What belief systems do you have that may contribute to your mental health?
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What are belief systems? They are beliefs about religion, world views, economical views, based off what has been experienced in life, while be raised as a child, and could be developed by harsh treatments well into adulthood. Some beliefs that I've heard are about races of people, it is stated that some groups of people are lazy and just want to be taken care of. While other groups of people work hard for what they want, and are entitled to wealth. Belief systems are taught, and are not necessarily positive ways of thinking. If your belief system is causing you to be confused about life...
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Wounds from words spoken over our lives.
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I pray that today finds you in good spirits, I pray that you have overcome wounds that you never thought you could or would overcome and heal from. Today, we will talk about wounds from words spoken in your life. Many people have said that sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt us. That is not true. According to Proverbs 18:21 Amplified states: Death and Life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it and indulge it will eat its fruit and bear the consequences of their words. Colossians 3:8-9 states: But now you yourselves are to put off all these:...
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Soul Ties Influencing Your Life and What are They?
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Good day everyone! I pray that you all have been doing well and that the Lord has truly been dealing with you all in different areas of your lives. I pray that all is well with your spirits, your mental health, and your financial health as well. Today, I want to talk to you about the topic of Soul ties. I'm almost positive that at some point in your christian life or journey, you have heard the term Soul ties, and were told that they need to be broken from your life. If you have not heard it, let me give you some insight on the definition. A soul tie is an emotional and spiritual...
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Are you dealing with stubbornness leading you the wrong way? How? and Why?
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I believe all of us in times have dealt with someone who exhibits stubborn behaviors and we either ignore them or we address them with truth. We have probably gotten cursed out, because people don't want to deal with the truth of their behaviors. Well, the word of the Lord gives us correction, and sometimes we get upset when we read his word, so we begin to overlook different scriptures dealing with our own attitudes, or behaviors so to speak. I know you're asking yourself what does this have to do with stubbornness? My answer to that is a lot! Most of us do not handle correction well,...
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Refrain from the Norm
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STOP don't fall for the normal tricks, you know the one that got you hurt the last time, and the time before. You know the pattern that you always tend to fall for, either in intimate relationships or in friendships. What is wrong with you? Why do you keep setting yourself up for failure, and then fall into a depressed state? Do you have " use me" written across your forehead, or, are you putting too much expectations on relationships, or in people who do not care about the relationship as much as you? Why do we automatically feel that just because you associate with someone that you are best...
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What's residing in your heart?
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Do you know what's in your heart, and where the root of your troubles come from? Do you wonder or ask yourself why you feel sadness? Why do you get angry about different situations more than others? Are you upset about how you handle situations? Do you question your thoughts or the opinions of others, because you feel uneasy or uncertain about life, and or the general direction your life is going? Are you trying to find yourself, because you feel lost? Have you experienced so much turmoil in life that you second guess everything you think and every thing that is spoken to you? Do you...
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Are you holding on to relationships due to fear of being alone?
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Are you holding on to relationships, because you are afraid of being alone? Are you settling for the mistreatment, disrespect, abusive language because they tell you they love you? Are you holding on to that abuser who hits you because, you didn't get dinner cooked on time, or you didn't give them money to go shopping, or to buy drugs or alcohol. I have one question. Why? Do you devalue yourself that much, that you would tolerate the mistreatment just for someone who claims to love you, but is bringing you down spiritually, mentally, emotionally and financially? I'm not men bashing,...
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Love past your pain
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I know it hurts, but you have to give it a chance. Don't allow the enemy to steal or rob you of what could be a gift from the Lord. You'll always wonder if you let it pass you by. What am I talking about? I'm talking about the opportunity to love, to have a real love, something that is so wonderful it makes you feel like that little giddy school girl or boy with their first crush. I'm talking about the love that the Lord speaks about, the unconditional love, agape love. In christianity it is the highest form of love, the love of God for man, and of man for God. Is it possible to...
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What residue from past hurts are influencing your thoughts or moods?
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Do you still have insecurities about failed relationships, feelings of worthlessness, feeling neglected or unloved? Sometimes we feel that things are going good, and it takes one thing to send us in a downward spiral or emotional unrest. I believe that we go through different levels or phases in our spiritual growth to mature us and to help us gain wisdom and understanding on how we should examine ourselves daily. Just like we go every three months to six months to the doctor to maintain our physical health, we need to also conduct a mental, emotional, and spiritual check-up...
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Body image and shaming.
