Buy Like a Guy

A podcast for men about how to buy cool things like bourbon, beers, watches and more, from experts who know their sh*t. It's always good to "know a guy." BLAG is collection of interviews and solo podcasts that cover the important things in life, like bourbon, beer, watches, and how to knock your girl's pants off with killer gifts. Third generation jewelry store owner and diamond expert, Andy Koehn and his guests will take you from confusion to confidence by opening the playbooks of experts who know their stuff. Think diamonds have nothing to do with bourbon or beers? Think again!

Diamonds As Bad Investments 06/27/2025

Diamonds As Bad Investments Episode Overview Andy takes on the YouTube critics and industry cynics head-on, delivering a family legacy perspective on why dismissing diamonds as "bad investments" completely misses the fucking point. From his grandfather's 1919 start in the business to today's lab-grown revolution, this episode cuts through the financial advisor bullshit to reveal what diamonds are really worth. Key Takeaways The Investment Reality Check: Not once has Andy heard someone say "I'd like your finest appreciating asset, please" Diamonds end up on fingers of teachers, truck drivers, accountants - people marking moments, not building portfolios That "worthless investment" often outlasts first houses, careers, and everything else people own Ask anyone celebrating their golden anniversary if their diamond was a good investment Historical Truth Bomb: Diamonds in engagement rings since the 1400s - Archduke Maximilian started the trend in 1477 That's 400 years before De Beers existed, 500 years before marketing executives were even a thing "A Diamond is Forever" amplified the tradition but didn't create it Humans have always been drawn to rare, beautiful shit that lasts - it's why the Louvre isn't full of Dollar Store crap The Hidden Logic: Hardest natural substance on the planet (perfect 10 on Mohs scale) Transparent - light passes through without distortion Forged under intense pressure deep within the earth Unlike other gems that fade or cloud, diamonds stay brilliant for generations Customer brought in grandmother's 1923 diamond - after cleaning, sparkled like brand new Natural vs. Lab-Grown Investment Reality: Lab-grown are chemically identical but prices are in free fall Natural diamonds: billions of years to form, millions to find and extract They're finite, ancient, with history predating humanity Natural values historically increase; lab-grown prices dropping fast Like owning a Monet vs. owning a poster of a Monet The Artistry Factor: Diamond cutting isn't automated factory process - it's generational craft Cutters visualize how to release a rough diamond's potential Weeks of precise cuts to maximize brilliance One wrong move = thousands lost in value Gabi Tolkowsky: "I imagine myself inside the crystal and see where I want the light to go" Value Beyond Balance Sheets: Sold diamonds to multimillionaires and kids who saved forever Sometimes big-ass diamonds carry expected weight, sometimes tiny stones pack the biggest punch Favorite customers return yearly, sharing proposal stories and struggles to afford their ring Diamond becomes physical embodiment of shared history Memorable Quote "Some things in life aren't meant to be measured on a balance sheet. When you're 90 years old, you won't be calculating compound interest you missed out on - you'll be remembering the moment you proposed and all the years that followed." The Bottom Line When you're 90, that diamond will still be sparkling, still carrying the weight of your shared history. Whatever you paid will seem like the bargain of a lifetime because some investments pay dividends that can't be measured in dollars. What's Next Lab-grown diamonds: The new kid on the block - time to clear up what they actually are and if they're right for you. Contact Andy Email: [email protected] For personal jewelry and diamond consultation About the Book "The Inappropriate Guide to Buying An Engagement Ring" is available on . Andy is creating an audio version while keeping the podcast going by reading chapters on the show. Warning: Contains raw language, unfiltered advice, and the kind of talk you'd get from your most honest friend after a few drinks. Next Episode Chapter 4 coming soon - Lab-grown diamonds: The new kid on the block. Connect with Buy Like A Guy: Available wherever you get your podcasts. Book available on Show notes compiled from episode transcript /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/37181860

The Four C's (Part 2)-Clarity and Carat Weight 06/13/2025

The Four C's (Part 2)-Clarity and Carat Weight Chapter 2: The Four C's (Part 2) Episode Overview Andy finishes the Four C's conversation with Clarity and Carat Weight, delivers his legendary Diamond-to-Steak conversion chart, and cuts through the industry's microscopic bullshit to give you what actually matters when you're standing in that jewelry store. Key Takeaways The Clarity Reality Check: She doesn't need a flawless diamond unless she specifically asked for one - she just wants it to look that way Clarity grades are determined by gemologists with microscopes, not naked eyes in natural lighting The difference between technically flawless and "looks flawless" can save you thousands 99% of diamond inclusions are invisible without specialized equipment Focus on VS2-SI1 for best value - they look identical to higher grades but cost significantly less Carat Weight - Size vs. Reality: One carat = 0.2 grams = about one Skittle (finally, a measurement that makes sense) Carat measures weight, not size - two diamonds can weigh the same but look completely different Diamond cutters face a constant battle: preserve weight (money) vs. create ideal proportions (beauty) The real artists sacrifice weight for performance every time The Money-Saving Secret: Diamonds jump in price at half and whole carat marks A 0.9 carat might cost 20% less than a 1.0 carat of identical quality Nobody can spot the difference with the naked eye Buy just under those magic thresholds: 0.9 instead of 1.0, 1.4 instead of 1.5 The Quick Decision Guide: Cut Grade: Excellent/Ideal worth every penny, Very Good is the sweet spot, Good or lower proceed with caution Color: G-H is the sweet spot, I-J smart value, D-F if you have the budget and appreciate the difference Clarity: VS2-SI1 best value, SI2 can work if inspected, Flawless-VVS for bragging rights The Diamond-to-Steak Conversion Chart: Cut = Chef's Skill: Best beef poorly cooked is a travesty, average beef perfectly cooked is a religious experience Color & Clarity = Grade of Beef: Prime costs more than choice, you're paying for rarity within rarity Carat Weight = Portion Size: An 8-ounce filet costs more than a 6-ounce of the same quality Memorable Quote "A good diamond will be good forever. A bad diamond will be bad forever." - Andy's reminder that this decision has permanent consequences. What's Next The "investment value" of diamonds - and dear Lord, they've got it so wrong. Contact Andy Email: [email protected] For personal jewelry and diamond consultation About the Book "The Inappropriate Guide to Buying An Engagement Ring" is available on Amazon. Andy is creating an audio version while keeping the podcast going by reading chapters on the show. Warning: Contains raw language, unfiltered advice, and the kind of talk you'd get from your most honest friend after a few drinks. Next Episode Chapter 3 coming soon - more straight talk and war stories from the jewelry trenches. Connect with Buy Like A Guy: Available wherever you get your podcasts Book available on Amazon Show notes compiled from episode transcript /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/36999760

