SERIES: Part 2: You’re Wearing the Hat… But Who Put It On You?” - Owning Your Role Without Losing Your Mind, with Guest Kendall Peterson
Release Date: 06/26/2025
109: How to Handle the Passive-Aggressive Co-Worker Without Losing Your Mind (or Your Cool)
Leadership Sandbox: Strategies to Uplevel Workplace Communication, Team Collaboration, and Your Corporate Culture
Passive aggression is the emotional sabotage dressed as politeness that is silently draining your team's energy and trust. Tammy J. Bond pulls back the curtain on this pervasive workplace toxicity, revealing that leaders who ignore it aren't keeping the peace—they're preserving the problem. With over 50% of employees reporting being targeted by passive aggression, this episode provides direct, no-fluff strategies for leaders and middle managers to confront this "camouflaged conflict" and restore health to their teams. Key Leadership Insights: The High Cost of Avoidance: Passive aggression...
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108: Hey Ladies! Stop Apologizing. Seriously.
Leadership Sandbox: Strategies to Uplevel Workplace Communication, Team Collaboration, and Your Corporate Culture
Tammy J. Bond fires up the microphone for women leaders, challenging the pervasive habit of over-apologizing in professional settings. She argues that frequently defaulting to phrases like "I'm sorry, but..." or "This might not be the right time, but..." causes your apologies to show up louder than your actual leadership, draining your credibility and inviting doubt. This episode confronts the conditioning that leads women to wait to be invited instead of owning the room and provides a power move to replace apologies with confident, conscious confrontation. Key Leadership Insights: The...
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107: Are You in the Right Seat?
Leadership Sandbox: Strategies to Uplevel Workplace Communication, Team Collaboration, and Your Corporate Culture
In this quick, yet critical episode, Tammy J. Bond tackles a fundamental leadership challenge: ensuring you have the right people in the right seats on your organizational "bus”. Prompted by a leader struggling with under-delivery (not under-performance), Tammy challenges the common impulse to start with people. Instead, she provides a strategic framework to audit your organization, starting with the needs of the business before assessing the talent you have. This episode is imperative for leaders planning their success for the upcoming year and looking to replace disfunction with...
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106: The Hybrid Trap: Why Your "Flexibility" May Be Working Against You
Leadership Sandbox: Strategies to Uplevel Workplace Communication, Team Collaboration, and Your Corporate Culture
Leaders, you might call it flexibility, but your team calls it chaos. Tammy J. Bond cuts through the "hybrid fantasy" that believes simple Slack chats can replace connection, clarity, and collaboration. She exposes the silent culture split created by hybrid models, arguing that failure is rooted not in location, but in disconnection and unstable leadership. This episode provides the strategic framework for leaders to start intentionally engineering trust to make hybrid work successful. Key Leadership Insights & Hard Truths: The Hybrid Fantasy: The belief that a few Zoom calls and Slack...
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105: Middle Manager Meltdown - Caused by Leadership
Leadership Sandbox: Strategies to Uplevel Workplace Communication, Team Collaboration, and Your Corporate Culture
Tammy J. Bond shares her frustration after hearing a story from a middle manager dealing with a chaotic environment. The core issue: senior leaders are prioritizing being liked and showing misplaced "compassion" over actual leadership, accountability, and clear expectations. This episode is a fierce examination of how this dynamic demoralizes middle managers, promotes a culture of mediocrity, and actively destroys team trust and performance. Tammy challenges both senior leaders to put on the "boss hat" and middle managers to lead down and courageously speak up. Key Takeaways for Leaders (At...
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104: Regulate Before You Communicate
Leadership Sandbox: Strategies to Uplevel Workplace Communication, Team Collaboration, and Your Corporate Culture
Celebrating two years and 104 episodes, Tammy J. Bond drops a truth bomb: If your communication sounds like chaos, it's because your nervous system is leading the meeting, not your core leadership. This episode breaks down the concept of the "Calm Cascade"—how your internal regulation sets the emotional thermostat for the entire team. Tammy argues that emotional regulation is not a soft skill, but a crucial leadership strategy. When you walk in "hot," your team burns out and tunes out; the best communicators are always the calmest in the room. Key Takeaways for Leaders: Regulation is...
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103: The Cost of Chaos - Stop Calling Chaos a Strategy
Leadership Sandbox: Strategies to Uplevel Workplace Communication, Team Collaboration, and Your Corporate Culture
Tammy brings the hard hitting truth: Chaos might feel like momentum, but it's really just motion without meaning. In this fast-paced episode, she dives into the high cost of allowing stress, drama, and avoidant behaviors to run your workplace. Through personal anecdotes (like the story of "Frank"), Tammy explains why unsustainability is the ultimate price of chaos—affecting everything from turnover rates and sick leave to team productivity. This is a crucial lesson on self-regulation, clarity, and building a workplace where order restores energy and trust. 4 Costs of Chaos Chaos is...
