3934 Quit Waiting for a Guarantee
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Life doesn’t hand out guarantees. No matter how much you want a smooth ride or a sure win, it simply doesn’t work that way. Success, growth, and reaching your goals come from one thing above all else—intention. How you think, decide, and act every single day shapes whether you make it across the finish line. So quit waiting for a guarantee. When you’re chasing something brand new—whether it’s launching a business, changing careers, or mastering a skill—there’s no autopilot. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Waiting for the...
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3933 How Grief Affects Your Mindset
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Grief isn’t just about losing a loved one. It’s a full-body, mind-consuming response to any meaningful loss: a job, a home, a relationship, a dream gone sideways. If you don’t understand how grief rewires your mindset, it can trap you in a mental box where all you see is what’s broken—and how far you are from climbing out of that dark hole. When you understand how grief affects your mindset, you get why you're paralyzed, stuck replaying the what, why, and how over and over, missing the possibility of what’s next. So let’s get real: grief is brutal, disorienting, and...
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3932 Stand Firm on God's Holy Ground
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Walking in step with God is never a passive journey, especially when the world around you seems determined to pull you off course. Jealousy, deceit, and manipulation are real weapons some wield to fracture your spirit and cloud your vision. When hearts turn bitter and minds play cruel games, it’s easy to get trapped inside a warped reality that feels impossible to escape. So how do you hold your ground in these moments? How do you fight this spiritual battle without losing your soul? Stand firm on God's Holy ground. You must begin to recognize the battlefield beyond the visible, only what...
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3931 Dream Bigger Together
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The new year brings that electric buzz of new beginnings and fresh possibilities. When you’re married to your person—the one you dream about and build life with—it only makes sense to dream bigger together. Because, really, who wouldn’t want a richer, more exciting life for themselves and their spouse? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . But here’s the truth: It’s easy to fall into the trap of “we’ve always done it this way.” And sure—that’s comfortable. Maybe even safe. But if you want to go beyond the status quo, if...
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3930 Intentional Parenting that Moves Mountains
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Every new year brings a fresh chance to hit the reset button — including how you show up as a parent. But let's be real: parenting is hard, exhausting, and often thankless. If you coast through it, thinking your kids will "figure it out," you’re setting everyone up for frustration and chaos. Kids need more than just food and shelter; they need consistent guidance, love, and boundaries; it's intentional parenting that moves mountains. Because when you slack off, what you get is exactly what you put in — kids who push limits, test boundaries, and fill the void left by absent parenting....
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3929 The Best Is Yet To Come
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The first day of a new year holds something rare—a stillness amid the noise, a quiet space where hope and possibility stretch out like an open road. It’s a day wrapped in excitement but tinged with uncertainty. The unknowns can flip the script, spin your stomach, and test your courage. But here’s the beautiful, unshakable truth: The best is yet to come. You might hear this phrase a ton. But it's not just a feel-good phrase. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s a call to show up with presence, grace, and fierce faith. Presence...
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3928 What If Forward Progress Requires Forgiveness?
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Every New Year arrives heavy with promises! However, let’s be honest, you've gotta fair share of frustration, too. For millions, those well-meaning resolutions quickly unravel, leaving behind guilt and the familiar cycle of “I failed again.” But the harsh truth is that pushing yourself to “fix” every flaw with iron willpower only sets up a battle you can’t win long-term. So what if forward progress requires forgiveness in your healthy living? Well-being doesn’t emerge from beating yourself into a different person. Yet all too often, that’s exactly the approach New Year’s...
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3927 Get Back Up!
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You're probably all too familiar with the grinding season—the one where your to-do list feels like Mount Everest, your energy dips, and then the holidays roll in like a relentless tide. It’s the time when surviving feels like a win. But what if you didn’t just survive? What if you conquered this season with your heart still beating loud and your goals clearly in view? Get back up! Here’s the truth: heart and hustle aren’t enemies of your well-being; they’re the secret weapons for a life that’s full without breaking you. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded...
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3926 How to Honor Your Past and Prepare for the Present
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Every December, most of us find ourselves trapped in the chaos—exhausted, overwhelmed, and haunted by a list of unfinished goals. This is the time for closing the chapter: how to honor your past and prepare for the present. Our minds scramble through the mess of failures and successes alike, begging for answers that never seem to come. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . But here’s the truth: fear does not have to freeze you in place. You were created to move forward, to step boldly into what’s next. The power lies in embracing the new...
