Are you holding on to relationships due to fear of being alone?

Are you holding on to relationships, because you are afraid of being alone? Are you settling for the mistreatment, disrespect, abusive language because they tell you they love you? Are you holding on to that abuser who hits you because, you didn't get dinner cooked on time, or you didn't give them money to go shopping, or to buy drugs or alcohol.  I have one question. Why? Do you devalue yourself that much, that you would tolerate the mistreatment just for someone who claims to love you, but is bringing you down spiritually, mentally, emotionally and financially? I'm not men bashing, because there are women that are out her that do the same things. 

I'm here to set you free. You are more than what you think and you deserve more than what you are getting. Do not crawl up in a ball and cry yourself to sleep over someone who has done you wrong and who has no desire of changing. If they hit you once, they will hit you again. I know first hand. Everything that I share with you is from first hand knowledge. It wasn't until I decided, I wanted something different, that changes began to be made. I had to make up in my mind that I wanted better. Sweethearts, you have to make up in your mind that you want more, you want better, you want to be treated well and not have fear of being alone for a period of time. You will need that time to heal from the abuse you sustained, if you don't you will just carry that baggage  into another relationship and it will fail. There are no ifs, ands, or buts, about it. 

Sometimes we hold on to failing relationships, because we are afraid of starting over, or we're afraid of financial situations, emotional attachments, the intimacy of it all, but ask yourself this. Was it healthy for you? Are you able to laugh? Do you have joy?  Are you happy in what you have right at this moment? or, Are you pretending to be all those things just to save face with your peers? 

You have to be able to face some hard truths when deciding on what is best for you, your health, your mental state. I would say to you chose wisely. There is nothing so sad then someone to spend over 20 plus years of there life with someone that they truly never knew or never truly loved, and what about the one who says after that time period I only married you for convenience.  That is a hurtful thing to have happen.  Think about what is best for you, I'm not telling anyone to leave their marriage, I'm talking to those of you who have been in relationships that are abusive and your life is in harms way. 

For those of you who are married, seek counseling, but by all means make the right decision for your situation, because everyone situation is different, and the resolution maybe different for each person's situation.

Here's my prayer for you tonight:

Dear Lord, I come to you today with lifted hands thanking you for being our Heavenly Father, our protector, redeemer, our prince of peace, the lily of the valley, the bright and morning star. I thank you for your son dying on the cross for our sins and transgressions. Lord right now I lift up the listeners of open the wound asking that you touch each and everyone of them under the sound of my voice. Touch them in the areas of weakness, despair, frustrations, those that are feeling unloved, defeated and they have no way of escape. Show them Lord that you are there with them, wrap your loving arms around them and comfort them, bring peace where there is confusion and restore what is broken, mend it back together better than before. Send men and women of God around them to encourage and strengthen them. I pray that hearts be healed, minds are restored and renewed and the peace of God will be upon you all in Jesus Mighty name I pray. Amen