The Four C's (Part 1) 06/06/2025

The Four C's (Part 1) Episode Overview Andy breaks down the diamond industry's "sacred scripture" - the Four C's - but cuts through the BS to give you what you actually need to know. This is part one of a two-part deep dive into diamond grading, focusing on Cut and Color. Key Takeaways The Bottom Line on Diamond Education: You'll spend roughly 2 hours of your entire life discussing the Four C's Don't overthink it - learn enough to have an intelligent conversation with a pro Find someone you trust to guide you through the rest Why the Four C's Exist: Created by GIA in the 1940s to standardize diamond grading Before this, buying diamonds was like the Wild West Gave everyone a common language (that's why color starts at D) Cut - The King of the Four C's: Cut is everything - it's what makes a diamond come alive Not about shape (round, oval, etc.) - it's about proportions and craftsmanship A great cut can make a diamond worth twice as much as a poorly cut one Andy's advice: "Get the best damn cut you can afford. Everything else is negotiable." Color Demystified: Scale runs D (colorless) to Z (noticeably yellow/brown) D-F: Exceptional white, priced accordingly G-H: Looks white to most people I-J: Still looks great, especially in yellow gold Most people can't tell D from H without training and special equipment The Reality Check: Your fiancé won't be carrying master stones around to compare Don't pay for colorless if near colorless looks the same to you But some guys want top shelf just for the satisfaction of knowing what they have Memorable Quote "I'll know." - The client who taught Andy that sometimes it's not about what others can see, it's about personal satisfaction. What's Next Part 2 will cover Clarity and Carat Weight - the remaining two C's that complete the diamond grading system. Contact Andy Email: For personal jewelry and diamond consultation About the Book "The Inappropriate Guide to Buying An Engagement Ring" is available on Amazon. Andy is creating an audio version while keeping the podcast going by reading chapters on the show. Warning: Contains raw language, unfiltered advice, and the kind of talk you'd get from your most honest friend after a few drinks. Next Episode Chapter 2-Part 2 coming soon - more straight talk and war stories from the jewelry trenches. Connect with Buy Like A Guy: Available wherever you get your podcasts Book available on Show notes compiled from episode transcript /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/36889080

Finding Your Guy on the Inside 05/30/2025

Finding Your Guy on the Inside Episode Overview Andy reads Chapter 1 from his new book, "The Inappropriate Guide to Buying An Engagement Ring" - a no-bullshit diamond and ring buying guide for guys who'd rather be anywhere else than a jewelry store. This episode covers the single most important piece of advice for buying an engagement ring without getting screwed over. Key Takeaways The Golden Rule: Find a jewelry store where you feel comfortable going. That's it. That's the secret. Why This Matters: Walking into most jewelry stores feels unnatural for guys Everything's behind glass, salespeople hover like vultures You suddenly don't know what to do with your hands It's a special kind of hell for men who've fallen in love Finding Your Unicorn Jewelry Store: Ask friends who actually know you and get your style Search for independent jewelers online Check their reviews, website, and social media Look for their vibe - stuffy/formal vs. laid back/approachable How to Find Your "Guy on the Inside" Three Methods: Email the store - Tell them you need help. If the response feels too formal or generic, move on. Call them - A good jeweler on the phone is like a good first date - there's either chemistry or there isn't. Walk in and get down to business - Most terrifying but nothing beats face-to-face. You'll know within 5 minutes if it's your place. What Your "Guy" Should Do Ask questions about her taste and what you want to give her Address your budget head-on (it's part of the equation) Guide you like that bartender who remembers your drink and steers you toward the good stuff Make you feel like a human being, not a walking wallet with commitment issues Andy's Controversial Advice When it feels right - buy it. Don't do the "I need to look around" dance that fear makes you think you have to do. When it clicks, it clicks. Pull the trigger and be done with it. Why this works: Saves weeks of second-guessing Prevents comparing minute details that won't matter in 5 years You don't need to become a diamond expert - you need someone you trust who does this for a living The Bottom Line Find a jewelry store where you don't feel like you're standing there with your zipper open (but check that before you go in, just to be safe). Connect with someone who speaks your language, not "diamond-ese." When it feels right, trust your gut and pull the trigger. About the Book "The Inappropriate Guide to Buying An Engagement Ring" is available on Amazon. Andy is creating an audio version while keeping the podcast going by reading chapters on the show. Warning: Contains raw language, unfiltered advice, and the kind of talk you'd get from your most honest friend after a few drinks. Next Episode Chapter 2 coming soon - more straight talk and war stories from the jewelry trenches. Connect with Buy Like A Guy: Available wherever you get your podcasts Book available on Show notes compiled from episode transcript /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/36770365

