3775 Blaze a Trail
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
The mountains you experience may feel like they're not moving; fear has you frozen because you're stepping into something you have never walked before. So saddle up your heart and blaze a trail. Listen—blazing a trail doesn’t mean waiting for a clear path or a perfect plan. It means saying, “I’ll figure this out.” When you blaze a trail, you take the risk that others won’t. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . You make the messy first steps, because all you see is the destination on the horizon—and you’re hungry enough to...
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3774 Hit Me with Your Best Shot
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Life is not going to ever be easy or simple. But simple decisions bring greater rewards, specifically in your health. Hit me with your best shot. If you think your health will just take care of itself through the ups and downs, you’re setting yourself up to fail. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . The truth is, simple, clear decisions—made every day—are what stack up into real health wins. When everything else feels out of control, your commitment to these basics becomes your shield and sword. What are you doing now to protect your...
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3773 Carve Out the Time
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Life has a way of pulling us in every direction at once. The endless responsibilities, personal passions, and career demands—whether inside or outside the home—can all collide, leaving you gasping for a moment to breathe. If you’re feeling stuck, trapped by your own series of “YES” commitments, it’s time for a reset. It’s time to carve out the time. Because that time belongs to you! Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Pause for just a moment. Recognize that what you’ve been doing isn’t working. That’s not a failure. It’s...
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3772 How Rhythm Beats Speed Every Time
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We all want more time. More hours to get more done. Faster moves mean faster results, right? Wrong! The problem isn’t a shortage of time—it’s how rhythm beats speed every time. We could all use more time to accomplish more. However, unfortunately, all we get is being backlogged with thoughts of "I wish I had more time" and "Why can't I move faster?" Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . "Distractions hijack your actions." ~ Kristianne Wargo Interruptions speed up time, making it slip through your fingers even faster. Rushing only fragments...
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3771 Oh Lord, You're Beautiful
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“Oh Lord, You’re beautiful, Your face is all I seek. And when Your eyes are on this child, Your grace abounds to me.” This heartfelt song, written by Chris Tomlin and Steffany Gretzinger (2022), captures a truth that unwaveringly stands through joy and hardship alike: God is beautiful. Not in the way the world measures beauty—with fleeting success, perfection, or ease—but in His eternal character, mercy, and unfailing love. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Beauty in the Midst of Hardship Life rarely unfolds according...
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3770 When the Feeling Fades
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
There’s a kind of magic in falling in love. It hits hard, sparking joy, passion, and an overwhelming sense of connection. When you say “I do,” it feels like the beginning of forever—a forever fueled by those electrifying feelings. But what happens when the feeling fades? For most married couples, the intense emotional need—the attraction, the butterflies, the all-consuming desire to be near one another—lasts about two years. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . After that, reality creeps in. The daily grind, the frustrations, the...
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3769 Stop the Entitlement
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Let’s be real—teaching your child appreciation in today’s world is like trying to hold back a tidal wave. Everywhere they look, the message blares loud and clear: “You deserve it.” Stop the entitlement and encourage the appreciation. Because if we are real and raw, no one wants to wait for anything. If you are older and wiser, you probably understand the importance of hard work and saving. We didn't get to have something just because it was newly released. We had to save and plan. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . From flashy ads to...
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3768 Challenge Yourself
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Life doesn’t hand out easy cards. Sometimes the lemons coming your way aren’t the kind you can just squeeze for lemonade. They’re heavy, sour, and downright stubborn. Yet, excuses won’t get you anywhere. When the chaos of life has you tangled, this is exactly when you need to stand up and challenge yourself. Sure, motivation feels like an elusive friend. Some days, the right words—the spark to keep moving—slip right through your mind. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s easier to sink into that quicksand of defeat, letting...
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3767 Choose Discipline Over Temptation
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Life is full of tough decisions, especially when it comes to our health. Every day, you're faced with a choice: give in to temptation or stand firm with discipline. The difference between these paths isn’t just about what you do in the moment—it shapes your entire future. Choose discipline over temptation. Think about your everyday choices. What do you choose normally when it comes to healthy living? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Temptations feel easier because they come with built-in familiarity. You know the comfort of that junk...
