ADHD reWired
ADHD reWired is more than just a podcast, we are a community for ADHD Adults. This podcast brings you stories, strategies, and science from everyday people and the world's top experts. Host Eric Tivers, LCSW, ADHD-CCSP is a trained mental health professional who not only specializes in ADHD but also has it. Eric talks openly about his own ADHD as well has his recent autism diagnosis. If you're ADHD or AuDHD and you want to feel less alone, hit subscribe for a regular dose of "me too."
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Coaching Groups: Final Registration Events This Week (A Short Song)
02/10/2026
Coaching Groups: Final Registration Events This Week (A Short Song)
Pre-registration for the ADHD reWired Coaching Groups is due Thursday. Registration events are happening Thursday and Friday. The next group starts next week. đ For exact dates, times, and next steps, go to: This episode includes a short, experimental song made with Suno Ai explaining the coaching groups. If youâre listening after the registration window closes, future groups will be announced on the website.
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Doing It the Way Your Brain Actually Works (561)
02/05/2026
Doing It the Way Your Brain Actually Works (561)
What if the reason you havenât finished the thing you keep thinking about isnât motivation, discipline, or follow-through â but fit? In this episode, Eric is joined by Katherine Mutti Driscoll, PhD, an AuDHD coach, educator, and author, for a conversation that starts with writing a book and quickly becomes something much bigger: how neurodivergent adults actually get meaningful work done. They explore why so many ADHD and AuDHD adults carry âsomeday projectsâ for years, how structure (not willpower) turns intention into action, and why unmasking isnât just about identity â itâs about designing systems that work with your nervous system instead of against it. Writing is the case study. Adaptation is the point. In This Episode, We Talk About Why motivation isnât the real problem for ADHD and AuDHD adults How an interest-based nervous system shapes creativity and follow-through The role of structure, deadlines, and external accountability in finishing big projects ADHD, autism, and the balance between novelty and predictability Unmasking your process and letting go of ânormalâ ways of working Why you donât have to love the process to do meaningful work Perfectionism, imposter syndrome, and surviving the one-star review Dictation, movement, printing drafts, and other non-traditional workflows How support, containers, and community make progress possible A Key Takeaway You donât need to become more disciplined. You need a container that fits. When the system works for your brain, the work has a chance to happen. About the Guest Katherine Mutti Driscoll, PhD is an AuDHD coach, educator, and author. She holds a PhD in education, is trained through the International ADHD Coach Training Center and Impact Parents, and is currently studying to become a mental health counselor. Katherine is the author of The ADHD Workbook for Teen Girls and is currently working on her second book focused on Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. Website: Book (The ADHD Workbook for Teen Girls, New Harbinger): Resources & Links Mentioned ADHD reWired (podcast, resources, and programs): ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: Adult Study Hall (ADHD-friendly virtual coworking): Internal Family Systems (IFS / parts work): Interest-Based Nervous System (ADDitude overview):
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560 How to Finish Anything with Paulette Perhach
01/22/2026
560 How to Finish Anything with Paulette Perhach
If youâve ever had a week where your intentions were solid⌠and your follow-through vanished into the void, youâre not alone. In this episode, Eric is joined by writer, teacher, and ADHD coach Paulette Perhach, who shares the FINISH framework: a simple, ADHD-friendly approach to actually completing projects, building consistency, and getting unstuck. Pauletteâs take is refreshingly honest: ADHD can feel like the superpower and the kryptonite at the same time. She talks about getting diagnosed at 38, learning to ask for accommodations without shame, and building systems that support creative work⌠even when your brain fights you every step of the way. This conversation is part practical strategy, part nervous-system-friendly encouragement, and very âyouâre not broken, youâre under-supported.â â
In This Episode, Youâll Learn: Why ADHD brains often need âfake stakesâ (engineered urgency) to follow through How to break big goals into small increments that create momentum The importance of nixing distractions (without relying on willpower) How to protect hyperfocus and use it intentionally instead of accidentally Why community and body doubling are so powerful for ADHD How self-compassion becomes a real strategy, not just a nice idea What to do when youâre having a âbad brain dayâ and canât access your usual tools đ§ The FINISH Framework (Six Elements to Finish Anything) Paulette breaks down the acronym FINISH: F â Fake Stakes ADHD motivation often needs emotional urgency. Fake stakes are âreal enoughâ accountability: deadlines, commitments, public accountability, or putting something on the calendar that makes it harder to ghost your own goal. I â Increment Instead of âwrite the book,â aim for 500 words a day. Small daily targets create dopamine, progress, and trust. N â Nix Distractions This is about designing your environment so you donât have to wrestle your brain all day long. Tools like app blockers (Freedom App) and external reminders can support focus. I â Immerse Make space to hyperfocus on purpose by doing the planning/admin work ahead of time. Paulette calls this a weekly âwriterâs refreshâ to calm the nervous system and reduce background stress. S â Share Community matters. Body doubling matters. Doing things with other people (even silently) can dramatically increase follow-through. H â Hype This one is about self-talk and emotional regulation. Exercise, meditation, and kindness toward yourself arenât luxuries, theyâre performance tools for ADHD brains. đĽ Standout Moments Pauletteâs line: âMy version of consistency is that I get back up every time I fall down.â The difference between luxury vs. accommodation, especially when traveling Ericâs take on requesting extra time to board flights and why it can be a legitimate accommodation The idea that shame doesnât create change (it creates shutdown) Why ADHD-friendly success often looks like iteration, not perfection đ§ ADHD-Friendly Takeaway If your brain only gives you one usable step today, let it be this: Pick the smallest thread you can hang onto to stay connected to the work. Open the document. Read one paragraph. Write one sentence. Show up for one increment. That counts. That builds trust. đ¤ About Paulette Perhach Paulette Perhach is a writer, teacher, and ADHD coach who helps writers and creatives build sustainable, fulfilling creative lives. Her work has appeared in major outlets, and she leads writing and meditation sessions through her community programs. đ Resources Mentioned Paulette Perhach (website): Writerâs Mission Control Center: Freedom App (distraction blocking) â
Work With Eric / Join the Community Want structure that actually works for your ADHD brain? Winter 2026 Groups Forming Now! -- February 5-6 | April 2-3Registration EventsThursday, January 15, 22, 29 at 4:30 PM PT / 7:30 PM ETFriday, January 16, 23, 30 at 7:30 AM PT / 11:30 AM ET
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559 ADHD & AuDHD Burnout: Why Community & Accountability Still Matter Personal Updates & Listener Questions
01/14/2026
559 ADHD & AuDHD Burnout: Why Community & Accountability Still Matter Personal Updates & Listener Questions
