Anxious Attachment Ep. 127
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Are you constantly worried your partner might leave? Do you replay texts, second-guess your worth, or feel like you love harder than others? If so, this episode is for you. This week on Breakup to Blessing, we’re diving deep into anxious attachment — what it looks like, where it comes from, and how it quietly shapes the way you connect with others. I unpack the core fears that drive anxious patterns, including the fear of abandonment, overthinking, people-pleasing, and the need for constant reassurance. I also explore: How anxious attachment develops from early relationship experiences...
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Avoidant Attachment Ep. 126
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In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we’re diving deep into avoidant attachment—what it really looks like, where it comes from, and how it shows up in relationships. If you've ever experienced “the ick,” felt overwhelmed by emotional closeness, or found yourself pushing people away without really knowing why, this one is for you. We explore: The connection between avoidant attachment and the “ick” Why avoidants may idealise partners early and then suddenly devalue them The push-pull cycle of anxious-avoidant relationships (and why it’s so common) How avoidant/avoidant couples...
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How Your Past Can Hold You Back From Being in a Healthy Relationship Ep. 125
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Have you ever found yourself stuck in the same relationship patterns, even when you know better? Or wondered why certain triggers in love feel so intense—like you’re reliving something old? In this episode, I explore how unresolved past experiences—especially from childhood and previous relationships—can quietly shape the way we show up in love. From emotional triggers to attachment styles, I unpack the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways our past can get in the way of building safe, fulfilling connections. We’ll talk about: The hidden patterns that often go unnoticed Why your nervous...
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If You Want More Peace, Start Here Ep. 124
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In this heartfelt episode, I explore one of the most powerful, yet often overlooked foundations of a meaningful life: emotional health. Whether you're navigating a breakup, parenting, building a business, or simply trying to stay grounded in a chaotic world — this episode is for you. I share my personal journey of learning (sometimes the hard way) that emotional health isn’t just “nice to have” — it’s everything. It's what determines the quality of your relationships, your capacity to grow, and your ability to truly enjoy life. We’ll talk about: What emotional health really...
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When Life Doesn’t Go to Plan Ep. 123
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What happens when the life you planned doesn't unfold the way you imagined? Maybe you're not where you thought you'd be by now. Maybe a breakup, job change, or unexpected twist has thrown your story off track. In this episode, we explore the pressure of sticking to life "scripts"—the timelines and plans we think we should follow—and what happens when reality doesn’t match the plan. I share a personal story about how letting go of a rigid idea opened the door to something even better. You'll also hear why clinging to old plans can keep you stuck, and how making space for change can...
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The #1 Reason You’re Still Heartbroken (And How to Finally Heal) Ep. 122
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Heartbreak can feel like an endless cycle – even when you think you’re doing everything right, you still feel stuck. Why does it feel so hard to move on? In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, I’m diving deep into the one thing that quietly keeps you trapped in heartache without you even realising – resistance. Join me as I unpack: 🌿 What resistance really is and the many ways it can show up in your healing journey. 🌿 Why your thoughts, beliefs, and even your well-meaning attempts to heal can actually keep you stuck. 🌿 How to recognise the subtle ways resistance holds you...
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Why We Choose the Wrong Partners (and How to Choose Better) Ep. 121
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In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, Sylvia dives deep into the patterns behind how we make decisions in our relationships — whether it’s choosing who to date, who to commit to, or even why we stay in relationships longer than we should. Are we being led by logic, or are our emotions quietly in control? Sylvia explains how we often create logical stories to justify emotional decisions, and she helps listeners uncover the hidden patterns that may be guiding them. Key Topics Covered: Logical Stories vs. Emotional Truths: How we convince ourselves our choices are logical when they’re...
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Replay: How to Let Go When You Don't Want to Let Go
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Letting go can be one of the most painful and confusing parts of a breakup—especially when your heart isn’t ready, even if your head knows it's time. In this replay of one of our most-loved episodes, we explore why letting go is so hard and guide you through practical steps to help you move forward. Whether you're in the middle of heartbreak or still struggling to let go of someone from your past, this episode offers compassionate insight and actionable tools to support your healing. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why letting go feels so difficult (even when it's necessary) How...
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When Your Mind Won’t Let Go After a Breakup Ep. 119
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In this episode, we’re talking about how to grieve your heartbreak in a way that actually helps you heal—not keeps you stuck. So many of us unknowingly make heartbreak harder by spiraling into painful thoughts and self-blame. We wonder if our ex still thinks about us, obsess over what went wrong, and tell ourselves stories that deepen our pain. But healing doesn't happen in the “what ifs” and “if onlys”—it happens when we come back to us. We’ll explore: Why your brain becomes addicted to the emotional intensity of heartbreak The sneaky ways your thoughts keep you stuck in...
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What Parts of Me Are Asking To Be Healed? Ep. 118
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In today’s episode, we’re diving deeper into a question I shared with you in last week’s episode: “What parts of me are asking to be healed?” If you’ve ever found yourself repeating the same patterns in relationships—over-giving, avoiding conflict, falling too fast, trying to fix others, or keeping people at a distance—this episode is for you. I’ll walk you through five common ways our unhealed parts can show up in love, and I’ll invite you to reflect with some powerful questions to help you get closer to the root of these behaviours. This one’s tender, honest, and deeply...
info_outlineIn this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we dive deep into the topic of second chances in relationships. Whether you’re the one asking for a second chance or you're on the receiving end, there’s an important truth to remember: a second chance only works if something actually changes.
Insight alone won’t change behavior. Real change happens when you become someone who can show up differently, especially when it comes to handling conflict and emotional regulation.
We explore how emotional reactivity can escalate situations and why learning to pause, regulate, and communicate effectively can transform your relationships. You’ll also hear about the importance of self-awareness, choosing your battles wisely, and understanding when an argument is about connection vs. control.
If you’re hoping for a second chance or thinking about giving one, this episode is full of tools and insights to help you make sure it leads to real transformation, not just repeating old patterns.
Key Takeaways:
- Why insight alone isn't enough to create change in a relationship.
- How emotional regulation and self-awareness play a key role in avoiding conflicts.
- The importance of pausing and reflecting before reacting in moments of tension.
- Choosing your battles wisely: how to assess whether an argument is worth having.
- The essential relationship skills of self-regulation, accountability, and emotional intelligence.
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