3861 When Saying YES Leaves Your Spouse Waiting
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Release Date: 10/25/2025
3885 Simplicity Is Enough
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
We live in a culture that glorifies complexity and chaos—complicated schedules, endless goals, nonstop hustle. Yet, most of that noise isn’t helping you. You’re beating yourself up for what you don’t have, tangled in past disappointments, and paralyzed by fear that’s mostly imagined. None of that moves the needle. What if, for just one moment, you accepted that simplicity is enough? Imagine stripping away the must-dos, the overwhelm, the fears, and the doubts. Too often, though, we create monsters in our heads, just like we did when we were little and the monsters were under the bed....
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3884 Running to Stand Still
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Too much to do and holidays too close, how do you keep up with all of it the most? Every day can get you down when you keep going around. You claim you're busy, but you're just dizzy. Nothing will change until—you stop running to stand still. Why do we keep trying to convince ourselves that we can do everything? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . The myth of doing it all drains energy, steals joy, and steals our clarity. It’s called busy for a reason—but busy isn’t always progress. Sometimes it’s just noise. It’s absolutely okay to...
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3883 For When I Am Weak
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Your struggle isn't a solo mission. In fact, rest is on the other side of surrender. The apostle Paul writes of this truth in 2 Corinthians 12:9-10: "But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong." Think about it—how quick are we to shout from the rooftops all the things...
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3882 Stepping Toward Each Other When It Hurts Most
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Conflict in marriage isn’t just about the argument itself. It’s about the distance it creates—the silence, the hurt, the confusion about where “we” stand. Coming back together after conflict isn’t automatic. It requires intentional, courageous steps that go beyond "Let's just forget it" or “Sorry.” It's all about stepping toward each other when it hurts most. Every marriage faces its share of conflict and miscommunication. It’s not a sign that something is broken beyond repair—it's simply human nature. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join...
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3881 Parents—Stir The Fire!
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Parenting demands a strong backbone. When the storms of family life rage hardest—temper tantrums, teenage rebellion, mounting stress—it’s tempting to shut down or retreat into silence, hoping the problem will just pass. But here’s the hard truth: the parents’ job is not to run from the heat. It’s to stir the fire just enough so real growth can happen. Why? Because your child’s greatest lessons don’t come from perfect moments or rehearsed speeches. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . They come from raw, real-life...
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3880 Find Joy When Life Feels Like A Struggle
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Life doesn’t owe you an easy ride—and let’s be honest, it never will. The truth is this: tough weeks are part of the deal. You don’t get a pass because you’re tired, or because you’re giving everything you’ve got. But while life is relentless, your attitude doesn’t have to be. Find joy when life feels like a struggle. Waiting for “perfect” to show up before you allow yourself to smile? That’s a losing game. If you put happiness on hold until everything is exactly how you want it, it will never come. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us...
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3879 Get Your Head in the Game
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Living healthy isn’t just about what you eat or how often you move. It’s about staying sharp, focused, and fully engaged with your life and your body. But let’s be real — when your brain feels like it’s juggling 27 open tabs, and none of them are making sense, healthy living feels impossible. Tasks pile up. You start a project and end up lost in a scroll hole. It’s not a matter of laziness or a lack of willpower. Your brain is tapped out. So at some point, you've got to get your head in the game! Because if you don't, you'll be overloaded. Desire to be supported and encouraged by...
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3878 Remove the Filter
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Every day, we wear invisible masks—filters shaped by the expectations of others, the pressure to fit in, and the urge to appear flawless. We scroll through highlight reels of perfect lives on social media and wonder why our own feels so ordinary in comparison. So remove the filter. Because if you’re living for anyone else’s approval, you’re not living for yourself. And that leaves you with a life that feels filtered, diluted, and far from authentic. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s time to be courageous. Take a step back and...