In the final Q&A of 2025, Eric is joined by ADHD reWired coach Brian for a candid, intimate conversation about ADHD, AuDHD, burnout recovery, unmasking, grief, and what it looks like to rebuild momentum without torching your nervous system in the process. They answer listener questions ranging from âwhat I wish I knew before my autism diagnosisâ to âwhat burnout actually looks like,â and they zoom out to something simple but powerful: community and accountability arenât ânice extras,â theyâre often the difference between knowing what helps and actually doing it. Also: a listener puts Eric in the hot seat about getting back to pickleball⌠and it turns into real-time accountability, immediate action, and a follow-up update that heâs now going 3â4 times a week. In this episode, we cover Personal updates: burnout recovery, nervous system capacity, and Ericâs autism diagnosis Why AuDHD can increase burnout risk (and why recovery can take longer than you expect) Brianâs reflections on exploring autism and recognizing long-term burnout patterns Unmasking: what it really means (beyond âcoming outâ) and how it impacts relationships The balance between honoring your needs while still caring about impact on others Grief and burnout: how loss affects the nervous system, energy, and expectations What burnout looks like in real life: apathy, feeling rudderless, skill regression, and âmy usual motivators arenât workingâ Ericâs working theme for the year: attunement (listening to self, body, and capacity) Favorite AI tools right now: thinking partner, planning support, and everyday practical use Autism assessment options in Chicago (including what worked for Eric) A playful-but-serious accountability moment that leads to real behavior change Listener Q&A highlights What are your favorite AI tools right now? Eric and Brian share how theyâre using ChatGPT in everyday life and personal/professional planning, including using AI to organize thoughts, support self-reflection, help with decisions, and even analyze photos for practical problem-solving. What do you wish youâd known before being diagnosed autistic? Eric talks about high-masking autism, and how repeated success can quietly raise internal expectations year after year⌠until the nervous system taps out. How has grief impacted your nervous system and burnout? Eric reflects on losing his dad (and grandmother), how grief shows up unexpectedly, and choosing to let grief be grief rather than trying to âbounce backâ on a schedule. What does burnout look like for you? Eric describes burnout as apathy, feeling rudderless, needing far more recovery time, anxiety no longer activating last-minute productivity, and struggling to do even the helpful things (like exercise/pickleball). Whatâs the smallest step I can take to get back into pickleball? A listener challenges Eric to take one tiny step⌠and it becomes immediate action, membership sign-up, and later consistency. Resources mentioned ADHD reWired (podcast, programs, and more): Learn about Coaching & Accountability Groups: Adult Study Hall (virtual coworking + community): Support the show on Patreon: Prosper Health (online autism evaluations): Devon Price (author + clinician mentioned in the episode): Key takeaway Burnout recovery isnât linear. For AuDHD folks especially, the cycle of âI feel better â I go full throttle â I crash againâ can repeat fast. This episode is a reminder that community and accountability arenât just support⌠theyâre infrastructure. Next live Q&A March 10 at 12:30 PM Central
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When âFineâ Keeps Us Stuck: A Reflection on My Dad, Masking, and Adapting ep 558
10/06/2025
When âFineâ Keeps Us Stuck: A Reflection on My Dad, Masking, and Adapting ep 558
âIâm Fineâ: What My Dad Taught Me About Resisting Help On August 14th, my dad passed away. In the weeks since, Iâve been reflecting on his life, his humor, his resilience â and his signature phrase: âIâm fine.â He said it when he was hooked up to machines in the hospital. He said it when he was on the roof cleaning gutters, even though his balance was shot. And most of the time, he wasnât fine at all. In this episode, I share some of the lessons I learned from my dad about adapting â and about the cost of resisting it. From the adult trike he never would have bought for himself, to the senior living community he resisted but came to love, my dadâs story is a mirror for the ways we all struggle with change, masking, and accepting support. I also talk about my own journey: being diagnosed with ADHD at 19, and more recently, with autism â a diagnosis that really came into focus during a season of burnout. Like my dad, Iâve had to learn that determination isnât enough. Saying âIâm fineâ isnât enough. What matters is adapting â and allowing ourselves to receive help when we need it. If youâve ever caught yourself saying âIâm fineâ when youâre not, this oneâs for you. In This Episode The phrase my dad used that wasnât always true â âIâm fine.â How his resistance to adapting shaped my understanding of masking. The trike that gave him joy he wouldnât have chosen for himself. Why moving into a senior living community became one of the best decisions he never wanted to make. What his struggles taught me about ADHD, autism, burnout, and learning to adapt. Resources & Links Learn more about ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: Join our virtual co-working community: Support the podcast on Patreon:
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Building Systems that work for you (and not the other way around) with Stephanie Blake - Ep 557
09/30/2025
Building Systems that work for you (and not the other way around) with Stephanie Blake - Ep 557
đ§ Episode Summary: Are you building a business (or a life) that supports your lifeâor one that runs you into the ground? In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers is joined by business systems coach and automation strategist Stephanie Blake. Diagnosed with ADHD later in life, Stephanie shares how simplifying her business, embracing structure, and getting honest about burnout helped her reclaim her energy and build a business that works for her, not the other way around. They talk about the unique ways ADHD brains thrive with streamlined systems, why too many tools can be a trap, and how authenticity and self-awareness fuel sustainable success. If youâve ever felt overwhelmed trying to do all the things, this episode is your permission slip to do lessâbetter. Youâll also hear tips for where to start with automation, how to avoid shiny object syndrome, and why consistency matters more than complexity. âąď¸ Timestamps & Topics: 00:00 â Intro 02:02 â Stephanie's story: diagnosis, business, and burnout 06:11 â âSimplify to scaleâ: the ADHD-friendly approach to business 11:58 â Tools and systems that actually help (and what to ditch) 18:05 â Where to start with automation (without breaking your brain) 21:42 â The myth of doing it allâand why solo doesnât mean alone 26:39 â Whatâs behind our addiction to new tools 30:14 â The power of community and authenticity in building your brand 35:20 â Why revisiting your systems is a must, not a maybe 38:17 â Final thoughts: automate the right things, at the right time 40:36 â Learn more from Stephanie + Fall Coaching Groups are open! đ¤ Guest Bio: Stephanie Blake is the founder of the Simple Business School and Simple Business Suites. She helps entrepreneurs scale to six figures and beyond by simplifying their business systems, automating strategically, and building offers that align with their values. As a mom, a CEO, and an ADHDer, Stephanie believes in doing business your wayâand building something that lasts. đ Learn more at: đą Instagram: đ§ Tools & Resources Mentioned: â Project Management â Databases / Organizing Everything â Automation â Live Streaming Platform đ Learn More & Take Action đ§ Fall 2025 Coaching Groups are open for registration! If you're ready to finally get support, structure, and accountability that works for your ADHD brain, then come join us. Join our next Registration Event: đ
Friday, October 3rd at 12pm Central OR đ
Thursday, October 9th at 10am Central October 3rd: $1699 October 9th (Late Reg): $1899 đ 3- and 6-month payment plans available! đ Start your pre-registration now at đ Learn more about: Adult Study Hall (Virtual co-working): Support us on Patreon: đ§ Listen & Share If this episode helped you feel less alone or gave you a new perspective on how to run your business or your life with ADHD, share it with a friendâor on social! Use #ADHDreWired to join the conversation.
