3820 The God of Do-Overs
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When life pounds hard and hope feels distant, despair and discouragement can grip tightly. It’s easy to believe the story has ended, that the mess and pain will define us permanently. Yet our God is not just the God of beginnings—He’s the God of do-overs. God is constantly moving, always creating new paths where none seem to exist. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Isaiah 43:19 holds a powerful promise: “See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the...
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3819 Rest Does Your Heart Good
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When you’re sprinting through life’s endless to-do list, hopping from one task to the next, your brain turns into a cluttered mess. Forget keeping everything straight — even keeping love alive for your spouse can feel like a heavy lift. It’s no surprise emotions run high, patience runs low, and connection takes a hit. So here’s a truth that might sound too simple but can change everything: rest does your heart good. Imagine being so rested that your emotions don’t hijack you. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . You catch yourself...
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3818 When Your Words Feel Small
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As parents, it's hard to know if what we are saying is sticking. Sometimes, we talk in circles and nothing seems to change. Whatever you do, don't give up when your words feel small. You know what it's like to talk in circles, replay the same conversations, and wonder if any of it actually lands. Those moments when your words feel small—like they barely ripple the surface—can shake even the most confident parent. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Because that's when it matters most. When your child needs you, it’s not about your mood,...
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3817 One More Day
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Why is it that we rise to the complaints of yesterday only to find ourselves seeking what we want for tomorrow, yet we forget about today? There are new mercies every morning; don't take one more day for granted. Too often, we take this gift for granted, letting it slip through our fingers like water. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s easy to get stuck in the trap of frustration—wishing for different circumstances, a different outcome, or a different life. We convince ourselves that if only things were different “then” we’d be...
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3816 Just Commitment And The Right Moves
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Starting roughly in your 30s, your body starts losing muscle mass every year. This isn’t a cosmetic problem—it’s a quality of life issue. Less muscle means lower strength, reduced mobility, slower metabolism, and a higher risk of injury and chronic illness. Muscle isn’t optional; it’s essential if you want to keep living actively and fiercely. All it takes is just commitment and the right moves. So, how do you build muscle? And how do you do it right, especially if fat is more of your story right now? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at...
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3815 Celebrate Today's Joys
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Too often, we let the shadow of what might happen tomorrow steal the sunshine of today. Fear of the unknown, worries about future setbacks, or anxieties over “what ifs” take up residence in our minds—and in doing so, they rob us of moments worth celebrating right now. So celebrate today's joys. Because life isn’t waiting, you don’t get a replay of today’s joy tomorrow. If you don’t celebrate the wins you have today, you’re losing ground. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Fear is a natural reaction. It’s a survival...
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3814 The Score Does Not Matter
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In a world obsessed with metrics, likes, followers, promotions, or dollar signs, it’s easy to get trapped measuring your worth by numbers you don’t control. But here’s the truth no one tells you loud enough: The score does not matter; the win does. What’s the difference? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . The score is the snapshot of progress, often shallow and fleeting—the social proof, the paycheck, the applause. The win is the deep-rooted success that comes from showing up, breaking your limits, and moving forward even when...
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3813 The Wait Is Over
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Walking in step with God isn’t just a stroll in the park—it’s a gritty, often grueling journey that challenges your patience more than the external chaos of the world. The hardest part isn’t what comes at us from outside, but wrestling with the timing of God’s plan. The truth is, God has already prepared a way before you. He has a place destined for you. But here’s the catch: So when He knows you are ready, the wait is over. We know the feeling all too well. A dream seeds itself deep inside, and you see the vision crystal clear—a powerful calling, a life meant for more. Yet, why...
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3812 Remember What You Forgot
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Wouldn’t it be something—waking up tomorrow and seeing your spouse with the same excitement and admiration you had when you were dating? That feeling you had when you first said “I do” wasn’t accidental. Something real, compelling, and valuable caught your attention—remember what you forgot. Let’s be honest: daily life grinds us down. The demands of jobs, kids, bills, and endless distractions dull the sparkle in any relationship. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . We get stuck expecting love to always feel fresh and viral,...
