How to deal with unaddressed wounds that still affect your life

The first thing in dealing with the wounds that still affect your life, is to acknowledge the problem or issue. Find out why this issue is hindering you, find the root cause of the issue, and find out why is it so bothersome to the point of controlling and affecting the course of your life. It's not an easy task to finding the root cause, but it is possible, if you seek the Lord in prayer. If you want to know the truth about yourself, seek the Lord in prayer about who you are and why you feel the way you do about life. The Lord will give you the answers if you believe. You have to trust and ask the right questions.

Wounds can be so damaging, even those that are repressed, those are the most dangerous wounds. They are the ones that disquise themselves and periodically rear their heads up when something good seems to be too good to be true and causes fear to step in. Then its those wounds that cause us to sabotage relationships, job opportunities, spiritual growth, or the opportunity to be set free from the bondage of the enemy. Those wounds that have been designed to paralye you and keep you from reaching the plan and purpose for your life. Its's a derailment tactic designed by the enemy of our souls. If he can keep us discouraged, depressed and oppressed then he has won half the battle. We, would not, be in the position, that the Lord has predestined for us.

What is predestination? It is the state of being predestined, the doctrine that God in consequence of his foreknowledge of all events infallibly guides those who are destined for salvation. Now, you ask yourself what does this have to do with wounds that are not addressed or repressed?

The wounds that you do not recall are the wounds that invisibly keep you bound they are invisible chains and locks, and they are too painful to recall on a daily basis, you have to chip away at the stones, chains, and locks that have hidden them from your sight. However, this is the same wound that when it is accidentally rubbed it lifts up and the pain you feel is that of the infection that was never cured, so like a kid you try to protect by becoming very careful with how you handle it, or you keep people away from it so they can't see or touch it.

In order for you to heal that wound that has been unaddressed, once you seek the root of the wound out, then you have to lift that scab and start addressing the different types of infections it has. You have to treat the anger, bitterness, fear, unforgiveness, possibly hate, identify the cause of the wound. The wound could be failed marriage, adultery, rape molestation, drug addiction, alcoholism, prostitution, feeling unworthy, how you were treated as a youth in your home or at school, if you were bullied as a kid or sometimes as an adult, if you had a blended family, and you felt alone, if you felt like you didn't belong or you just wanted people to hear you and they shut you down, you felt rejected or abandoned. Did you feel like you mattered? Where you called names as a child? Can you identify the root cause of your unaddressed wounds? Where you molested by a relative, did someone touch you inappropriately? Were you lied to as a child and you have trust issues, because the person or persons who lied to you were people that you idolized? Were you the topic of ridicule, were you married and your spouse cheated on you or abused you and no one believed you, because he/she hid the abuse well? Were you threatened with violence if you spoke out about what you were going through and would be assaulted if you told what happened to you, or a family member that you love was threatened to be harmed as well? Were you locked up in a basement or attic and only let out to go to school or work? Where you denied food, clothing, and baths to keep you under control? Were you continously sexually assaulted by a loved one who you admired? 

These could be some root causes to your wounds and if left repressed will continue to affect and direct the course of your life and will keep you bound from the freedom that the Lord is trying to get you too. You may have even experienced the loss of a child and it just grips you so bad that you don't want to have any kids due to fear of another loss. I know, I was terrified when I found out that I was pregnant with my son, I was so fearful and I tried not to think about life with him, because I felt like I would lose him. I continued doing the drugs and living a life that was not in the best interest of the child. That's how warped my thinking had become from the wounds.

You have to begin to face some of these areas and find that one, that is holding you back, it could be several, but just deal with one at a time. Find a journal, and start writing some of your thoughts down on paper. Try to recall different relationships you had and how they affected you from the beginning to the end of them. How was your childhood, what sticks out at you the most? What was the worst thing that you ever experienced and see if that is a sore spot in your life? It's all kinds of wounds that keep us from our destiny.

The more I sought after the Lord, the more he dealt with my heart problem, the wounds that I had, The more I read, the more I saw myself in scripture, the more I prayed, the more he showed me, but this was over a course of several years. He took me from childhood issues to teenage issues and adulthood, he showed me the wounds that I had and why. He showed me the medication to use on each wound that I had, and some of the medication, I honestly did not want to take, because I did not want to touch the wound. I had gotten use to the infection being there and sometimes, I liked the feeling it gave me. I guess you would say that was part of the sickness from the wound, because it started affecting the mental state of the body, making me think that the infection was normal, and that I was normal. But, I wasn't normal, especially when people started noticing things being off about me. You know those things that as a child, you wished they had paid attention to, so you could have been healed, but now your an adult, and you just don't care, because, you have decided that this is your normalcy.

Did you know that the Lord will send people to you to ask you questions about yourself just to get you to think? I remember when my wounds started getting addressed, I was in my early twenties. I had an instructor at a technical college who posed this question to me: Tabatha, why is it that when I try to correct you, you get upset? That instructor at that moment had me address my low self-esteem. Had she not asked me that question, I wouldn't have known that feeling came from family telling me that I will not amount to anything. So, you have to ask the right questions in order to find out what the unaddressed wound is that is affecting each part of your life. It may be one wound, or it could be many wounds. Take it one wound at a time, I don't want you to bleed all over the place to the point that you can not function, trying to bandage all these things at once. 

Ask yourself what is the major thing affecting your life? Then get to the root of it. That requires you to dig deep. Once you find that wound then now it's time to start doing some operating on it. You have to see how deep the infection goes, see what spiritual recommendations are needed to treat it. It could need a dose of forgiveness, conflict resolution, prayer, fasting and reading healing scriptures daily. What ever it takes for you to get healed, allow the Lord to guide you to it. He will never lead you the wrong way. His word is a map to living a life of wholeness.