The Desire Gap: ADHD, Sex, and Mismatched Libido with Laura Jurgens EP 563
ADHD reWired
Episode topic: ADHD, sex, desire discrepancy, intimacy, communication, kink, queerness, polyamory, and what happens when libido doesn’t match in relationships. Content note: This episode includes candid adult conversation about sex, desire, libido, kink, dating apps, polyamory, and sexual communication. Episode Summary What happens when one partner wants sex more than the other? What if ADHD affects libido in both directions? And what if “just do it” is actually some of the worst advice out there? In this episode, Eric is joined by Laura Jurgens, a dual-certified master relationship...
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ADHD reWired Live Q and A April 2026 ep 562
ADHD reWired
In this live Q&A episode, Eric Tivers and ADHD reWired coaches Brian Entler and Kristin Marts answer listener questions about the overlap between ADHD and autism (AuDHD), and how to better understand your brain through both coaching and therapy. They explore how coaching and therapy serve different—but complementary—roles, especially when it comes to turning insight into action. You’ll hear practical examples of how to use each space effectively, whether you're job searching, working through burnout, or trying to follow through on what matters. Eric also breaks down the concept of...
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Coaching Groups: Final Registration Events This Week (A Short Song)
ADHD reWired
Pre-registration for the ADHD reWired Coaching Groups is due Thursday. Registration events are happening Thursday and Friday. The next group starts next week. 👉 For exact dates, times, and next steps, go to: This episode includes a short, experimental song made with Suno Ai explaining the coaching groups. If you’re listening after the registration window closes, future groups will be announced on the website.
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Doing It the Way Your Brain Actually Works (561)
ADHD reWired
What if the reason you haven’t finished the thing you keep thinking about isn’t motivation, discipline, or follow-through — but fit? In this episode, Eric is joined by Katherine Mutti Driscoll, PhD, an AuDHD coach, educator, and author, for a conversation that starts with writing a book and quickly becomes something much bigger: how neurodivergent adults actually get meaningful work done. They explore why so many ADHD and AuDHD adults carry “someday projects” for years, how structure (not willpower) turns intention into action, and why unmasking isn’t just about identity — it’s...
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560 How to Finish Anything with Paulette Perhach
ADHD reWired
If you’ve ever had a week where your intentions were solid… and your follow-through vanished into the void, you’re not alone. In this episode, Eric is joined by writer, teacher, and ADHD coach Paulette Perhach, who shares the FINISH framework: a simple, ADHD-friendly approach to actually completing projects, building consistency, and getting unstuck. Paulette’s take is refreshingly honest: ADHD can feel like the superpower and the kryptonite at the same time. She talks about getting diagnosed at 38, learning to ask for accommodations without shame, and building systems that support...
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559 ADHD & AuDHD Burnout: Why Community & Accountability Still Matter Personal Updates & Listener Questions
ADHD reWired
In the final Q&A of 2025, Eric is joined by ADHD reWired coach Brian for a candid, intimate conversation about ADHD, AuDHD, burnout recovery, unmasking, grief, and what it looks like to rebuild momentum without torching your nervous system in the process. They answer listener questions ranging from “what I wish I knew before my autism diagnosis” to “what burnout actually looks like,” and they zoom out to something simple but powerful: community and accountability aren’t “nice extras,” they’re often the difference between knowing what helps and actually doing it. Also: a...
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When “Fine” Keeps Us Stuck: A Reflection on My Dad, Masking, and Adapting ep 558
ADHD reWired
“I’m Fine”: What My Dad Taught Me About Resisting Help On August 14th, my dad passed away. In the weeks since, I’ve been reflecting on his life, his humor, his resilience — and his signature phrase: “I’m fine.” He said it when he was hooked up to machines in the hospital. He said it when he was on the roof cleaning gutters, even though his balance was shot. And most of the time, he wasn’t fine at all. In this episode, I share some of the lessons I learned from my dad about adapting — and about the cost of resisting it. From the adult trike he never would have bought for...
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Building Systems that work for you (and not the other way around) with Stephanie Blake - Ep 557
ADHD reWired
🧠 Episode Summary: Are you building a business (or a life) that supports your life—or one that runs you into the ground? In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers is joined by business systems coach and automation strategist Stephanie Blake. Diagnosed with ADHD later in life, Stephanie shares how simplifying her business, embracing structure, and getting honest about burnout helped her reclaim her energy and build a business that works for her, not the other way around. They talk about the unique ways ADHD brains thrive with streamlined systems, why too many tools can be a trap, and...
