3882 Stepping Toward Each Other When It Hurts Most
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Release Date: 11/15/2025
3885 Simplicity Is Enough
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
We live in a culture that glorifies complexity and chaos—complicated schedules, endless goals, nonstop hustle. Yet, most of that noise isn’t helping you. You’re beating yourself up for what you don’t have, tangled in past disappointments, and paralyzed by fear that’s mostly imagined. None of that moves the needle. What if, for just one moment, you accepted that simplicity is enough? Imagine stripping away the must-dos, the overwhelm, the fears, and the doubts. Too often, though, we create monsters in our heads, just like we did when we were little and the monsters were under the bed....
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3884 Running to Stand Still
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Too much to do and holidays too close, how do you keep up with all of it the most? Every day can get you down when you keep going around. You claim you're busy, but you're just dizzy. Nothing will change until—you stop running to stand still. Why do we keep trying to convince ourselves that we can do everything? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . The myth of doing it all drains energy, steals joy, and steals our clarity. It’s called busy for a reason—but busy isn’t always progress. Sometimes it’s just noise. It’s absolutely okay to...
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3883 For When I Am Weak
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Your struggle isn't a solo mission. In fact, rest is on the other side of surrender. The apostle Paul writes of this truth in 2 Corinthians 12:9-10: "But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong." Think about it—how quick are we to shout from the rooftops all the things...
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3882 Stepping Toward Each Other When It Hurts Most
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Conflict in marriage isn’t just about the argument itself. It’s about the distance it creates—the silence, the hurt, the confusion about where “we” stand. Coming back together after conflict isn’t automatic. It requires intentional, courageous steps that go beyond "Let's just forget it" or “Sorry.” It's all about stepping toward each other when it hurts most. Every marriage faces its share of conflict and miscommunication. It’s not a sign that something is broken beyond repair—it's simply human nature. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join...
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3881 Parents—Stir The Fire!
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Parenting demands a strong backbone. When the storms of family life rage hardest—temper tantrums, teenage rebellion, mounting stress—it’s tempting to shut down or retreat into silence, hoping the problem will just pass. But here’s the hard truth: the parents’ job is not to run from the heat. It’s to stir the fire just enough so real growth can happen. Why? Because your child’s greatest lessons don’t come from perfect moments or rehearsed speeches. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . They come from raw, real-life...
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3880 Find Joy When Life Feels Like A Struggle
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Life doesn’t owe you an easy ride—and let’s be honest, it never will. The truth is this: tough weeks are part of the deal. You don’t get a pass because you’re tired, or because you’re giving everything you’ve got. But while life is relentless, your attitude doesn’t have to be. Find joy when life feels like a struggle. Waiting for “perfect” to show up before you allow yourself to smile? That’s a losing game. If you put happiness on hold until everything is exactly how you want it, it will never come. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us...
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3879 Get Your Head in the Game
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Living healthy isn’t just about what you eat or how often you move. It’s about staying sharp, focused, and fully engaged with your life and your body. But let’s be real — when your brain feels like it’s juggling 27 open tabs, and none of them are making sense, healthy living feels impossible. Tasks pile up. You start a project and end up lost in a scroll hole. It’s not a matter of laziness or a lack of willpower. Your brain is tapped out. So at some point, you've got to get your head in the game! Because if you don't, you'll be overloaded. Desire to be supported and encouraged by...
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3878 Remove the Filter
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Every day, we wear invisible masks—filters shaped by the expectations of others, the pressure to fit in, and the urge to appear flawless. We scroll through highlight reels of perfect lives on social media and wonder why our own feels so ordinary in comparison. So remove the filter. Because if you’re living for anyone else’s approval, you’re not living for yourself. And that leaves you with a life that feels filtered, diluted, and far from authentic. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s time to be courageous. Take a step back and...
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3877 When Everything Is Falling Apart
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Life’s storms don’t ask for permission. One moment, you’re steady; the next, it feels like the ground beneath you is crumbling. Demands from others pile up, your own expectations weigh heavy, and the dozens of responsibilities feel like a relentless avalanche. What do you do when everything is falling apart? You do know that you’ll never control every piece of the chaos. Trying to do so only drains your energy and keeps you spinning in place. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Worse, you might know exactly what must be done—but...
