S18 E24 - Friendship in the Lord: Covenant Love and Celibacy (Chapters 11 & 12, Epilogue)
Abiding Together
In this episode, we conclude our book study on Friendship in the Lord and welcome Fr. John Burns, Founder of , to the podcast. We reflect on our deep longing to be known and loved and the ways fear can cause us to cling to others or settle for lesser goods. We talk about hoping for the possibility of beautiful friendship, even when our own experience has been marked by loneliness, disappointment, or suffering. We also discuss the beauty of celibate friendship as a witness to the primacy of God’s love, the role of feedback in relationships, and how the limitations we encounter in friendship...
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S18 E23 - Friendship in the Lord: Worship and Friendship in the Lord (Chapters 9 & 10)
Abiding Together
In this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and reflect on the gift of friendship as a foretaste of heaven and a living image of God’s love. We talk about how we are meant to journey through life with each other, how God bonds us together along the way, and how these friendships are meant to last forever. We also discuss the gift of praising God for our friends, what it means to behold and not possess beauty, and how focusing on gratitude allows us to hold joy and sorrow in tension. Announcement: You can buy your copy of Friendship in the Lord...
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S18 E22 - Friendship in the Lord: Intimacy in Friendship (Chapters 7 & 8)
Abiding Together
In this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and discuss how friendship with others leads us into deeper intimacy with God. We talk about our longing for both human and divine communion, how healthy friendships free us from self-preoccupation, and why learning to receive feedback is essential to our growth. We also reflect on how unmet desires in friendship are signs of our longing for the Trinity and the importance of releasing lesser goods so that we can be free to receive God’s greater gifts. Announcement: You can buy your copy of Friendship in the...
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S18 E21 - Friendship in the Lord: Appreciation and Reconciliation (Chapters 5 & 6)
Abiding Together
In this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and reflect on how loving appreciation and reconciliation are the places where friendship matures. We talk about why healthy adult friendships draw us closer to the Lord, how the unique gifts of women and men reveal different facets of God's love, and how learning to behold another's beauty without trying to grasp or possess it calls forth our true identity. We also discuss the importance of recognizing how we've hurt others, expressing sincere sorrow, and allowing others to do the same. As we bring our wounds, suffering,...
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S18 E20 - Friendship in the Lord: Friendship is Two People Growing (Chapters 3 & 4)
Abiding Together
In this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and reflect on the ways God invites us to grow through the relationships He has entrusted to us. We talk about the importance of rightly ordered love, why true friendship always draws our gaze toward Christ, and the beauty of virtuous friendships between men and women. We also talk honestly about the fears, wounds, and misunderstandings that can arise in friendship, and the importance of repair in deepening a friendship. Friendship is not about finding someone to complete us, but about walking together toward holiness while...
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S18 E19 - Friendship in the Lord: What Friendship Means (Chapters 1 & 2)
Abiding Together
In this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and reflect on what it means to be truly known, deeply loved, and fully at home with another. We talk about why we must first learn to abide in the love of God, how appreciation helps others become who they were created to be, and what it looks like to grow in friendship over time. Whether friendship feels life-giving or challenging in this season of your life, we invite you to bring every desire, wound, and longing before the Lord, who first calls you His friend. Announcement: You can buy your copy of...
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S18 E18 - Friendship in the Lord: Foreword and Prologue
Abiding Together
In this episode, we begin our summer book study on Friendship in the Lord by Fr. Paul Hinnebusch, OP. We focus on the foreword and prologue and reflect on the difference between prudence and fear, the ways we self-protect in relationships, and our longing for authentic communion. We also talk about what it means to love without possessing, how to receive others as a gift, and why friendship is a foretaste of heaven. Other Resources Mentioned: Announcement: If you’d like a copy of Friendship in the Lord, you can buy your copy from (or ). Journal Questions: How...
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S18 E17 - The End of A Season
Abiding Together
In this episode, we conclude season 18 by reflecting on the grace-filled moments this past season and the quiet ways the Lord continues to invite us into deeper communion with Him. We share who our favorite guests were, which episodes deeply ministered to us, and what we are hoping for in this next season. Thank you for spending this season with us, friends. It has been such a gift to walk alongside you in every conversation, prayer, and story shared. We’ll be holding you close in prayer over the summer and look forward to gathering with you again on July 6th, 2026 for our summer book...