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Today, I want to briefly discuss with you the topic of body image and shaming. The reason for this topic today is due to a conversation that took place with a relative of mine a few days ago. Someone that they had deep feelings for in the past made contact with them, and one of the things that they asked, was, are you still fat? How dare you ask that question, was my thought. So I decided to dedicate this episode to anyone who may feel like they are being judged by their weight, the color of their skin, their hair, their eyes, shape, or whatever. Let me share this with you, I myself as a...
info_outlineOne of the most important things to do in order to love again, is to forgive the person, yourself, and learn from past mistakes. We all have an idea of what love should be like, but if we were wounded from childhood, and never received counsel, or never got over the pain from it. We tend to base love on false reality, the reality that love may sometime hurt and be abusive, it may cheat on you, and drag you through the mud. NO! Love should not be painful, it will not tear you down, it will not call you out of your name, it will not withhold anything good from you.
Love is kind, gentle, caring, concern, patient, true and honest. People have warped senses of what love can and should be. Jesus showed us what love is, by dying for us on Calvary. I'm not saying that we should die for someone to prove our love, but when we love someone the sacrifice to save someone's life, is that you would lay down your life to save the one you love.
In order to truly love again, you must love yourself, be honest with yourself about the mistakes you made and take accountability for them. Do not and I repeat do not play a victim's role, that it was always someone else's fault to why you got hurt, sometimes in all actuality we are the orchestrator of our hurt. Why? Because we never healed from the damage that was done years ago, before this person came into your life and damaged you. Your heart was already messed up, and you had so much baggage that you didn't realize that it was weighing you down. The individual tried to show you love, but you didn't know how to receive it. What happens is, we turn and run in and out of peoples lives causing them harm to the point that they can't take it anymore and then they retaliate. This leaves a trail of dysfunctional relationships behind you, and when you try to start over you can't for fear of failure.
For me to show you how to love again, you would need to take time for yourself to heal. Re-evaluate how you have contributed to your heartache and see what you can do to change that part of your personality or character flaw. One of the hardest things a person can do is evaluate themselves and find fault in themselves, but it is easy to find fault in others. Learn from past mistakes in relationships, go through all your baggage and clean it out, from past, present and even future relationships, do not take past issues into present life. Learn how to communicate your thoughts, dreams, feelings, be open to discusss your likes and dislikes, examine common interests, and most importantly for me is, your belief system. What is your faith life about? Does your faith line up with mine? You must find common ground and build on it. The one thing I learned was to be open to new things and communicate effectively, so there would be no misconceptions. Allow the man to be the man, and let him pursue you. Allow the friendship to build, get to know each other, put the Lord at the forefront of your relationship. Pray together, study the word of God together. Be able to relay when something is hurtful to you, don't make excuses about things that have hurt you, and be willing to explain it to your partner. Be able to accept apologies for mistakes, because we all make them; and should learn from them.
Moving on can be scary, but it can be done. Allow the healing to take place so the Lord can prepare you for his blessings. We tend to see something we want and because it looks appealing so we want it, but it is not what the Lord had planned for us, then we find ourselves in a bad place. Take time to heal from the wounds of your past.
Job 8:7 says: And though your beginning was small, your latter days will be very great.
I know that my latter days now are much better than the days I have behind me, I am so grateful for where the Lord has brought me, and even though those things that are behind me hurt me, they cultivated me, to who I am today.
Romans 8:26 says: Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness, for we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.
Sometimes we just have to cry out to the Lord for direction, sometimes that's all that is needed. The Lord wants to hear from you, he know's what's best for each one of us, and he knows what it's going to take to get our attention, we just need to trust him and his process, because when we do things our own way it tends to fail us.
Philippians 3:13 says: Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead.
I no longer worry about yesterday, I am more optimistic of what life has in store for me presently and in the future. The pain of my past is just that, my past. I walk now in victory from being healed by the word of the Lord, he renewed my strength and I have a praise on the inside that noone can take away.
My prayer for you is that you will allow the Lord to take you through the healing process, understand that you are not alone and others are facing trials, struggles and hardships just like you. You are definitely not alone, there are others that have overcome, and are victorious, because they chose to allow the Lord to take them through the healing process. Take that time for yourself so that you can be healed from the wounds of your past. Then you, will be able to love again.
As always I thank you for listening to my podcast, I pray it has helped you and that you find love again, I pray that you will take what has been said and apply it to your life. I don't confess knowing all things about life, but I have been through enough life disappointments to know what helped me and is still helping me. Everyone is different, but I do pray that this podcast helps you in your healing process. Just know that there is healing for your mind, body, spirit and soul.