S18 E24 - Friendship in the Lord: Covenant Love and Celibacy (Chapters 11 & 12, Epilogue)
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In this episode, we conclude our book study on Friendship in the Lord and welcome Fr. John Burns, Founder of , to the podcast. We reflect on our deep longing to be known and loved and the ways fear can cause us to cling to others or settle for lesser goods. We talk about hoping for the possibility of beautiful friendship, even when our own experience has been marked by loneliness, disappointment, or suffering. We also discuss the beauty of celibate friendship as a witness to the primacy of God’s love, the role of feedback in relationships, and how the limitations we encounter in friendship...
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S18 E23 - Friendship in the Lord: Worship and Friendship in the Lord (Chapters 9 & 10)
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In this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and reflect on the gift of friendship as a foretaste of heaven and a living image of God’s love. We talk about how we are meant to journey through life with each other, how God bonds us together along the way, and how these friendships are meant to last forever. We also discuss the gift of praising God for our friends, what it means to behold and not possess beauty, and how focusing on gratitude allows us to hold joy and sorrow in tension. Announcement: You can buy your copy of Friendship in the Lord...
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S18 E22 - Friendship in the Lord: Intimacy in Friendship (Chapters 7 & 8)
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In this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and discuss how friendship with others leads us into deeper intimacy with God. We talk about our longing for both human and divine communion, how healthy friendships free us from self-preoccupation, and why learning to receive feedback is essential to our growth. We also reflect on how unmet desires in friendship are signs of our longing for the Trinity and the importance of releasing lesser goods so that we can be free to receive God’s greater gifts. Announcement: You can buy your copy of Friendship in the...
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S18 E21 - Friendship in the Lord: Appreciation and Reconciliation (Chapters 5 & 6)
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In this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and reflect on how loving appreciation and reconciliation are the places where friendship matures. We talk about why healthy adult friendships draw us closer to the Lord, how the unique gifts of women and men reveal different facets of God's love, and how learning to behold another's beauty without trying to grasp or possess it calls forth our true identity. We also discuss the importance of recognizing how we've hurt others, expressing sincere sorrow, and allowing others to do the same. As we bring our wounds, suffering,...
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S18 E20 - Friendship in the Lord: Friendship is Two People Growing (Chapters 3 & 4)
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In this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and reflect on the ways God invites us to grow through the relationships He has entrusted to us. We talk about the importance of rightly ordered love, why true friendship always draws our gaze toward Christ, and the beauty of virtuous friendships between men and women. We also talk honestly about the fears, wounds, and misunderstandings that can arise in friendship, and the importance of repair in deepening a friendship. Friendship is not about finding someone to complete us, but about walking together toward holiness while...
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S18 E19 - Friendship in the Lord: What Friendship Means (Chapters 1 & 2)
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In this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and reflect on what it means to be truly known, deeply loved, and fully at home with another. We talk about why we must first learn to abide in the love of God, how appreciation helps others become who they were created to be, and what it looks like to grow in friendship over time. Whether friendship feels life-giving or challenging in this season of your life, we invite you to bring every desire, wound, and longing before the Lord, who first calls you His friend. Announcement: You can buy your copy of...
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S18 E18 - Friendship in the Lord: Foreword and Prologue
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In this episode, we begin our summer book study on Friendship in the Lord by Fr. Paul Hinnebusch, OP. We focus on the foreword and prologue and reflect on the difference between prudence and fear, the ways we self-protect in relationships, and our longing for authentic communion. We also talk about what it means to love without possessing, how to receive others as a gift, and why friendship is a foretaste of heaven. Other Resources Mentioned: Announcement: If you’d like a copy of Friendship in the Lord, you can buy your copy from (or ). Journal Questions: How...
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S18 E17 - The End of A Season
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In this episode, we conclude season 18 by reflecting on the grace-filled moments this past season and the quiet ways the Lord continues to invite us into deeper communion with Him. We share who our favorite guests were, which episodes deeply ministered to us, and what we are hoping for in this next season. Thank you for spending this season with us, friends. It has been such a gift to walk alongside you in every conversation, prayer, and story shared. We’ll be holding you close in prayer over the summer and look forward to gathering with you again on July 6th, 2026 for our summer book...