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3811 Speak Your Child's Language
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Talking to your child like you do your friends or spouse isn’t going to cut it. Kids aren’t little adults—they process, feel, and need communication on completely different levels. If you want them to truly hear and respond, you have to speak your child's language. Parenting isn’t about one-size-fits-all advice. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s about tuning in to who your child is and meeting them where they are, head-on, heart-first, and in ways that make sense to them. And all this comes from the parent...
info_outlineAs parents, it's hard to know if what we are saying is sticking. Sometimes, we talk in circles and nothing seems to change. Whatever you do, don't give up when your words feel small.
You know what it's like to talk in circles, replay the same conversations, and wonder if any of it actually lands. Those moments when your words feel small—like they barely ripple the surface—can shake even the most confident parent.
Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com
Because that's when it matters most.
When your child needs you, it’s not about your mood, your exhaustion, or your doubts. It’s about showing up—steady, consistent, and real. The “real thing” isn’t a perfect speech or the right phrase; it’s your presence, your commitment, your refusal to give up. Because if you get tangled in your own guilt and emotions, you risk losing the thread of what matters.
This is not the time to adopt the belief that you are not a good parent.
But for the most part, moms (and dads) are doing their best, and sometimes that has to be enough.
Sometimes, you just have to complement your words.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Complement your words!
If you get stuck in your head that you're not good enough as a parent, you are going to sink fast. Instead of wondering what you can't do or what should be done, stick to complementing your words.
So, how do you keep the main thing, the main thing, when your words feel like whispers lost in a storm? Here are three no-nonsense moves that work for all ages—from toddlers to adult children.
1. Anchor Your Message in Actions, Not Just Words
When kids are little, they may not fully grasp the weight of what you say. A toddler’s world is about feeling safe, seen, and loved—sometimes more than understanding complex instructions. Take Maria, a mom of a 3-year-old who was struggling with bedtime tantrums. Maria found that no matter how many times she told her son it was time to sleep, he kept resisting. So she switched the approach. Instead of talking more, she created a bedtime routine: reading a story, dimming the lights, and playing soft music. The routine spoke louder than words. The message was clear—bedtime means calm and comfort.
For teenagers, who often tune out lectures, actions speak volumes, too. A dad named Steve wanted to convey trust and responsibility to his rebellious 16-year-old daughter. Instead of more stern warnings, Steve gave her space to make a few mistakes but stayed consistently available when she needed to talk—no judgment, just listening. Over time, the consistency of his presence landed where words had failed.
And what about adult kids? Joanna, whose 25-year-old son struggled with job uncertainties, stopped offering unsolicited advice and simply checked in regularly, sharing her own challenges openly. Her simple act of vulnerability invited real conversations, changing the dynamic from frustration to connection.
2. Refocus on the Feeling You Want to Create
When your words feel small, remember the core feeling you want to plant. Is it safety? Understanding? Respect? Patience? Kids pick up on how you make them feel more than the exact words you say.
Think of Sarah, who had an 8-year-old who often acted out at school. Instead of piling on “You need to behave,” she shifted to saying, “I’m here to help you figure this out.” It wasn’t a clever phrase, but it changed the tone. Sarah made her son feel supported, not singled out—and that shifted everything.
For grown children, it’s about meeting them emotionally where they are. David’s adult daughter was distant after a tough breakup. He stopped trying to fix things through words and instead sent little notes and texts that simply said, “Thinking of you.” Those small gestures made her see he was present without pressure, which slowly reopened their communication.
3. Give Yourself Permission to Be Human and Keep Showing Up
The hardest part might be cutting yourself some slack. When your words feel small, it’s tempting to spiral into thoughts like “I’m not good enough” or “I’m failing as a parent.” However, the truth is that no one gets this perfectly right.
Take Lisa, mother of a 12-year-old, who found herself snapping and then obsessing over every misstep. She started reminding herself: “I’m doing the best I can right now.” Instead of falling into guilt, she used that mindset to apologize, reset, and keep being consistent. Her son noticed the humility and felt safer opening up.
For parents of adult kids, it might mean acknowledging limits. Greg struggled with his 30-year-old daughter’s choices. He learned to respect her autonomy without retreating emotionally. Recognizing that sometimes being there means accepting things you can’t control is its own powerful message.
Final Word
Mom (and Dad), stop beating yourself up for every “small” word that seems to vanish in thin air. Your best is the real deal. In the messy, repetitive, overwhelming dance of parenting, your consistency, your intention, and your presence are the anchors your children need.
Keep showing up. Keep being imperfectly present. The main thing—the real thing—is that you never quit.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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