The Inappropriate Guide to Buying an Engagement Ring 05/23/2025

The Inappropriate Guide to Buying an Engagement Ring This is the first installment of the audiobook version of my book The Inappropriate Guide to Buying an Engagement Ring. I’ll be releasing one chapter a week, right here in the podcast feed. If you'd rather read the whole thing now (because waiting is for people in line at the DMV), you can grab the full book on Kindle or paperback by clicking . Full transcript below (Oh and hey! This is all copyrighted so don't steal my shit.) This is the "Inappropriate Guide to Buying an Engagement Ring- Irreverent Wisdom From an Industry Insider. Short, Simple, and Straight to the Point." Introduction: I don't care what's under the hood of my car. I'm pretty sure there's an engine in there, but I'll be damned if I know what it's about. And frankly, I don't care. I wanna go fast when I need to and slow when I don't. That's it. Good to go. Some guys get off on knowing every detail about their engine. The compression ratios, the torque curves, the whole mechanical circle jerk. They're the same guys who can tell you the exact temperature their bourbon was aged at or why their guitars, pickups are superior to every other pickup ever manufactured. But here's what 30 years in the trenches of the diamond business has taught me. Buying an engagement ring isn't about becoming an expert. It's about doing something incredible for someone you love. Somewhere between the YouTube rabbit holes about ideal cut grades and the forums full of guys comparing certification numbers like fantasy football stats, we've lost the plot. You are not here because you woke up thinking, man, I really need to learn about crystalline structures today. You're here because you found someone who makes your, he beat faster and you want to do this right? The problem is the diamond industry has turned what should be one of life's most romantic moments into something that. Feels like studying for a final exam you never signed up for. And that's why I wrote this book, not to turn you into some diamond grading savant, but to give you just enough knowledge to work with someone who actually knows their stuff. Think of it as your cheat sheet for navigating this world while keeping your sanity intact. And yes, I'm mostly addressing the guys buying rings for their girlfriends in this book. But if you're buying for your boyfriend or you're a woman buying for your girlfriend, the advice works just the same. The diamond doesn't give a damn who's wearing it and neither do I. What matters is what that ring symbolizes between two people who found something that's worth keeping. I've spent years watching guys walk into my store looking like they're about to face a firing squad. Armed with printouts of diamond specs and enough anxiety to power laws Vegas for a week. There are shell-shocked veterans of a war they never needed to fight. . So here's what I'm going to do. I'm gonna cut through the bullshit and tell you what actually matters. Not the marketing hype or technical jargon, but the real deal, the stuff that makes a difference when you're standing there ring in hand, heart pounding about to ask the biggest question of your life. We'll cover just enough technical stuff to keep you informed, but more importantly, we'll talk about finding someone you can trust to handle the heavy lifting. Because this isn't about becoming a diamond expert, as I've said, it's about making a moment unforgettable. There are plenty of great professionals who live. For helping people like you create those perfect moments. Your job isn't to become one of us. It's to find one of us. You click with. So grab a beer, get comfortable, and let's cut through the noise together. By the time we're done, you'll know exactly how to handle this whole ring thing without losing your mind, your savings or your romantic soul in the process. Now buckle up and let's do this. If you'd like help finding a jeweler closer to home, email me at and I'll do my best to put you in touch with some of the best jewelers on earth. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head. They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/36689915