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Hustle, Flow or Let it Go? Lessons from Burnout and Grief - with Dr. Portia Preston - Ep 556
ADHD reWired
What does it really mean to know when to push, when to pause, and when to let go? In this heartfelt conversation, Dr. Portia Preston returns to ADHD reWired to share insights from her book Hustle, Flow, or Let It Go? We talk about burnout, shame-free wellness, and the small practices that can help us create a more sustainable rhythm in life. This episode weaves together stories of resilience and grief, the reality of living with ADHD and autism, and Portia’s SANE model (Slow down, Acknowledge, Navigate, Evaluate)—a simple framework to help you reset when overwhelm takes over. We also talk...
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People Pleasing & ADHD: When "Yes" is a Nervous-System Response and How to Stop with Anita Sandoval, LPC - EP 555
ADHD reWired
People-pleasing isn’t a personality flaw—often it’s a nervous-system strategy. Licensed Professional Counselor and ADHD-CCSP Anita Sandoval joins Eric to unpack how the fawn response shows up with ADHD, trauma, and RSD; how it differs from masking and conflict avoidance; and what real change looks like. We cover Anita’s “Empower → Resilient → Authentic” model, ADHD-friendly EMDR adaptations, and the messy-but-worth-it work of boundaries (including with narcissistic family dynamics). Resources, Anita’s links, and a quick survey about a potential evening coaching group are in...
info_outlineIf you’ve ever had a week where your intentions were solid… and your follow-through vanished into the void, you’re not alone.
In this episode, Eric is joined by writer, teacher, and ADHD coach Paulette Perhach, who shares the FINISH framework: a simple, ADHD-friendly approach to actually completing projects, building consistency, and getting unstuck.
Paulette’s take is refreshingly honest: ADHD can feel like the superpower and the kryptonite at the same time. She talks about getting diagnosed at 38, learning to ask for accommodations without shame, and building systems that support creative work… even when your brain fights you every step of the way.
This conversation is part practical strategy, part nervous-system-friendly encouragement, and very “you’re not broken, you’re under-supported.”
✅ In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
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Why ADHD brains often need “fake stakes” (engineered urgency) to follow through
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How to break big goals into small increments that create momentum
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The importance of nixing distractions (without relying on willpower)
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How to protect hyperfocus and use it intentionally instead of accidentally
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Why community and body doubling are so powerful for ADHD
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How self-compassion becomes a real strategy, not just a nice idea
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What to do when you’re having a “bad brain day” and can’t access your usual tools
🧠 The FINISH Framework (Six Elements to Finish Anything)
Paulette breaks down the acronym FINISH:
F — Fake Stakes
ADHD motivation often needs emotional urgency.
Fake stakes are “real enough” accountability: deadlines, commitments, public accountability, or putting something on the calendar that makes it harder to ghost your own goal.
I — Increment
Instead of “write the book,” aim for 500 words a day.
Small daily targets create dopamine, progress, and trust.
N — Nix Distractions
This is about designing your environment so you don’t have to wrestle your brain all day long.
Tools like app blockers (Freedom App) and external reminders can support focus.
I — Immerse
Make space to hyperfocus on purpose by doing the planning/admin work ahead of time.
Paulette calls this a weekly “writer’s refresh” to calm the nervous system and reduce background stress.
S — Share
Community matters. Body doubling matters.
Doing things with other people (even silently) can dramatically increase follow-through.
H — Hype
This one is about self-talk and emotional regulation.
Exercise, meditation, and kindness toward yourself aren’t luxuries, they’re performance tools for ADHD brains.
🔥 Standout Moments
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Paulette’s line: “My version of consistency is that I get back up every time I fall down.”
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The difference between luxury vs. accommodation, especially when traveling
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Eric’s take on requesting extra time to board flights and why it can be a legitimate accommodation
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The idea that shame doesn’t create change (it creates shutdown)
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Why ADHD-friendly success often looks like iteration, not perfection
🎧 ADHD-Friendly Takeaway
If your brain only gives you one usable step today, let it be this:
Pick the smallest thread you can hang onto to stay connected to the work.
Open the document. Read one paragraph. Write one sentence. Show up for one increment.
That counts.
That builds trust.
👤 About Paulette Perhach
Paulette Perhach is a writer, teacher, and ADHD coach who helps writers and creatives build sustainable, fulfilling creative lives. Her work has appeared in major outlets, and she leads writing and meditation sessions through her community programs.
🔗 Resources Mentioned
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Paulette Perhach (website): paulperhach.com
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Writer’s Mission Control Center: thewritermissioncontrolcenter.com
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Freedom App (distraction blocking)
✅ Work With Eric / Join the Community
Want structure that actually works for your ADHD brain?
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ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: coachingrewired.com
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