory: Attachment, Trauma & Relational Growth Unpacked, with Jessica Fern, David Cooley & JP Bolhuis 12/18/2025

Polyamory: Attachment, Trauma & Relational Growth Unpacked, with Jessica Fern, David Cooley & JP Bolhuis Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This episode introduces Polyamory, a form of consensual non-monogamy, as a relational style involving multiple loving, consensual, romantic partners simultaneously. It emphasizes trust, open communication (as opposed to secretive ‘cheating’) and mutual agreement. Jessica and David, themselves polyamory practitioners and co-authors of two books on Polyamory, are joined by JP Bolhuis, a Psychosocial Therapist, Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner and Private Mentor who recently entered the world of polyamory. Jesica and David explain: - Polyamory is often adopted as a personal orientation or for philosophical reasons - A key concept in managing multiple relationships is: "Love is infinite, but time isn't." - How the structured approach of restorative justice navigates conflict in intimate relationships - The crucial role Internal Family Systems plays in healing within polyamorous contexts - How Shame Triangles can be transformed into Self-Love Triangles JP vulnerably shares his personal journey into polyamory, including his challenges with anxious and avoidant attachment tendencies, past shame, and how to approach the topic with his children. About Jessica Fern Integrative Therapist, Coach, Author A Certified Clinical Trauma Professional she holds a MA in Conflict Resolution, and draws on 25 years of experience in somatic, narrative, psychotherapeutic, and spiritual healing modalities. She bridges Internal Family Systems, attachment theory, trauma recovery, and relational psychology to help people cultivate secure, Self-led relationships—with themselves and others. Jessica is the internationally recognized author of Polysecure (2020), The Polysecure Workbook (2022), Polywise (2023) and Transforming the Shame Triangle (2025). In her international private practice, she supports individuals and couples in multi-partner relationships who want to break free from reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment, and past trauma—empowering them to embody new possibilities in life and love. About David Cooley Restorative Justice Facilitator, Diversity & Privilege Awareness Trainer, Bilingual Cultural Broker While working as a professional Restorative Circle facilitator and trainer in the field of Restorative Justice, David was impressed by the power of dialogue, within a safe and structured container, to radically transform conflict into a tremendously healing process. So he created the Restorative Relationship Conversations model, a process that transforms interpersonal conflict into deeper connection, intimacy and repair. In his private practice, David specializes in working with non-monogamous and LGBTQ partnerships, incorporating a variety of modalities including trauma-informed care, attachment theory, somatic practices, narrative theory, and mindfulness-based techniques. With Jessica Fern, he co-authored Polywise (2023) and Transforming the Shame Triangle (2025). About Jan Peter Bolhuis Psychosocial Therapist, CI Private Mentor & Practitioner Having been trained by Gabor Maté and others, JP is currently completing his development in ACT therapy. He runs a trauma therapy practice, works in homeless care and teaches close combat in his own school. A 55 year old father of three and grandfather of one, JP lives in a peaceful, forested environment and shares his life in a polyamorous relationship. Relationships are no longer places where he adapts to belong, but invitations to be real. For his first 46 years JP drifted far from himself. Over the past eight years, he learned to hold himself in pain or confusion without disappearing into old patterns of numbing with distraction, sex or drugs. He also shifted from surviving to living with awareness, from strategy to values and from correction to connection. For JP, healing is no longer a destination but an ‘in the moment’ choice to ‘ride the rollercoaster.’ Promotional Message: If you're not a therapist or healer, but you've heard our guests describe the personal transformations they experienced during their Compassionate Inquiry® journeys, and wonder what that would be like for you... Circles is a 10-week small group experience offered to anyone who wants to experience the power of Gabor Maté’s approach to trauma healing. to find out if this program is for you Resources: Websites: Articles: Books: Videos: Podcasts: Quotes: “To be truly seen and heard, to be truly known, is a deep human need.” - Charles Eisenstein, “Nonmonogamy can be a pressure cooker for growth. It is commonly and playfully known in the nonmonogamous world that you shouldn’t enter consensual nonmonogamy unless you are ready to process, communicate, grow and then process, communicate and grow some more.” - Jessica Fern, “A relationship can be a real ground for mutual growth. So you can enter into a relationship... you're not going to be perfect, carry a certain degree of trauma, a certain degree of dysfunction, etc. But if both people are committed to the truth more than "who's right" and working it out and if the fundamental love is there, then you can grow together.” - Gabor Maté Social Media: IG: IG: @bolhuisjanpeter /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/39448160

Rethinking Sex Addiction: Trauma, Shame & Compulsive Sexuality, with Diana Safta & Silva Neves 12/11/2025

Rethinking Sex Addiction: Trauma, Shame & Compulsive Sexuality, with Diana Safta & Silva Neves Hosted by J’aime Rothbard and Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this soft and flowing conversation, Silva Neves differentiates the term "sex addiction" from "sexual compulsivity," as addiction is an independent disorder, while compulsion arises from environmental distress. Like food, sex is a primary drive, and has a natural physiological stopping point not present in other addictions. The analogy of food and diverse cuisines to normalize conversations about sexuality, highlighting that different tastes and preferences in food are accepted, but similar differences in sexuality are often judged. Diana and Silva also highlight: - How religions’ prohibition of ‘sex for pleasure’ causes widespread shame, which has been identified as a significant driver of sexual compulsivity and distress. - Why medical professionals and therapists feel discomfort discussing sexual issues - How societal judgments about sexual behaviors suppress curiosity and open communication. - Why problematic porn viewing is often a symptom of underlying mental health issues The episode concludes with a message of love, connection, and the idea that sexuality is not the opposite of spirituality, but a part of our common humanity, inviting us to bring softness and curiosity to our inner worlds of pleasure and intimacy. About Silva Neves, Psychosexual, Relationship EMDR & Trauma Psychotherapist An award-winning, experienced psychosexual and relationship therapist, Silva is a specialist in the treatment of compulsive sexual behaviours and in working with survivors of sexual abuse. He also offers clinical supervision to psychotherapists, psychologists, counselors and other mental health professionals. The author of 4 books: Compulsive Sexual Behaviours, (2021) Sexology, (2023). Erotically Queer, (2023) and Relationally Queer, (2023) Silva also provides clinical training on the topics of sex and relationships, compulsive sexual behaviours, trauma and grief to his international following. An editorial board member of Sexual and Relationship Therapy (an international journal) and a Clinical Associate with Pink Therapy, in 2023, Silva was the recipient of the Sexual Freedom Ally Award for his contribution to the field of sexology. His many accreditations include: AccCOSRT, AccCOSRT(sup), UKCP registered, MNCPS(Acc.), Reg.MBACP, and Accred AGSRDT. About Diana Safta, Compassionate Inquiry Facilitator and Psychotherapist An active psychologist with a MA in Clinical Psychology, Diana blends Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Schema Therapy, Systemic Therapy and the teachings of countless diverse courses, workshops and retreats on topics ranging from shamanic practices to mindfulness and meditation. Along with her expertise, Diana’s clients receive her openness, kindness, and compassion. After realizing that her art career, while interesting, lacked fundamental meaning, then experiencing a divorce, Diana began a personal healing journey in which she learned that her childhood traumas were still actively influencing her adult life decisions. After 8+ years of psychotherapy, Diana discovered Compassionate Inquiry, which enabled her to release her old coping mechanisms and habits, and move to a higher level of consciousness, embodiment, and self-connection. Today, in addition to offering therapy to clients in Romanian and English, both online and in-person (in Bucharest), Diana supports the Compassionate Inquiry Community as a Facilitator, Mentor and Circle Leader. Promotional Message: If you're interested in experiencing Gabor Maté's trauma healing approach, consider working with a certified Compassionate Inquiry (CI) Practitioner. Access healing support for mental, emotional and physical symptoms, unresolved trauma, relationship issues, addictions, and more. Use this to access our global directory of multilingual certified professionals. In addition to their years of CI training and regular Certification reviews, like Diana our Practitioners bring the depth of their own personal lived experiences and skills in additional, complementary therapeutic approaches. Resources Websites: Courses: Podcasts: (2021) (2023) Events: Books: Quotes: “There was a time before the modern religions, as we know them today, when there was such a different relationship with sex and sexuality,..modern religions… have lots of prohibitions around sexuality.... there are so many things about sex that people believe to be true [that] are just constructs that have [their] origins in religion.” - Silva Neves “It's much easier to speak about pleasure when it's the culinary taste. But a different aspect of pleasure that [we’ve] been conditioned for hundreds of years not to speak about,. [This] made us exile our connection to sexuality and life force and creativity and the joys of life.” - Diana Safta Social Media: IG: , FB: X: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/39262945

Healing Northern Ireland: From Personal Trauma to Societal Change, with Dr Paul Gallagher 12/04/2025

Healing Northern Ireland: From Personal Trauma to Societal Change, with Dr Paul Gallagher Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this conversation, Kevin introduces us to Dr Paul Gallagher, a lecturer in trauma studies at Cork University who started his formal education at age 40, after a significant "gap" in his life. Born in Belfast in 1972 at the height of "The Troubles," Paul recounts growing up in a war zone, where at 21, his home was invaded and his family held hostage. During this attack, he was shot and paralysed, and while physical and medical care were provided, psychological support was not. Paul highlights: - The crucial roles of community-led initiatives that provide vital support, education, and a path to hope for survivors. - The inseparable connection between the academic understanding of trauma and practical, compassionate healing approaches such as those offered by the Wave Trauma Center. The conversation concludes with Paul sharing his vision of a trauma-informed society in his deeply traumatized homeland. About Dr. Paul Gallagher Born in Belfast, Northern Ireland, Paul grew up in an area heavily impacted by the political violence euphemistically known as ‘The Troubles.’ He was relatively untouched until 1994, when his home was taken over by terrorists who held Paul and his family hostage while they waited for their intended target. When their plan failed to snare that individual, they shot Paul, which left him with life changing injuries After a protracted recovery, Paul reclaimed his life. His engagement with a local NGO, WAVE Trauma Centre sparked a lifelong journey into psychological trauma understanding and healing. Paul graduated from Queen’s University in 2016 with a BSc in Psychological Trauma Studies. He achieved his MA in Conflict Transformation and Social Justice in 2017. This was followed up in 2022 when Paul was awarded his Doctorate in Sociology, focusing on the Campaign for Recognition by the WAVE Injured Group, which lobbied successfully for a special pension for those injured during the conflict. A Trauma Education Officer for WAVE Trauma Centre, Paul blends his personal experience of trauma with his knowledge of the traumatology field. He teaches a range of courses, including the BSc at Queen’s University and an MA in Trauma Studies at UCC (University College Cork). His main interests are nurturing post-traumatic growth, both in himself and sowing seeds for growth around him. He continues to advocate for those affected by the Troubles and for others around the globe through his work with WAVE Trauma. Promotional Message: If you've been listening to our podcast and are curious about the Compassionate Inquiry approach developed by Dr. Gabor Mate and Sat Dharam Kaur, consider joining the Professional Training Program. It's open to all healing professionals, including naturopaths, physicians, body workers, coaches and therapists. In addition to learning how to use compassion to support your clients in their most vulnerable moments with greater empathy and authenticity, you'll also deepen your own internal process. If you're interested, look for the in the show notes. Resources: Websites: Articles: Video: Book: Social Media: X: @cutdabegs Bluesky: @cutdabegs.bsky.social Facebook: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/39264510