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3876 What You Believe, You Become
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Life pulls us in a thousand directions, and the chaos doesn’t stop there. Beyond the noise and the things out of our control, there’s something more powerful always happening — inside us. What you believe, you become. Too often, we look outside of ourselves — at circumstances, people, or temporary fixes — hoping to fill a void or answer a question only God can satisfy. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . But chasing after the wrong things leaves us empty, restless, and disconnected from the purpose God designed for us. When we buy...
info_outlineConflict in marriage isn’t just about the argument itself. It’s about the distance it creates—the silence, the hurt, the confusion about where “we” stand. Coming back together after conflict isn’t automatic. It requires intentional, courageous steps that go beyond "Let's just forget it" or “Sorry.” It's all about stepping toward each other when it hurts most.
Every marriage faces its share of conflict and miscommunication. It’s not a sign that something is broken beyond repair—it's simply human nature.
Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com
We come into relationships with our own histories, expectations, and emotional triggers.
Small misunderstandings escalate when left unaddressed, assumptions fill in the gaps where clarity is missing, and stress from outside life pressures can spill over in ways neither partner intends.
Sometimes, a minor disagreement can spiral into silence. Or harsh words cut deeper than anyone expected. You find yourselves wanting to move forward but stuck—wondering how to rebuild, how to reconnect when everything feels raw and fragile. That's where the toughest part lies: not just wanting peace, but knowing how to get there.
So what can a spouse do when the distance after a fight seems too wide?
The K.I.S.S. ~ Rebuild the bridge!
You can fix what is broken, but only the parts that you control.
1. Own Your Part Without Defensiveness
Conflict is never one-sided. When emotions run high, it’s tempting to protect yourself by pointing fingers or justifying your actions. But healing begins when you bravely step back and own your role—not with excuses, but with honesty.
This doesn’t mean taking all the blame; it means acknowledging how your words or actions contributed to the pain. Saying, “I’m sorry for how I hurt you,” rather than, “I’m sorry you feel that way,” is powerful. It lowers defenses, breaks down walls, and signals willingness to bridge the gap.
When you own your part, you invite your partner to do the same—not with judgment, but with empathy. This creates a safe space where real conversations can grow, and healing can begin.
2. Ask Deep Questions—Listen to Understand, Not to Respond
After a conflict, it’s easy to get caught replaying your version of the story in your head—and mentally preparing your next point. But what your partner really needs is to be heard, not debated.
Try asking thoughtful, open-ended questions that invite your spouse to share their feelings and needs. For instance:
- “What was going through your mind during our argument?”
- “How did what I said or did affect you?”
- “What do you need from me so we can move forward?”
Then, listen deeply. That means resisting the urge to interrupt or defend yourself. Listen to understand the emotional experience behind their words.
When your partner feels genuinely understood, it breeds connection—not defensiveness—and that shared understanding is the bridge back.
3. Rebuild Connection Through Small Acts of Care
Big apologies or grand gestures alone won’t restore what’s lost after conflict. What heals most is consistent, small acts that show you’re present and invested.
It could be something as simple as making their favorite cup of coffee, sending a heartfelt text during the day, or suggesting a walk together without distractions. These moments remind both of you that, beyond the disagreement, you’re a team that cares deeply.
Consistency is key. When your spouse sees you making an effort day after day, they begin to trust that the connection will hold—even when times get tough.
Conflict Isn’t the End—it Can Be the Start of Something Stronger
Conflict doesn’t have to fracture your marriage. In fact, it can reveal cracks that, when addressed with courage and care, lead to greater intimacy and understanding.
Stepping toward each other when it hurts most isn’t easy. It requires humility, patience, and intentionality. But every relationship worth fighting for deserves that effort.
So when you feel stuck, remember this: not all conflicts lead to the end. Often, they lead to the chance to come back—closer and more connected than before. You just have to take the first step.
"One step at a time leads to miles of greatness!" ~ Kristianne Wargo
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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