Ep. 88 - Taking A Break 07/25/2024

Ep. 87 - Ask Andy: A Quick and Easy Way to Ruin The Moment 07/18/2024

Ep. 87 - Ask Andy: A Quick and Easy Way to Ruin The Moment I'm going to share something I learned first hand about what you should not do when you buy and give something as special as an engagement ring, an anniversary gift...hell...any gift for that matter. I get right to the point when I tell you, "Don't tell her how much it cost. Not even a hint." Telling her what you paid for something can quickly turn a special moment into an awkward one. She's not going to feel cherished, loved, or appreciated if you disclose the price tag. It'll be more along the lines of uncomfortable embarrassment. I want to be clear, this isn't one of those "men are stupid" rants that are ubiquitous on the interwebs these days. Nah...this comes from a real-life experience, and while you think I would know better...I'M the guy that did it! (I gave my wife a gift and on more than occasion I hinted at how it cost much more than she would've thought. What a boob I was. So stupid.) And have to tell you, this advice applies to all gifts. The price tag is none of her business. I understand where this desire to reveal the cost comes from – sometimes, we're just genuinely proud of what we're giving her and we want a significant reaction. That's okay, but remember that it will come over time, in stories, maybe some bragging, or perhaps a sweet moment when she says, "You shouldn't have." When you give her those earrings, that engagement ring, or whatever it may be, keep the price to yourself. There's never a time when it's chivalrous to tell how much you've spent on her, so don't do it. On a related note, when you give her the gift or she sees her engagement ring for the first time, give her a little time to absorb it all. Her reaction may not come immediately, and that's perfectly fine. Sometimes she needs a few moments to process all the glitter and glory that's been bestowed on her, so relax, and let the moment unfold naturally. Now, for the ladies listening, here's something our sales associate, Lindsay, asked me to mention: when your significant other gives you fine jewelry that might not be your style, accept it gracefully, even if it's not your style. In almost every case it's better to accept the gift, and remember why he gave it (because he loves you) and keep it. That's how I was brought up – a gift is a gift, and it's the thought that counts. Of course I understand that fine jewelry often involves a significant investment, and if it's not your style, you probably won't wear it much. Nobody wants that, so if it's just too hideous for you to wear, an exchange is probably in order. If you do decide to exchange the gift, please be gentle when you tell him. You don't have to say it "right out of the box," as they say; give him a moment to feel proud of what he did for you. Then, when the time feels right, you can thank him for the gift, and explain that you'd like to exchange it for something more your style. This way, he won't feel like a failure in your eyes. You can guide him, teach him about your style, and even fill out a Wish List while you're exchanging your gift for the next big occasion. 😉 If you'd like help finding a jeweler closer to home, email me at and I'll do my best to put you in touch with some of the best jewelers on earth. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head. They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: This episode was originally published in October 2023. /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/32192637

Ep. 86 - Love Unscripted: Bridging the "In-Between" with a Commitment Ring 07/11/2024

Ep. 85 - Ask Andy: Lab-Grown Diamonds or Natural Diamonds? 07/04/2024

Ep. 85 - Ask Andy: Lab-Grown Diamonds or Natural Diamonds? In this episode we're going to dip our toes into the realm of lab-grown diamonds. I'll shed a little light on the ever-evolving diamond industry, exploring the distinctions between lab-grown and natural diamonds, their formation processes, and the ongoing debate surrounding their place in the fine jewelry world. Lab-Grown Diamonds: A Historical Perspective It may come as a surprise, but lab-grown diamonds trace their beginnings to the 1950s when General Electric crafted the first industrial-grade diamond crystals. Technological advancements have propelled the creation of larger, gem-quality lab-grown diamonds, revolutionizing the world of fine jewelry with their remarkable beauty. Are Lab-Grown Diamonds Actually Diamonds? I'll answer this hot button question that I get all the time. The fact is, lab grown diamonds have the same crystal structure, hardness, and optical properties of natural diamonds. So what do you think the answer is? There ARE Differences: I'll explore the distinct processes of lab grown and natural diamonds formation, trace their origins, and unravel the cost disparities that exist between the two. Gain insights into the rarity, affordability, and sentimental value associated with each type, empowering you to make an enlightened decision aligned with your personal preferences. The Power of Choice: The fact is, you DO have a choice, and there's an easy way to make it: trust your gut. Ultimately, the decision between lab-grown and natural diamonds rests with you, ensuring that the symbol of love and commitment you choose carries the significance and impact you want to deliver. If you want to talk with me personally you can email me at . Or if you'd like help finding a jewelry store closer to home, drop me a line and I'll do my best to put you in touch with some of the best jewelers on earth. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head. They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: This episode was originally published in June 2023. /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/32006827

Ep. 84 - Ask Andy: How Much Should You Spend On An Engagement Ring? 06/27/2024

Ep. 83 - Diamond Fluorescence: How Excited Electrons Can Save You Money and Light Up the Dance Floor 06/20/2024

Ep. 82 - Crafting Time Part II: The Artistry, Challenge and Value of Independent Watches and the People Who Make Them 06/13/2024

Ep. 81 - Crafting Time: The Artistry, Challenge, and Value of Independent Watches and The People Who Make Them 06/06/2024

Ep. 81 - Crafting Time: The Artistry, Challenge, and Value of Independent Watches and The People Who Make Them It was a pleasure to welcome Tim Jackson on the show again! Tim is the founder and owner of Independent In Time, and a passionate supporter and dealer for Independent Watches and they people who make them. He shares his journey into this niche industry and the unique challenges faced by Independent Watchmakers. The discussion also explores the dedication, discipline, and expertise required to excel in this field. The craftsmanship, technology, and artistry behind mechanical timepieces is beyond comprehension for someone like me, and I must say my appreciation is sky high after this interview. The challenges and unique qualities of independent watchmakers compared to established brands are worth considering when you decide if their watches are worth the price you'll pay. (They are.) Takeaways The world of independent watchmakers is a niche industry that requires dedication, discipline, and expertise. Crafting mechanical timepieces involves intricate details and precision, with a focus on traditional watchmaking techniques. The journey of independent watchmakers involves overcoming unique challenges and competing with established brands in the industry. Independent watchmakers combine mechanical expertise and aesthetic design, showcasing a rare blend of skills. The process of creating a mechanical watch involves meticulous hand-finishing, precision assembly, and rigorous testing for accuracy. The marketing landscape for independent watchmakers has evolved, allowing direct connection with potential customers through social media and the internet. Be sure to find and follow Tim's Instagram page at , and I'd love to connect with you on the page as well! If you need expert advice about something you don’t know much about, and need a little guidance, send me an email at and I’ll do my best to cover it in an upcoming show. If you’re “that guy,” (and of course you can be a woman) that people should hear from because you know your sh*t about a certain subject, please reach out to me, and let’s talk about how we can work together. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head. They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/31625812

