What belief systems do you have that may contribute to your mental health?
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What are belief systems? They are beliefs about religion, world views, economical views, based off what has been experienced in life, while be raised as a child, and could be developed by harsh treatments well into adulthood. Some beliefs that I've heard are about races of people, it is stated that some groups of people are lazy and just want to be taken care of. While other groups of people work hard for what they want, and are entitled to wealth. Belief systems are taught, and are not necessarily positive ways of thinking. If your belief system is causing you to be confused about life...
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Wounds from words spoken over our lives.
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I pray that today finds you in good spirits, I pray that you have overcome wounds that you never thought you could or would overcome and heal from. Today, we will talk about wounds from words spoken in your life. Many people have said that sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt us. That is not true. According to Proverbs 18:21 Amplified states: Death and Life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it and indulge it will eat its fruit and bear the consequences of their words. Colossians 3:8-9 states: But now you yourselves are to put off all these:...
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Soul Ties Influencing Your Life and What are They?
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Good day everyone! I pray that you all have been doing well and that the Lord has truly been dealing with you all in different areas of your lives. I pray that all is well with your spirits, your mental health, and your financial health as well. Today, I want to talk to you about the topic of Soul ties. I'm almost positive that at some point in your christian life or journey, you have heard the term Soul ties, and were told that they need to be broken from your life. If you have not heard it, let me give you some insight on the definition. A soul tie is an emotional and spiritual...
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Are you dealing with stubbornness leading you the wrong way? How? and Why?
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I believe all of us in times have dealt with someone who exhibits stubborn behaviors and we either ignore them or we address them with truth. We have probably gotten cursed out, because people don't want to deal with the truth of their behaviors. Well, the word of the Lord gives us correction, and sometimes we get upset when we read his word, so we begin to overlook different scriptures dealing with our own attitudes, or behaviors so to speak. I know you're asking yourself what does this have to do with stubbornness? My answer to that is a lot! Most of us do not handle correction well,...
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Refrain from the Norm
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STOP don't fall for the normal tricks, you know the one that got you hurt the last time, and the time before. You know the pattern that you always tend to fall for, either in intimate relationships or in friendships. What is wrong with you? Why do you keep setting yourself up for failure, and then fall into a depressed state? Do you have " use me" written across your forehead, or, are you putting too much expectations on relationships, or in people who do not care about the relationship as much as you? Why do we automatically feel that just because you associate with someone that you are best...
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What's residing in your heart?
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Do you know what's in your heart, and where the root of your troubles come from? Do you wonder or ask yourself why you feel sadness? Why do you get angry about different situations more than others? Are you upset about how you handle situations? Do you question your thoughts or the opinions of others, because you feel uneasy or uncertain about life, and or the general direction your life is going? Are you trying to find yourself, because you feel lost? Have you experienced so much turmoil in life that you second guess everything you think and every thing that is spoken to you? Do you...
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Are you holding on to relationships due to fear of being alone?
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Are you holding on to relationships, because you are afraid of being alone? Are you settling for the mistreatment, disrespect, abusive language because they tell you they love you? Are you holding on to that abuser who hits you because, you didn't get dinner cooked on time, or you didn't give them money to go shopping, or to buy drugs or alcohol. I have one question. Why? Do you devalue yourself that much, that you would tolerate the mistreatment just for someone who claims to love you, but is bringing you down spiritually, mentally, emotionally and financially? I'm not men bashing,...
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Love past your pain
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I know it hurts, but you have to give it a chance. Don't allow the enemy to steal or rob you of what could be a gift from the Lord. You'll always wonder if you let it pass you by. What am I talking about? I'm talking about the opportunity to love, to have a real love, something that is so wonderful it makes you feel like that little giddy school girl or boy with their first crush. I'm talking about the love that the Lord speaks about, the unconditional love, agape love. In christianity it is the highest form of love, the love of God for man, and of man for God. Is it possible to...
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What residue from past hurts are influencing your thoughts or moods?
