Ep. 93 - The #1 Mistake Guys Make Buying Her a Ring (And How to Avoid It)
Release Date: 12/26/2025
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info_outlineEver feel like buying an engagement ring is a minefield? You’re not alone. In this episode, Andy talks with Carter—a custom jeweler who’s helped hundreds of guys get it right—about the biggest mistakes men make, how to actually get her the ring she wants, and why the “surprise” isn’t what you think it is.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- The #1 mistake guys make when buying a ring—and how to avoid it
- Why just “surprising her” is mostly dead (and what actually works now)
- How to figure out her style (even if she sends you a million new ideas after you buy)
- The right way to use family stones and heirlooms without losing meaning
- How to handle the money talk (and why the price is nobody’s business but yours)
- Real-world advice for guys who feel lost or overwhelmed by the process
- Why finding “your jeweler” matters more than any brand or store
Key Quotes from Carter:
“The most common mistake guys make is thinking they know what she wants, instead of actually checking with her—or her mom, sister, or best friend.”
“Jewelry is personal. If it’s not her style, she won’t wear it, even if you love it.”
“Don’t let anyone pressure you. Take your time, ask questions, and get educated.”
Why This Episode Matters for Guys Buying Rings:
If you’re worried about blowing it, or just want to get it right the first time, this episode gives you the real-world playbook:
- How to get her style right (even if she “changes her mind” halfway through)
- What to do with family rings and old gold
- How to set a budget you’re actually comfortable with—no three-months-salary BS
- Why collaborating with a jeweler you trust makes the whole process easier (and way less stressful)
Carter’s Top Advice:
- Don’t guess. Ask her, or ask her inner circle.
- If she says “surprise me,” a classic round solitaire is your safest bet.
- Check her Pinterest or Instagram—the answer is probably there.
- Set your own budget—never go into debt for a ring.
- Find a jeweler who feels like “your guy”—someone you can text, call, and trust.
Who Is Carter?
Carter Eve is a custom jeweler, trained goldsmith, and owner of Carter Eve Jewelry, known for heirloom redesigns, value-driven sourcing, and an authentic approach to jewelry design. She helps guys get the ring right—without the hype or pressure, which makes her a perfect guest for the show.
Resources Mentioned:
- Carter Eve Jewelry: https://
carterevejewelry.com/ - Andy’s book: The Inappropriate Guide to Buying an Engagement Ring available on Amazon.
Connect with Buy Like A Guy:
Email Andy at andy@buylikeaguy.com
Music credits: Preacher Man by Miles Neilson and The Rusted Hearts, used with permission. A killer band with original songs that get stuck in your head. They're awesome.
Listen To Preacher Man on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/7ImcaJKIk0ZVtPzuUVV4vc?si=80581c74a9be4987