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3877 When Everything Is Falling Apart
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Life’s storms don’t ask for permission. One moment, you’re steady; the next, it feels like the ground beneath you is crumbling. Demands from others pile up, your own expectations weigh heavy, and the dozens of responsibilities feel like a relentless avalanche. What do you do when everything is falling apart? You do know that you’ll never control every piece of the chaos. Trying to do so only drains your energy and keeps you spinning in place. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Worse, you might know exactly what must be done—but...
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3876 What You Believe, You Become
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Life pulls us in a thousand directions, and the chaos doesn’t stop there. Beyond the noise and the things out of our control, there’s something more powerful always happening — inside us. What you believe, you become. Too often, we look outside of ourselves — at circumstances, people, or temporary fixes — hoping to fill a void or answer a question only God can satisfy. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . But chasing after the wrong things leaves us empty, restless, and disconnected from the purpose God designed for us. When we buy...
info_outlineIt’s a familiar story. The calendar fills up with commitments, invitations, and obligations. Someone asks, and the default response is “Sure, I can help,” or “Count me in.” Only later, the spouse looks up, realizing that those dozens of external “yes’s” have quietly pushed the relationship down the list of priorities. It’s not malicious or neglectful — far from it. It’s often a simple lack of boundaries and margin that leads to a spouse being present for everyone else but not fully present for the person who matters most. When saying YES leaves your spouse waiting.
This pattern quietly threatens your marriage, especially during busy seasons like the holidays, when demands and distractions multiply exponentially.
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When you say yes to too many people, your spouse can feel sidelined, forgotten, or less important—not because you don’t love them, but because your time and energy have no room left for them. All you're giving them are the leftovers. And if you have a spouse who doesn't like leftovers, you are in for a rude awakening!
So how do you avoid this trap?
How do you keep your marriage strong and connected when your calendar is bursting and requests come nonstop?
You've got to guard your margins so you can honor you and your spouse.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Guard your margins!
Here are three practical moves to help you guard your margins and honor your spouse during the busiest times of year:
1. Audit Your Commitments Before Saying Yes
Before accepting every invitation or request for help, take a moment to check in with your calendar — and yourself.
How much free time do you actually have? More importantly, how much “quality time margin” do you want to preserve with your spouse?
Create a mental or physical checklist: Will this commitment add meaning or will it drain the limited time you and your spouse have?
Ask yourself if you’re saying yes out of obligation, guilt, or habit rather than genuine enthusiasm. When you hesitate, that’s a red flag. Learning to say “no” or “not this time” is an act of respect to your marriage.
2. Schedule “Protected Time” on Your Calendar
Don’t let spouse time just happen if your life feels like a runaway train. Block it out deliberately. Whether it’s a night away, a dinner after the kids are asleep, or simply an hour uninterrupted on the couch — mark it as non-negotiable.
Treat it with the same seriousness you give business meetings or social engagements. If your spouse sees that their time is sacred, it reduces feelings of neglect and strengthens your connection. This kind of intentional scheduling also sets clear boundaries for others about when you are unavailable.
3. Communicate Your Priorities Openly and Early
Telling your spouse you’re swamped only after they feel ignored is too late. Instead, have honest conversations before the busy season starts. That's why we're talking about it NOW!
Share your commitments openly and ask for their input on what times need to be reserved for your relationship.
Make adjustments proactively rather than reacting when resentment sneaks in. When your spouse feels heard and you show you’re fighting for their time, it builds trust and partnership even when life’s demands are high.
When you guard your margins and prioritize your relationship amid the chaos, you protect something priceless.
Marriage is one of life’s deepest gifts—both partners flourish when you carve out time not just to be “in the same space” but to truly be together. You're better together.
The holidays and busy seasons will come and go, but consistent, intentional choices about where you invest your energy set the tone for a marriage that thrives rather than just survives.
Take a breath before you say “yes” next time. Ask yourself if this commitment is pushing your spouse further away or drawing you closer. Being better together means making space for each other in the middle of life’s noise.
That’s a commitment worth guarding.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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Music by Mandisa - Overcomer
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Song ID: 68209
Song Title: Overcomer
Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia
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