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Do you still have insecurities about failed relationships, feelings of worthlessness, feeling neglected or unloved? Sometimes we feel that things are going good, and it takes one thing to send us in a downward spiral or emotional unrest. I believe that we go through different levels or phases in our spiritual growth to mature us and to help us gain wisdom and understanding on how we should examine ourselves daily. Just like we go every three months to six months to the doctor to maintain our physical health, we need to also conduct a mental, emotional, and spiritual check-up...
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Body image and shaming.
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Today, I want to briefly discuss with you the topic of body image and shaming. The reason for this topic today is due to a conversation that took place with a relative of mine a few days ago. Someone that they had deep feelings for in the past made contact with them, and one of the things that they asked, was, are you still fat? How dare you ask that question, was my thought. So I decided to dedicate this episode to anyone who may feel like they are being judged by their weight, the color of their skin, their hair, their eyes, shape, or whatever. Let me share this with you, I myself as a...
info_outlineToday we will discuss: What Do I Have to Offer? I recall some years ago while in my mid-twenties, I asked myself; what do I have to offer? Of course this was after several disappointments in relationships that failed. I thought the relationships were actually going somewhere, but I found out that they were very toxic to my mental health and well-being.
Sometimes we find ourselves in this mental state asking different questions of ourselves, because we feel like we are not worthy of anything good. I know this happens in everyone's life at some point, especially with disappointment in relationships, jobs and in life general. The funny thing about disappointment is that it teaches a valuable lesson. That is to search deep within yourself to find out what caused the disappointment? What were you looking for in the relationship that you didn't get? What expectations did you place on the individual that was not rational, or maybe it was rational, and they just didn't measure up to your expectations?
Most disappointmens happen, because of expectations being too high for the individual to achieve. We have to realize that as expectations have been placed on us by our parents, friends, or colleagues, that we struggle to appease them, but it's not in our hearts or it's not our passion.
What do you have to offer? Search your heart and mind, see what makes you tick. Parents may want you to be a doctor, but you may love music, law, science, psychology. You maybe one that wants to make a difference in peoples lives or in your community. It doesn't make you less important, if you chose to be a dog walker or the President, your human and trying to find your place in this world. People can put damaging wounds on others because of their expectations of you. Be the best version of yourself, find your voice and use it.
Galatians 1:10 For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.
I had to come to the reality about my own life. I found myself trying to impress my mother, because of our strained relationship, trying to obtain love or acknowledgement from her, trying to show her that I am worthy of her love. My mind was warped due to me being born from rape, I felt like I had to validate my life, to make it count for something. I finally realized that it was not making me happy, I was miserable, and my heart was hurt because of my expectations. When you get to a place in life and find out just how damaged you are, and why you do certain things, the purpose of them and the outcomes that you hoped for don't manifest, you set yourself up for failure and disillusionment, then you walk away with clarity. You begin to search out ways to better yourself for you and noone else.
Galatians 1:10 is about you not seeking the approval of man, or trying to please man. You will begin to seek approval from the Lord once you start seeking after the plan the Lord has for your life, you'll begin to pray asking him to direct your footsteps, to lead you and guide you on the path he designed for you.
Proverbs 16: 3 commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be establlished.
We all have different gifts, talents, we use them to the best of our abilities, not to be in competition with someone else. Most people have these invisible competitions with others, and they didn't even know there was a competition.
I remember during the holidays our family would come together and sometimes there would be cooking rivals, if someone cooked a dish and a relative opened their dish to give someone a taste the other relative would go to their dish and say no try mine first. It was invisible competition that was not necessary, trying to see who cooked the best, or who would it more of what person's dish than the other. It was maddening. The point is no matter what you are good at or bad at you do have something to offer.
You offer yourself, your expertise, your heart, your love, your kindness, your flaws and all. Just offer yourself and believe me, there is someone that can and will be helped by a gift that the Lord has given you. Trust the process of healing from those disappointments that caused you damage.
As always I hope this episode helps you see that you do have something to offer and that there is truly healing for your mind, body spirit and soul.
Have a wonderful week and know that the Lord loves you and so do I.