Parenting: A Spontaneous Mutual Unfolding of Potential with Dr Gordon Neufeld
Release Date: 02/13/2025
Khonmadi: Feeling the Heartbeat of Mother Earth, with Dr Ruby Gibson
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes, Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this magical conversation, Dr. Ruby shares the launch of The Khonmadi Project, which was inspired by a dream. She has since discovered that Khonmadi is known to different indigenous cultures worldwide, as a term that relates to healing Mother Earth. Dr. Ruby also shares her personal and professional journey, which began at age 13. Learning about the emotional roots of physical pain, led her from massage therapy to somatic healing, and the creation of Somatic Archaeologyⓒ which considers the body a "walking library" of...
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Healing the Trauma of the Heart with Tiph Fedor
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. The spiritual journey and process of trauma healing are presented as aligned experiences that unfold together as we progress through healing into wholeness. This conversation begins with Tiph’s healing journey. A highly sensitive, empathetic child, growing up in a family where emotions were suppressed was a painful experience that led her to heroin addiction— described as a "magic bullet," it numbed Tiph’s emotions but made her life a ‘grim’ period of survival. She goes on to share how she overcame her addiction, and the...
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Finding Chronic Pain Relief in Parts Work with Terry Baranski
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Compassionate Inquiry® (CI) both aim to reconnect individuals with their core Self. Learn how understanding parts' reality' roles, and feeling into the somatic flow of Self facilitates healing. In this conversation, Terry illuminates the IFS approach, including the nature of Self, how our how parts manifest chronic pain and why addressing these internal conflicts is essential for healing. Having been trained in both CI and IFS, Terry adeptly distinguishes the two approaches’ areas of...
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Claiming Your Power in Perimenopause with Inés Zabalaga
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes & J’aime Rothbard. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. In this social-myth-busting expose, perimenopause is presented as a force that both transforms and empowers women' s relationships with their bodies, self-worth, sexuality and desirability. In this fluid conversation, three women explore multiple perspectives and experiences of menopause and trauma. Inés invites listeners to use their menopause experiences to redefine their relationships with their bodies, to reclaim pleasure, sensuality and sexuality. Their experiences contradict the outdated belief that...
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Gift with Shawn Ginwright - 2 minute listen
The Gifts of Trauma
This week's gift comes by way of Dr Shawn Ginwritght, who weighs in on how we can become solid influences for young people emerging though the challenges we as a culture and global community face in these times. Subscribe so you don’t miss an episode or a gift, as over the next few months our guests have created some beautiful gifts for us to share with you! Our wish is that you may use these simple practices to deepen your integration of what was shared by Shawn Ginwright on The Gifts of Trauma Podcast. Dr G's Books:
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Moving from “What’s Wrong?” To “What’s Right?” with Dr Shawn Ginwright
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes. Produced by J'aime Rothbard. Young peoples' transformational stories advocate for an expansion of the current Trauma-Informed approach to include the Healing-Centered focus on empowerment, agency & holistic well-being. In this paradigm shifting conversation, Shawn shares stories of young people who transformed their lives through community support and aspirational goals. Their experiences demonstrate how being recognized as agents in their own healing process, empowered young people to dream and envision futures beyond their trauma. To support this...
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Gift Episode with Sat Dharam Kaur
The Gifts of Trauma
Sat Dharam Kaur offers these simple practices you can use to help you connect with your body and create a space in which you can deepen your experience of your own bodily, nature and spiritual connection, through presence, truth, love and divinity. Subscribe so you don’t miss an episode or a gift, as over the next few months our guests have created some beautiful gifts for us to share with you! Our wish is that you may use these simple practices to deepen your integration of what was shared by Sat Dharam on The Gifts of Trauma Podcast.
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I’m All I Wanted to Be. Now What? With Sat Dharam Kaur
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted by Kevin Young. Produced by J’aime Rothbard. This conversation opens with Sat Dharam sharing her realization that her original life goals have been achieved, and asking herself, “What’s next?” She goes on to look forward and explore the possibilities. A therapist’s state is known to influence the client's experience and expand the potential for healing. That’s why Compassionate Inquiry® brings empathetic presence into therapeutic contexts. But if current psychological and spiritual understandings were expanded to include environmental consciousness and creative expression,...
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What Happens in Women’s Circles with Tanya Lynn
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted and Produced by J’aime Rothbard In this lively conversation, Tanya reveals why women gather in Circles and the personal growth that can happen when they do. She shares her long Circling history and what recently motivated her to train in Somatic Experiencing and integrate it into her Circle Work. Tanya also demystifies: - Sisterhood - The Mother Wound, Sister Wound and Witch Wounds - The Role of Circles - The Roles of Perimenopause and Menopause - The Wild Woman - The Council of Queens - The Grandmother Clan Join us to learn what happens in Woman’s Circles. You might...