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Hustle, Flow or Let it Go? Lessons from Burnout and Grief - with Dr. Portia Preston - Ep 556
09/15/2025
Hustle, Flow or Let it Go? Lessons from Burnout and Grief - with Dr. Portia Preston - Ep 556
What does it really mean to know when to push, when to pause, and when to let go? In this heartfelt conversation, Dr. Portia Preston returns to ADHD reWired to share insights from her book Hustle, Flow, or Let It Go? We talk about burnout, shame-free wellness, and the small practices that can help us create a more sustainable rhythm in life. This episode weaves together stories of resilience and grief, the reality of living with ADHD and autism, and Portiaâs SANE model (Slow down, Acknowledge, Navigate, Evaluate)âa simple framework to help you reset when overwhelm takes over. We also talk about support squads, the hidden cost of hustle culture, and what it means to choose rest without shame. If youâve been running on empty, carrying grief, or just wondering if thereâs another way forward, this conversation is for you. 00:00 â Introduction: Shame Free Wellness and unlearning harmful beliefs 01:07 â Welcome to ADHD Rewired, host Eric Tivers introduces the show 01:31 â Eric shares personal news: loss of his father and recent illness 03:06 â Portia Preston joins: author, speaker, and executive coach 05:36 â Portia discusses the motivation behind her book and the concept of sustainable rhythm 07:54 â The SANE Cycle: a four-step process for self-reflection and growth 08:49 â Book launch experiences, balancing promotion, and authenticity 10:57 â Defining âhustleâ and âflowâ in the context of wellness 13:00 â Letting go: the challenge and importance of releasing what doesnât serve you 15:21 â The SANE model explained: Slow down, Acknowledge, Navigate, Evaluate 17:06 â Portiaâs favorite part of the book and audience reactions 17:52 â Break: Coaching and accountability group info ââ- ââ- 18:48 â Grief, burnout, and the importance of sitting with discomfort 22:00 â Building a support squad and the difference between solitude and isolation 25:00 â Neurodivergence, intersectionality, and Portiaâs experience as a Black woman with ADHD and autism 29:00 â Audience feedback on the book and the importance of vulnerability 33:00 â Shame Free Wellness Manifesto (read aloud) 35:44 â The importance of rest, authenticity, and self-acceptance 39:00 â Context shifting, capacity vs. discipline, and self-compassion ââ- Dr. Raquel Martin on Instagram: 43:00 â Teaching students about shame-free wellness and legacy 46:00 â Grief, community, and turning pain into purpose 49:00 â The value of showing up authentically and embracing imperfection 52:00 â Where to find Portiaâs book and connect online ââ- Book: âHustle, Flow, or Let It Go: A Guide to Shame-Free Wellnessâ âââ⢠âââ⢠ââ- Instagram: 54:00 â Closing thoughts: SANE model reminder and encouragement 56:00 â Outro: gratitude and next steps
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People Pleasing & ADHD: When "Yes" is a Nervous-System Response and How to Stop with Anita Sandoval, LPC - EP 555
08/11/2025
People Pleasing & ADHD: When "Yes" is a Nervous-System Response and How to Stop with Anita Sandoval, LPC - EP 555
People-pleasing isnât a personality flawâoften itâs a nervous-system strategy. Licensed Professional Counselor and ADHD-CCSP Anita Sandoval joins Eric to unpack how the fawn response shows up with ADHD, trauma, and RSD; how it differs from masking and conflict avoidance; and what real change looks like. We cover Anitaâs âEmpower â Resilient â Authenticâ model, ADHD-friendly EMDR adaptations, and the messy-but-worth-it work of boundaries (including with narcissistic family dynamics). Resources, Anitaâs links, and a quick survey about a potential evening coaching group are in the full notes at ADHDreWired.com. Guest: Anita Sandoval, LPC-S, EMDR-Certified, ADHD-CCSP â therapist, supervisor, and author of Broken Chains (English & Spanish). Host of Empowering Women in Conversations and creator of Empower Her Pathways. We cover: People-pleasing as a neuro-adaptive response (fight/flight/freeze/fawn) People-pleasing vs. conflict avoidance vs. masking ADHD & RSD: why âneutralâ feedback stings and how regulation shifts it Differentiating from personality disorders (dependent/BPD) Hypervigilance, ACEs, and emotional regulation circuits Boundaries with narcissistic dynamics (including the âvictim narcissistâ pattern) Anitaâs staged model (Stages of Change Ă grief work): Unaware â Aware â Ready â Action â Maintenance â Integration (Empowered â Resilient â Authentic) Therapies that help ADHD brains: EMDR with resourcing, IFS/parts work, polyvagal-informed regulation Ericâs EMDR story: from trigger spirals to co-regulation Try this: Notice your next automatic âyes.â Ask: Is this aligned with my values, or is my nervous system chasing safety? Then practice one tiny boundary this week and track before/during/after. Resources mentioned: Anita Sandoval â (course: Empower Her Pathways) Broken Chains (English/Spanish) Dr. Ramaniâs work on narcissism (Should I Stay or Should I Go?) Modalities: EMDR, IFS/Parts, Polyvagal-informed approaches Coaching & community: Evening Coaching Group â interest survey Weâre exploring a fall evening section (proposed Wed, Sept 18 ⢠5pm PT / 8pm ET) led by ADHD reWired Coach & LCSW Kristin Marts, at a budget-friendly rate (starting at $999) if we move forward. Deadline to weigh in: Aug 15. Take the short survey at . Complete the survey to enter to win 6 months free in our Alumni community ($240 value) or 1 year free of Adult Study Hall ($240 value). Adult Study Hall (ASH) â virtual co-working & body doubling. Free 1-week trial, then $19.99/mo or $150/yr at . Connect with Anita: | Podcast: Empowering Women in Conversations
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554 | OCD with ADHD: Could your anxiety be OCD? with Natalia AĂza
07/07/2025
554 | OCD with ADHD: Could your anxiety be OCD? with Natalia AĂza
What is OCD, really? Itâs far more than the stereotypes of handwashing, tapping, or lining up your pens just right. On todayâs episode, Eric is joined by Natalia AĂza â a therapist, parent, writer, and co-founder of Kairos Wellness Collective â who specializes in supporting individuals and families navigating OCD and anxiety. Together, they explore how OCD can show up in less obvious ways, especially for those with ADHD. Youâll hear: â
Why OCD is often missed or misdiagnosed in ADHD brains â
How intense nostalgia, perfectionism, and social media checking can all be forms of OCD â
The difference between typical anxiety and OCD â
Why intrusive thoughts donât define you â
How exposure response prevention (ERP) and medication can help â
Ericâs own reflections on healing unexpected layers through EMDR and discovering his autism If youâve ever felt stuck in mental loops, struggled with perfectionism, or wondered whether your patterns might be more than âjustâ ADHD, this episode is for you. Learn more about Natalia Aiza and Kairos Wellness Collective: đ Instagram: đ Kairos Wellness Collective: đ Email: Ready to take the next step with your ADHD? Don't miss our second 2nd chance Registration Event for the summer ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups on Thrusday, July 10. Visit to learn more and secure your spot.
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The ADHD Productivity Manual with Ari Tuckman, PSY.D, MBA
06/30/2025
The ADHD Productivity Manual with Ari Tuckman, PSY.D, MBA
Support Comes from ADHD reWIred's Coaching and Accountability Groups. Summer Sessions are July 24 - Sept 18. Join us at our next registration event on July 10th. Learn more by going to Episode Overview: In this episode, Eric is joined by Ari Tuckman, PSY.D, MBA, psychologist, international presenter, and author of the new "ADHD Productivity Manual." Together, they dive deep into the realities of productivity for people with ADHD, exploring motivation, activation, self-compassion, and practical strategies for getting things done. Key Topics Discussed: The difference between motivation and activation, and why both matter for ADHD brains How perfectionism and unrealistic expectations can sabotage progress The importance of understanding your "why" for each task, not just the "what" Social aspects of productivity: people-pleasing, setting boundaries, and communicating when you canât meet a deadline Real-world strategies and creative hacks from Ari, Eric, and their clients (including timers, accountability, and engineering urgency) The value of celebrating small wins and tracking progress over time Self-compassion and letting go of impossible standards How to build systems that work for your unique brain, not just follow generic advice Guest Bio: Dr. Ari Tuckman is a leading ADHD expert, psychologist, and author of five books, including the "ADHD Productivity Manual." He brings decades of clinical experience and a practical, compassionate approach to helping people thrive with ADHD. Resources & Links: Learn more about Ari and his books: Join ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: Check out Adult Study Hall for virtual coworking: Support the Show: Become a patron for bonus content and monthly coaching calls: Sign up for the newsletter and get episode resources: Takeaway: Youâre not broken, and you donât have to do hard things the hardest way or alone. Progress is possibleâone step, one system, and one act of self-compassion at a time. Thanks for listening!
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Special Episode: Alumni Stories of Change + Registration Details Inside
06/21/2025
Special Episode: Alumni Stories of Change + Registration Details Inside
đ§ Special Announcement: Alumni Voices + Your Chance to Join ADHD reWired In this special announcement episode of ADHD reWired, Eric shares something a little different: a powerful 10-minute audio montage of alumni from our most recent coaching group â voices from ADHDers just like you who finished the program not long ago. Youâll hear, in their own words, why they joined, what they were struggling with, and what changed for them over 8 weeks of coaching, accountability, and connection. From burnout and overwhelm to self-doubt and shame, these stories highlight the real transformations that can happen with the right support. đ Our second-chance registration event is Thursday, June 26th at 10 AM Pacific / 1 PM Eastern! â
Pre-registration is due by Wednesday, June 25th at least 24 hours before the event. đ Session details: Mondays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays 10 AM Pacific / 1 PM Eastern July 24th through September 18th đĽ Ready to join us? Hereâs your next step: 1ď¸âŁ Go to 2ď¸âŁ If youâre not already on our interest list, click the button to join 3ď¸âŁ Check your email and confirm your address so you donât miss anything When you join the interest list, youâll also get: A free time tracker we use in group A letter you can share with your employer about the program đ§ Even if joining this season isnât possible for you, we hope these alumni stories remind you: đ Youâre not alone. đ You can do hard things â and you donât have to do them the hardest way possible.
