EP27: Adults and Triggers

Adults and Triggers

Our children are the most important thing to us —they are our everything. 

But when our kids are in the middle of a meltdown, what happens? It triggers us as adults. 

Have you ever asked yourself why that is so? 

Kids should not be able to trigger us to the point where we're losing our mind, and we're screaming and doing things like hitting them, etc. —that's not the answer.

Take meltdowns and temper tantrums as a learning opportunity. Your child, aside from being a miniature version of yourself, is a beautiful little teacher. 

To handle meltdowns, the very first thing you must do is understand your kids. However, it's not often as simple as it seems. Many things trigger temper tantrums and outbursts: fear, dissatisfaction, anger, physical discomfort, to name a few, and because a tantrum is not an exceptionally straightforward means of communication, parents are sometimes in the dark on what drives the action.

The Clean Eating For Kids Podcast brings you this episode on "Adults and Triggers," where Crystal Hilsley shares some strategies for effectively handling meltdowns in kids. 

Key takeaways covered in the episode:

 

✅ Understand that before we're able to take care of your children, you were meant to take care of yourself first. As the saying goes, put your oxygen mask on first before putting one on your child.

✅ Implement a schedule for your kids. What a schedule does is it allows children to feel safe. When they feel safe, they're much calmer, and they know what's expected of them. 

✅ Never let negative emotions get in the way of treating your children. Note that anger as an emotion lasts around 90 seconds. What happens after that 90 second is you choose to either allow that emotion to completely dissipate and dissolve or continue on a path of holding in that emotion. Learn firsthand from Crystal Hilsley on how to release these negative emotions. 

✅ Teach your kids through example. Realize that your belief systems are what create your perceptions, and perception is what makes your reality. So when you're being triggered, stop for a moment, get very present and be calm. A small child who has not learned to control their emotions yet is learning from you. 

✅ Discover how to pass on to your children the healthy way to remove and work through difficult emotions. Remember that the behaviors and the habits that your children have now will go into adulthood.

✅ Parenting starts with self-care. Be sure to budget in time for yourself because when you're calm, your giftedness comes out, and you enjoy things that make you happy.

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