Ep. 80 - Bourbon Slang: The Angel’s Share, The Devil's Cut, Tater's, Legs, and Other Such Things 05/30/2024

Ep. 80 - Bourbon Slang: The Angel’s Share, The Devil's Cut, Tater's, Legs, and Other Such Things Me and Derek, our resident bourbon expert, explore more aspects of the bourbon world, including brand loyalty, the cost of collecting bourbon, and the emotional connection people have with their favorite brands. We talk about 'taters' (bourbon enthusiasts who wait in line for rare bottles and collect them without opening) as well as some other bourbon slang, such as the 'angel's share' (the alcohol vapor that evaporates from the barrel during aging) and the 'devil's cut' (the bourbon that soaks into the wood of the barrel). What about a "fake tan," a reference to distillers adding artificial caramel coloring to bourbon to make it appear like it has aged longer. We also discuss bourgon related topics like the difference between whiskey and bourbon, the use of flavorings and finishes, the importance of glassware, and the moonshine. We cover a lot, and I can tell you that it brought up another idea for our next episode: History Lessons from the Bourbon World. Takeaways The bourbon world is more complex and involved than expected, with a wide range of brands and information to explore. Brand loyalty is common among bourbon enthusiasts, who find emotional connections to their favorite brands. Collecting bourbon can be costly, especially when seeking rare and limited-edition bottles. The 'angel's share' refers to the alcohol vapor that evaporates from the barrel during aging, while the 'devil's cut' is the bourbon that soaks into the wood of the barrel. There are discussions about the possibility of distillers adding artificial caramel coloring to bourbon to make it appear aged longer. Bourbon is a type of whiskey that must meet specific legal requirements, including being made in the United States and aged in new charred oak barrels. Flavorings can be added to whiskey, but not to bourbon. However, bourbon can be finished in different barrels to add additional flavors. The choice of glassware, such as the Glencairn glass, can enhance the tasting experience by concentrating aromas and maintaining the temperature of the whiskey. Moonshine refers to illegally distilled spirits, and the term should not be used to describe legally produced grain liquor. Personal preference plays a significant role in choosing and enjoying bourbon, and there is no right or wrong way to drink it. If you need expert advice about something you don’t know much about, and need a little guidance, send me an email at and I’ll do my best to cover it in an upcoming show. If you’re “that guy,” (and of course you can be a woman) that people should hear from because you know your sh*t about a certain subject, please reach out to me, and let’s talk about how we can work together. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head. They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/31525367

Ep. 79 - Men's Wedding Rings: From Gold to Breastmilk (Yes, You Read That Right.) 05/23/2024

Ep. 78 - A Man's Guide to Wristwatches Part 2: Finding The Right Watch Style 05/16/2024

Ep. 77 - A Man's Guide To Wristwatches: How to Choose the Right Watch 05/09/2024

Ep. 77 - A Man's Guide To Wristwatches: How to Choose the Right Watch In this episode we’re going to talk about watches with Tim Jackson, the Founder and Owner of . He deals in watches that are made by Independent Watchmakers from around the world. When it comes to watches, he knows his sh*t. We talk about the basics of buying a "nice watch," the appeal of owning and collecting fine watches, the different kinds of movements, and ultimately, what you should look for when you’re shopping for a fine quality watch. Key Takeaways: Buying a watch is often about more than just telling time; it can be a form of self-expression and a way to communicate personal style. There are different types of watch movements, including mechanical (self-winding) and quartz (battery-powered), each with its own advantages and characteristics. Determining the quality of a watch can be subjective, but factors such as price, reputation, and craftsmanship can be indicators of a well-made timepiece. The watch industry has a wide range of brands and styles to suit different tastes and budgets, from classic and traditional designs to avant-garde and modern aesthetics. Marketing and brand reputation play a significant role in the perception and value of watches, with certain brands commanding higher prices due to their heritage and reputation for quality. If you need expert advice about something you don’t know much about, and need a little guidance, send me an email at and I’ll do my best to cover it in an upcoming show. If you’re “that guy,” (and of course you can be a woman) that people should hear from because you know your sh*t about a certain subject, please reach out to me, and let’s talk about how we can work together. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head. They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/31208552

Ep. 76 - Thinking About Buying a Gun for The First Time? Listen to Leland Before You Do 05/02/2024

Ep. 75 - Glitter & Grit: Pat Finn on the Sparkle of Necessity, Bonds of Friendship, and a Chris Farley Gem 04/25/2024

Ep. 74 - The Male Experience of Buying Jewelry: Advice and Stories from Pat Finn 04/18/2024

Ep. 73 - The Bourbon Brotherhood: A Beginner's Guide From "A Guy" Who Knows His Sh*t 04/11/2024