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551 | Queer and Neurodivergent Pride - Panel Discussion 2025
06/14/2025
551 | Queer and Neurodivergent Pride - Panel Discussion 2025
đ§ Episode Overview Join host Eric Tivers and three incredible panelistsâNathan James, Meg Zirger, and Christal Wangâfor the second-annual Neurodivergent Queer Pride panel, organized by Shimmer. In this landmark conversation, we explore: Masking vs. Unmasking: Why hiding feels safe and how reclaiming your authentic self fuels resilience. Intersectional Identities: How ADHD, autism, and LGBTQ+ pride intersectâand why that intersection is a source of strength. Political Climate & Pride: Strategies for holding onto joy and courage when the world feels heavy. Power of Community: From isolation to solidarityâwhy peer support is essential for lasting change. Whether youâre neurodivergent, queer, an ally, or simply curious, this panel offers actionable insights, heartfelt stories, and affirmations to help you thrive. đŻ Key Takeaways Masking Is Exhausting Childhood âsurvival modeâ often becomes adult burnout. Unmasking is an ongoing, courageous process of self-discovery. ADHD + Queer = Unique Superpower Both identities challenge âscriptsâ society hands us. Embracing difference unlocks creativity, empathy, and authenticity. Pride Under Pressure Celebrate safely: balance vigilance with joy. Collective conversation and advocacy build courage. Community as Catalyst Small cohorts and online groups reduce shame and spark accountability. Shared experiences create âme-tooâ moments that heal and empower. âąď¸ Timestamps 00:00 Welcome & Episode Intro 01:04 What Is Neurodivergent Queer Pride? 03:07 Panelist Introductions & Backgrounds 09:30 Personal Identity Journeys: âScriptsâ & Masking 17:36 Societal Expectations: Fitting In vs. Standing Out 29:18 Deep Dive on Masking & Self-Acceptance 38:59 Holding Pride in a Difficult Political Climate 48:12 The Role of Community in Connection & Healing 54:48 Final Affirmations & Advice 57:41 Closing Thoughts & Next Steps đ Resources & Links Join ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups (Season 41) ⸠Live kickoff: Wed, June 18 ⢠2 PM CT ⸠Pre-registration due: Tue, June 17 ⢠2 PM CT ⸠đ Shimmer (Episode organizer; online ADHD coaching platform) ⸠Co-founder & panel host: Christal Wang đ Adult Study Hall (24/7 ADHD-friendly coworking) đ đĄ Next Steps Subscribe to ADHD reWired so you never miss an episode. Share this episode with friends who identify as neurodivergent, queer, or allies. Explore our summer Coaching & Accountability Groups to turn these insights into real-world growth. Your whole self belongs. Letâs celebrate, connect, and thriveâtogether.
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550 | Decide Ai Tools made by and for brains like ours with Dr Shannan Palma
06/05/2025
550 | Decide Ai Tools made by and for brains like ours with Dr Shannan Palma
In episode 550 of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers sits down with Dr. Shannan Palma to explore Decideâa suite of AI-powered decision-support tools built by and for neurodivergent brains. Throughout this conversation, youâll hear about: How Decide leverages AI (Gemini and large language models) to help with everyday choices and multi-step tasks. The story behind IT Assistive Technologies and the Autistic Self-Reliance Support Network. Real-world examples of âdecision fatigueâ and how Decideâs guided and randomized features ease choice paralysis. The balance between AI assistance and human insightâand why a trusting, well-prompted tool can feel like a personal neurodivergent life coach. Pricing, privacy, and the community-focused mission: 85 percent of ITIâs profits fund disability-led initiatives. Bonus segments on Pride Month, coaching groups, virtual coworking, and how to get involved with ADHD reWiredâs summer programs. Use these show notes to get a quick overview, find useful links, and discover why Decide might become your new go-to when youâre stuck choosing dinner, figuring out a daily routine, or simply need a gentle ânudgeâ to move forward. Episode Summary Dr. Shannan Palmaâco-founder of Decide and co-director of the Autistic Self-Reliance Support Networkâjoins Eric to unpack how tools designed by autistic and ADHD adults can transform decision making for all of us. Shannan shares her own late autism and ADHD diagnoses, the challenges she faced finding resources after getting âthe piece of paper,â and how a 48-hour hackathon sparked a project that won first prize and secured nearly $400 k in grant funding. From door-dash dilemmas to life-altering choices (like whether to adopt a foster dog), Decide offers two core modes: Randomized Choice Generator Users create custom lists (e.g., favorite restaurants, daily routines) and assign energy costs. The app selects an option based on your current energy levelâno more breakfast indecision or âwhat to watch nextâ paralysis. Guided Decision Assistance A series of friendly, âaffirmativeâ prompts mirror a real-time coach. By reflecting back your own criteria (energy, resources, priorities), Decide delivers a percentage-confidence recommendation and rationaleâso you can make a defensible, informed choice without overthinking. Along the way, Shannan emphasizes the importance of privacy (your data always belongs to you), ethical AI (focusing on âdo no harmâ), and how Decideâs freemium model avoids the âADHD taxâ by offering 10 free guided decisions per month. Premium access is available for $4.99/month, but you can cancel at any time without losing progress. Key Takeaways Why âDecision Fatigueâ Matters: Neurodivergent brains often struggle with countless small choices (e.g., âWhatâs for dinner?â). Decideâs randomized generator isnât just for funâit reduces executive-function load by factoring in your energy level and pre-ranked options. Guided Mode = Personalized Neurodivergent Coaching: Instead of writing complex prompts for ChatGPT or Claude, Decide asks you targeted yes/no/unsure questions. Once you answer, it gives a clear recommendation (with a confidence score) plus a brief âwhy,â so you trust your decision-making process. Built by Autistic + ADHD Makers: After Shannanâs late autism diagnosis, she realized few supports existed for lower-visibility autistic adults. A 48-hour hackathon (Give Back Hack Columbus) brought together autistic and ADHD engineers, designers, and researchersâleading to Decideâs prototype and subsequent $400 k grant from Ohioâs Department of Developmental Disabilities. Community-First Funding Model: 85 percent of any IT Assistive Technologiesâ profits flow back to the Autistic Self-Reliance Support Network (ASR). ASR focuses on autonomy and resources for autistic adultsârather than caregiver researchâaiming to expand capacity and economic inclusion across the lifespan. Privacy & Data Rights: Decide wonât train AI on your personal data, and you retain full ownership of anything you input. Future plans include an opt-in research repository for autistic/ADHD lifespan dataâgoverned by community safeguards. Bonus: Pride Month & ADHD ReWired Community Updates: Neurodivergent Pride Panel: Friday, June 13th at 10 AM PT / 1 PM ET (free registration at ). Summer Coaching Groups kick off July 24thâsave $200 by joining the registration kickoff on June 18th (more info at ). Adult Study Hall: Virtual coworking with monthly âPomodoro Dance Partiesâ (4th Friday, Pride-themed on June 27th). Try a 1-week free trial at . Next Live Q&A: Tuesday, June 10th at 10:30 AM PT / 1:30 PM ET (become a Patron at for behind-the-scenes coaching calls). Resources & Links Decide AI Decision Assistant ⢠Web: ⢠App Store (iOS) & Google Play (Android) ⢠Guided decisions: 10 free/month; Premium: $4.99/month (cancel anytime) Dr. Shannan Palma & IT Assistive Technologies ⢠IT Assistive Technologies (for-profit): ⢠Autistic Self-Reliance Support Network (non-profit): ⢠LinkedIn: (mention you heard the podcast!) Neurodivergent Pride & June Events ⢠Neurodivergent Pride Panel (June 13): ⢠Adult Study Hall Pomodoro Dance Party (June 27): ADHD ReWired Coaching & Community ⢠Summer Coaching Groups (start July 24): ⢠Live Q&A (June 10): RSVP details sent to interest list ⢠Patreon: Books & References ⢠Annie Duke, Thinking in Bets (on decision quality vs. outcome quality) ⢠âSelling Out the Spectrumâ by Ryan E. Conviction (autistic journalist on research ethics)
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549 | Diagnosed AuDHD: Navigating Burnout, Balance, and Blind Spots with Dr. Shannan Palma
05/19/2025
549 | Diagnosed AuDHD: Navigating Burnout, Balance, and Blind Spots with Dr. Shannan Palma
Summer coaching groups start on July 24th. LIstners can save $200 by signing up at the registration kickoff event on June 18th. Learn more and get on the interest list at Eric shares updates about prioritizing sustainable energy practices and coping with recent family challenges, including the passing of his grandmother and his father's health issues. The main segment features Dr. Shannon Palma, founder and CEO of ITI Assistive Technologies, discussing her late autism and ADHD diagnoses. She shares insights into her decades-long journey with executive function challenges, her comprehensive self-diagnosis process, and the development of support tools for neurodivergent adults. Shannon and Eric delve deeply into the nuances of autistic and ADHD burnout, the differences between autistic burnout and occupational burnout, and the challenges of masking and managing sensory sensitivities. The episode also reveals the host's own recent autism diagnosis, providing a reflective and personal perspective on understanding neurodivergence. The episode wraps up with contact information and a teaser for a follow-up episode focusing more on Shannon's work and the host's continued exploration of his diagnosis. 00:00 Introduction and Announcements 02:30 Ericâs Personal Updates and Challenges 05:12 Guest Introduction: Dr. Shannon Palma 06:32 Shannon's Diagnosis Journey 09:42 Sensory Sensitivities and Family Traits 16:56 Burnout and Neurodivergence ADS 26:56 Support and Community 28:36 Join Coaching Rewired This Summer 28:42 Introducing Adult Study Hall 30:54 Exploring Autism and ADHD 34:12 Self-Diagnosis and Professional Insights 35:29 Navigating Social Cues and Sensory Sensitivities 40:35 Understanding Neural Processing 46:56 Social Interactions and Coping Strategies 53:37 Wrapping Up and Contact Information
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548 | Wait... We're AuDHD?
