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Becoming Centered

Release Date: 05/22/2024

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Becoming Centered

Episode 60 continues along the Group-Level Interventions Pathway.  Building on the last episode, other foundational perspectives for going beyond only providing quality Care to providing transformational Treatment are presented.  These include making a distinction between Care and Treatment, and understanding that behavior management techniques, while often times essential, are part of Care and not Treatment.  Several organizational traps of becoming too focused on behavior management are explored, including the key distinction between interventions that inspire mindless...

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Becoming Centered

Episode 59 of the Becoming Centered podcast marks the start of Season 3.  This Season will contain two learning pathways.  One series will focus on working with kids in varying size groups.  Group work ranges from simple interactions in a living room or classroom to managing various activity groups to running group meetings focused on various aspects of team-building and congregate living.  Another series will focus on physiological centering by presenting a program for listeners to gain a basic level of competence at mindfulness / relaxation / meditation; in preparation to...

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Becoming Centered

Episode 58 of the Becoming Centered Podcast provides a vision for how to design and facilitate an extremely challenging structure in residential treatment programs – the weekly unit staff meeting.  This episode covers a lot of ground.  Along with presenting a general team-building strategy, an outline is suggested for how to do simple case presentations, for how to organize an issues agenda-driven portion of the meeting, and for how to deliver trainings specifically geared toward the needs of direct-care staff.  In addition, a general model for how to develop your program’s...

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I’m very excited about Episode 57 of the Becoming Centered podcast!  It provides guidance in an area that most human service agencies simply can’t fit into their training programs; how to design and facilitate internal staff meetings.  Middle managers, such as Unit Directors, are tasked with running some of the most technically difficult meetings.  With only the training provided by their own experiences, they are responsible for a program structure, that if you were to add up the hourly wages of all the participants, is an incredibly expensive use of time for agencies...

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Episode 56 of the Becoming Centered podcast is part two of a two-part arc focusing on the concept of resilience.  Resilience is the ability to stay centered even in the face of various stressors and triggers.  It's related to, but different than, self-regulation which is the ability to become centered when emotionally dysregulated, cognitively disorganized, behaviorally chaotic, and physiologically / neurologically elevated. There are four qualities that support emotional, cognitive, behavioral, and physiological / neurological resilience. A sense of belonging. A sense of purpose. A...

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Episode 55 of the Becoming Centered podcast focuses on the concept of resilience.  Resilience is the ability to stay centered even in the face of various stressors and triggers.  It's related to, but different than, self-regulation which is the ability to become centered when emotionally dysregulated, cognitively disorganized, behaviorally chaotic, and physiologically / neurologically elevated. There're four qualities that support emotional, cognitive, behavioral, and physiological / neurological resilience. A sense of belonging. A sense of purpose. A sense of agency. A sense of...

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Episode 54 concludes a four-episode arc, within the Unit Supervision Pathway, that presents the 10 techniques that make up the Hierarchy of Interventions.  This episode focuses on how to implement these interventions in a way that goes beyond surface behavior management to supporting the development of self-regulation in children and youth.   This episode particularly focuses on the Forced-Choice and related Weighted-Choice techniques.  These interventions leverage a program's consequence system to help child-clients make choices that determine whether or not they receive a...

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Episode 53 reviews the first four tools and techniques that make up the Hierarchy of Interventions (Distraction, Engaging, Verbal Redirection, Labeling) and presents the next two steps in the Hierarchy, Changing the Environment and Limit Setting.  A major emphasis is placed on using these techniques to not only manage behaviors, but also to help clients develop their abilities to self-regulate. Behavior Management is a necessary component of providing Care to troubled children and youth.  All kids sometimes exhibit behavior problems.  However, kids in residential treatment,...

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This episode is the second in a three-episode arc that presents the Hierarchy of Interventions.  This grouping of 10 interventions forms a core curriculum of counseling skills used by residential staff to encourage the development of kids' self-regulation abilities.  Last episode focused on using Distraction, Engaging, and Verbal Redirection to interrupt and prevent kids from going down an off-track path toward increased emotional, cognitive, and behavioral dysregulation.  This episode introduces the Aspect Compass model of the human mind.  Understanding this metaphor for...