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S18 E16 - Preparing for Pentecost
Abiding Together
In this episode, we reflect on how Pentecost is more than just an event of the past, but can be an ongoing outpouring of God’s love and grace in our lives today. We discuss how the Holy Spirit helps heal our wounds, restores communion with God, and teaches us how to live with power and boldness, even in the places where we feel unable to love the Lord. As we prepare our hearts for Pentecost, we talk practically about cultivating a posture of receptivity, learning to invite the Holy Spirit more deeply into our hearts, and how to allow His fire to illuminate our identity and transform us from...
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S18 E15 - Sacred Wounds
Abiding Together
In this episode, we reflect on the sacred wounds of Jesus, the reality of our own woundedness, and Jesus’ invitation to make us well. We talk about how our wounds, so often hidden in shame or self-protection, when transformed, can actually become places of communion and grace. We also share about our personal experiences of facing fear or disappointment and how the slow, often painful, process of healing reminds us that God’s ways are not our own. Jesus tenderly meets us in every broken place within our hearts and ardently desires to make all things new. Heather’s One Thing - ...
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In this episode, we begin our Advent journey in Eden, a place of freedom, communion, and life without shame. Eden is not only a moment in history, but also an interior garden within each of our hearts. We talk about the deep ache we all feel for union, rest, and peace, and how this longing reveals our original design for communion with God. We also reflect on the shame that often accompanies this desire for communion with others, especially when our desires are left unmet, and how bringing these places of poverty to Jesus opens us up to real, lived communion with Him.
Heather’s One Thing - The Renew Conference in Toronto
Heather’s Other One Thing - Her Advent Worship Playlist
Sister Miriam’s One Thing - Sacred Anchor Artisans (Catholic Etsy!) founded by Tim and Molly Olsen
Michelle’s One Thing - The Inspired Living and this Chrism Candle
Michelle’s Other One Thing - Fr. Innocent Montgomery, CFR
Welcome, dear friends…
to this Advent journey,
a pilgrimage of the heart,
through four sacred spaces
where heaven once touched the earth.
These are the places of Advent.
Eden.
Loreto.
Elizabeth’s home.
And a stable under starlight.
Each one holds a mystery…
a whisper of God’s coming,
a rhythm of waiting,
a quiet invitation to abide.
We begin… in Eden —
the garden of beginnings and original designs,
Here, everything was whole once,
every breath in attunement with God’s own.
But even in the ache of what was lost,
something sacred remains,
a longing, a promise,
a memory of shalom harmony still written in our bones.
Eden reminds us:
our waiting is not empty.
It is the remembering of love
that has never stopped pursuing us.
Journal Questions:
- What are the unique gifts that God has placed inside of you?
- When do I experience shame in the ache for communion?
- When have I recently experienced a rupture from Eden?
- Who in your life allows you to feel at home and at ease?
- How can I return to Eden through a daily practice?
Discussion Questions:
- How have you experienced yourself as a gift?
- When have you experienced an ache for Eden in your life?
- When do you feel exiled from Eden?
- What glimpses of Eden have you seen in your life recently?
Quote to Ponder:
“We all long for Eden, and we are constantly glimpsing it: our whole nature at its best and least corrupted, its gentlest and most human, is still soaked with the sense of exile.” (J.R.R. Tolkien, The Letters of J.R.R. Tolkien)
Scripture for Lectio:
“Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” (Genesis 2:25)
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Chapters:
00:00 Altar + Home
01:25 Intro
02:17 Welcome to Eden
09:38 Our Heart is a Garden and Place of Communion
11:18 We are Made as a Gift
13:32 Healing from Shame in Our Ache
17:57 Homesickness and Exile
20:23 God is Longing for Us
22:16 Imaginative Prayer
24:13 The Goodness of Our Bodies
26:06 Inviting the Lord into Communion
27:47 Advent is a Time of Preparation
29:32 One Things
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