04/07/2025
548 | Wait... We're AuDHD?
What happens when two ADHDers realize there's more to the story? In this deeply personal and exploratory episode, Eric is joined by his friend and fellow coach, Portia Jackson Preston, for an honest, vulnerable, and unmasked conversation about discoveringâlater in lifeâthat theyâre not just ADHD⌠they're also autistic. April is Autism Acceptance Month and thereâs no better time to peel back the layers. Eric and Portia share their parallel journeys of exploring what it means to be AuDHD, how autism was hiding in plain sight for both of them, and how late diagnosis is reshaping their self-understanding, their relationships, their parenting, and their work. Together, they unpack: What unmasking looks likeâand feels likeâespecially when it's not a conscious choice Why self-diagnosis is valid and often necessary How intersecting identities impact recognition and diagnosis The grief and growth that come with seeing your past through a new lens Why autistic burnout hit both of them so hard (and what theyâre doing now to recover) And how this shift is impacting their businesses, boundaries, and sense of self Youâll also hear about how EMDR therapy played a pivotal role in both of their journeys, how the Johari Window concept reframed Ericâs understanding of his blind spots, and how reconnecting with their full, authentic selves has allowed for deeper joyâeven in the weirdest places (like dancing at a Phish show with hand flaps in full glory). This is the kind of conversation that gives others permission to explore, to question, and to be. đ Related links & resources: Portia Jackson Preston on Instagram: đ§ Takeaways: Unmasking isnât a one-time eventâitâs a process. Late diagnosis can be both a relief and a reckoning. Self-compassion isnât optional; itâs a survival tool. You donât have to prove your neurodivergence to anyone. Itâs okay to change. Itâs okay to grieve. And itâs okay to rest.
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547 | Dopamine Dollars - Making Neurodivergent Friendly Financial Systems with Ellyce Fulmore
03/14/2025
547 | Dopamine Dollars - Making Neurodivergent Friendly Financial Systems with Ellyce Fulmore
đ Guest Info: Today's guest, Elise Fillmore, is a queer and neurodivergent financial educator, bestselling author, and the founder of Elise focuses on identity-based finance, helping people navigate money through the lens of their lived experiences, challenges, and strengths. Sheâs also the author of Keeping Finance Personal and the host of the Dopamine Dollars podcast. đĄ Episode Highlights: How traditional financial advice often fails neurodivergent people Why financial planning should be tailored to your identity, lifestyle, and brain Strategies for making money management less overwhelming and more engaging The importance of automation and dopamine-driven finance systems Why shame and financial struggles are often systemic, not personal failings Common financial myths and why some mainstream advice (like Dave Ramseyâs) doesnât work for ADHDers Practical ways to infuse joy into budgeting and create sustainable financial habits How to set up "fun money" accounts and make saving more rewarding Why financial tools and strategies âexpireâ for ADHDers â and what to do about it The role of external accountability in managing money đ Resources & Links: Elise Fillmore's Website: Instagram: TikTok: Book: Keeping Finance Personal â Available in hardcover, ebook, and audiobook Podcast: Dopamine Dollars â Available on , , and more đ Mentioned in This Episode: A list of dopamine-boosting activities to help manage impulsive spending đ˘ Support ADHD reWired! Leave a rating & review on Apple Podcasts or wherever you listen Share this episode with someone who might find it helpful Become a to help us keep creating great content! đ Join ADHD reWiredâs Coaching & Accountability Groups! Our Spring 2025 Coaching Groups are coming up soon! April 24 - June 19 Registration Events: March 27 & April 2 Learn more & sign up: đĽ Adult Study Hall - ADHD reWired's Virtual Co-working community. New Zen Tangle and Journal with me sessions on Sundays at 8:30am PT / 11:30am ET đ§ Donât Miss the Next Episode! Subscribe & follow so you never miss an episode of ADHD reWired!
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546 Reducing Miscommunication among neurodiverse teams with Chris Hooten
02/28/2025
546 Reducing Miscommunication among neurodiverse teams with Chris Hooten
In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers welcomes Chris Hooten, a LinkedIn Top Facilitation Voice and certified neuro-mindfulness coach. With over 15 years of experience, Chris specializes in helping neurodiverse organizations foster inclusive communication, leadership, and workplace strategies. Eric begins the episode with a personal update, sharing his ongoing journey of overcoming burnout and a recent formal autism evaluation. He also highlights his interviews on Chasing Life with Dr. Sanjay Gupta and Entrepreneur on Fire, as well as the pressing need for advocacy in the face of recent policy changes that threaten diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) initiatives. The core discussion revolves around communication challenges in neurodivergent teams and how traditional workplace structures often fail to accommodate neurodiverse employees. Chris introduces the 4D Model of Neuroinclusive Communicationâa framework designed to improve communication by making it more descriptive, deliberate, direct, and diverse. They discuss common workplace miscommunication issues, the pitfalls of platforms like Slack for neurodivergent individuals, and how managers can foster psychological safety. Chris also explores the systemic barriers that impact neurodivergent and marginalized individuals in professional spaces. They emphasize shifting away from medicalized, deficit-based narratives about neurodiversity and adopting an intersectional, affirming approach that values lived experiences. Eric and Chris conclude by reflecting on the evolving nature of work, the need for workplace wellness, and how neurodivergent individuals are often the first to recognize unsustainable work environments. Chris shares insights on fostering genuine inclusion rather than performative DEI efforts and provides strategies for improving workplace culture. đ Find Chris Hooten: | LinkedIn | Instagram đĄ Resources & Announcements: Pre-registration is now open for the ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups. Secure your spot at . Spring Sessions April 24 - June 19th. Join Adult Study Hall for virtual co-working and upcoming Zentangle workshops at . Support the show on Patreon at . đ§ Listen Now! Donât forget to subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast app! Contact Chris at ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups: Adult Study Hall: Eric on the Chasing Life Podcast - Eric on Entrepuner on Fire 5 Calls
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545 ADHD Growth Journeys An Alumna Coaching Experience and My Path towards Sustainable energy management - Group Registration Ends this Week
01/06/2025
545 ADHD Growth Journeys An Alumna Coaching Experience and My Path towards Sustainable energy management - Group Registration Ends this Week
In this episode of ADHD reWired, Iâm pulling back the curtain on two intertwined journeys: my own path toward sustainability and the incredible growth story of Jessica, an alumna of our ADHD Coaching and Accountability Groups. As Iâve navigated my own challenges with burnout and the pressures of juggling too much, Iâve made a commitment this year to focus on what matters most. My word for the yearâsustainabilityâhas reshaped how I approach my work, my energy, and even this podcast. Jessicaâs story adds another layer of depth to this episode. After feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected while pursuing her PhD, Jessica joined our fall coaching group. Through her deeply personal and reflective audio journal, she shares how the program helped her build sustainable systems, reconnect with her goals, and find the motivation to tackle her work and her life with renewed energy. From discovering the power of accountability teams to replacing old habits with more supportive ones, Jessicaâs transformation offers hope and inspiration for anyone seeking to live more intentionally with ADHD. This season, weâve made changes to our coaching program to better support ADHDers like you. Now 8 weeks instead of 10, the program is more focused and accessible. Weâve also introduced on-demand access to our yearly planning sessions, allowing you to go at your own pace. These adjustments reflect the principle that less is truly more when it comes to creating meaningful and lasting growth. The final registration events for our Winter Coaching and Accountability Groups are Wednesday and Thursday of this week, so now is the time to take the next step. If youâre ready to stop juggling fireballs and start building a more sustainable, ADHD-friendly life, visit to pre-register today. Tune in to hear Jessicaâs story, learn more about what makes our coaching groups so transformative, and find inspiration to start your own growth journey. Together, letâs challenge internalized ableism and reimagine what it means to thrive with ADHD.
