3826 Every Little Bit Counts
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It’s far too easy in marriage to zero in on what’s going wrong. The missed chore, the forgotten plan, the tone that didn’t land right—these moments quickly stack up and drown out the good. But here’s the reality that often slips under the radar: every little bit of positive effort your spouse makes matters. When’s the last time you gave them credit for what’s going right? Because when it comes to lasting love, every little bit counts. Think about it: if a football game was scored like a negative ledger, where the goal was to stay at zero mistakes, nobody would play with passion...
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3825 Unspoken Truths Parents Miss
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No parent is perfect. You can pour your heart into your kid’s well-being, yet blindspots still lurk—those moments or patterns you don’t see but quietly chip away at your relationship or their growth. Oh—the unspoken truths parents miss. Of course, the blindspots are certainly the unspoken truths we miss, the habits we defend, or the patterns we dismiss as “well, this is just how it is.” Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Have you even given much thought as to your blindspots? The question is not whether you have blindspots...
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3824 Go Off Script!
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Why do we cling so tightly to our routines, sticking to the scripts we've written for ourselves even when life is whispering for us to improvise? Maybe because it’s comfortable. Predictable. Safe. But here’s the hard truth—when you stay stuck in familiar habits, you leave unopened doors and opportunities that could impact not only you, but the world you touch. Go off script! What have you been doing this week? Are you stuck in the same ole thing, hoping that something will change? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Think about it this...
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3823 When Peace Feels Impossible
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Let’s be real—healthy living often feels like a chore. If it’s all work and no ease, why would anyone stick with it? When peace feels impossible—when your mind races, stress mounts, and moments of calm seem like a distant memory—don’t throw in the towel on what truly matters for your health. Because it’s no surprise that most of us coast along without much effort until something drastic forces us to change. But here’s the hard truth: waiting for a crisis to hit before you care about your body is a losing game. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women?...
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3822 Ready Your Heart for Tomorrow Today
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Too often, we find ourselves tangled in the web of worry about what tomorrow might bring. We obsess over unknowns, crafting scenarios that drain our energy and steal our peace. Yet, in this anxious chase after the future, we overlook the power and potential sitting right in front of us today. Ready your heart for tomorrow today. The truth is simple but brutally clear: if you want tomorrow to be different, better, or bigger, the groundwork begins in this very moment. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . You can’t unleash what’s possible...
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3821 Everything Starts as a Seed
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Every journey, every success, and every change begins with a seed. Not just a physical seed planted in soil, but the unseen seeds you plant daily through your mindset, words, actions, and choices. You were created on purpose for a purpose, and living into that purpose is the real prize. What you build—your relationships, your business, your character—everything starts as a seed, and it requires intentionality for it to grow. The truth is simple: you will harvest what you sow. The seeds you plant today become the outcomes you face tomorrow. That’s why it’s critical to focus on planting...
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3820 The God of Do-Overs
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When life pounds hard and hope feels distant, despair and discouragement can grip tightly. It’s easy to believe the story has ended, that the mess and pain will define us permanently. Yet our God is not just the God of beginnings—He’s the God of do-overs. God is constantly moving, always creating new paths where none seem to exist. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Isaiah 43:19 holds a powerful promise: “See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the...
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3819 Rest Does Your Heart Good
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When you’re sprinting through life’s endless to-do list, hopping from one task to the next, your brain turns into a cluttered mess. Forget keeping everything straight — even keeping love alive for your spouse can feel like a heavy lift. It’s no surprise emotions run high, patience runs low, and connection takes a hit. So here’s a truth that might sound too simple but can change everything: rest does your heart good. Imagine being so rested that your emotions don’t hijack you. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . You catch yourself...
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3818 When Your Words Feel Small
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As parents, it's hard to know if what we are saying is sticking. Sometimes, we talk in circles and nothing seems to change. Whatever you do, don't give up when your words feel small. You know what it's like to talk in circles, replay the same conversations, and wonder if any of it actually lands. Those moments when your words feel small—like they barely ripple the surface—can shake even the most confident parent. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Because that's when it matters most. When your child needs you, it’s not about your mood,...
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3817 One More Day
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Why is it that we rise to the complaints of yesterday only to find ourselves seeking what we want for tomorrow, yet we forget about today? There are new mercies every morning; don't take one more day for granted. Too often, we take this gift for granted, letting it slip through our fingers like water. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s easy to get stuck in the trap of frustration—wishing for different circumstances, a different outcome, or a different life. We convince ourselves that if only things were different “then” we’d be...
info_outlineNo parent is perfect. You can pour your heart into your kid’s well-being, yet blindspots still lurk—those moments or patterns you don’t see but quietly chip away at your relationship or their growth. Oh—the unspoken truths parents miss.
