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Finding Your Guy on the Inside

Buy Like a Guy

Release Date: 05/30/2025

Ep. 95 - Remembering Pat Finn show art Ep. 95 - Remembering Pat Finn

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Pat Finn is a well-known actor, comedian, and writer with over 25 years of experience in the entertainment industry. He's appeared in numerous TV shows and movies, including The Middle, Seinfeld, “It’s Complicated,” and the “I Am Chris Farley” documentary.  He has an almost endless list of professional accomplishments, and I wanted him on the show because he’s also a husband, father, and regular guy who really seems to “get” the whole jewelry thing.  Here is Pat's IMDB link: We’re going to discuss his own experience of buying an engagement ring, how he was clueless...

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Ep. 94 - Get the Ring Right: Budget, Stones and Why Every Guy Needs a Good Jeweler show art Ep. 94 - Get the Ring Right: Budget, Stones and Why Every Guy Needs a Good Jeweler

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You survived the first round—now it’s time for the next level of buying her a ring. In Part II, Andy and Carter Eve dive into the stuff most guys never ask: setting a real budget (without three-months-salary BS), the truth about lab-grown vs. natural diamonds, and why having a trusted jeweler is your secret weapon. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: How to set a budget you won’t regret (and why it’s nobody’s business but yours) The pros and cons of lab-grown vs. natural diamonds—what actually matters, and what’s just hype How to redesign family rings without losing the...

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Ep. 93 - The #1 Mistake Guys Make Buying Her a Ring (And How to Avoid It) show art Ep. 93 - The #1 Mistake Guys Make Buying Her a Ring (And How to Avoid It)

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Ever feel like buying an engagement ring is a minefield? You’re not alone. In this episode, Andy talks with Carter—a custom jeweler who’s helped hundreds of guys get it right—about the biggest mistakes men make, how to actually get her the ring she wants, and why the “surprise” isn’t what you think it is. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The #1 mistake guys make when buying a ring—and how to avoid it Why just “surprising her” is mostly dead (and what actually works now) How to figure out her style (even if she sends you a million new ideas after you buy) The...

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Ep. 92 - Part II: The Truth About Natural Diamonds: Beauty, Character & Meaning show art Ep. 92 - Part II: The Truth About Natural Diamonds: Beauty, Character & Meaning

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Ever wonder how a diamond actually gets from deep in the earth… to a jeweler’s case… to her hand? Part II of Andy’s conversation with Ari Jain from House of Diamonds uncovers the real, behind-the-scenes process of how natural diamonds are mined, cut, graded, and selected — long before a consumer ever sees them. If you’ve ever held a diamond and thought, “Why does this tiny thing cost so much?” This episode gives you an honest, insider explanation. Ari’s eight-generation lineage, starting in Jaipur’s royal courts, brings a rare perspective on craftsmanship,...

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Ep. 91 - Natural Diamonds: Nature's Greatest Masterpiece with Ari Jain show art Ep. 91 - Natural Diamonds: Nature's Greatest Masterpiece with Ari Jain

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Thinking about buying an engagement ring — or trying to decide between a natural diamond and a lab-grown diamond? This episode cuts through all the noise, hype, and half-truths in the diamond world.   Part I of Andy's conversation with Ari from House of Diamonds (an eight-generation diamond expert with roots in Jaipur's royal gemstone trade) dives into the emotional, spiritual, and practical realities of buying a natural diamond — from the meaning behind natural stones to why warmer colors are making a comeback.   If you're a guy trying to buy the right stone for the woman you...

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Ep. 90 - How to Buy Your First Luxury Watch Without Getting Scammed show art Ep. 90 - How to Buy Your First Luxury Watch Without Getting Scammed

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Thinking about buying your first real watch? Here's what the dealers won't tell you about ghost listings, fake prices, and why that "deal" you found online doesn't actually exist. Part II of Andy's conversation with Christian Bruhn from The Art of Time dives into the messy reality of buying luxury watches in 2025 — where online listings lie, auction prices mislead, and first-time buyers get burned by doing their own "research."   What You'll Learn in This Episode: Ghost listings exposed: Why that Rolex Daytona you found online for $8K cheaper probably doesn't exist (and what luxury...

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Ep. 89 - The Art of Time: How to Buy a Real Watch with Christian Bruhn show art Ep. 89 - The Art of Time: How to Buy a Real Watch with Christian Bruhn

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When a guy decides he wants a real watch — something with meaning, quality, and story — he walks straight into a jungle of hype, counterfeits, and confusion. In this two-part conversation, Andy Koehn talks with Christian Bruhn, founder of The Art of Time and former member of the 75th Ranger Regiment, about the world of luxury watches, collecting with intention, and buying your first Rolex or high-end timepiece the right way. They cover everything from building trust in a world full of fakes to spotting real value, avoiding ghost listings, and understanding what makes a watch worth...