Psychedelics, Hakomi, and the Gift of Self-Discovery, with Tony Hoare 11/26/2025

Psychedelics, Hakomi, and the Gift of Self-Discovery, with Tony Hoare Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. Tony shares his personal journey, from growing up gay in the 60s, to experiencing sexual trauma and seeking healing in his 50s. He views safety, kindness, and gentleness as essential for healing, as they invite us to lower our shields and ‘just be.’ Having worked in the psychedelic world for 2 decades, Tony stresses that profound psychedelic experiences are only valuable if they lead to a greater sense of ease and conscious awareness with which we can navigate our challenging world. He also recounts: - The development of gentler, more supportive psychedelic assistance approaches - How ketamine can deliver an eternal quality of love, akin to AH Almaas's concept - The pure self-observation available through 5-MeO-DMT - The alignment between Hakomi and Compassionate Inquiry Tony also mentions his photography of Iboga ceremonies in West Africa and an upcoming project with an Ibogaine treatment center. Moving forward, he plans to reduce the intensity of his medicine work, pursue photography projects (including documenting coming-of-age rituals), and train psychedelic therapists in integrating Hakomi principles. About Tony Hoare A founding Compassionate Inquiry® Facilitator, Practitioner and Relational Somatic Therapist, Tony has worked with individuals in the context of psychedelic-assisted therapy in Ayahuasca ceremonies since 2005. He also held supportive roles in 15 of Gabor Maté’s 9-day plant medicine retreats, from 2009 to 2017, helping participants prepare for and integrate their experiences. Having observed Gabor Maté practicing Compassionate Inquiry for hundreds of hours, Tony also works with people seeking one-on-one emotional processing and healing. He uses Compassionate Inquiry® to help his clients understand and process their emotions, discover the origins of their pain, develop forgiveness and self-acceptance. Tony describes himself as: “In love with wild places - thrives on new experiences - forever curious about people and what makes them tick - never happier than on an adventure with a camera - connects just as easily with the janitor or the ceo - lives simply - delivers the goods.” Promotional Message: If you've been listening to our podcast and are curious about the Compassionate Inquiry® approach developed by Doctor Gabor Maté and Sat Dharam Kaur, consider joining the Professional Training Program. It's open to all healing professionals, including naturopaths, physicians, body workers, coaches, and therapists. In addition to learning how to use compassion to support your clients in their most vulnerable moments with greater empathy and authenticity, you'll also deepen your own internal process. If you're interested, tap this to access more information.. Resources: Websites: Related Links: Books: Video: Quotes: “The greatest thing that I can do for you is work on me. And the greatest thing that you can do for me is work on you.” - Ram Dass "Be kind to yourself. You don't have to work at this. There's nothing to do. Be gentle." - Tony Hoare “You would be wise in your own life to recognize the times that needed to be clothed in ritual.” - John O’Donoghue “Your conflicts, all the difficult things, the problematic situations in your life are not chance or haphazard. They are actually yours. They are specifically yours, designed specifically for you by a part of you that loves you more than anything else. The part of you that loves you more than anything else has created roadblocks to lead you to yourself. You are not going in the right direction unless there is something pricking you in the side, telling you, “Look here! This way!” That part of you loves you so much that it doesn’t want you to lose the chance. It will go to extreme measures to wake you up, it will make you suffer greatly if you don’t listen. What else can it do? That is its purpose.” - AH Almaas Social Media: FB: IG: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/39169690

The Trauma of Infertility, with Leila Bahri-Lucas 11/20/2025

The Trauma of Infertility, with Leila Bahri-Lucas Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this gentle, heart-felt conversation, Leila guides us through the emotional landscape of infertility debunking common myths and misconceptions. She also shares her personal story, from 11 rounds of IVF to complete emotional collapse, which led her to agency, freedom, a new beginning and a baby. Leila also addresses: - How Infertility, as a trauma in its own right can unearth feelings of shame and worthlessness - Why trauma-informed support can ease the emotional toll of infertility medical interventions cannot. - The roles that self-compassion, truth and compassion play in our healing process - Why acknowledging difficult truths and fostering self-compassion are vital for emotional well-being Leila emphasizes that while the infertility journey is one of profound uncertainty and unraveling, if we surrender to the collapse, rather than allowing ourselves to be hijacked by the struggle, we can access freedom, agency and discover new paths forward. She shares how by learning to sit with our painful personal truths, cultivating self-compassion and community support, we can transform our experiences. About Leila Bahri-Lucas Counselor and Therapeutic Coach Integrating Relational Life Therapy, Positive Psychology, Compassionate Inquiry and a Master’s in Psychology and Neuroscience of Mental Health from King’s College London, Leila’s approach is trauma informed, emotionally precise, and grounded in real relational change, the kind that shows up in the way we live, love, argue, repair, and try again. While infertility remains central to her work, her focus has grown into the wider landscape of family building and relational transitions. She supports individuals, couples, and groups navigating infertility or its aftermath, blended families, relationship breakdowns, identity shifts, grief, and the emotional patterns that shape connection. Leila believes we each hold a reproductive story, whether or not we become parents. Her passion is helping people stay connected to themselves and each other during life chapters that often create silence, shame, or distance. Her own path included 11 IVF cycles, conceiving her daughter through egg donation, and becoming a mother nine months after her father died. That personal history continues to shape how she understands lineage, rupture, protection, and the courage it takes to relate with honesty. Based in Dubai, Leila works internationally with people who want to understand what drives disconnection and how real connection becomes possible again. Promotional Message: If you're not a therapist or healer, but you've heard our guests describe the personal transformations they experienced during their Compassionate Inquiry® journeys, and wonder what that would be like for you... Circles is a 10-week small group experience offered to anyone who wants to experience the power of Gabor Maté’s approach to trauma healing. to find out if this program is for you. Resources Websites: (Starts 1/14/26) No matter what we’re going through, infertility, relationship strain, blended-family transitions, loss, or simply feeling disconnected, these experiences shape how we relate to ourselves and others. They can create isolation, silence or distance, even in relationships that matter deeply. Leila’s upcoming CI Circle on Relating is a supportive space for all who want to explore these relational layers in a supportive community with honesty and care. Studies: Articles: Books: Podcasts: Quotes: “Infertility is uncertainty on a repeat. Infertility is uncertainty and so is life actually. It's the illusion of control that we have to let go of.” - Leila Bahri-Lucas “The path is uncharted. It comes into existence moment by moment and at the same time drops away behind us. It's like riding on a train sitting backwards. We can't see where we're headed, only where we've been.” - Pema Chödrön. (When Things Fall Apart) “Truth without compassion isn't healing and compassion without truth isn't enough. So work on that self compassion muscle in whichever way you can.” - Leila Bahri-Lucas “Infertility is trauma in its own right, but it also unearths deeper wounds from early life. It leaves no stone unturned. For one in four to six couples, the inability to conceive cracks open layers of shame, isolation, rejection (for not being chosen) and grief that track back to childhood. Infertility has a particular set of stressors. It's a raw and complex journey for oneself and relationally.“ - Leila Bahri-Lucas Social Media @realwithleila /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/39107530

Menopause: From Estrogen Washing to Social Silence, with Dr Aisling Quiery & Rati Roberta Riccardi 11/13/2025

Menopause: From Estrogen Washing to Social Silence, with Dr Aisling Quiery & Rati Roberta Riccardi Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this conversation, our guests forge a link between childhood trauma and the severity of menopausal symptoms. Aisling, a GP who is herself experiencing perimenopause, notes that the menopausal women who consult her often carry immense stress from being "sandwiched" between their peak career responsibilities and caring for children, grandchildren and aging parents. Together Aisling and Rati contrast: - "Estrogen Washing" a term Aisling coined to suggest that HRT often serves as a "wash" which may offer temporary relief but is covering deeper societal issues like capitalist demands, patriarchy, and the emotional burdens placed on women. - Societal Silence: Despite a full 25% of the UK population being perimenopausal or menopausal, there's a significant lack of open discussion on this topic amongst women, and little to no discussion about it between menopausal women and the men in their lives. - Negative Cultural Views of Menopause; In the west it’s often seen as an end of productivity and fertility. It’s associated with shame and unattractiveness. In Native American traditions, where older women are revered as "elders" and "wisdom keepers," menopause symptoms are often less severe. The conversation concludes with supportive future visions for women in menopause. Rati suggests women need space, quiet, rest, and reduced workloads, along with curious, loving, and respectful listening from others. Aisling envisions women's menopausal struggles as harbingers of greater cultural challenges to come. She suggests men will take on more emotional load, and society will come to value aging women as wise, empathetic leaders. Rati Roberta Riccardi, Somatic Therapist After a 12-year career as a professional freelance translator in Italy, Rati started exploring. For the last two decades, she has been supporting people in expanding their consciousness and empowering them to find their inner healer/teacher through a variety of modalities. A Compassionate Inquiry® Practitioner, Facilitator and Mentor, and a psychedelic assisted therapy preparation and integration practitioner, Rati has explored different healing traditions, including various shamanic approaches. She is trained in Mediterranean massage, Reconnective Healing and The Reconnection, Hatha Yoga, Nada Yoga, Meditation, Breathing Techniques and Intuitive Energy Work. She has studied the consciousness expanding and healing properties of sound extensively with and facilitates group and one-on-one sound meditations. Rati has travelled extensively, learning, studying, and guiding groups with prolonged stays in Brazil, Peru and Mexico to explore indigenous culture and traditions. About Dr Aisling Quiery Aisling is a Family Doctor (GP), a Compassionate Inquiry® Practitioner and a Health/Life Coach who combines her medical knowledge, her Compassionate Inquiry® training and Coaching to help people to heal through connection to their authentic selves, to the present moment, and to each other. With her support, her patients move beyond symptom management, to healing. After training as a doctor in Scotland she worked as a GP in an economically deprived area of North Edinburgh where she also ran a community Hepatitis C clinic, a service for people who inject drugs and worked in a primary care service for people experiencing homelessness. It was through her addictions work that she first discovered the work of Gabor Maté. Aisling attended a plant medicine retreat with Gabor and the Shipibo healers in Peru in 2019 and went on to train in Compassionate Inquiry®, a modality that changed how she sees herself, her patients and the medical model. She lives on an organic farm in County Down in the North of Ireland and works at GP practices in her local area as well as working privately with individuals and groups using Compassionate Inquiry®. Promotional Message: Did you know that Compassionate Inquiry® offers a free public blog library with over a thousand short posts written by our practitioners and facilitators? Each is only a 5 or 6 minute read, and topics range from connecting with authenticity to overcoming food addictions to understanding epigenetics, rethinking drug use, CI & Psychedelics, and much, much more. You can also read excerpts from podcast guests' interviews. to access our helpful, enlightening and inspiring blog library. Resources: Websites: Related Links Books: Quotes: “Mary Jane Minkin, a researcher at Yale University, found that societies where elders and wise women are revered and celebrated show far less severe menopause symptoms than societies where they are not”. - Dr Aisling Queiry “13 million women in the UK are perimenopausal/ menopausal, that’s 25% of the population…” - Dr Aisling Queiry “I've just read that the Arabic word for menopause translates as, 'age of despair.'” - Dr Aisling Quiery “...elephants, whales and human beings are the only three mammals that have a menopausal period for the female of that species. The only reason … is that childbirth is both dangerous, makes a female vulnerable and takes up a lot of her time. So when the reproduction is taken away from a female at a certain age, it frees her up to be a wisdom keeper and a knowledge passer.” - Kevin Young “There is no greater power in the world than the zest of a postmenopausal woman.” - Margaret Mead “...we're pushing ourselves so hard and not valuing the aging process and not valuing the wisdom that comes with being an elder, all of that. So let's be curious about that.” - Dr Aisling Quiery Social Media FB: Rati: Aisling: IG: Aisling: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/39017430