Of course, the blindspots are certainly the unspoken truths we miss, the habits we defend, or the patterns we dismiss as “well, this is just how it is.”
Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com
Have you even given much thought as to your blindspots?
The question is not whether you have blindspots but how you choose to find and fix them.
The K.I.S.S. ~ S.P.O.T. the blindspots!
Here are three no-nonsense moves every parent can pull to spot those blindspots and actually step up.
1. S — SEEK Real Feedback without Defense
Stop guessing what you’re doing right or wrong. Go straight to trusted people who see you in action—your partner, friends, or even a coach. And here’s the key: listen without defending. Feedback is your map out of blindspots, but only if you let it in.
Here’s the uncomfortable truth: You’re not the best judge of your parenting in isolation. Blindspots often thrive because we reject or dodge honest feedback. The fix? Seek out people who see your parenting from the outside, and listen hard. This could be your partner, close friends with kids, or even a parenting group or coach who won’t sugarcoat.
But—and this is critical—don’t just seek feedback to nod along. When you hear criticism, swallow the urge to defend or explain. Ask yourself: Is there truth here? Even if it stings, blindspots hate the light, and honest input is the flashlight. That humility opens the door to change.
2. P — PAUSE and Reflect on Patterns and Triggers
Notice your triggers and automatic reactions. When tensions rise, hit pause. Track your feelings, your responses, and the repeated frictions that keep showing up. Reflection shines a light on what’s hidden and gives you space to change.
Blindspots often wear two disguises: emotional triggers and repeated patterns that keep causing friction. When your kid acts out or a routine goes south, what’s your automatic reaction? Anger? Over-correcting? Pull back, and track your own feelings and responses over a week or two. Write them down if you need to.
Then, ask yourself tough questions:
- What about this sets me off every time?
- How might my reaction actually escalate the problem?
- Are these reactions helping my child learn or just making things tense?
Facing these uncomfortable patterns head-on and understanding their roots isn’t a “nice to have” — it’s essential. Awareness is the start of breaking the cycle.
3. O — OWN Your Impact Through Your Child's Eyes
Shift from “I’m doing this for them” to “What’s this like from their view?” Imagine your child’s experience of your words and actions. This perspective check reveals blindspots faster than any theory ever will.
Want a shortcut to finding blindspots? See your actions through your kid’s eyes. Kids are masters of showing us what we miss — through their behavior, mood, and even the silent withdrawal. But often, we’re too busy or caught up in our intent to notice.
The next time you feel stuck or disconnected, stop and ask:
- How does my child experience this?
- What might they be needing that I’m overlooking?
- If I were in their shoes and older, what advice would I give myself?
This shift from “I’m doing this for them” to “How is this for them?” flips the script. It forces you to connect the dots between your intentions and the actual impact.
4. T — TAKE Action with Humility
Blindspots won’t clear themselves. Use what you learn to make small but consistent changes. Admit when you’re wrong, ask for help when needed, and keep pushing forward. Giving and asking for forgiveness goes a long way. Growth demands humility and persistence—not perfection.
HIGHLIGHT: Parenting blindspots won’t disappear if you pretend they don’t exist. Worse, they grow when you defend instead of discover. Getting better isn’t about being perfect—it’s about carrying a ruthless curiosity about yourself as a parent, ready to pivot when needed.
Make seeking real feedback, owning your triggers, and tuning into your child’s world non-negotiable. That’s how good parents become great ones.
A Parent's Blindspot by Kristianne Wargo
You hold their world—so small, so bright,
A steady hand through day and night.
But shadows stretch as sharp truths hide,
Blindspots whisper just inside.
You mean the best, you set the course,
Yet unseen rains alter the source.
Feedback calls—a voice outside,
Listen close, swallow pride.
Triggers flare in quiet ways,
Patterns weave through endless days.
Pause the storm, name the fight,
Break the cycle, choose the light.
Step into the child’s shoes,
Feel the highs, the pain, the blues.
Not just what you mean to do,
But how it lands in colors true.
No perfect path, no flawless flight,
Just eyes wide open to the night.
Seek the blindspots, lean, and grow—
That’s how roots run deep and flow.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
#ConfessionsOfAnUpsetMama #CreateYourNow #TodaysParent
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