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This episode on the Unit Supervisor Learning Pathway moves away from a focus on managerial skills and switches to a focus on counseling skills to be taught to direct-care Child Care Counselors.  It presents 10 interventions, or techniques, for Counselors to use with kids when they become off-track, dysregulated, and uncentered.  Skillful use of this package of interventions starts with understanding the ways in which they can be thought of as forming a hierarchy.  That includes the higher up interventions being increasingly disruptive to the group environment of the residential...

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Coping Activities

Diversions – any hobby or activity that engages your attention.

  •        Writing, drawing, painting, crafts
  •        Listening to music, playing an instrument, singing, dancing, acting
  •        Gardening
  •        Taking a walk, or going for a drive
  •        Watching television or a movie
  •        Guided Imagery Meditations
  •        Playing a game
  •        Shopping
  •        Reading
  •       Taking a break or vacation

Tension Releasers 

  •        Going on a walk
  •        Exercising
  •        Breathing Exercises
  •        Playing sports
  •        Systematic Muscle Relaxation
  •        Playing a musical instrument
  •        Taking a hot shower or bath
  •        Eating a little chocolate
  •        Crying
  •        Laughing
  •        Singing

 

Organizing Tasks – any activity that involves ordering things.

  •        Cleaning
  •        Organizing your environment
  •        Putting things away
  •        Sudoku, Crossword puzzles, Jigsaw puzzles
  •        Update your calendar
  •       Outline the steps in a project

Cognitive Coping Skills

  •        Making lists (Pro-Con, Goals, Ideas)
  •        Brainstorming solutions
  •        Managing your expectations
  •        Considering an inspirational quote
  •        Being flexible
  •        Consciously changing your attitude
  •        Rewarding yourself for successes
  •        Analyzing a situation
  •       Reframing a problem to be an opportunity

Social or Interpersonal Coping Strategies 

  •        Talking to someone you trust
  •        Writing a note to someone you care about
  •        Spending time with friends or family
  •        Serving someone in need
  •        Caring for or play with a pet
  •        Role-playing challenging situations with others
  •       Encouraging others

Physical Maintenance Strategies

  •        Getting enough sleep
  •        Eating healthy foods
  •        Getting into a good routine
  •        Limiting caffeine and alcohol
  •        Taking medication as prescribed
  •        Deep / slow breathing

 

Limit Setting

  •        Dropping some activities if you’re over-extended
  •        Setting boundaries and saying "no"
  •        Prioritizing important tasks
  •        Scheduling time for yourself
  •       Being assertive to the demands of others

Spiritually Fulfilling Activities 

  •        Praying
  •        Meditating
  •        Enjoying nature
  •        Getting involved in a worthy cause
  •       Experiencing appreciation or gratitude

 

Negative Coping Actions

Diversions

  •        Procrastination – putting off important tasks
  •        Misusing drugs or alcohol as self-medicating
  •       Wasting time on unimportant tasks

Tension Releasers

  •        Tantrums
  •        Throwing things at people
  •        Hitting people
  •        Yelling at others
  •        Destroying property
  •       Speeding or driving recklessly

Social or Interpersonal Strategies

  •        Blaming others
  •        Isolating or withdrawing
  •        Mean or hostile joking
  •        Putting down others behind their back
  •        Criticizing others to their face
  •        Manipulating others
  •        Refusing help from others
  •        Lying to other people
  •        Sabotaging other people’s plans
  •        Being late to appointments
  •        Provoking violence from others
  •       Enabling others to take advantage of you

Physical

  •        Suicidal Gestures
  •        Self-harm
  •        Excessive exercise
  •        Developing illnesses
  •       Abusing drugs or alcohol

Over-Indulging

  •        Spending too much
  •        Gambling
  •        Eating too much
  •       Continually crying

Cognitive Strategies

  •        Denying any problem
  •        Stubbornness or inflexibility
  •        All or nothing, black or white, thinking
  •        Blaming yourself and others
  •        Catastrophizing
  •        Unproductive Repetitive Thoughts
  •        Hiding or Burying Your Feelings
  •        Withdrawing or Isolating
  •       Name-Calling

Self-Diminishing

  •        Making excessive fun of yourself
  •        Self-sabotaging behaviors
  •        Blaming yourself
  •        Thoughts and behaviors that suggest that you deserve to feel bad or overwhelmed