296 - How to Find Friends Who Value Transparency, Expansion, & Growth

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Join Jill for the five-year anniversary of Be YOU - a special in person ALL WOMEN BIG event celebrating 300 episodes of the podcast - on Saturday, October 25th from 1–5 p.m. in Fort Wayne, Indiana.

You’ll get to connect and network with 200 amazing women! The community you didn’t know you had and didn’t realize you needed. Wait till you meet these women.

You’ll get to sit back and let Jill pour into you and you’ll leave with more clarity, confidence and a remembrance of how gifted and glorious you are.

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Join Jill this week as she discusses the upcoming Be YOU event called "Be You Live" which is celebrating its five-year anniversary and 300th episode! Jill acknowledges that this event may not be for everyone, as our nervous systems can sometimes try to prevent us from doing things that will expand and challenge us, but she encourages listeners to truly listen to their intuition to determine if this event is right for them in spite of any doubts or excuses their mind may come up with.

Jill also spends time this episode discussing her perspective on true friendship, describing the type of deep, authentic friendships that she has built upon – ones in which there is radical honesty, vulnerability, and a willingness to challenge each other to grow – and she contrasts this with more surface-level friendships that avoid difficult conversations. Jill shares her own experience of having to have a "clearing conversation" with someone she cares about but ultimately having realized that they were not meant to be close friends. She highlights the importance of shedding relationships that no longer serve us but doing so with self-compassion rather than judgment.

Jill ultimately encourages listeners to reflect on the quality of your own friendships and your relationships with yourselves, suggesting journaling, self-reflection, and allowing yourselves to fully feel emotions as ways to pave the way for the type of meaningful connections she talks about in this episode, believing that when we can be that kind of friend to ourselves, we will attract those kinds of friendships with others!

Show Notes:

[01:31] - Jill is urging listeners to overcome fear that's preventing growth and attend the upcoming Be YOU event!

[04:35] - She challenges the idea that self-sacrifice is noble and insists that true belonging comes from being yourself.

[07:20] - Real friendships mirror growth and honesty and first require self-acceptance.

[10:04] - Jill teaches compassion toward yourself, and she notes how friendships reflect inner healing and might naturally dissolve.

[13:12] - Jill accepts that not all connections align, affirming her high standards.

[15:43] - Jill values friendships with honesty and sincere feedback.

[18:25] - True friendships, Jill insists, honor authenticity and the highest self, not old wounds from childhood trauma.

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