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544 ADHD at 80 Miles an Hour
12/20/2024
544 ADHD at 80 Miles an Hour
Eric Tivers continues to reflect on his journey of overcoming burnout and seeking solutions for long-term sustainable energy management. ADHD at 80 MPH is a nod to the last episode recorded in the car about 9 years ago. Episode 47 called . Recording from his car during a road trip, Eric shares his experiences of taking a solo retreat to recharge and refocus and to think about yearly planning. He discusses his efforts to rebalance his work and personal needs, and some insights he's recently gained. The episode also touches on his continued discovery of being autistic alongside having ADHD and how it's shaping his approach to life and business. Eric also announces the opening of registration for winter coaching and accountability groups, reflecting on the value of community and structured support for ADHD individuals. The episode concludes with hearing from some recent coaching group alumi and with logistical details about upcoming coaching sessions and community events. 1:07 Winter Coaching and Accountability Groups 01:30 Road Trip Reflections 03:47 Burnout and Sustainability 15:45 Coaching Group Success Stories 22:02 Upcoming Events and Announcements 25:36 Conclusion and Farewell Registration for our winter groups starts Jan. 3, 2025. Winter sessions are January 30 - March 27. Add your name to our interest list at It's not to late to do your yearly planning with ADHD reWired in . Our 5-part yearly planning series is available on demand for Adult Study Hall Members. Join today. It's only $19.99 a month, or save with an annual membership for only $150 for the year. You can also support this work on *Note - There will be no Monthly Patreon Coaching Call, or Pomodoro Dance Party for Adult Study Hall Members in December. But we'll be back in January.
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543 Overcoming Burnout - Personal Reflections
11/09/2024
543 Overcoming Burnout - Personal Reflections
And We're Back!!! In episode 543 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers returns to mark a new beginning for the podcast. Eric focuses this episode on recognizing and overcoming burnout. After 10 years of weekly episodes, plus other stressors in business and life, the pace became unsustainable, leading him to experience significant burnout. Eric elaborates on these elements of burnout, describing emotional exhaustion as a deep-seated fatigue that impacts life engagement, depersonalization as growing detachment and cynicism towards work, and diminished personal achievement as a sense of ineffectiveness despite efforts. He recounts personal struggles, including a divorce and other stressors that exacerbated his burnout. Eric discusses the importance of meaningful alone time to recharge, using his motorcycle trips as an example of finding mental clarity and rebalancing life. He also outlines changes in his coaching seasons to ensure sustainability. Additionally, Eric introduces a new offering for Adult Study Hall where he will be leading members through a 5-week guided workshop for planning your year beginning November 20th, 2024. Learn more at - Plus sign up with our new annual plan and get 37% off your membership. Join us for our Live Monthly Q &A every 2nd Tuesday of the Month at 10:30 AM PT / 1:30 PM PT. RSVP at Support ADHD reWired by becoming a Patron at 00:00 Welcome to ADHD reWired 01:19 Introduction to Season Two 02:40 Understanding Burnout 03:19 Emotional Exhaustion 04:48 Depersonalization and Cynicism 06:02 Reduced Personal Accomplishment 07:57 Diagnosing Burnout 09:47 Personal Journey and Realizations 13:03 Rebalancing Life and Work 14:25 Upcoming Coaching Groups and Community Events 18:50 Yearly Planning Sessions 21:27 Conclusion and Future Plans
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542 Tunnel of Focus: Monotropism, Trauma, and Thriving with ADHD and Autism with Mattia Mauree
08/23/2024
542 Tunnel of Focus: Monotropism, Trauma, and Thriving with ADHD and Autism with Mattia Mauree
In this episode of ADHD reWired, Eric Tivers is joined by Mattia Mauree, an award-winning composer, poet, and host of the AUDHD Flourishing Podcast. Mattia shares their insights into the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals, particularly those with ADHD and autism, as they navigate trauma, self-expression, and what they describe as "attention tunnels." Mattia opens up about their personal journey, discussing the impact of complex PTSD, disordered eating, and their late diagnoses of ADHD and autism. They explain how monotropismâhaving a narrower field of focusâshapes their experience as a neurodivergent person. Through the lens of monotropism, Mattia explores how being stuck in an attention tunnel can make transitioning to different tasks or social situations feel overwhelming and distressing. Eric and Mattia dive deep into the intersections of trauma and neurodivergence, examining how neurodivergent brains may be more easily traumatized, especially in environments that fail to meet their unique needs. They discuss the profound impact of neurodivergent parents raising neurodivergent children and the challenges of navigating systems that donât support their differences. This conversation also highlights the importance of self-expression in healing and flourishing. Mattia explains how self-expression, rather than achievement, has become central to their definition of success, emphasizing the importance of creating work that resonates emotionally, even if it doesn't fit the traditional metrics of success. Other topics discussed include: The connection between hyperfocus and monotropism in ADHD and autism How Mattia balances creativity, self-care, and flourishing as a neurodivergent individual The complexity of navigating trauma in neurodivergent families The importance of community and support systems for neurodivergent creatives and entrepreneurs This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in understanding the complex interplay of trauma, neurodivergence, and flourishing. Whether you identify as neurodivergent or are simply curious about these experiences, this conversation offers valuable insights into the importance of creating space for self-expression, healing, and growth. Connect with Mattia Mauree: Website: Podcast: Support ADHD reWired on Patreon: If youâve enjoyed this episode and want to support the podcast, consider becoming a patron at . Your support helps keep the podcast going and brings more episodes to listeners like you! Join ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups: Our coaching groups return this fall! Learn how to manage your ADHD more effectively in a supportive, community-based program. Visit to get all the details.