Menopause: From Multitasking Queen to Second Girlhood, with Dr Priya Duggal and Rosio Fuentes 11/06/2025

Menopause: From Multitasking Queen to Second Girlhood, with Dr Priya Duggal and Rosio Fuentes Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard Join us for this wide ranging conversation between a Menopausal Naturopathic doctor and a Therapist who lives with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome while mothering a neurodivergent family and experiencing Menopause. Together, Rosie and Priya address the many physiological, emotional and practical implications of Menopause "tipping points" for women’s health. They highlight that: - Living an inauthentic life (always "doing" for others) can create physical symptoms, likewise addiction patterns may emerge or intensify if unmet needs are not addressed through self-care - While working, parenting, caring for aging parents, etc., can make women resist slowing down and prioritizing self-care, this resistance can also come from their "multitasking queen" identities - The decline in estrogen’s cardiovascular protection increases women's risk of heart issues - In traditional Chinese medicine, Hot Flashes are both "rising yang fire," (the body's wisdom for detoxing through sweat) and represent untapped potential. So balancing yin is key. Priya concluded by stressing that the human mind, body, and thoughts are interconnected (like musicians in an orchestra). Each woman's menopause journey is unique, so compassionate, individualized care is essential, as is exercise, good nutrition and sleep, sun exposure, and fresh air. “Menopause is a second girlhood—a time to rediscover your own authentic self. So be kind to yourself, don't compare yourself to others, and listen to your body rather than resisting change.” About Rosio Fuentes, Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner & Excited Curiosity Coach I’m Rosie. Curiosity moves me. It always has. I am both sentimental and direct, soft and clear. I care deeply, and that’s where everything begins for me. I’m a Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner, Private Mentor, and Excited Curiosity Coach. I’m also first generation, the daughter of migrant parents, and that shaped the way I see everything! Two worlds, two languages, two ways of belonging. When I sit with clients, I’m not there to fix them. I’m there to normalize the things we’re often told to hide like addictions, suicidal thoughts, sex, shame, guilt, grief, all of it. I'm there to make what’s real safe for them to name and to reflect back the essence of self, that part of them that is untouched and whole. I live in a neurodivergent household with my husband and our three girls, whom we are guardians for. Life here is hard, extremely hard and lively, honest, constant healing, wonder, and continuous awe. I also live with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and constant physical pain, along with thyroid and gastric issues, allergies, sensitivities, and autoimmune patterns that sometimes show up as Lyme or lupus. The pain is never not with me, yet gratitude, awe, and love are always there too. I love mother earth, the universe and all living beings. Knowing we are connected keeps me whole and allows me to be with what’s present in myself and others. About Priya Duggal, ND Priya is both a firm believer in Mind-Body Medicine and a registered Naturopathic Doctor. She focuses on women’s health, breast cancer, autoimmune conditions, addictions, and mental health. She is also a Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner, Facilitator, Educator, Mentor and Circle Leader. In her work with clients, in addition to incorporating the Compassionate Inquiry (CI) approach, she draws on the teachings of Stephen Porges, Gordon Neufeld, and Bessel van Der Kolk. Priya is passionate about helping others live authentic lives as she continues pursuing her own connection with her true self. Born and raised in India, Priya first trained as a medical doctor, but her search for deeper answers led her to naturopathic medicine, mind-body medicine and CI. After earning her ND, she took the Healthy Breast Program with Sat Dharam Kaur, ND, and continued her quest for personal and professional growth by training in Kundalini Yoga, Beyond Addiction and CI. Priya is the Vice President of MammAlive foundation, a non-profit organization run by volunteers who are passionate about women’s health and breast health education. She spends her time between both Canada and India, and enjoys travelling the world, exploring different cultures, painting, nature walks, spending quality time with her husband, two adult children and adorable pet-Kaju. True healing is in you, as Hippocartes said -“ Natural forces from within us are the true healers of disease”. What we feel and what we believe has a profound effect on our health. Promotional Message: If you've been listening to our podcast and are curious about the transformative power of Compassionate Inquiry®, join us for a 6-hour online experiential introduction to the Compassionate Inquiry approach and community. This link takes you to a web page where you can get information and, if you choose, register for the next event coming up on November 8. Resources: Websites: Related Links: Articles: Books: Research & Studies: . . Social Media: Rosie: FB: IG: Priya: FB: IG: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/38936685

Menopause Pruning: Clearing Space for Authenticity, with Inés Zabalaga & Kate Hazlitt, ND 10/30/2025

Menopause Pruning: Clearing Space for Authenticity, with Inés Zabalaga & Kate Hazlitt, ND Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard This conversation moves from the medicalization of menopause to reclaiming it as a natural process; an important, transformative life stage marked by growth, development, and renewal, not an illness or pathology. Kate and Inés advocate for shifting from symptom management to trusting the body's innate capacity and involving the entire community in understanding this transition. Inés and Kate highlight:: - Brain Pruning which "chops away" old ways of thinking and being, making way for authenticity, new identity, and a renegotiation of roles - How psychedelic therapies can support post-pruning regeneration by fostering neuroplasticity - The invitation to “redo” by challenging universal beliefs, interrupting obsolete patterns, releasing societal expectations, and embracing one's authentic, "limited," and "inconvenient" self. - The natural grief associated with the loss of the predictable menstrual cycle - How hormonal shifts influence mood and energy, which often require rest and repair. Kate and Inés both emphasize the importance of women educating themselves about their bodies' cycles, informing their communities, and approaching menopause with wisdom, self-attunement, honesty, kindness, and patience. About Dr. Kate Hazlitt, ND A naturopathic doctor, speaker, and Compassionate Inquiry® Practitioner specializing in women’s health and midlife transitions, Kate helps women move through burnout, hormonal shifts, and stress with clarity, compassion, and nervous system awareness—guiding them back to safety in their bodies and authenticity in their lives. Her clinical practice integrates Eastern and Western philosophies of the nature and cause of disease and focuses on the interweavings of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health. Kate’s primary therapeutic tools are Asian medicine and acupuncture, clinical nutrition with diet and supplementation, botanical, homeopathic and auricular medicine, counseling, detoxification and drainage. About Inés Zabalaga, MEd, MA in Systemic Therapy, Clinical Psychologist, Psychedelic Assisted Therapies Facilitator. With over 25 years of clinical experience in family, individual, couples and group therapy, Inés is a Compassionate Inquiry® Practitioner, a Family Constellations Facilitator, Director of Spontaneous Theatre, Bach and Uruguayan Flowers Practitioner, trained in psychodrama. She also leads Horse-Assisted Constellation workshops to create collective fields of human and equine energies that support her clients’ wholeness. After completing a psychedelic integration training with Iceers, Inés is training in the 3-year Grof Legacy Program for therapists oriented towards psychedelic work. Along with her partner, Inés co-leads psychedelic assisted sessions and co-facilitates retreats. Promotional Message: If you've been listening to our podcast and are curious about the transformative power of Compassionate Inquiry®, join us for a 6-hour online experiential introduction to the Compassionate Inquiry approach and community. This link takes you to a web page where you can get information and, if you choose, register for the next event coming up on on November 8. Resources: Websites: Related Links - Dr Dan Siegal s Books: Roar Like a Woman – Emma Thompson Quotes: “I went through my own process, I'm in my mid-40s, so I can often literally feel my brain pruning, as it's chopping away old, like, long outdated ways of thinking and being in my life.” - Kate Hazlitt, ND “...can we just be this very limited, very ordinary, delicious creature that has stopped trying to be more than enough?” - Inés Zabalaga “...there is this cultural obsession with the evidence based menopause, and we're leaving out lived experience of women who are elders who have wisdom to share with us. If we leave them out of the conversation, we're missing a real opportunity of learning and growth and self understanding.” - Kate Hazlitt, ND “We lose so much time because of the archetype of that ideal lady that is non existent. We are not ideal mothers. We are not ideal partners. We might even be...not so convenient. The archetypal information is playing a big role in preventing us from connecting with love in life.” - Inés Zabalaga Social Media: IG: @drkatehazlittnd. (IG) IG: CasaMagica Ineszabalaga FB: CasaMagica Ineszabalaga /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/38819620