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3925 Anchor Your Joy in What Lasts
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As the final Sunday of the year fades into twilight, it carries with it a weight that feels heavy for many—a mix of reflection, regret, relief, and even anticipation. Life never promised a smooth journey. Each year comes with its own share of battles, setbacks, and moments when the road feels unbearably steep. But struggles don’t have the final say on your joy or hope. Anchor your joy in what lasts. Far too often, we let our circumstances dictate how we feel—a volatile foundation for anything lasting. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . ...
info_outlineGrief isn’t just about losing a loved one. It’s a full-body, mind-consuming response to any meaningful loss: a job, a home, a relationship, a dream gone sideways. If you don’t understand how grief rewires your mindset, it can trap you in a mental box where all you see is what’s broken—and how far you are from climbing out of that dark hole. When you understand how grief affects your mindset, you get why you're paralyzed, stuck replaying the what, why, and how over and over, missing the possibility of what’s next.
So let’s get real: grief is brutal, disorienting, and exhausting. Science and psychology confirm that grief triggers massive shifts in our brain chemistry and cognitive patterns, clouding judgment, sapping motivation, and amplifying negative thinking.
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Studies show the mind under grief can experience heightened anxiety, trouble focusing, and a pervasive sense of hopelessness. That’s why grief can feel like a cage—it hijacks your mental resources, making it nearly impossible to envision a future beyond the loss.
But here’s the catch: grief is a process, not a permanent state. The depth of the pain doesn’t have to define how far you fall or how long you stay down. You can honor the grieving process without letting it swallow you whole. The key is learning how grief shapes your mindset and taking actionable steps to prevent it from overruling your entire life.
How Grief Messes with Your Mindset
- Narrowed Focus on Loss: Your brain gets stuck zooming in on the loss and what you can’t change. This tunnel vision blocks out new opportunities and solutions.
- Slowed Cognitive Processing: The emotional weight distracts your brain’s executive function, making decision-making and problem-solving feel overwhelming.
- Heightened Negative Bias: Your brain goes into a “threat” mode, causing you to focus on risks and downsides rather than potential gains.
- Erosion of Motivation: Feeling depleted and sad drains your energy to take action or chase goals.
- Disturbed Sense of Identity: When dreams or roles disappear, you can stumble into an identity crisis, unsure who you are or what you want moving forward.
The Hidden Grief Behind Losses Beyond Death
Losing a job, relationship, or home can trigger grief just like losing a person. These losses are wrapped in shattered security, unstable plans, and broken trust. Your mind cries out, but often silently, because society tells us to “move on” from these losses faster than grief naturally fades. That denial only deepens the mindset trap.
At some point, you need to rise up and prevent grief from hijacking your mindset while still honoring it.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Hijack your mindset!
3 Ways to Prevent Grief from Hijacking Your Mindset — While Still Honoring It
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Set Boundaries with Your Grief: It’s okay to feel devastated, but don’t let your mind camp out there 24/7. Schedule “grief time” where you allow yourself to feel and process—then shift your focus to small, actionable steps in your day. For example, journal your pain for 20 minutes, then outline one micro-goal you can do right after.
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Reframe Your Mindset With Empowering Beliefs: Grief feeds on fixed thinking (“I’m broken forever,” “Nothing will get better”). Actively challenge those thoughts. Remind yourself, “This is painful, but it is temporary,” and, “I am more than my loss.” Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) studies show this shifting perspective rewires the brain’s response to trauma and loss.
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Anchor Yourself in Daily Meaningful Action: Moving feet forward counts more than waiting to “feel ready.” Consistent small wins—whether a walk, a call to a friend, or starting a creative project—build momentum and counteract paralysis. Movement shakes up the brain’s stagnant grief loops, creating room for hope and healing.
This Too Shall Pass — But Only If You Move
Grief is rarely a straight line, and it will knock you down hard. But lurking in that darkness is the chance to rebuild stronger, wiser, and clearer. You’re made for more than surviving loss—you’re made for living beyond it.
Let your heart have room to mourn. But don’t get cozy there. Your dreams deserve air. Your mind deserves freedom. Your future deserves you showing up—ready, restless, and ready to rise.
Remember this: grief doesn’t own your story. It’s just a chapter. And the next chapter is waiting for you to start writing it.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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