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541 | Are you addicted to your screen? with Alex Basche LMFT
07/25/2024
541 | Are you addicted to your screen? with Alex Basche LMFT
In episode 541 host Eric Tivers speaks with licensed marriage and family therapist Alex Bache about digital addiction and its impact on ADHD, anxiety disorders, and OCD, particularly in adolescents and young adults. The discussion covers identifying behavioral addictions, the role of dopamine in addiction, and interventions like motivational interviewing and harm reduction. They also explore the balance between gaming for social connection and potential addiction, offering strategies for parents and individuals. Additionally, Eric updates listeners on his coaching groups and upcoming plans for the podcast. Topics Include: Addressing Digital Addiction Meet Alex Bache: Expert on Digital Behavioral Addictions Understanding Behavioral Addiction Game Transfer Phenomena Explained Interventions for Digital Addiction The Role of Harm Reduction Digital Hygiene Practices The Power of Accountability and Connection Reflecting on Changes in ADHD Coaching Gaming and Social Connection Managing Screen Time Collaboratively Balancing Screen Time and Family Activities Recognizing Digital Addiction Conclusion and Contact Information Connect with Alex at
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540 | Hormones, Migraines, Social Skills with Gilly Kahn Ph.D
06/29/2024
540 | Hormones, Migraines, Social Skills with Gilly Kahn Ph.D
Welcome back to another episode of ADHD reWired. Our guest today is Dr. Gilly Khan, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist who specializes in working with children, teens, and young adults dealing with anxiety, depression, and ADHD. In this episode, Dr. Khan shares her personal journey with ADHD, discusses the impact of hormonal fluctuations on ADHD symptoms, and offers practical advice on improving emotional regulation and social skills. Dr. Gilly Khan's Journey with ADHD Dr. Gilly Khan was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 33, a revelation that came as no surprise to her. Like many women, she had suspected for years that she might have ADHD. Her journey towards diagnosis began when she noticed ADHD symptoms in her young daughter, leading her to seek a diagnosis for herself. Encouraged by a colleague who was open about her ADHD diagnosis, Dr. Khan decided to embrace her neurodiversity and advocate for herself and her clients. The Impact of Hormonal Fluctuations on ADHD One of the most significant insights Dr. Khan offers is the connection between hormones, particularly estrogen, and ADHD symptoms. She explains that hormonal fluctuations can significantly impact mood, memory, and overall ADHD symptoms. This is crucial for women, especially during periods of hormonal change such as menstruation, pregnancy, and menopause. Dr. Khan shares her personal experience with migraines, which she began having in college, and later discovered were linked to estrogen levels. Her experience highlights the importance of considering hormonal influences when diagnosing and treating ADHD in women. Practical Advice for Emotional Regulation Dr. Khan emphasizes that medication can significantly help reduce ADHD symptoms, including emotional dysregulation. However, she also discusses the importance of practical strategies to manage emotions. One key approach is to take a time-out when feeling overwhelmed and practice coping skills like deep breathing in a calm environment before re-engaging with the situation. Dr. Khan's recommendation to include parents in the process is particularly insightful. Coaching parents to help their children recognize emotional dysregulation and use coping strategies can make a significant difference. Social Skills in ADHD Addressing social skills, Dr. Khan discusses the effectiveness of social skills groups, especially when tailored to the needs of neurodivergent individuals. She notes the importance of applied practice and the role of parents in coaching their children outside of therapy sessions. For adults with ADHD, Dr. Khan suggests finding activities and clubs that align with their interests to facilitate meeting like-minded individuals. She also highlights the importance of planning social interactions, just like planning professional activities, to maintain relationships. Overcoming Social Challenges Both Eric and Dr. Khan share personal anecdotes about the challenges of remembering names and maintaining social connections. Practical tips such as using a planner to schedule social activities and taking photos to remember names illustrate how even small strategies can make a big difference. Advocacy and Self-Education Dr. Khan stresses the importance of self-advocacy and educating oneself about ADHD. She advises seeking out credible resources and being prepared to discuss specific symptoms and experiences with healthcare providers. Her message is clear: understanding and advocating for oneâs own neurodiversity is crucial for effective treatment and self-acceptance. Conclusion Dr. Gilly Khanâs insights provide a deeper understanding of the complexities of ADHD, particularly in women. From the impact of hormonal fluctuations to practical strategies for emotional regulation and social skills, her expertise offers valuable guidance for both individuals with ADHD and those supporting them. To learn more about Dr. Gilly Khan, her work, and her upcoming book on emotional dysregulation, visit her website at drgillykhan.com and follow her on Instagram at @drgillykhan. Thank you for tuning into ADHD reWired. If you found this episode helpful, consider supporting the podcast on Patreon, and don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode. Together, we can continue to learn, grow, and support one another in our ADHD journeys. *Shownotes generated by Ai
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539 | Sex, kink, and communication with Vida Carey
06/25/2024
539 | Sex, kink, and communication with Vida Carey
In episode 539 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers welcomes neurodivergent coach Vida Carey, who specializes in sex and relationships. Together, they dive into conversations about sexuality, intimacy, and the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in these areas. Vida shares her experiences and provides insights on discussing sex openly, defining kink, exploring different relationship structures, and addressing sexual desires in a shameless and authentic manner. The episode emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding personal needs, and fostering intimacy while managing ADHD. Additionally, the podcast highlights resources and support available through ADHD reWiredâs coaching programs and virtual community. Navigating ADHD and Intimacy: Conversations with Neurodivergent Coach Vida Carey In episode 539 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers welcomes Vida Carey, a neurodivergent coach specializing in sex and relationships, who emphasizes comfort through humor and candid vulnerability. The discussion delves into the unique challenges of navigating sexual intimacy for those with ADHD, including overcoming societal norms, advocating for oneself, and understanding hyper- and hyposexuality. Vida shares her insights on redefining sex, utilizing intimacy menus, and having open conversations about one's desires. Additionally, the episode addresses the importance of developing healthy communication practices in relationships and offers a humorous yet candid look into making sex a more comfortable topic for neurodivergent individuals. The episode closes with reflections on how neurodivergent couples can better understand and support each other's needs. 00:00 Introduction to ADHD reWired 01:08 Meet Coach Vida Carey 02:36 Navigating Sex and Relationships 05:13 Understanding Kink and Communication 07:31 Advocating for Yourself in the Bedroom 10:16 Exploring Sexual Desires and Intimacy 18:33 Sex Rewards and Intimacy Menus 22:33 ADHD reWired Coaching Groups 28:38 Hyper and Hyposexuality in Neurodivergent Brains 30:44 The Reality of Life and Sex 31:48 Hypersexuality vs. Sexual Addiction 32:49 Exploring Relationship Structures 36:32 Navigating Intimacy and Communication 38:27 The Journey to Intimacy Coaching 41:41 Common Questions About Sex 47:51 The Importance of Communication in Sex 56:01 Final Thoughts and Resources
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538 | Queer and Neurodivergent: A Panel Discussion
06/17/2024
538 | Queer and Neurodivergent: A Panel Discussion
Episode 538 of the ADHD reWired podcast, hosted by Eric Tivers, addresses the complexities and intersections of neurodivergence (ADHD and autism) and LGBTQ identities. The episode features a panel discussion from a NeuroDivergent Pride event, co-hosted by Chris Wang from Shimmer. The panel includes Eric, Nate, and Vida, who share their personal journeys of coming out as queer and neurodivergent. They discuss the challenges of navigating societal expectations, masking, and the importance of supportive communities. The episode also emphasizes the impact of visibility and advocacy in both the ADHD and LGBTQ communities, encouraging listeners to join supportive spaces and take steps to be proud of their identities. 03:24 NeuroDivergent Pride Panel Introduction 09:14 Panelists Share Their Stories 22:34 Exploring Neurodivergent and Queer Identities 31:55 Impact of Heteronormative and Neurotypical Expectations 38:04 High-Level Masking and Personal Experiences 38:50 Coming Out and Family Reactions 40:40 Navigating Identity and Cultural Expectations 43:37 Unmasking and Embracing Neurodivergence 46:06 Challenges of Masking and Survival Strategies 53:30 The Continuous Process of Coming Out 01:04:12 Getting Involved in Neurodivergent and LGBTQ Communities 01:13:29 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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537 | Coaches Roundtable - Legacy and Bucket List Planning S36w7
06/10/2024
537 | Coaches Roundtable - Legacy and Bucket List Planning S36w7
đŁRegistration is OPEN for our Summer Coaching and Accountability Groups - Learn more at đłď¸âđFree Neurodivergent Pride Month Panel is this Thursday at 1:30 PM PT / 4:30 PM ET - Register at This week we focused on the importance of planning for the future and prioritizing meaningful activities, with what Eric likes to think of as "Big Heart Week." The coaches emphasized the need to direct energy towards activities that provide a sense of purpose and emotional fulfillment and shared their personal experiences with setting and achieving goals. The discussion also revolved around creating and reviewing bucket lists as a way to connect with one's inner desires and plan for meaningful experiences. Prioritizing Meaningful ActivitiesIn the latest episode of the Adhd Rewired podcast, Eric, Coach Kristen, and Coach Brian discussed the importance of planning for the future and prioritizing meaningful activities. The theme of the week was "Big Heart Week," focusing on issues that might be difficult to confront. Brian emphasized the significance of directing energy towards activities that provide a sense of purpose and emotional fulfillment rather than just productivity. Eric concurred, stressing the need to recognize the unpredictability of life and carve out time for activities that matter. The coaches shared their experiences of helping clients approach these topics and encouraged listeners to reflect on their own priorities. Discussing Personal Bucket Lists and Goals Eric encouraged members to plan for their long-term goals and dreams, and initiated a discussion about personal bucket lists. Coach shared that she has noticed a pattern among members where practical considerations, such as creating a will or planning for children, often come up when making bucket lists. This realization has led to more intentional goal-setting and planning. The group also recognized the value of sharing and knowing each other's dreams and aspirations. Shared Projects, Accomplishments, and Motivation An anecdote was shared about a person's enthusiasm and eagerness to move forward with a shared project. Eric then discussed the joy he found in seeing group members sharing their accomplished bucket list items, finding it both entertaining and inspiring. Brian, who participated in an annual bikeathon fundraiser for the Aids Life Cycle, shared his personal experience of setting a goal to participate in the event, initially hesitant due to self-doubt, but eventually realizing his capability to achieve it. His accomplishment provided him a sense of enrichment and motivation in all areas of his life. Creating and Celebrating Bucket-List Experiences Eric emphasized the importance of creating and reviewing a bucket list as a way to connect with one's inner desires and plan for meaningful experiences. He suggested that people should be intentional about their bucket lists, allowing themselves to enjoy the anticipation of upcoming experiences and celebrating achievements along the way. Coach Kristin added that unexpected experiences also qualify as bucket-list items and should be recognized and celebrated. The team also shared personal bucket-list items, including Eric's story of a delightful experience at a clothing-optional campsite.