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Longing to Belong with Cristina Bâra
The Gifts of Trauma
Hosted and Produced by J’aime Rothbard The gentle conversation flows from Cristina’s personal journey to her professional role within the Compassionate Inquiry® organization to the approach’s impact on individual and group development. She highlights how Compassionate Inquiry® groups foster a sense of community and mutual support by inviting individuals to explore their emotions and experiences in the safe facilitated spaces that are essential for meaningful personal exploration. Cristina also explains: - Why the self-discovery and healing path often require us to experience our...
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Hosted by Rosemary Davies-Janes
Produced by J’aime Rothbard
Join us for this rich, frank conversation that roves from Gordon’s own boundless curiosity and shame -free upbringing, to the eternal wisdom of his bestselling book, Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More than Peers. In addition to speaking about parenting, grandparenting, and the source of emotional well-being, he touches on his initial encounter with fellow UBC student, Gabor Maté, who, after being one of Gordon’s, “best students, ever,” collaborated with him on his book.
Dr Neufeld’s approach to parenting prioritizes emotional connection, understanding, and the therapeutic power of play. He also highlights the:
- Importance of love and togetherness, both of which are essential for human development, ongoing relationships and emotional health.
- Two critical keys to parenting, right relationships and soft hearts, which flourish in caring environments in which children are naturally dependent on their caregivers.
- Concept of cascading care, where we can depend on one another in a network of support, is contrasted with the current emphasis on independence, which often undermines relational needs.
- Impact of technology on parenting and children's emotional health is noted, and parents are urged to engage with their children meaningfully amidst the distractions of screens and digital media.
Throughout this conversation, Gordon stresses the need for parental emotional awareness to help our children navigate their feelings, particularly in today’s plugged in culture which is rife with emotionally challenging media and convincingly presented misinformation.
About Dr Gordon Neufeld
Dr. Neufeld’s life’s work has been to help adults provide the conditions for children to flourish. He has worked as a clinical psychologist with youth, children, and those responsible for them, for over five decades. A foremost authority on child development, stress, trauma and resilience, Gordon is also the best-selling author of the timeless book, Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers
Having stepped back from his University teaching and clinical practice, Dr. Neufeld not only enjoys being an involved father of five and grandfather of seven, but continues to lead the interpretation of the developmental paradigm.
His widespread reputation for making sense of complex problems, opening doors for change, and his obvious passion for his work, keep him very active on the international speaking stage.
Gordon also directs the Neufeld Institute, the global virtual educational organization and charitable foundation he established in 2006
to support parents, educators and helping
professionals in applying developmental science to the task of raising children. Over the past two decades, he has devoted much of his time to creating over 40 courses for educators, parents and professionals, which are now offered in 10 languages, primarily through the Neufeld Institute.
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Resources:
Websites: Neufeld Institute
Neufeld Institute Free Resources
Relevant Links:
Adding the Wisdom of Play to the Wisdom of Trauma (Article)
Podcasts: The Hidden Dangers of Peer Influence, What Fresh Hell Podcast, 2024
Rennet Wong Gates Episode, The Gifts of Trauma Podcast, 2024,
Videos: Relationships Matter Presentation
The Wisdom of Dependence Presentation
Books: Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers
Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (Or Anyone Who Acts Like One)
Nourished: Connection, Food, and Caring for Our Kids (And Everyone Else We Love)
The Heart's Code: Tapping the Wisdom and Power of Our Heart Energy
Quotes: "I move in a psychological and therapeutic world and I can tell you without bias, that
Gordon‘s understanding of child development is just deeper than anybody else’s on the
planet and I highly recommend his work. I’ll just finish by saying that my own work has been
so deeply informed by Gordon’s that I can’t even imagine it without it so this has been, at
least for me, an essential partnership." - Dr. Gabor Maté
“Our body’s wisdom can take care of us by disconnecting from that which is too painful to
bear. However, we are not meant to stay in this disconnected state. Gabor says, “We have
to work our way back to feeling, when we are ready.” I’m going to suggest we can play our
way back to full feeling as well.” - Dr Gordon Neufeld
“Our mission is to use developmental science to make sense of children to the adults
responsible for them. Our instrument is the attachment-based developmental approach as
synthesized and articulated by Dr. Gordon Neufeld. Our hope is that the insights provided by
this evidence-based theory will rejoin parents, teachers and helping professionals to their
natural intuition. Our evidence-based belief is that children are meant to be raised in the
context of relationship to those who are responsible for them. - Neufeld Institute
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