Ep. 73 - The Bourbon Brotherhood: A Beginner's Guide From "A Guy" Who Knows His Sh*t Bourbon continues to be a "go to" for guys who want to move away from cheap beer and fruity drinks, and I support it. It's a crazy big world of choices that are mind boggling, even to seasoned bourbon hunters. My guest today is definitely a guy who can help us traverse the multi-leveled landscape of the bourbon world. Derek works in the heart of Bourbon Country at one of the premier distilleries on the Bourbon Trails of Kentucky. He'll explain the difference between whiskey and bourbon, highlighting that bourbon must adhere to specific laws, including being at least 51% corn and made in America. We'll also touch on the rise in popularity of bourbon in recent years. He'll give us a run down of the ingredients of bourbon, including corn, rye or wheat, and malted barley, and explain how the barrel contributes to the flavor and complexity of bourbon. You'll learn about the timeline for aging bourbon, and how he believes that between eight and 12 years is the magic number for optimal flavor. Just like diamonds, he and I agree that personal preference plays a significant role as to which bourbon is right for you. And of course there is the thrill of collecting bourbons and sharing a pour or two with your friends. (He'll even give a quick tutorial on the correct way to sip it. Freakin' great!) Ultimately, according to Derek, there is no wrong way to drink a worthy bourbon. Cheers! If you need expert advice about something you don’t know much about, and need a little guidance, send me an email at and I’ll do my best to cover it in an upcoming show. If you’re “that guy,” (and of course you can be a woman) that people should hear from because you know your sh*t about a certain subject, please reach out to me, and let’s talk about how we can work together. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head. They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/30776413

Ep. 72 - One for the Ladies: What NOT to Do When He's Picking Out His Wedding Ring 04/04/2024

Ep. 72 - One for the Ladies: What NOT to Do When He's Picking Out His Wedding Ring This is an auspicious moment because in this episode, for the first time, I’m going to address "The Ladies." Specifically, I’m going to talk about what you, as a woman, should NOT do when you and your fella go to look for his wedding ring. When it’s time to pick out his wedding ring, he just might for your opinion. (Most likely he will!) And you should help him out by giving him one. (Or 2 or 3. This shouldn't be a problem for most of the women I know. Ha!) Picture this: A cute couple decides it’s time to pick out his wedding band and so they’re going to go visit their favorite independent jewelry store. (Always go to an independent jewelry store.) What’s going to happen is he’s going to start trying on rings to see how they look. Simple and easy. Maybe. It’s normally awkward for him because this is probably the first time in his whole life that he’s going to pick out a piece of jewelry for himself, so this is completely foreign to him, and he’s in the uncharted waters of the jewelry world yet again. (Not a guy's favorite place to be.) Most men are comfortable talking about cars, a boat, golf clubs, or even a watch for that matter, but the ring he's supposed to wear for the rest of his life? Not so much... He's going to need a little help and at some point he might turn to you and ask, “What do you think of this one?” Now ladies, this is what you should NOT do or say at that point: “I don’t know, you have to wear it.” That is a terrible answer because the person he trusts the most, you, leaves him hanging, and it's embarrassing and offers zero help or direction. When he asks that question it’s most likely because he found a ring style he likes and he’s looking for your approval. So help him out, and have an opinion…and share it. If you don’t have an opinion, it means you’re not paying attention, or maybe you actually don’t care…but you know what? Care. Even if it’s just for a little while. It’s not a big ask, and I can tell you he’ll appreciate it further on up the road. Guys are easy. We ask because we want to know what you think, and most times we’re looking for a verbal nod that, "Yes, I like what you picked out," and even, "I don’t like it, how about that one?” (If that happens you can start to hone in on a ring that you both like and you can move forward with rest of the infinite plans you need to check off the list for your wedding day.) Last tip: Your guy (or girl) wants your opinion, but he/she wants to have a say as well. Be open to that…and if he’s really digging a certain ring style, go with it, because you know what? Your "one-and-only" wants to like their wedding ring too. If you'd like help finding a jeweler closer to home, email me at and I'll do my best to put you in touch with some of the best jewelers on earth. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head. They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/30674143

Ep. 71 - Ask Andy: What is the Custom Jewelry Design Process Like? 03/28/2024

Ep. 71 - Ask Andy: What is the Custom Jewelry Design Process Like? Customer involvement in designing jewelry is a growing trend in the jewelry business. Independent jewelry stores offer a range of options, from changing metals and gemstones to adding unique touches. However, there's a crucial balance between personalization and potentially compromising the integrity of the original design when people who don't know what they're doing want to get their hands dirty and help create a personal version of something they like. While we'll focus mainly on engagement rings, these principles apply to all custom jewelry projects. It's important to recognize that jewelry design is a nuanced craft that demands expertise. Just because you excel in one area doesn't automatically translate to designing jewelry. It's tempting to assume that with countless designs available, any choice will suffice. However, not all designs are created equal. Some may not stand the test of time or wear well. Fine jewelry is an investment, and it's essential to ensure it endures both in style and quality. Jewelry designers dedicate their careers to mastering their craft. They're experts in working with precious materials to create pieces that are both visually stunning and durable. While you can collaborate with designers and brands to customize existing designs, there's a line that, when crossed, risks compromising the final product. This phenomenon isn't unique to jewelry; professionals in various fields encounter similar challenges. As a client, it's exciting to contribute to the design process, but it's crucial to know when to defer to the experts. Remember, being the boss means trusting your team to do what they do best. If you're considering customizing a piece, be mindful of expert advice. When they gently advise against a certain change, it's probably a good idea to listen to them. Their experience will guide you towards a design that stands the test of time, and will be cherished for a lifetime. While your ideas hold value, sometimes it's best to let seasoned professionals make the final call. If you'd like help finding a jeweler closer to home, email me at and I'll do my best to put you in touch with some of the best jewelers on earth. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head. They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: Note: This episode was originally published in September, 2023. /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/30569548

Ep. 70 - Ask Andy: What is a "Push Present?" and Why It's a Legendary Gift 03/21/2024