Unveiling Indian Cultural Trauma, with Mansi Poddar 10/23/2025

Unveiling Indian Cultural Trauma, with Mansi Poddar Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This conversation exposes the impact of cultural trauma on Indian mental and emotional well-being and the conflicts these cultural pressures can cause. After outlining how therapeutic approaches can ease the pain, transform lives and begin to shift cultural norms, expectations and beliefs, Mansi asserts that having dreams, desires, and boundaries is an expression of one's wholeness, not a betrayal of others. Cultural dynamics explored include: - The expectation that women will sacrifice their personal happiness for family honor - Belief systems that defy logic and reason - Abusive parents, difficult in-laws, avoidant husbands and broken familial promises - The opposition of successful, educated professional vs. traditional wife and mother roles - Normalizing physical abuse, financial abuse, and marital rape Constantly overriding authenticity to pursue attachment gives rise to appeasement patterns, fawning responses and false beliefs such as, "sacrifice is love." These behaviours are linked to autoimmune diseases, as is detailed in Gabor Maté's book, When the Body Says No. Mansi supports his thesis with a poignant story of a friend battling terminal cancer, who sadly learned this lesson too late. About Mansi Poddar, Psychotherapist A trauma-trained psychotherapist and clinical supervisor, Mansi developed the SANI Model of Therapy—a trauma-informed, integrative framework which weaves together 4 key strands of therapeutic wisdom—Somatic Psychology, Affective and Attachment Psychology, Narrative Therapy, and Deep Inquiry. Having supported individuals through trauma, life transitions, and emotional healing for 14 years, Mansi’s approach is designed to provide deep healing, emotional resilience, and personal transformation. She specializes in Compassionate Inquiry (developed by Dr. Gabor Maté), somatic therapy, narrative therapy, and inner child healing, integrative approaches that support deep transformation of both body and mind. With a MA in Counseling for Mental Health and Wellness from New York University, Mansi is a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional and a Certified Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner trained in suicide prevention. Manis is currently pursuing advanced training in Trauma Informed Stabilization Treatment (TIST), Somatic Experiencing and Somatic Psychotherapy. Promotional Message If you're interested in experiencing Gabor Maté's trauma healing approach, consider working with a certified Compassionate Inquiry (CI) Practitioner. Access healing support for mental, emotional and physical symptoms, unresolved trauma, relationship issues, addictions, and more. Use this to access our global directory of multilingual certified professionals. In addition to their years of CI training and regular Certification reviews, our Practitioners bring the depth of their own personal lived experiences and skills in additional, complementary therapeutic approaches. Resources: Websites: Related Links: Books: Podcasts: Quotes: “For decades, Indian culture has practised an authoritarian style of parenting where parents believe in having complete autonomy over their child’s life, in most cases, even during the teenage and adult years. ‘Tough love’ is a favorite among Indian parents. ‘Traditional Indian parenting’ or ‘conservative mom and dad’ are terms loosely thrown around in India to uphold and normalise acts of suppression and child abuse, carried out for decades in familial structures.” - “When you question something, you are told, this is our culture, this is our tradition, and when this is done, it means that logic has ended and belief has come in.” - Kamla Bhasin. “We are being educated. We are being told you should get a career, you should get a profession, you should be financially independent. But nobody is teaching men and their families to…create a culture that sustains this for women. So there is a conflict…A lot of women get diagnosed as borderline or bipolar because… they're filled with rage, and after talking, get people to mediate or communicate their needs. Nobody is hearing them. So they get these diagnoses. And a large part of my work is helping them peel off the labels and look at what's beneath it.” - Mansi Poddar “Beliefs that hold women back: 1. Sacrifice is love. 2. Family honor is more important than personal happiness. 3. Good women don't say no.” - Mansi Poddar “Shame is a very strong thing in this culture. Constant comparisons, body shaming, humiliation. I meet adults who are 60 years old who are still being humiliated by their parents.” - Mansi Poddar Social Media: IG: FB: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/38751390

Invisible Made Visible: Authenticity, Healing, and Impact, with Barbara Brangan 10/16/2025

Invisible Made Visible: Authenticity, Healing, and Impact, with Barbara Brangan Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J'aime Rothbard. Our guest, an expert grant writer for charities, social enterprises, and Indigenous organizations, shares her profound transition from a deep sense of invisibility to authentic visibility and happy invisibility. Barb also describes how integrating spiritual wisdom, trauma-informed healing and self-introspection ultimately directed her to surrender to her unique gift for impactful social justice work. Barb delves into: - Her own "happy childhood" myth, hiding the pain of her childhood medical trauma. - The value of Cosmic Human Design, Gene Keys and True Sidereal Astrology - The mysterious illness that led her to Dr. Gabor Maté's work - How CI therapy and training profoundly transformed her parenting - The power of recognizing one's inherent beauty, gifts, and supported nature Initially aiming to build a "spiritual empire" based on Human Design, Barb realized her true passion by using her gift of "translation" to simplify complex grant proposals and secure over $50 million in funding for charities, social enterprises, Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander organizations. About Barb Brangan Founder, Grantful & Pearlful A strategic funding expert, Barb crafts compelling, high-value funding proposals for impact-driven organisations to facilitate amazing projects. The $50+ million in grants and tenders she has secured is fueling transformational social impact across mental health, housing, youth suicide and domestic violence prevention, and aged care. By combining her Compassionate Inquiry training with her counselling background, Barb’s deeply trauma-informed, human-centred approach enables her to help organisations not only secure critical funding but also to align deeply with their mission and values. Passionate about uncovering the authentic nature of individuals and organisations, Barb weaves her love for True Sidereal (Cosmic) Astrology, Human Design and Gene Keys into her mentoring and strategy work. She believes that when people lead from their innate gifts and lived experience, they can create funding narratives and social impact initiatives that are both compelling and deeply authentic. Known for her ability to make complex funding processes clear and empowering, and for bringing fun into the process, Barb is a trusted ally for social impact teams ready to scale their vision and impact. A dual citizen of Australia and Ireland, she supports clients locally and globally from Sydney’s Northern Beaches. Promotional Message: If you've been listening to our podcast and are curious about the transformative power of Compassionate Inquiry®, join us on Feb 22 for a 6-hour online experiential introduction to the Compassionate Inquiry approach and community . This link takes you to a web page where you can get information and, if you choose, register for . Resources Websites: Books: Article: Related Links: Videos: Podcast: Quotes: "Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, and I—I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference." - Robert Frost. “Compassionate Inquiry has completely transformed how I parent. We can allow space for sadness and happiness and all of that, because … the feeling isn't wrong. It's just allowing… it to be there. That has changed me, it has changed us as a family. My daughters are teenagers, and I really enjoy this stage.” - Barbara Brangan Social Media: IG: LI: FB: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/38591330

From Wounded Warrior to Universal Illuminator, with Juliano Innocenti, PMHNP, MSN 10/09/2025

From Wounded Warrior to Universal Illuminator, with Juliano Innocenti, PMHNP, MSN Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J'aime Rothbard. In this episode, Juliano shares his personal journey from the trauma of in utero addiction and premature birth, to being raised in the foster system, to his healing through expressive arts and Compassionate Inquiry®(CI). As a psychopharmacologist with time-limited patient prescription assessments, Juliano describes how incorporating CI practices into these sessions can help patients uncover years of hidden suffering, validate their lived experiences, question false narratives and potentially end trauma cycles He emphasizes the importance of: - Authenticity, compassion, and self expression - Both being honoured by others, and honouring others - Finding wisdom in one's own lived experiences - The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence’s charitable works - His "dissociation superpower" in his work supporting others’ healing Juliano also describes his profound connection with Gabor Maté, who honored him as a "wounded warrior." The conversation ends with Juliano producing this 12-word mantra for living authentically, on the spot: "When you follow your heart's true desire, the universe conspires for you." About Juliano Innocenti, PMHNP, MSN A Board Certified Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner practicing in California since 2011, Juliano is a Compassionate Inquiry focused prescribing provider who views patient-centered care as family-, community-, relationship- and workplace-focused. He offers diagnostic assessments and ongoing medication management for many conditions including; depression, anxiety, substance abuse, PTSD, psychotic, personality and adjustment disorders, OCD, hoarding, ADHD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Autism Spectrum Disorder, gender dysphoria, and many more. Born prematurely addicted to meth and cocaine, Juliano was taken from his mother and placed in a NICU without the comforts of touch or adult protection. Growing up in the foster system, he found wisdom in his own traumas. Having dissociated from grief during bereavement as a survival strategy, today he uses his ‘dissociation superpower’ to help patients experiencing mortality and existential fears. Juliano also specializes in helping those experiencing chronic HIV/AIDS and cancer, and serving the LGBTQ community’s unique needs. A dedicated and active member of San Francisco's Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, Juliano (Sister Shalita Corndog) is currently serving his 3rd term as a Board Member-at-large. He also serves as Co-Legislative Board Member for the California Association of Nurse Practitioners, Bay Area Chapter, lobbying for legislation to improve his profession and the lives of individuals in need of care. Along with his best friend, Mrs. Bari Littles (his Pomeranian) Juliano enjoys long walks in nature and adventures by the ocean. While his favorite place on earth is Durban, South Africa, he seeks solace from a noisy world in Muir Woods (Marin County, CA) or any Redwood forest. Promotional Message: If you've been listening to our podcast and are curious about the Compassionate Inquiry approach developed by Doctor Gabor Maté and Sat Dharam Kaur, consider joining the Professional Training Program. It's open to all healing professionals, including naturopaths, physicians, body workers, coaches, and therapists. In addition to learning how to use compassion to support your clients in their most vulnerable moments with greater empathy and authenticity, you'll also deepen your own internal process. If you're interested, tap this to learn more Resources: Websites: : Related Links: Quotes: - Safety first campaign “When people ask me my pronouns… I just say, call me anything you want that's not used in a derogatory way.” - Juliano Innocenti “Most of humanity is our tribe. We just are taught to see difference and separate. We're not different. We've just been pulled apart.” - Juliano Innocenti “The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence… there's two parts of our mission. [1] To expiate stigmatic guilt. [2] To promulgate universal joy. When you are in the presence of a sister, you feel joy.” - Juliano Innocenti Social Media: IG: @innocenti113 FB: Threads: @innocenti113 /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/38518275

Peace Activation Begins Within, with Eva Dalak 10/02/2025

Peace Activation Begins Within, with Eva Dalak Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This conversation explores Eva’s transformative journey from traditional peacework to a trauma-informed, soul-centred approach. Her own experience of progressive vision loss forced her into two years of deep shadow work. In this process she identified and released unhelpful core beliefs and avoidant patterns Today, Eva believes she lost her eyesight to rediscover her true vision and destiny, through embracing her Palestinian-Israeli identity She clearly explains why: - Sustainable peace begins within us - Traditional peacework as fundamentally broken - Trauma-informed peacebuilding is able to end suffering comparisons and the weaponizing of trauma - The Israel-Palestine conflict as a colonial themed theater in which global powers operate - True conflict resolution requires the recognition of multiple truths and perspectives Eva emphasizes that bringing people together in the midst of a genocide is immoral. Instead, she suggests the focus be on holding space for community pain, including the deep impact of collective generational trauma. She shares an inspiring vision in which she saw humans experiencing darkness as "particles of light" on a journey back to wholeness. About Eva Dalak. Founder, Peace Activation A skilled conflict transformation facilitator and peacebuilding trainer, Eva combines grassroots depth with policy-level insight. For 20+ years she has worked with international organisations in 22+ conflict zones across Africa, the Middle East and Asia, blending systemic change with personal and collective healing. After 30+ years as a gender and conflict expert, she leads trauma-informed, soul-centered initiatives as a women’s empowerment coach. Growing up as a Palestinian-Muslim in Israel, Eva experienced a fragmented identity within a system designed to ‘divide and rule,’ reflecting the collective fragmentation she later observed. Fluent in five languages, she is trained in international development and law, spiritual psychology, and somatic experience. Currently based in Costa Rica, Eva launched Peace Activation on October 7, 2023 in response to the escalating crisis in Palestine and Israel. It is a global peace initiative rooted in the belief that sustainable peace begins within. Eva hosts the Peace is Possible podcast and authors The Other Narrative Substack, sharing stories of resilience and hope from the frontlines of conflict. On October 7, 2025, she will release her new book, Dancing In The Dark: How I Found My True Vision For Peace. Promotional Message: Did you know that Compassionate Inquiry® offers a free public blog library with over a thousand short posts written by our practitioners and facilitators? Each is only a 5 or 6 minute read, and topics range from connecting with authenticity to overcoming food addictions to understanding epigenetics, rethinking drug use, CI & Psychedelics, and much, much more. You can also read excerpts from podcast guests' interviews. to access our helpful, enlightening and inspiring blog library. Resources: Websites: Related Links Books: Dancing In The Dark: How I Found My True Vision For Peace. (Available Oct 7, 25) Podcasts: Quotes: "Peace cannot be imposed through declarations. It is an ongoing process, a daily act of quiet courage... and it must be made again and again.” - Eva Dalak I didn't fall into darkness—I answered its call. There, I remembered the grief I carried was never mine alone. What breaks us open is sometimes what births us whole." - Eva Dalak "I believe that I lost my vision so that I could discover within myself where I had already lost my vision for my destiny. I had to lose my vision to find where, why, and what I am choosing to live." - Eva Dalak "Wholeness is not something granted by a government, a passport, or a flag... Wholeness is something we must reclaim from within." - Eva Dalak "Peace is not something we wait for. It is something we activate. We do not wait for peace; we embody it. The work is not done. It is just beginning." - Eva Dalak Social Media: IG: LI: YT: FB: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/38433235