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Diamonds As Bad Investments show art Diamonds As Bad Investments

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Episode Overview Andy takes on the YouTube critics and industry cynics head-on, delivering a family legacy perspective on why dismissing diamonds as "bad investments" completely misses the fucking point. From his grandfather's 1919 start in the business to today's lab-grown revolution, this episode cuts through the financial advisor bullshit to reveal what diamonds are really worth. Key Takeaways The Investment Reality Check: Not once has Andy heard someone say "I'd like your finest appreciating asset, please" Diamonds end up on fingers of teachers, truck drivers, accountants - people marking...

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The Four C's (Part 2)-Clarity and Carat Weight show art The Four C's (Part 2)-Clarity and Carat Weight

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Chapter 2: The Four C's (Part 2)  Episode Overview Andy finishes the Four C's conversation with Clarity and Carat Weight, delivers his legendary Diamond-to-Steak conversion chart, and cuts through the industry's microscopic bullshit to give you what actually matters when you're standing in that jewelry store. Key Takeaways The Clarity Reality Check: She doesn't need a flawless diamond unless she specifically asked for one - she just wants it to look that way Clarity grades are determined by gemologists with microscopes, not naked eyes in natural lighting The difference between...

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The Four C's (Part 1) show art The Four C's (Part 1)

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Episode Overview Andy breaks down the diamond industry's "sacred scripture" - the Four C's - but cuts through the BS to give you what you actually need to know. This is part one of a two-part deep dive into diamond grading, focusing on Cut and Color. Key Takeaways The Bottom Line on Diamond Education: You'll spend roughly 2 hours of your entire life discussing the Four C's Don't overthink it - learn enough to have an intelligent conversation with a pro Find someone you trust to guide you through the rest Why the Four C's Exist: Created by GIA in the 1940s to standardize diamond grading...

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Episode Overview

Andy reads Chapter 1 from his new book, "The Inappropriate Guide to Buying An Engagement Ring" - a no-bullshit diamond and ring buying guide for guys who'd rather be anywhere else than a jewelry store. This episode covers the single most important piece of advice for buying an engagement ring without getting screwed over.

Key Takeaways

The Golden Rule: Find a jewelry store where you feel comfortable going. That's it. That's the secret.

Why This Matters:

  • Walking into most jewelry stores feels unnatural for guys
  • Everything's behind glass, salespeople hover like vultures
  • You suddenly don't know what to do with your hands
  • It's a special kind of hell for men who've fallen in love

Finding Your Unicorn Jewelry Store:

  • Ask friends who actually know you and get your style
  • Search for independent jewelers online
  • Check their reviews, website, and social media
  • Look for their vibe - stuffy/formal vs. laid back/approachable

How to Find Your "Guy on the Inside"

Three Methods:

  1. Email the store - Tell them you need help. If the response feels too formal or generic, move on.

  2. Call them - A good jeweler on the phone is like a good first date - there's either chemistry or there isn't.

  3. Walk in and get down to business - Most terrifying but nothing beats face-to-face. You'll know within 5 minutes if it's your place.

What Your "Guy" Should Do

  • Ask questions about her taste and what you want to give her
  • Address your budget head-on (it's part of the equation)
  • Guide you like that bartender who remembers your drink and steers you toward the good stuff
  • Make you feel like a human being, not a walking wallet with commitment issues

Andy's Controversial Advice

When it feels right - buy it. Don't do the "I need to look around" dance that fear makes you think you have to do. When it clicks, it clicks. Pull the trigger and be done with it.

Why this works:

  • Saves weeks of second-guessing
  • Prevents comparing minute details that won't matter in 5 years
  • You don't need to become a diamond expert - you need someone you trust who does this for a living

The Bottom Line

Find a jewelry store where you don't feel like you're standing there with your zipper open (but check that before you go in, just to be safe). Connect with someone who speaks your language, not "diamond-ese." When it feels right, trust your gut and pull the trigger.

About the Book

"The Inappropriate Guide to Buying An Engagement Ring" is available on Amazon. Andy is creating an audio version while keeping the podcast going by reading chapters on the show.

Warning: Contains raw language, unfiltered advice, and the kind of talk you'd get from your most honest friend after a few drinks.

Next Episode

Chapter 2 coming soon - more straight talk and war stories from the jewelry trenches.

Connect with Buy Like A Guy:

  • Available wherever you get your podcasts
  • Book available on Amazon

Show notes compiled from episode transcript