Ep. 70 - Ask Andy: What is a "Push Present?" and Why It's a Legendary Gift A lot of guys have no idea what a “push present” is. I have to confess that until there was a baby in my future, I never heard of it, nor did I know what it was. (And I'm in "the business!") So what is a push present? Is it something you should consider when there’s a baby on the way? First, a push present is a gift that you present to your wife or girlfriend shortly after the baby is born, to celebrate the occasion. The term "push present" originated from the idea that the mother has "pushed" to bring the baby into the world, and the gift is a way to show appreciation for that effort. On the surface a push present seems like it’s a recognition thing for your wife or girlfriend…I mean it kind of is, giving birth is no small feat, and that’s putting it mildly! (First time dad’s: trust me on this. She deserves a damn crown for the blood, sweat and tears that is part and parcel of having a baby!) However, I think it’s way more than recognition because as time goes on, this gift you give her when the baby is born, becomes something more…and its meaning changes. The impact of this piece of jewelry and the gesture behind it, stretches way out into the future. That simple gift will become legendary in your family tree. It is something that can be passed down from one generation to the next, to the next. Imagine the short but true story, "Your daddy gave me this when YOU were born." And then, "My dad gave this to my mom when I was born," and, "My grandfather gave this to my grandmother when my mother or father was born." A push present is a legacy, even if it doesn't feel that way just yet. Legends aren't born, they're made. If you want to talk with me personally you can email me at . I'm happy to personally help you find the right jewelry for your special occasion, or put you in touch with a jewelry pro that's closer to home. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head. They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: Note: This episode was originally published in April, 2023. /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/30463813

Ep. 69 - Beyond the Carat: A New Direction for Buy Like a Guy 03/14/2024

Ep. 68 - Timing is Everything: Navigating Jewelry Buying Decisions, the Paradox of Choice, and the Importance of a Plan B 03/07/2024

Ep. 68 - Timing is Everything: Navigating Jewelry Buying Decisions, the Paradox of Choice, and the Importance of a Plan B In this episode of Buy Like a Guy, I revisit when the proverbial "right time" is to make your buying decisions, and the importance of having a Plan B. It's always best to buy important jewelry well before you're planning on giving it. Why? Because it's the best way to avoid undue anxiety about whether it's going to be done on time for your big reveal. Know what else happens? You won't have that nagging pressure hanging over your head as you wait for the final product. I'll touch on the Paradox of Choice, a very real problem in our society as far as I'm concerned, and one that pops up all the time when you're buying something like an engagement ring or custom piece of jewelry. Customization feeds this monster, and while it can be a good thing, it can also push the lead time out well beyond the time constraints you think are appropriate. Even when you allow yourself enough time, I still suggest having a Plan B in your back pocket. "Be prepared," is a great motto, and one that can serve you should the jewelry you are buying isn't quite ready when you need it, or when something you've had your eye on is gone when you make the all important move to go buy it. (Such a bummer.) It's the best way to avoid getting all knotted and apologizing at the moment of truth. Nobody wants that. Takeaways: Avoid undue anxiety and apologies by having a plan B when presenting jewelry. Get jewelry sooner rather than later to eliminate pressure and ensure availability. The customization options in the jewelry industry can lead to the paradox of choice. Always communicate with your jeweler and ask about the timeframe for making jewelry. If you want to talk with me personally you can email me at . I'm happy to personally help you find the right jewelry for your special occasion, or put you in touch with a jewelry pro that's closer to home. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head. They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/30267428

Ep. 67 - Diamonds are NOT A Lot of Money, and The Top 3 Things to Consider When You're Buying Jewelry 02/29/2024

Ep. 66 - The Truth Behind Diamond Deals: Deciphering Beauty, Value, and Investment with Diamond Evangelist Shane Decker 02/22/2024

Ep. 66 - The Truth Behind Diamond Deals: Deciphering Beauty, Value, and Investment with Diamond Evangelist Shane Decker It seems like most, if not all, of the information and marketing messages coming out of the jewelry industry these days are geared toward women. It makes sense because oftentimes she is the driver when it comes to what sort of style she likes, and as men, we want to give her an engagement ring, or other fine jewelry that she will love. However, a lot of guys can feel invisible in the process, because not many people or companies are talking to you. You need some direction outside of what your mom says, or her friends say, or even your buddies. You need an outside opinion and information so you can make a decision you feel good about. My guest today is someone who can do just that. Shane Decker is the President of Ex-Sell-Ence, and The Shane Decker Sales Academy, and a jewelry industry legend who has been a diamond and fine jewelry consultant for more than 50 years. He is a legit diamond evangelist, and has worked with more than 3000 independent jewelry stores worldwide to help develop true professional diamond associates. Shane is going to discuss diamond grading, and why, according to Shane, the bulk of diamonds offered for sale online are not the “deal” people think they are. We also touch on the beauty and "sparkle" of diamonds, their value and emotional significance, as well as the longevity and investment value. We're going to cover a lot in this first episode of the two part series. Get ready for some high energy learning! Learn more here: Get in touch with Shane at . If you want to talk with me personally you can email me at . I'm happy to personally help you find the right jewelry for your special occasion, or put you in touch with a jewelry pro that's closer to home. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head. They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/30060873

Ep. 65 - Ask Andy: The Marks of Time and Why Scratches and Dings In Your Rings are Not a Bad Thing 02/15/2024