Technology & AI : Benefits & Hazards, with Sat Dharam Kaur, ND 09/25/2025

Technology & AI : Benefits & Hazards, with Sat Dharam Kaur, ND Hosted by J’aime Rothbard, Kevin Young and Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. Join us as we explore the overall impact of technology and AI on human attachments, relationships, dependence, skills, wellbeing and our environment. AI is examined in therapeutic contexts, along with the considerable ethical and societal concerns around its use in that capacity, and the documented damage it can inflict on vulnerable populations. Sat Dharam addresses a number of ‘hot’ tech and AI topics including the: - Potential future implications of transferring human attachment needs to technology - Innate addictive qualities of tech apps, devices and our increasing addiction to information - Growing human disconnection from intimate presence, relationships, emotions and engagement - Links between our increasing reliance on technology and the loss of essential life-skills - Increases in human dysregulation, dissatisfaction and disembodiment AI and Data Centers’ high water and power consumption are flagged as an "unconscious abuse" of planetary resources, as few are aware of just how costly these ’free tools’ are, from an environmental perspective. Should we be diverting resources vital for agriculture and other needs to AI and tech? The conversation concludes with a call for tech innovators to provide us with ethical guidelines, checks, balances and impact reports. Sat Dharam also emphasizes the need for discernment when using AI. About Sat Dharam Kaur Compassionate Inquiry® Co-Director, Training Facilitator, Circle Leader, Certified Practitioner Sat Dharam is a practicing naturopathic doctor (since 1989) with a focus on women’s health, cancer and mind-body approaches to healing. Since 2012, she has been studying, hosting, working and teaching with Dr. Gabor Maté. She structured his work in a teachable format; the Compassionate Inquiry® Professional Online Training. Since 2019, much of her naturopathic practice has included Compassionate Inquiry®. Sat Dharam’s educational background includes a BA majoring in Psychology & English Literature, and a BSc in Biology from the University of Guelph. She completed her postgraduate studies in naturopathic medicine at the Canadian College of Naturopathic Medicine in Toronto, where she also taught stress management and women’s health for 10 years. The author of multiple *books on women’s health, Sat Dharam has also presented at numerous conferences. An expert instructor in Kundalini Yoga, which she has practiced and taught for over 45 years, Sat Dharam has developed yoga-based curricula in addiction recovery, trauma, and breast health; specialties in which she offers training to teachers around the world. Sat Dharam and her husband live in an off-grid home on 105 acres of beautiful land where she nurtures fruit trees and a large garden. She enjoys hiking, cycling, and communing with plants. She has three adult children and two grandchildren. Promotional Message: If you’re drawn to Dr Gabor Maté’s teachings and books, you might like to know about the Compassionate Inquiry Short Course. It provides an introduction to the powerful therapeutic trauma healing approach created by Dr Gabor Maté and developed by Sat Dharam Kaur. The Short Course delivers 30 hours of video and narrated powerpoints, plus PDFs that together, will not only help you understand the origins of trauma and how it can be healed, but also how trauma is linked to mental and physical illnesses. to learn more about this program, that’s priced and presented to make it accessible to all. Resources Websites: Relevant links: Research: Books: * * * Video: Quotes: “...in the first months of our lives, the attachment bond happens with parents. In the first two or three years of our lives, the attachment bond happens with the Earth. If children are placed in front of the television at an early age, our attachment needs will get transferred to technology, and that becomes the future of humanity. We're not realizing that's happening.” – Sat Dharam Kaur “Are we skilled in discerning and knowing how to use technology for the betterment of humans [and] the planet? Or is technology interfering with our humanity and the well being of the planet? Those are big questions for any new technology.” – Sat Dharam Kaur “...if we looked at all data centers today, the amount of water that they utilize would irrigate 270,000 acres of corn, 380,000 acres of wheat, 130,000 acres of almonds, and 91,000 acres of rice. And that will jump exponentially in the next two years. Is that what we choose to do?” – Sat Dharam Kaur “...given that we are becoming so used to these micro interactions and bite sized bits of things, how then do we have deep meaningful conversations? Are we losing that ability to sit in those deep meaningful places with ourselves and other people?” - Kevin Young Social Media: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/38340415

Resolving Math-Anxiety Through Trauma-Informed Teaching, with Dr Bea Bleile 09/18/2025

Resolving Math-Anxiety Through Trauma-Informed Teaching, with Dr Bea Bleile Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard This conversation explores how academic learning is impacted by a student's emotional state, prior experiences, and the safety of the learning environment. Bea, who has been teaching in various roles since 1993, saw that traditional teaching methods fail to account for the "whole" students who enter the classrooms. This failure often results in elevated student anxiety and hindered learning: As a teacher committed to evolving current educational institutions and systems, she addresses: - The impact of negative emotions on learning - Math Anxiety, where it comes from, when and how it shows up - Teaching as a shared experience between teacher and student, not just an information transfer - Systems that discourage vulnerability in teachers, and prioritize conformity over critical thinking - How acknowledging mathematics’ inherent difficulty can help students overcome anxiety and fear Bea sees Compassionate Inquiry’s potential to transform the current education system through; creating safety and rapport in classrooms, encouraging students to embrace their struggles, allowing mistakes to help students embody knowledge, educating teachers on students’ nervous system responses and underlying beliefs, and embracing somatic approaches to addressing student blocks. About Dr Bea Bleile, MSc, PhD German-born Bea enjoyed mathematics in high school, but her love for the subject blossomed during her undergraduate studies at the Swiss Federal Institute of Technology (ETH) in Zurich. After earning her diploma, she became an associate lecturer at ETH. Wanting to stay in touch with mathematics while caring for her young child, Bea undertook and completed her MSc in homological algebra. Next, she enrolled in a PhD program in low dimensional algebraic topology, and after completing her doctorate, worked as a post-doctoral fellow. Today, Bea teaches at the University of New England (UNE) in Armidale, NSW. She teaches all undergraduate mathematics units as well as specialized honours and postgraduate units. A staunch believer in the liberating power of education, after reading Dr Gabor Maté’s book, The Myth of Normal, Bea undertook the Compassionate Inquiry (CI) professional training. Her goal was to expand her ability to teach difficult subjects in accessible ways to support students’ learning experiences. The CI training revealed what may be happening in students’ bodies and psyches when they experience ‘maths anxiety’ or encounter learning blocks. It also equipped Bea with the insights she needs to support students in moving past their blocks. Teaching and planting trees are Bea’s preferred ways to contribute to society. Promotional Message: If you've been listening to our podcast and are curious about the Compassionate Inquiry approach developed by Doctor Gabor Maté and Sat Dharam Kaur, consider joining the Professional Training Program. It's open to all healing professionals, including naturopaths, physicians, body workers, coaches, and therapists. In addition to learning how to use compassion to support your clients in their most vulnerable moments with greater empathy and authenticity, you'll also deepen your own internal process. If you're interested, tap this to learn more. Resources: Websites: Related Links: Articles: Books: Quotes: “Attending school was sheer joy. I loved being a student. I loved learning. School was the place of ecstasy, pleasure and danger. To be changed by ideas was pure pleasure. But to learn ideas that ran counter to values and beliefs learned at home was to place oneself at risk to enter the danger zone. Home was the place where I was forced to conform to someone else's image of who and what I should be. School was the place where I could forget that self and through ideas, reinvent myself.” - Bell Hooks “If you've managed to learn to read and write, you can do maths. It's like learning another language. You have to work at it. Things won't make sense immediately. And it's hard because it's a very precise language. You try to do a problem and you don't even know where to start. That's normal.” - Bea Bleile “The knowledge we now have about the working of the brain is so significant, it should bring about a shift in the ways we teach, give messages to students, parent our children, run schools and colleges.” - Jo Boaler “Another thing that is important in doing mathematics, I guess in doing everything, but especially in mathematics, is to allow ourselves to make mistakes and to allow ourselves to ask a question as it comes up.” - Bea Bleile Social Media: FB: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/38250725

Elevating Consciousness & Healing Through Art & Music with Ester Martinez 09/11/2025

