3958 Make Your Last Word Good
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Parenting is a relentless hustle. Sleepless nights blur into days of heartache, frustration, and moments when it feels like your efforts go unnoticed. In the chaos of discipline, schedules, and tears, it’s easy to lose sight of the fact that you are the constant in your child’s world—their anchor and their guide. The truth is, what you say last in any interaction leaves a lasting imprint. That’s why it’s crucial: make your last word good. What does that mean? It means shifting focus from reaction to reflection. It means choosing the lasting message you want your child to take...
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3957 Dig A Little Deeper
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Life doesn’t wait for you to be ready. It hits hard, fast, and often without warning. When the storms roll in, they can scar your days and steal the peace from your nights. It’s raw. It’s real. And frankly, it’s not fun. Life has never been easy for anyone who’s ever done more than just exist. If you want to stand tall—if you want to break past the pain—you have to dig a little deeper. Digging deeper means rolling up your sleeves and getting your hands and heart a little dirty, diving headfirst into the mess that life throws your way. Desire to be supported and encouraged by...
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3956 Why Does Everything Healthy Taste So Bad?
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Healthy living rarely feels easy. We say we want to be healthier, but when faced with salads that seem like lawn clippings or bland steamed veggies, we ask ourselves: Why does everything healthy taste so bad? The frustration isn’t just about flavor; it’s a symptom of a deeper battle between what our bodies crave and what our minds resist. Your taste buds and your body are often on two different pages, and that disconnect trips up even the most committed. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . When we say “healthy,” we’re really talking...
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3955 Put Down Your Mask
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It’s easy to hide behind a mask — the carefully crafted image of who you think you should be or what you don’t want anyone to see. Behind this disguise, you might feel safer, less vulnerable. But you cannot move forward or live the life you were meant to live with God’s divine purpose in mind if you’re trapped behind that mask. So, put down your mask. Please put down your mask. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Be bold enough to show up with your flaws, your imperfections, your raw and real self. You don’t have to be perfect to...
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3954 How Do You Shift In Real Time?
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Life isn’t a straight path. It’s a wild mix of flavors, textures, highs, lows, wins, and setbacks. You grind to reach certain milestones, but just when you think you’ve arrived, reality reminds you there’s more hustle, more growth, more shifting to do. So how do you shift in real time when life throws you curveballs? Are you the kind of person who acts like you’ve already done the hard work—like you’ve ticked the box—only to wash your hands of responsibility? Then you lean back, waiting for the next step to come to you. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded...
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3953 No More Words
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Have you ever paused to consider how God truly wants you to show up each day? It’s easy to walk into church on Sunday with a smile and a heart full of joy—or at least a glimpse of it. But ask yourself: how genuine is that moment? Is it real and life-giving? Or is it just a performance, a mask worn for the crowd, for appearances? God doesn’t need the mask. He sees behind it. He knows the truth that we often try to hide, even from ourselves. No more words. Jesus said it plainly in Matthew 5, in the Beatitudes—a blueprint for living “God’s way.” It’s a call to something deeper...
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3952 Are You Chasing the Wrong Part of the Heart?
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Marriage. A word that conjures images of bliss, partnership, and forever—but also confusion, frustration, and unexpected challenges. When two people say, “I do,” it isn’t just a promise to love; it’s an entry into a complicated dance of needs, expectations, and realities. And somewhere along the way, you might find yourself wondering: Are you chasing the wrong part of the heart? Let’s be real—too many people step into marriage thinking it’s all about them. They want their partner’s role to serve their needs, validate their feelings, and eliminate inconveniences. Desire to be...
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3951 Prepare the Way
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When your children are little, parenting feels all-consuming. Overwhelm doesn't even seem like a fitting word, yet you’re hands-on from feeding to teaching to fixing. Every day is full of immediate needs, constant crisis management, and unconditional love sprinkled throughout. It’s easy to believe that how you prepare the way means just getting them through those early years. But then, they grow. They move into adolescence, young adulthood, and beyond—and suddenly the kind of parenting required shifts. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the...
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3950 Choose What You Carry Forward
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So much in life is left in the trenches of what we lost or what didn't make it. Success can leave scars as much as failures. But the sting is always greater when something does not go your way. Yet, that's not how your story gets to end. There is joy in the morning, and you get to choose what you carry forward. That choice isn’t because of how much you know or the wit you’ve picked up along the way—though those add richness to your journey. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s because your power lies in what you decide to hold...