Ep. 65 - Ask Andy: The Marks of Time and Why Scratches and Dings In Your Rings are Not a Bad Thing In this episode I'm going to talk about something that resonates with both men and women: When you glance down at your brand new ring, and see those first few scratches and dings. It can be disheartening, and you may even be surprised you even care. Whether it's a minor scratch, a ding, or a chip, it happens to everyone. It's kind of like those times when you discover a scratch on our car door or a chip in the windshield. (I'll cover a little something about a Rolling Stones song that applies. Well, sort of.) The good news is that most of the time, it's not a sign that your ring is poorly made. These imperfections are often just cosmetic and can be easily polished out by a skilled jeweler. You may be surprised to hear that I recommend you DON'T buff those scratches out of your rings or jewelry. I'll share a true story from my early days in the jewelry business about an experience I had with an older woman who was visiting from Japan. She said, "You know you Americans always want everything to look new and shiny. For me? Each one of those scratches in my ring is a part of my life. I will never have those polished away." The lesson: rings and things are physical objects and we live in a physical world, and when the two come in contact with each other, there’s going to be some physical evidence that an event took place…even if it’s a microscopic scratch from our steering wheel. It's nothing overly important or noteworthy, it's simply LIFE...happening. I say let it happen…let it show…and if or when your prized pieces really need some sparking up because you just can’t stand it anymore…go ahead, and take your jewelry to your favorite jeweler and get a tune up. But if you’re like me, the collective scratches and dings that show up on your rings or other favorite jewelry will feel a little cooler, because they’re there. As Ferris Bueller says, in the classic movie Ferris Bueller’s Day Off, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” Maybe those scratches and dings in your rings shouldn’t be polished off, but contemplated for a few seconds when you notice them. Not to recall what caused them, but to appreciate all the days that passed before, and those that are yet to come. If you want to talk with me personally you can email me at . I'm happy to personally help you find the right jewelry for your special occasion, or put you in touch with a jewelry pro that's closer to home. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head. They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: Note: This episode was originally published on September 21, 2023 /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/29960898

Ep. 64 - You CAN Buy The Right Jewelry Without Sticking Your Head Up A Bulls A** 02/08/2024

Ep. 64 - You CAN Buy The Right Jewelry Without Sticking Your Head Up A Bulls A** If you’re the kind of person that doesn’t give a whole lotta’ "you know what’s" about fine jewelry or diamonds, or where the prices come from, I’m here to tell you, that’s okay. In fact, I think it’s perfectly normal. If diamonds, gemstones, precious metals and fine jewelry don’t interest you…don’t learn about them. I believe this is true for pretty much all things. If something doesn’t interest you, find someone who knows their stuff, and let them do the work for you. This is a common theme in pretty much every podcast I’ve done so far, mostly because it’s almost always a fail safe way to get things done quickly, and easily. (With one important footnote that I’ll mention at the end.) I think the idea of finding an expert to make your life easy, particularly in the jewelry department, makes sense and saves time because there is a lot to learn, and quite frankly a lot of people think it's boring. And that's perfectly okay, because there are people like us…professional jewelry experts…all over the world…who DO take an interest in it, and learn about it, and study it and then arrange for these valuable items, and powerful symbols to be at the ready, when YOU'RE ready to take the plunge. I know people want you to care more, but if you don’t, you don’t. And there's no shame in that. What I’ve found over the years is that a lot of guys are cool with whatever they buy when they know just 2 things: How much does it cost? Is she going to love it? These are highly logical questions, and important ones. They may be the only 2 questions that need answering before you decide what to buy. This got me thinking. I used to know the late, great Chris Farley back in my college days at Marquette University, and that sometimes leads me to think of the movie Tommy Boy. (If you haven't seen it, you should. It's good old '90's humor, and Farley is a classic!) There is a scene the movie that illustrates my point about seeking out expert advice to make life easier as you get to your end game. It's near the beginning, and Tommy Boy’s dad, "Big Tom," is talking “sales” at his wedding to a bunch of guys at and around his table, and he says, “Of course I could get a helluva’ good look at a T-bone steak by sticking my head up a bulls ass…but I’d rather take the butcher’s word for it.” I love that line because it clearly illustrates what I'm talking about when I tell people to seek out experts, and let them do their work on your behalf. Like when you're hunting for the right piece of jewelry. If you’re not interested in knowing more about what you're buying besides what it costs and if she'll like it or not...no worries. Take the butcher's word for it...and hit the "go" button. But here's the footnote I promised: this only holds true if you’re dealing with a reputable place. And how do you find that place? You ask around, read some reviews…use word-of-mouth…visit a website…or you could listen to Episode 36 called “” where I spell it out for you. Physically going to a jewelry store is a thousand times more effective than trying to purchase online, because you can actually talk to the butcher. (Of course I’m referring to a jewelry professional.) It's like having a human search engine standing right in front of you to answer your questions (if you have them) as they guide you to the perfect piece for your particular situation. To loosely quote Big Tom: "They’re going to help you get that jewelry…and you won’t need to stick your head up a bulls ass to do it. If you want to talk with me personally you can email me at . I'm happy to personally help you find the right jewelry for your special occasion, or put you in touch with a jewelry pro that's closer to home. Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head. They're awesome. Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: /episode/index/show/ac4fdd08-7a3e-4755-8802-ff20f22b26ab/id/29852363

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