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3766 Stand in Victory
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Life rarely unfolds exactly the way you plan. You’ll face moments when the bitter outweighs the sweet, when the lemons piled in front of you seem endless and your lemonade is nowhere to be found. But your circumstances don’t define you. No matter how hard it hits, stand in victory. Don’t carry your mistakes like weights dragging you down. Stand on them. Let your failures be the stepping stones that elevate you, not the burdens you lug around. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Every misstep is an opportunity – a lesson carved...
info_outlineThere’s a kind of magic in falling in love. It hits hard, sparking joy, passion, and an overwhelming sense of connection. When you say “I do,” it feels like the beginning of forever—a forever fueled by those electrifying feelings. But what happens when the feeling fades?
For most married couples, the intense emotional need—the attraction, the butterflies, the all-consuming desire to be near one another—lasts about two years.
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After that, reality creeps in. The daily grind, the frustrations, the quirks that were once charming now feel annoying. The relationship stops feeling like effortless joy and more like hard work. And who wants a relationship that feels like work?
No one.
So what then? How do you keep the spark alive when the feeling fades? When love feels more like a duty than a delight? You don’t just throw in the towel because the honeymoon stage ended. That’s not marriage. It’s just the start of something deeper that needs conscious attention and effort.
Here’s why you fell in love in the first place
When those waves of irritation and disappointment surge, if you stop and reflect, you can still recall the reasons you said “yes.” Your partner’s laughter, their kindness, how they made you feel seen. These memories remind you that your love had substance beyond just fleeting feelings. It’s natural to want to hold on to that. But clinging too tightly to nostalgia won’t fix your present.
The Feeling Is Fading — Now What?
Dr. Gary Chapman, renowned marriage counselor and author of The 5 Love Languages, offers a clear path forward: marriage is not about feelings alone; it’s about commitment. Your head has to talk to your heart and say, “I’m choosing to love you today, even if I don’t feel the way I did before.”
The K.I.S.S. ~ Choose to love today!
To not only keep the feeling alive but deepen the connection, here are three crucial steps couples can take:
1. Speak Your Partner’s Love Language
Chapman’s groundbreaking insight is that everyone receives love differently—some through words, others through deeds, touch, gifts, or quality time. When you stop getting that intense rush of attraction, what can keep you connected is meeting your spouse’s emotional needs in the way they understand best.
If your partner’s love language is “Acts of Service,” those small thoughtful actions speak louder than a tired “I love you.” If it’s “Words of Affirmation,” never underestimate the power of sincere compliments and appreciation. Find their language and speak it fluently.
2. Prioritize Connection Over Convenience
Love means choosing connection, even when it’s easier to check out. Make time for meaningful conversations and shared experiences, not as a chore but as a commitment. Rotate “date nights” or mini check-ins that remind you both why you chose each other.
Chapman once said, “We don’t feel loved when we don’t feel heard.” So listen—actively and without judgment. Listen to what your partner needs, fears, dreams, and frustrations. When you feel heard, love grows.
3. Commit to Growth, Not Perfection
Nobody said marriage is easy. Chapman emphasizes, “Love is a choice you make every day.” It requires patience, forgiveness, and a willingness to evolve—both individually and as a couple.
When the feeling fades, it’s an invitation to grow closer by overcoming challenges together. Share your vulnerabilities. Take responsibility for your part in conflicts. Focus on solutions rather than blame.
In the end, choice trumps feeling.
The best marriages aren’t built on feelings alone because feelings are fleeting. They are built on a daily decision to love, communicate, and show up. When your head commits, your heart often follows. And over time, that commitment can even spark new feelings—ones that are steadier, richer, and more aligned with the real, imperfect human in front of you.
If you want your marriage to last past the fade, don’t wait for feelings to come back on their own. Choose to love anyway. Your relationship isn’t just about how you feel—it’s about who you decide to be together.
You’ve got clarity on what happens when the feeling fades—and what to do next. Your move? Start speaking your partner’s love language in action, schedule that meaningful conversation, and commit to growing together. Let your head lead your heart, and watch the love deepen beyond the surface.
No fluff. No magic potions. Just hard, real-hearted work that turns fading feelings into lasting love.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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