Elevating Consciousness & Healing Through Art & Music with Ester Martinez Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This rich conversation explores many topics, from Ester’s personal and professional journeys, to spiritual mysticism, to the parallels between experiencing ‘excellence’ in art, music and transformational trauma healing. Ester began sharing her NDEs and naming,”‘the Divine embrace” as her childhood comfort, the foundation of her healing approach and an enduring influence in her therapeutic practices. She also reflects on: - Why healing is always possible - Art and music as mediums for elevating consciousness and facilitating emotional healing - How addressing shared human experiences can lead to community healing - The role precise therapeutic interventions play in healing individual and collective systems - Why mastery in any healing modality requires years of devotion and practice Ester concludes this conversation by sharing a vision in which schools incorporate teachings on presence and emotional health, and by doing so, facilitate greater consciousness in future generations. About Ester Martinez, PhD A Master Transformational & Executive Coach, Psychotherapist, Individual & Collective Trauma Therapist and Consciousness Teacher, Ester holds a BA in International Relations, a MA in Humanities and a Ph.D in Philosophy & Ethics. She has also studied and practiced Zen Meditation since 2003. Ester has applied her multidisciplinary training, (Gestalt group work, Family Constellations, Somatic body/mind work, Craniosacral Therapy, and Francois Mèzier's Body Therapy) in organizational settings and leadership development for 18 years. She is a core transformational faculty member for Mobius Leadership's senior most leadership offerings and a core member of Thomas Hübl's team. Ester has been pivotal in developing innovative methods in both Constellations work and Mike Boxhall’s “Presence in Stillness,” and promoting them throughout Spain and South America. She pioneered the integration of mystical principles with Constellations work as a means for deep personal and collective transformation, and is on the leading edge of introducing personal mastery, consciousness work and transformational healing into the business world. Her deep interest and immersion in the study, research and therapeutic application of mystical principles enables her to help people access, illuminate and integrate previously hidden and unrealized parts of themselves and their lives. Her deep connection to, and comprehension of, what lies beneath perceived patterns, roles, and identity, allows people to connect more fully to their life’s true purpose and potential and gain clarity on their blocks. When not traveling the world promoting and working on her many projects, Ester resides in Valencia, Spain, near her two grown sons. If you've been listening to our podcast and are curious about the Compassionate Inquiry approach developed by Doctor Gabor Maté and Sat Dharam Kaur, consider joining the Professional Training Program. It's open to all healing professionals, including naturopaths, physicians, body workers, coaches, and therapists. In addition to learning how to use compassion to support your clients in their most vulnerable moments with greater empathy and authenticity, you'll also deepen your own internal process. If you're interested, to learn more. Resources: Website: Related Links: Books: Video: Quotes: “If we give ourselves the opportunity of looking at the darkest places in us, the light that has been hidden just shows up again and is always there guiding us.” - Ester Martinez “Great musical artists, like a violin virtuoso, is one with his instrument and creates a field of coherence that transmits joy. Healers are artists in their own right and their instrument is their whole body. We refine our instrument through contemplation, prayer, deep inner work to be the clearest instrument for service, but at the end it is grace that allows deep intuition and deep knowing to emerge from the unknown. That's what people see as deep coherence and miracles.” - Ester Martinez “Precision is love in healing.” - Thomas Hübl “... When a legitimate member of the group is shut out, someone in a later generation must compensate…by suffering a similar injustice. [They]…don’t choose their fate… They relive the fate of the excluded person, and recreate [their] experience, complete with the guilt, the innocence, and all the other feelings...” - Bert Hellinger Social Media: LI: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/38175745

Shining Authenticity's Light into Corporate Leadership, with Lubna Forzley 09/04/2025

Shining Authenticity's Light into Corporate Leadership, with Lubna Forzley Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This passionate conversation begins with Lubna’s upbringing in war-torn Beirut. She recalls seeing bombs falling and people dying and wondering, “What is the point of this? How do we find purpose?” Her mom told her, "It's okay, everything’s replaceable except you, the people you love and the story (or purpose) you live by.” After 15 years of corporate work Lubna launched her own business, Stories. Its name acknowledges the intertwining of our purpose and personal brands, and the alignment of our internal and external stories. She also links misaligned stories with depression and other issues. In this episode, Lubna highlights: - The role of purpose in personal fulfillment - How leaders’ trauma can affect their authenticity and decision-making - The workplace transformation from, “Doing Leaders into Being Leaders” - Why corporate leaders are “the nervous system of their organizations” - How leaders’ emotional states and level of personal development directly influence their organizations’ cultures and employee engagement The interview concludes with Lubna’s vision of Compassionate Inquiry’s universal capacity for healing, facilitating new growth in global organizations, leaders, families and individuals. About Lubna Forzley, Founder & CEO of Stories, Certified Compassionate Inquiry Practitioner, Independent Compassionate Inquiry Circle Leader, ICF-accredited PCC Coach Lubna has worked with royalty, C-suite leaders, and Fortune 500 giants including American Express, Google, Johnson & Johnson and the Nasdaq Entrepreneurial Center. Her executive career includes senior roles at Coca-Cola, UNDP, BNP Paribas, and advisory roles to multi-sector startups from e-commerce to human development. A sought-after speaker, Lubna has delivered hundreds of talks and shared stages with icon Steve Wozniak and others. The global roundtables she hosts have featured thought leaders Dr. Gabor Maté, Sophie Grégoire Trudeau, Dr. Caroline Leaf, Sat Dharam Kaur, ND and many others. As the CEO and founder of Stories, a digital storytelling and coaching platform, Lubna’s work supports the internal and external growth of organizational leaders. The author of, Enhancing Business Community Relations (UNDP), Lubna’s new book, Crack It, will be released in 2026. Her work has been featured in Fast Company, Entrepreneur, and AP as well as Andrew Stafford’s book, Something to Believe In. A passionate advocate for Compassionate Inquiry®(CI), Lubna is launching Independent CI Circles while working closely with Compassionate Inquiry® Inc. to bring its therapeutic approach to the Arab World. She serves as a board member for Grief Stories and an advisory board member for Mindtrust Leadership and Nasdaq EC. She champions women in leadership, and is the proud mother of three. Promotional Message: If you're not a therapist or healer, but you've heard our guests describe the personal transformations they experienced during their Compassionate Inquiry® journeys, and wonder what that would be like for you... Circles is a 10-week small group experience offered to anyone who wants to experience the power of Gabor Maté’s approach to trauma healing. to find out if this program is for you. NEW! Independent Compassionate Inquiry® Corporate Circles These 10-week online support groups are designed to heal workplace stress, toxic dynamics, and disengagement while helping leaders access resilience, emotional regulation, and deeper self-inquiry. Tentatively scheduled to begin September 30. U to learn more and register your interest. Resources: Websites: Related Links: Videos: Books: Social Media: LI: IG: @lubnaforzley /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/38081055

Intimacy, Healing and "Sand in the System" with Kosha Joubert. 08/28/2025

Intimacy, Healing and "Sand in the System" with Kosha Joubert. Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This heart-felt conversation arcs from the pain of apartness to the healing power of connectedness. Kosha shares her personal journey, which led her from the cognitive and somatic dissonance of enforced separation (apartheid) to the synchronicity of inter-connection. She also explains how: - Human love and connection can change systems from the bottom-up - Witnessing eco-communities’ good intentions and dedication to restoring relationships with nature, social systems, cultures, and economies led her to, “fall in love with our world and humanity” - Underlying limitations manifesting as unresolved conflicts can block us from reaching our full potential. - The Pocket Project creates pockets of intimacy—with ourselves, others, and the world. - Global Social Witnessing moves from "cold data" (mental processing that fosters separation and polarization) to "warm data" (embodied, relational understanding). - The collaboration of healing movements supports widespread bridge building and waters the seeds of cocreation in the “super juicy" spaces between their different approaches. In conclusion, Kosha emphasizes the need to address the "sand in our systems;" those subtle, persistent particles of conflict and resistance that hinder collective flourishing. She encourages us to love “our sand” and allow it to settle so that our waters can clear themselves and light can stream in. About Kosha Joubert, CEO, the Pocket Project An expert international coach and facilitator, Kosha has worked in systems regeneration, organizational development and intercultural collaboration in 48+ countries. In her current role, she works closely with Pocket Project co-founder, Thomas Hübl, and a global team. Together they are growing a culture of trauma-informed care by focusing on the emergence of collective wisdom, trauma-informed leadership and post-traumatic growth. She co-hosted the “Power of Collective Wisdom Conference” with Thomas in Berlin in 2008, and continues to co-host the annual Collective Trauma Online Summit. Kosha has also authored several books and received the Dadi Janki Award (2017) for engaging spirituality in life and work, and the One World Award (2020) for building the Global Ecovillage Network to a worldwide movement reaching out to over 6000 communities on all continents. Kosha holds degrees in Cultural Anthropology, Linguistics and Organisational Development and has studied with Thomas Hübl since 2005. She grew up in South Africa under Apartheid and has been dedicated to healing divides and collective trauma ever since. When she is not traveling, she enjoys living amidst nature's beauty in Findhorn, Scotland. Promotional Message: If you're not a therapist or healer, but you've heard our guests describe the personal transformations they experienced during their Compassionate Inquiry® journeys, and wonder what that would be like for you... Circles is a 10-week small group experience offered to anyone who wants to experience the power of Gabor Maté’s approach to trauma healing. to find out if this program is for you. Resources: Website: Related Links: Videos: (2025) (2015) Podcasts: (2025) (2024) Books: Training: Research: Quotes: “One of the most underutilized resources we have on the planet today is the good intentions of citizens and our willingness to make a difference.” - Kosha Joubert - Gabor Maté - The WHO Commission on Social Connection Social Media: LI: FB: IG: YT: LI: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/37991675

6 Ingredients of Lasting Love with Dr Sara Nasserzadeh 08/21/2025

6 Ingredients of Lasting Love with Dr Sara Nasserzadeh Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This conversation delivers rich insights on the importance of clear communication and intentional maintenance in healthy love relationships. Dr Sara also explores the ways personal and inherited trauma can impact intimate relationships, from causing ongoing emotional issues to expanding individuals' resilience and abilities to maintain healthy relationships. In addition to sharing stories from her personal and professional life, Dr Sara explains: - How the six relational ingredients of her Emergent Love Model interact and evolve over time. - The specific conditions required for love to flourish, gleaned from studying 312 couples - The common issues that result when couples communicate without mutual understanding. - The different couple conflict dynamics that shape children's emotional health - Why love is a conscious choice, not something one "falls into" or "out of". Dr Sara offers tools and strategies couples can use proactively to strengthen their relationships and provides practical guidance on how to cultivate loving relationships through awareness, active engagement and understanding rather than passive acceptance. About Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh An award-winning social psychologist, global thought leader and relationship expert, Dr Sara’s work bridges personal intimacy, professional excellence and intercultural fluency. She has authored multiple books, book chapters and white papers, including her award-winning 2024 book, Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love. Having worked as a senior advisor to the United Nations (UN), its Population Fund (UNFPA), its Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organization, (UNESCO), and Fortune 500 companies across 41 countries, Dr Sara’s mission is: To create world peace, one relationship at a time. Dr Sara is also a highly regarded scholar who has served on the boards of The International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH), the World Association for Sexual Health (WAS), the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), and the California Psychological Association’s Division VII. Dr Sara created and hosted the BBC World Service’s, The Whispers, a first-of-its-kind program addressing issues related to sexuality and interpersonal relationships in the Middle East. In 2007, it earned the BBC’s Innovation of the Year Award and continues to reach millions of Farsi speaking communities around the world. Celebrated by peers and clients alike, Dr Sara received: The Clark Vincent Award from the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT) for advancing the field of marriage and family therapy, The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists’ (AASECT) Professional Excellence Award, Pfizer’s Innovation of the Year Award, and was a British Council UK Alumni Award for Social Impact finalist. Her work has been featured in global media including NPR, BBC, CNN, ABC, New York Times and USA Today. Dr Sara lives in Los Angeles and travels extensively for speaking engagements, cultural explorations, media engagements and research. Promotional Message: If you’ve been listening to our podcast, you may have heard guests connect their birth experiences with enduring subconscious behavioural and emotional patterns. To help break this cycle, Compassionate Inquiry® offers The Portal, a 28-week trauma-informed training for perinatal health professionals; such as midwives, obstetricians, nurses and doulas, who want to empower their patients to trust their innate ability to birth, bond & nurture their child. . Resources: Website: Related Links: Articles: Books: (2024) (2017) (2009) Videos: Podcasts: Quotes: “Human beings are members of the whole in creation of one essence, and soul. If one member is afflicted with pain, other members uneasy will remain. If you have no sympathy for human pain, the name of human you cannot retain.” - Saadi Shirazi “...within this book, [Love By Design] one of the things that I wanted to achieve was to really capture that essence of thriving relationships, from bedroom to boardroom.” - Dr Sara Nasserzadeh “True love gives your heart a break, not heartbreak.” - Dr Sara Nasserzadeh “Trauma is not what happens to you, but what happens inside you as a result of what happens to you.” - Gabor Maté Social Media: : @Dr.Saranasserzadeh : @Dr.SaraNasseZadeh : @Dr.Sara Nasserzadeh /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/37893635