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536 | Coaches Roundtable - Numbing or Self-care s36w6
06/04/2024
536 | Coaches Roundtable - Numbing or Self-care s36w6
Introduction to the Episode: Eric Tivers welcomes listeners back and introduces the current season (36) Main Topic: The discussion focuses on self-care and numbing behaviors. Eric emphasizes the importance of understanding the differences between intentional self-care and behaviors that serve as emotional numbing. The context is week 6 of the program where these topics are explored in detail. Intentional Self-Care vs. Numbing: The dialogue underscores the need for mindfulness in distinguishing between self-care activities that genuinely contribute to well-being and behaviors that might temporarily mask emotional distress. Impact of Self-Care: The conversation also touches on the positive impacts of being intentional about self-care practices, possibly suggesting strategies or insights into improving mental health and managing symptoms of ADHD through mindful self-care rather than numbing. These insights reflect an ongoing commitment to addressing complex emotional behaviors in the context of managing ADHD, with a focus on improving overall mental health and awareness. *This summary was generated using Ai
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535 | Mischief and Shenanigans with Dr. Roberto Olivardia
05/25/2024
535 | Mischief and Shenanigans with Dr. Roberto Olivardia
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534 | Coaches Roundtable - Habits and Routines - S36 Week 4
05/21/2024
534 | Coaches Roundtable - Habits and Routines - S36 Week 4
Welcome back to another episode of ADHD reWired! This episode is part of a special series we're calling the Coaches Roundtable, where ADHD reWired Coaches Brian Entler and Kristin Marts join me to discuss what's happening in our coaching and accountability groups each week. This week we're diving into the content from the 4th week of our coaching and accountability groups. This week, we're discussing importance of building strong foundations around habits and routines as an essential precursor to more effective daily and weekly planning. Come join us for our Summer Coaching and Accountability Groups. Take advantage of Early Bird Pricing by registering before May 27th. Learn more at Key Topics Discussed: Introduction: Eric Tivers welcomes listeners and introduces the special series focusing on the content from the 4th week of the coaching and accountability groups. Foundational Strategies: Eric, Kristin, and Brian discuss the importance of establishing routines as a strong foundations for managing ADHD. They share personal experiences and professional insights on creating routines and habits that support productivity and well-being. Tracking Progress: The conversation shifts to the significance of tracking progress. Eric explains how tracking can provide valuable insights and help in adjusting strategies for better outcomes. Kristin and Brian share their favorite tools and techniques for effective tracking. Sleep Management: Brian discusses the critical role of sleep management and shares tips on establishing a nighttime routine. The importance of consistent sleep patterns and how they can impact ADHD symptoms is highlighted. Engaging in Routines: Kristin shares her group's experiences with engaging in morning routines and how small adjustments can lead to significant improvements in managing ADHD symptoms. Personal Stories: Eric, Kristin, and Brian share personal anecdotes about their own routines, sleep management, and tracking progress, providing relatable and practical advice for listeners. Closing Remarks: Eric wraps up the episode with key takeaways and encourages listeners to implement the discussed strategies in their daily lives.
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533 Coaches Roundtable - To Do Lists - S36 W3
05/14/2024
533 Coaches Roundtable - To Do Lists - S36 W3
Episode Overview: Welcome back to Week 3 of the ADHD reWired Coaches Round Table! This episode dives into the intricacies of to-do lists and how to adapt them for ADHD brains. Eric, Kristen, and Brian explore how traditional productivity tools often fall short for neurodiverse individuals and share strategies to make them more effective. We're kicking off early bird registraton this week for our summer coaching groups. Take Advantage of our Early Bird Special - Join for only $999. Offer ends May 27, 2024. Learn more at Key Topics Discussed: Emotional Connections to ADHD and Productivity: Recap of last week's discussion on writing letters to ADHD. Importance of addressing emotional issues to enhance planning and productivity. Reimagining To-Do Lists for ADHD: Brian explains the common struggle with to-do lists designed for neurotypical people and the need to tailor these tools for ADHD brains. Exploration of different approaches to using to-do lists effectively, including bringing real-life data into coaching sessions. Common Pitfalls and Solutions: Challenges with traditional to-do list items like vague entries (e.g., "doctor") and how they create confusion and resistance. Introduction of "vision verbs" to provide clear, actionable steps. Importance of specificity and context in to-do list items to reduce the mental energy required to activate tasks. Personal Experiences and Group Insights: Kristen shares her group's emotional and vulnerable discussions about old to-do list items and the associated shame. The benefits of having accountability teams and how they integrate with to-do lists. Scaffolding and the 'Why': Eric introduces the concept of including the "why" in to-do list items to connect emotional importance with tasks, boosting motivation and activation. Examples of how understanding the "why" can make it easier to tackle tasks, such as scheduling a vet appointment for a beloved pet. Practical Tips and Next Steps: Encouragement to experiment with new strategies and understand the trade-offs in time and executive function. Teaser for next week's topic on daily and weekly planning, routines, and managing transition times between tasks. Quotes: "Think about how long we sort of wrestle with things that are just sticking around on our to-do list, or even worse, start working on a task we've already done." - Eric Tivers "Tasks often create tasks. It's just called adulting." - Eric Tivers "You can spend time on the front end or the back end, but one of them makes you feel bad." - Kristin Marts Final Thoughts: The episode concludes with a reflection on the importance of re-engineering productivity tools to suit ADHD brains, addressing both the emotional and practical aspects of task management. Stay tuned for next week's discussion on establishing effective routines and planning strategies. Hosts: Eric Tivers Kristin Marts Brian E Join us next week as we delve into the foundations of daily and weekly planning to enhance productivity and reduce the stress of managing tasks. *This summary was generated using Ai.*
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