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S18 E16 - Preparing for Pentecost
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In this episode, we reflect on how Pentecost is more than just an event of the past, but can be an ongoing outpouring of God’s love and grace in our lives today. We discuss how the Holy Spirit helps heal our wounds, restores communion with God, and teaches us how to live with power and boldness, even in the places where we feel unable to love the Lord. As we prepare our hearts for Pentecost, we talk practically about cultivating a posture of receptivity, learning to invite the Holy Spirit more deeply into our hearts, and how to allow His fire to illuminate our identity and transform us from...
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S18 E15 - Sacred Wounds
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In this episode, we reflect on the sacred wounds of Jesus, the reality of our own woundedness, and Jesus’ invitation to make us well. We talk about how our wounds, so often hidden in shame or self-protection, when transformed, can actually become places of communion and grace. We also share about our personal experiences of facing fear or disappointment and how the slow, often painful, process of healing reminds us that God’s ways are not our own. Jesus tenderly meets us in every broken place within our hearts and ardently desires to make all things new. Heather’s One Thing - ...
info_outlineIn this episode, we end our journey at the Stable, the humble place where God chose for us to meet His Son. We reflect on the stable of our own hearts, how Jesus chooses to meet us in our own poverty now, and why His very presence brings healing. We also talk about how when we sit in our emptiness, release control, and surrender each part of our lives to God, He is able to work more powerfully in our lives. Finally, we ponder Mary’s quiet and loving gaze upon the Christ Child and how we are invited to slow down and notice Jesus smiling back at us.
Friends, we’ve deeply enjoyed journeying with you this year. As we take a break, please know you are in our prayers. We will see you on January 19th, 2026 when Season 18 begins! Have a blessed and merry Christmas!
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Finally, we arrive
at the Stable —
the poorest of places,
and yet, the holiest of all.
Here, in straw and silence,
the Infinite takes on skin.
The cry of a newborn
splits the night open,
and suddenly,
everything is sacred again
The invitation into the mess
Into our own poverty…
The cry of our humanity …
Worship is not what we think it will look like.
Other Resources Mentioned:
- The Nativity Painting by Caravaggio
- Living from the Heart Jesus Gave You by Dr. James Friesen
Journal Questions:
- Where do I find myself in “unsatisfactory condition”?
- What are the scandalous places within me that I want to keep away from the Lord?
- How am I managing my own creativity rather than welcoming the Holy Spirit into my creativity?
- What beliefs am I carrying deeply about God? How does God want to heal these beliefs?
- Where am I afraid?
- How can I make space for Jesus and spend time with Him in this Christmas season?
Discussion Questions:
- How are you tempted to sanitize the Mystery of the Incarnation in your own life?
- Where in my life do I need a new perspective?
- When have you experienced God coming to you in a way you weren’t expecting Him to?
- How am I seeking control in this season? How can I surrender that control?
- What are the stables of my life that God is inviting me into deeper surrender?
Quote to Ponder:
“I am so glad Jesus was born in a stable, because my soul is so much like a stable. It’s poor and in unsatisfactory condition - Yet, I believe that if Jesus can be born in a stable, maybe he can be born in me.” (Dorothy Day)
Scripture for Lectio:
“In those days a decree went out from Emperor Augustus that all the world should be registered. This was the first registration and was taken while Quirinius was governor of Syria. All went to their own towns to be registered. Joseph also went from the town of Nazareth in Galilee to Judea, to the city of David called Bethlehem, because he was descended from the house and family of David. He went to be registered with Mary, to whom he was engaged and who was expecting a child. While they were there, the time came for her to deliver her child. And she gave birth to her firstborn son and wrapped him in bands of cloth, and laid him in a manger, because there was no place for them in the inn.” (Luke 2:1-7)
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Chapters:
00:00 Fully Mediterranean
01:37 Intro
02:30 Welcome to the Stable
05:56 Guiding Quote and Scripture Verse
07:12 The Poverty of Our Hearts
11:26 Surrendering the Messy Parts of Our Lives
15:30 Healing Our Image of God
19:31 What it Means to Ponder
21:37 Making Space in the Midst of a Busy Season
28:27 Season 18 Announcement!
28:58 One Things
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