The Sound of Healing with Reggie Hubbard 08/14/2025

The Sound of Healing with Reggie Hubbard Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. Listen to hear a powerful and playful discourse that flows from racial anger to curiosity, skepticism, critical thinking, surrender and stroke recovery. Reggie speaks about how his unwavering self-care practices unleashed the transformative alchemy of inner peace. He also describes teaching peace and mindfulness practices to political activists and US Congress members, supporting their need for grounding in chaotic times. He also invites us to: - Express our grief and connect with our emotions rather than avoiding difficult feelings - Consider suffering as a collective experience of shared understanding and support - Embrace our vulnerability and surrender ego to open deeper connections and healing - Replace our need for results with non-attachment to enhance our peace and presence - Welcome life's dark moments as paths to deeper understanding and authenticity Throughout this conversation, Reggie demonstrates his use of sound bowls and gongs to facilitate emotional release and healing. About Reggie Hubbard, Founder and Chief Serving Officer, Active Peace LLC Despite his many accomplishments, Reggie is most proud of being a caring human. His lived experience includes being a stroke survivor, a teacher and wisdom steward, a strategist, organizer, spiritual advisor, minister of sound, philosopher and devoted seeker of truth, compassion, health, wellbeing and justice for all. Through Active Peace, he teaches people from all walks of life to cultivate wisdom and grow strong foundations of well-being through dedicated practices involving movement, meditation and sound. Reggie's life work sits at the intersection of community building; bringing peace and balance to activists, guiding the wellness community toward greater engagement; and shifting the world toward justice for all. Through meditation, wisdom talks, sound healing and spiritual guidance he helps people find the space and grace to navigate life with more perspective, ease and humor. Reggie’s personal wellness journey was born of curiosity and forged in the adversity of toxic work. It begat lessons in surrendering to the miracles that exist and focusing on what he could control, with grit, grace and curiosity. His spiritual practice helps him bear witness to complicated emotions and life situations with ease and discernment. A featured speaker and thought leader on healing, new consciousness, wellbeing, social justice, and civic engagement for leading publications, podcasts and platforms, Reggie considers himself a global citizen, but spends most of his time in the Maryland/Washington DC area. He holds a BA in Philosophy from Yale University, a MBA from the Vlerick Business School and has logged hundreds of hours in yoga and meditation training. If you're a current Compassionate Inquiry® Professional Training Program participant or graduate, you're invited to CI's Experiential Intensive Retreat, in the north of Ireland, from September 8 - 12. Deepen your personal and community connections in the beautiful natural setting of Corrymeela, with beautiful views over the Irish sea. Rest, reflect, and partake in workshops, Compassionate Inquiry®-, body- and nature-based practice sessions, plus delightful evening community celebrations with home-cooked meals, Irish music and dancing. to learn more. Resources: Website: Related Links: Videos: Books: Quotes: “To be black and conscious in America is to be in a constant state of rage.” - James Baldwin “I grew up in a land that saw me as a threat when all I wanted to do was be a blessing.” - Reggie Hubbard “Anger, if left unchecked, transitions from fuel source to destructor.” - Reggie Hubbard “I found peace with racism by seeing how it benefited me.” - Reggie Hubbard “...the wings of imagination cannot soar from the mind of burnout or the mind of exhaustion.” - Reggie Hubbard “I'm here for a reason. And it is not to trifle with the fickle imaginings of short sighted people.” - Reggie Hubbard “I specialize in teaching skeptics, having been one my damn self.” - Reggie Hubbard Social Media: Instagram @oreggieglobal /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/37813635

Healing Ruptured Connections to Self, Land and Culture with Sanjog Kaur 08/07/2025

Healing Ruptured Connections to Self, Land and Culture with Sanjog Kaur Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard Sanjog’s spiritual name means ‘connection.’ In this flowing, deeply connected conversation, Sanjog describes how ‘longing’ helped her heal her eating disorder. She also explains how heartfelt intentions (as opposed to external goals) helped her navigate obstacles in her addiction recovery. In addition to attuning to our innate ‘longings’ and ‘intentions’, Sanjog highlights the importance of trusting our own intuition, and accepting that we inherently know what we need. Join us to hear Sanjog describe how: - A trip to the US, unspoken grief, and early bullying led to her develop Bulimia, at age 13 - She overcame her reluctance to seek help through Kundalini Yoga, her relationship, community and her own longing to free herself from a coping strategy that served her well…but at great cost. - Her professional focus shifted from anthropology to therapy - Her emerging personal and professional aspirations might evolve her life and work Sanjog also paints a beautiful picture of her upbringing in the Andes Mountains, the influences of her land’s unique geography, languages and cultures, and how, after initially dismissing what Ecuador offered, and wanting to leave, she has come to deeply appreciate its culture, land and diversity. About Sanjog Kaur: Somatic Therapist & Eating Psychology Coach Born and raised in Ecuador’s Andes Mountains, Sanjog studied Anthropology at New York University and earned her Master’s Degree in Gender Studies at FLACSO-Ecuador. She was introduced to the field of mental health in 2008, when she began her recovery process from an eating disorder she had lived with since childhood. A few years later, she trained as a Kundalini Yoga Teacher, an Eating Psychology Coach and various therapeutic models, including Gestalt Therapy, Art Therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Brainspotting. In 2012, Sanjog met Dr. Gabor Maté and Sat Dharam Kaur through the Beyond Addiction Program and began practicing compassionate self-inquiry. As a Compassionate Inquiry® (CI) Practitioner, Founding Facilitator, Mentor, and Circles Leader, Sanjog led the translation of the CI programs into Spanish and is currently the Director of the CI Spanish Programs. Promotional Message: If you're a current Compassionate Inquiry® Professional Training Program participant or graduate, you're invited to CI's Experiential Intensive Retreat, in the north of Ireland, from September 8 - 12. Deepen your personal and community connections in the beautiful natural setting of Corrymeela, with beautiful views over the Irish sea. Rest, reflect, and partake in workshops, Compassionate Inquiry®-, body- and nature-based practice sessions, plus delightful evening community celebrations with home-cooked meals, Irish music and dancing. to learn more. Resources: Websites: Books: Quotes: “Our hunger to belong is the longing to bridge the gulf that exists between isolation and intimacy.” - John O'Donoghue “Can you be fearless and compassionate?” - Sanjog Kaur “I really want to be thin and have this type of body. I wouldn't describe that as a longing that came from the connection with myself. I would say that’s someone else's voice telling me who I needed to be in order to be accepted or to belong or to be safe in the world. But the longing would have been, yes, I want to belong and I want to be safe in my body and I want to connect with people. And then, I want to be accepted and loved and live with dignity. That's what I really wanted for myself in my life. And the idea that thinness will bring you there was just a distraction.” - Sanjog Kaur Training: n Social Media: IG: FB: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/37716115

Khonmadi: Feeling the Heartbeat of Mother Earth, with Dr Ruby Gibson 07/31/2025

Khonmadi: Feeling the Heartbeat of Mother Earth, with Dr Ruby Gibson Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes, Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this magical conversation, Dr. Ruby shares the launch of The Khonmadi Project, which was inspired by a dream. She has since discovered that Khonmadi is known to different indigenous cultures worldwide, as a term that relates to healing Mother Earth. Dr. Ruby also shares her personal and professional journey, which began at age 13. Learning about the emotional roots of physical pain, led her from massage therapy to somatic healing, and the creation of Somatic Archaeologyⓒ which considers the body a "walking library" of information which, when accessed, facilitates deep healing. Dr Ruby explains: - How her work supports people's recovery from chronic pain, historical amnesia, cultural trauma, grief, addictions, despair and inherited repetitive familial patterns - How we can support Mother Earth through mindfulness, respect, and offering prayers - The role her grandmothers play in guiding her life and work - How clearing our own internal "debris" allows for greater spiritual connection and contribution Dr. Ruby concludes by suggesting that we choose to live our lives as warriors, lovers, or magicians. She explains why she personally identifies with the magician, who walks a path of continuous learning, transformation and building bridges that take people from where they are to where they’re going About Dr Ruby Gibson: Somatic Archaeology© Developer/Trainer, Executive Director of Freedom Lodge A certified somatic therapist of Mediterranean / Lakota descent, with 35 years of experience as an international educator, Dr. Ruby’s focus is Transgenerational Healing and Historical Trauma Recovery. In 1995, she developed Somatic Archaeology© to help those in recovery from chronic pain, repetitive familial patterns, historical amnesia, cultural trauma, grief, addictions and despair. She believes that we can translate historical trauma into present day psychological / spiritual advantage. In 2015, her non-profit group, Freedom Lodge, received a grant to open the Black Hills Historical Trauma Research & Recovery Center in Rapid City, SD. As that work is now completed, Freedom Lodge has relocated to Lakewood, CO where it continues its work to fully heal Native wounds, to reclaim Native heritage and to mend the Sacred Hoop of Life so as to honor the next seven generations. A seasoned humanitarian who embraces many traditions, Dr Ruby began her spiritual journey at the age of 13 and has spent her life in service to the healing of Mother Earth and the betterment of her community. In empowering people to create generational harmony by providing leadership to their families, colleagues, clients and communities, her objective is two-fold: to lighten the load for future generations, and to integrate unresolved burdens for conscious remembering and earth-centered resourcing. In other words, helping others find the gift within the wound. These are activities of profound responsibility that require consciousness and ethical reflection. Dr Ruby is a gifted storyteller who authored My Body, My Earth, The Practice of Somatic Archaeology. She is excited to launch her next campaign, the Khonmadi Project, in July 2025. The mother of 4 children and Grandmother of 5, she has hope for the future. Promotional Message: If you're a current Compassionate Inquiry Professional Training Program participant or graduate, you're invited to CI's Experiential Intensive Retreat, in the north of Ireland, from September 8 - 12. Deepen your personal and community connections in the beautiful natural setting of Corrymeela, with beautiful views over the Irish sea. Rest, reflect, and partake in workshops, CI-, body- and nature-based practice sessions, plus delightful evening community celebrations, with home-cooked meals, Irish music and dancing. to learn more. Resources: Website: Related Links: Books: Podcasts: with Thomas Hübl Articles: Quotes: There are three ways to live your life… as a warrior. (She fights for what she wants.) As a lover. (She who holds space for everything to have.) Or as a magician. (She who builds a bridge from where we are to where we're going.) You have an opportunity to shift around in those three ways of presenting yourself… I've been living in the magician, doing a lot of transforming. It's a very powerful place to be, and I've learned things I never thought I would.” - Dr Ruby Gibson Poem: I Am I am the rock, I am the shore I am the pulse, the ocean floor I am the wind that sweeps your hair The breath of love in every prayer I am alone, I am a part I am the vein, I am the heart I am the sun that warms your back The compassion that you lack I am the womb, I am the cave I am the woman, I am the brave. I am the water that you drink The sound of peace in thoughts you think I am the seed, I am the flower I am the earth, I am the power. - Dr Ruby Gibson, 2000 Social Media: - - - /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/37615735