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102: Emotions and the Workplace - (Chapter 4)
Leadership Sandbox: Strategies to Uplevel Workplace Communication, Team Collaboration, and Your Corporate Culture
Tammy drops a truth bomb right from the start: Our emotions, not our thoughts, motivate us. This episode is a quick, hard-hitting guide on how your emotions can either drive you forward or keep you and your team stuck in a pattern of limiting beliefs. Tammy provides a four-point framework to help you master self-awareness, manage your emotional triggers, and turn your emotional intelligence into the "entry ticket" for every successful conversation. Key Takeaways for Leaders Emotions Win: We move in the direction of the dominant emotion. If you don't own your emotions, they own you and...
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101: It’s Not Support If It Enables (6 of 6 Part Series)
Leadership Sandbox: Strategies to Uplevel Workplace Communication, Team Collaboration, and Your Corporate Culture
In the final episode of our 6 Part Series, "Communication Lies Leaders Believe", Tammy delivers a hard truth: some of the support you're giving your team isn't helping—it's enabling. This episode busts the myth that constantly helping will lead to growth and exposes the codependent patterns that can quietly destroy a team's culture. Tammy reveals how over-functioning for your people can lead to burnout among your top talent and a cycle of learned helplessness in your low performers. She provides a reset with 3 clear steps to stop rescuing and start truly empowering your team. Your job is to...
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100: Hope Is Not A Strategy (5 of 6 Part Series)
Leadership Sandbox: Strategies to Uplevel Workplace Communication, Team Collaboration, and Your Corporate Culture
In this milestone 100th episode, Tammy J. Bond tackles one of the biggest lies leaders tell themselves: that hope is a strategy. She celebrates the podcast's journey and shares why consistency and intentionality, not hope, are what keep a vision alive. This episode, part 5 in the 6 part series, powerfully debunks the myth that optimism or hard work will magically fix dysfunction. Tammy reveals how relying on hope leads to passivity, sets teams up for disappointment, and creates a culture of reaction instead of intention. She provides a clear, three-step toolkit for replacing passive hope...
info_outlineWelcome to Part 2 of our series, "Switch Hats, Not Values - Leading with Clarity and Sanity!" In this candid episode of the Leadership Sandbox, Tammy J. Bond and Kendall Peterson dive deep into the diverse 'hats' leaders juggle daily. They unpack the inherent challenges of balancing these different leadership roles and underscore the paramount importance of clarity in communication.
Tammy and Kendall explore the often tricky 'Freeder' role—where the lines between friendship and leadership can blur—and why leaders absolutely must own their roles to maintain respect and foster effective team dynamics. This conversation is a masterclass in personal growth, emphasizing that authentic leadership requires continuous self-awareness and the courage to set boundaries. Discover the profound impact of mentoring on leadership development and learn how adapting your leadership style with clarity and confidence can transform your team and your impact.
Key Takeaways for Leaders:
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Role Recognition: It's crucial to recognize and consciously "name" the different leadership roles you play to bring clarity to yourself and your team.
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The "Freeder" Trap: Understand how blending friendship and leadership (the 'Freeder' role) can create confusion, erode trust, and hinder effective communication.
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Clarity is King: Clarity in expectations and directives is fundamental for healthy team dynamics, reducing stress and fostering efficiency.
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Own Your Authority: Leaders must own their roles with confidence and intention to earn genuine respect and guide their teams effectively.
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Mentorship Matters: Mentoring is a non-negotiable component of leadership development, offering invaluable guidance for personal growth.
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Values as a Guide: Your core values should always guide your leadership style, especially when navigating difficult conversations.
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Embrace Feedback & Growth: Strong leaders are open to feedback and continuously adapt their leadership style to better serve their team and the situation.
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How to identify and define the various leadership hats you wear.
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Strategies for avoiding the pitfalls of the 'Freeder' role in your team dynamics.
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Techniques for enhancing communication clarity within your team.
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The significance of establishing clear boundaries to maintain professionalism and reduce friction.
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Why mentoring is an essential accelerator for personal growth in leadership.
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How to approach difficult conversations with confidence and a focus on resolution.
Chapters:
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00:00 Understanding the Hats We Wear: Exploring the different leadership roles leaders take on daily.
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04:57 The Challenge of Blending Roles: Diving into the complexities of balancing various hats and the 'Freeder' role.
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11:01 Communicating with Clarity: Practical insights on achieving clear and effective communication in leadership.
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15:54 Navigating Leadership Changes: Strategies for adapting your leadership style and maintaining stability during transitions.
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20:17 Leading with Clarity and Mentorship: The vital connection between intentional leadership and the power of mentoring for professional development.
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