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3949 Lean Into Leverage
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If you have a life where everything is perfectly aligned—ideal schedule, boundless energy, and endless resources—great. This isn’t for you. But for the rest of us? Especially when it comes to healthy living, the reality is messier, more complicated, and rarely perfect. So, instead of getting caught up in the magnitude of all the things 'health,' maybe it's all about how you lean into leverage. And not the leverage you are probably thinking of. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . That’s why chasing some ideal “health” picture rarely...
info_outlineGrief isn’t just about losing a loved one. It’s a full-body, mind-consuming response to any meaningful loss: a job, a home, a relationship, a dream gone sideways. If you don’t understand how grief rewires your mindset, it can trap you in a mental box where all you see is what’s broken—and how far you are from climbing out of that dark hole. When you understand how grief affects your mindset, you get why you're paralyzed, stuck replaying the what, why, and how over and over, missing the possibility of what’s next.
So let’s get real: grief is brutal, disorienting, and exhausting. Science and psychology confirm that grief triggers massive shifts in our brain chemistry and cognitive patterns, clouding judgment, sapping motivation, and amplifying negative thinking.
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Studies show the mind under grief can experience heightened anxiety, trouble focusing, and a pervasive sense of hopelessness. That’s why grief can feel like a cage—it hijacks your mental resources, making it nearly impossible to envision a future beyond the loss.
But here’s the catch: grief is a process, not a permanent state. The depth of the pain doesn’t have to define how far you fall or how long you stay down. You can honor the grieving process without letting it swallow you whole. The key is learning how grief shapes your mindset and taking actionable steps to prevent it from overruling your entire life.
How Grief Messes with Your Mindset
- Narrowed Focus on Loss: Your brain gets stuck zooming in on the loss and what you can’t change. This tunnel vision blocks out new opportunities and solutions.
- Slowed Cognitive Processing: The emotional weight distracts your brain’s executive function, making decision-making and problem-solving feel overwhelming.
- Heightened Negative Bias: Your brain goes into a “threat” mode, causing you to focus on risks and downsides rather than potential gains.
- Erosion of Motivation: Feeling depleted and sad drains your energy to take action or chase goals.
- Disturbed Sense of Identity: When dreams or roles disappear, you can stumble into an identity crisis, unsure who you are or what you want moving forward.
The Hidden Grief Behind Losses Beyond Death
Losing a job, relationship, or home can trigger grief just like losing a person. These losses are wrapped in shattered security, unstable plans, and broken trust. Your mind cries out, but often silently, because society tells us to “move on” from these losses faster than grief naturally fades. That denial only deepens the mindset trap.
At some point, you need to rise up and prevent grief from hijacking your mindset while still honoring it.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Hijack your mindset!
3 Ways to Prevent Grief from Hijacking Your Mindset — While Still Honoring It
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Set Boundaries with Your Grief: It’s okay to feel devastated, but don’t let your mind camp out there 24/7. Schedule “grief time” where you allow yourself to feel and process—then shift your focus to small, actionable steps in your day. For example, journal your pain for 20 minutes, then outline one micro-goal you can do right after.
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Reframe Your Mindset With Empowering Beliefs: Grief feeds on fixed thinking (“I’m broken forever,” “Nothing will get better”). Actively challenge those thoughts. Remind yourself, “This is painful, but it is temporary,” and, “I am more than my loss.” Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) studies show this shifting perspective rewires the brain’s response to trauma and loss.
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Anchor Yourself in Daily Meaningful Action: Moving feet forward counts more than waiting to “feel ready.” Consistent small wins—whether a walk, a call to a friend, or starting a creative project—build momentum and counteract paralysis. Movement shakes up the brain’s stagnant grief loops, creating room for hope and healing.
This Too Shall Pass — But Only If You Move
Grief is rarely a straight line, and it will knock you down hard. But lurking in that darkness is the chance to rebuild stronger, wiser, and clearer. You’re made for more than surviving loss—you’re made for living beyond it.
Let your heart have room to mourn. But don’t get cozy there. Your dreams deserve air. Your mind deserves freedom. Your future deserves you showing up—ready, restless, and ready to rise.
Remember this: grief doesn’t own your story. It’s just a chapter. And the next chapter is waiting for you to start writing it.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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