Healing the Trauma of the Heart with Tiph Fedor 07/24/2025

Healing the Trauma of the Heart with Tiph Fedor Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. The spiritual journey and process of trauma healing are presented as aligned experiences that unfold together as we progress through healing into wholeness. This conversation begins with Tiph’s healing journey. A highly sensitive, empathetic child, growing up in a family where emotions were suppressed was a painful experience that led her to heroin addiction— described as a "magic bullet," it numbed Tiph’s emotions but made her life a ‘grim’ period of survival. She goes on to share how she overcame her addiction, and the major influences in her healing journey: - Motherhood, a "massively heart opening" experience that taught her patience and selfless love - Training with Eckhart Tolle's which profoundly impacted her ability to calm her mind and be present - The moment of "oneness" where she realized her purpose - Compassionate Inquiry’s skillful approach to "unpicking stories," releasing beliefs and emotions - Psychedelics, which she finds very aligned with the Compassionate Inquiry® approach Today Tiph feels settled, free, comfortable in her body, deeply peaceful and connected to the divine. The conversation concludes with an exploration of her current work with clients, in which she combines all her learned skills. She believes healing is "absolutely possible" and "more important than anything." About Tiph Fedor: A registered Counsellor, Compassionate Inquiry® Practitioner, Mentor, Facilitator, and Integrative Psychedelic Therapist, registered with the Institute of Psychedelic Therapy, Tiph was also trained by Eckhart Tolle and is a certified Mindfulness Practitioner. For over 30 years, in her private practice, nestled in the peaceful Herefordshire countryside, Tiph has worked with individuals and couples from around the world. Today, by integrating deep presence with the principles of Compassionate Inquiry, she guides her clients through their trauma to a place of authentic self-connection. She also offers Psychedelic Integration through the Hereford Psychedelic Integration Group, for, as is stated on their website: “Conscious integration of any transformation or transformational work maximises the potential of the benefits persisting and being carried on into your life and the ongoing relationship with yourself, others, and with the world.” Tiph’s own healing journey is inseparable from her work, as she believes that true therapeutic presence comes from a place of personal growth and deep self-awareness. She sees the spiritual journey and the process of healing trauma as deeply intertwined paths, unfolding together in the pursuit of wholeness and inner transformation. If you've been listening to our podcast and are curious about the Compassionate Inquiry approach developed by Doctor Gabor Maté and Sat Dharam Kaur, consider joining the Professional Training Program. It's open to all healing professionals, including naturopaths, physicians, body workers, coaches, and therapists. In addition to learning how to use compassion to support your clients in their most vulnerable moments with greater empathy and authenticity, you'll also deepen your own internal process. If you're interested, Resources: Websites: Modalities: Teachers: Quotes: “To me, the spiritual journey and the process of healing trauma are not separate paths but deeply intertwined, unfolding together in the pursuit of wholeness and inner transformation.” - Tiph Fedor “I believe that at our core we are all the divine. What gets in the way of us knowing that are the layers of self limiting beliefs, suppressed emotions, the trauma, the build up of all of that… it's important to do the trauma work as with every moment of healing, a gossamer layer is lifted… a slow and very beautiful process.” - Tiph Fedor Social Media: FB: IG: @tiphfedor LI: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/37525205

Finding Chronic Pain Relief in Parts Work with Terry Baranski 07/17/2025

Finding Chronic Pain Relief in Parts Work with Terry Baranski Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Compassionate Inquiry® (CI) both aim to reconnect individuals with their core Self. Learn how understanding parts' reality' roles, and feeling into the somatic flow of Self facilitates healing. In this conversation, Terry illuminates the IFS approach, including the nature of Self, how our how parts manifest chronic pain and why addressing these internal conflicts is essential for healing. Having been trained in both CI and IFS, Terry adeptly distinguishes the two approaches’ areas of convergence and divergence. Terry also explains that our: - Core (capital "S") Self is resilient, consistently calm and present - Parts emerge developmentally, not created by trauma but significantly impacted by it - Parts operate as signals to bring our attention to unresolved past issues - Healing process involves interacting with our parts and allowing our Self to provide leadership The stories Terry shares illustrate the somatic nature of IFS therapy, as his clients often feel a flow of energy, a felt sense of presence when connecting with their Self, which can be healing. He notes that in both IFS and CI trainees work first on healing their own wounded parts / trauma wounds Terry Baranski, Mental Health Practitioner As a trauma-informed Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner, rather than focusing on symptoms, Terry searches for root causes. He believes self-healing is a natural function of any organism and facilitates a process of assisted self-discovery that untangles trauma dynamics, restores harmony and balances to the inner system. His compassionate, non-judgmental, non-pathologizing approach is well-suited to effect real change, whether his clients’ challenges manifest in relationships, parenting, or at work. Terry’s goal is to enable a level of deep healing that allows each person to uncover their true Self, which is always present - even when hidden by maladaptive patterns. Terry works with people all over the world, one-on-one, in couples and groups, helping them root out the behaviors, thought patterns, and diagnoses that cause problems in their lives. The father of a wonderful 7 year-old girl, he loves walking, climbing and is a pretty serious dark chocolate truffle connoisseur. Promotional Message: If you're a current Compassionate Inquiry Professional Training Program participant or graduate, you're invited to CI's Experiential Intensive Retreat, in the north of Ireland, from September 8 - 12. Deepen your personal and community connections in the beautiful natural setting of Corrymeela, with beautiful views over the Irish sea. Rest, reflect, and partake in workshops, CI-, body- and nature-based practice sessions, plus delightful evening community celebrations, with home-cooked meals, Irish music and dancing. to learn more. Resources: Website: Related Links: Articles: Books: Quotes: “...the parts that we meet… can drive physical symptoms, they can drive chronic pain, they can drive autoimmune, all these things Gabor talks about… So when we're triggered, that's a part getting activated based on what that part's carrying from the past. These are inner children… They're stuck in the past in a prior space and time, and they really need our help.” - Terry Baranski Social: /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/37428510

Claiming Your Power in Perimenopause with Inés Zabalaga 07/10/2025

Claiming Your Power in Perimenopause with Inés Zabalaga Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes & J’aime Rothbard. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this social-myth-busting expose, perimenopause is presented as a force that both transforms and empowers women' s relationships with their bodies, self-worth, sexuality and desirability. In this fluid conversation, three women explore multiple perspectives and experiences of menopause and trauma. Inés invites listeners to use their menopause experiences to redefine their relationships with their bodies, to reclaim pleasure, sensuality and sexuality. Their experiences contradict the outdated belief that a woman's worth and desirability diminishes as she ages. Inés stresses that menopause is not a medical condition but a natural process, and goes on to explain: - International societal beliefs that influence women's menopause experiences - How individual and generational trauma and manifests in our bodies - Why it’s important to learn to relate to other women in a way that feels safe - The role LSD plays in her Laboratory for Reconnecting with Our Mother - How women’s circles, self-care and companionship provide healing and support - What men need to know about their women’s journey through menopause Join us to gain rich insights that invite you to remove barriers, transform your relationships with women, heal your personal and generational trauma, and enjoy a sense of solidarity with other women who are preparing for, or experiencing, menopause. About Inés Zabalaga: MEd, MA in Systemic Therapy, Clinical Psychologist, Psychedelic Assisted Therapies Facilitator. With over 25 years of clinical experience in family, individual, couples and group therapy, Inés is a Compassionate Inquiry® Practitioner, a Family Constellations Facilitator, Director of Spontaneous Theatre, Bach and Uruguayan Flowers Practitioner, trained in psychodrama. She holds Master’s degrees in Education and Systemic Therapy, completed a 6-month psychedelic integration training with Iceers, and is currently in the 3-year Grof Legacy Training program for therapists oriented towards psychedelic work. Inés is the co-founder of Bloom, a foundation that promotes research, study, and the responsible dissemination of information on psychedelic work. With her partner, she conducts assisted sessions and facilitates retreats in both Bolivia and Canada Inés also leads Horse-Assisted Constellation workshops to create collective fields of human and equine energies that enable her clients to uncover their paths back to good lives and love. Born in Bolivia, Inés grew up between Mexico, Central America, and Uruguay. Her heart and bones are filled with many countries' colors, territories and cultures. Early professional inclinations drew her attention to children, where it remains, as today she integrates curiosity, play, intuition, imagination and innocence into her healing approach. Inés is the mother of two amazing university-aged children, Santiago and Julia, and companion to a wonderful dog, Pipi. Her favorite activities are learning and using her skills to help others find their way home from pain. If you've been listening to our podcast and are curious about the Compassionate Inquiry approach developed by Doctor Gabor Maté and Sat Dharam Kaur, consider joining the Professional Training Program. It's open to all healing professionals, including naturopaths, physicians, body workers, coaches, and therapists. In addition to learning how to use compassion to support your clients in their most vulnerable moments with greater empathy and authenticity, you'll also deepen your own internal process. If you're interested, to access more information. Resources: Websites: Books: Roar Like a Woman – Emma Thompson / Retreats: Quotes: “Let's enrich the conversations and the solutions, from grief to pride, the pride of being born, the pride of going through shared pleasure in life so that life is the psychedelic experience without Psychedelics.” - Inés Zabalaga “We need to relearn how to relate to women in a way that we feel safe around women because we all come from a mother. And this is again… about trauma and menopause, how those two relate. It is very difficult to find a mother …[or] grandma … really feeling supported, doing nothing when she's tired, or when she's grieving … and she feels that she can dedicate her life to raise this baby, take care of the baby until the level of dependency allows her to just let them go.” - Inés Zabalaga Social Media: IG: CasaMagica Ineszabalaga FB: IG: CasaMagica Ineszabalaga /episode/index/show/4445e113-f122-4786-a677-758bf721ea6c/id/37354470

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