4058 The Story of Your Family
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
When you reflect on your life, where does your family fit in the grand story? Is God at the center of your family's narrative by genuine choice, or is His presence more a matter of convenience? The story of your family is not a ledger of right or wrong actions, successes or mistakes. Instead, it’s about whose you are—rooted firmly in God's divine connection—and how that shapes the way you show up for each other and for the world around you. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Whose Family Are You? The Bible makes it clear that our truest...
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4057 Real > Perfect
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Marriage is often painted as the ultimate partnership — two people becoming one, sharing everything, and fully supporting each other. The truth is, too many spouses lose sight of themselves along the way. We start doing everything our partner wants: changing how we dress, altering how we act in public, shelving our own dreams for theirs, meeting their needs while our own are quietly ignored. Somewhere between “I do” and “we,” we forget that real > perfect. Dating was different. We were curious, eager to discover everything about our partner, putting our best foot...
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4056 Ditch the Mom Guilt
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Mom guilt is a beast nobody warns you about until you’ve been swallowed whole by it. With Mother’s Day just ahead, it’s the perfect time to honor the tough, tireless job moms do raising the next generation. But let's be real and honest: more often than not, it stings more than we admit because the guilt feels like a weight on our hearts, drowning out the impact we want to have. Let it all go, and ditch the mom guilt. Because if you don't, mom guilt thrives when you take ownership of things that aren’t yours to carry. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women?...
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4055 Build A Bridge
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Life rarely flows in a straight line. Sometimes you find yourself pulled in a dozen different directions, tangled in disappointments and setbacks, or simply unsure which step to take next. When that happens, the instinct to quit can be loud and tempting. But instead of throwing in the towel, it’s time to build a bridge. What does it mean to build a bridge this way in life? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . It’s about creating a path forward that connects you from where you are right now to where you want to be next. This isn’t about...
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4054 When No One Knows
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I don’t know what this season has been like for you, but sometimes life just feels heavy. You’re doing your best to keep going, but eventually you look up and think…"What now? What next? I can’t handle one more thing." How are you getting through the day when no one knows? The apostle Paul knew that feeling when he wrote, “We were crushed and overwhelmed beyond our ability to endure” (2 Corinthians 1:8 NLT). Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . But he also knew this: You may reach the end of your own strength, but you’ll never...
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4053 Don't Shrink Back!
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Why do we wage war inside ourselves, convincing our hearts that we are our failures, that we are not enough? STOP IT!! You are created for more. Every season of your life holds a purpose that only you can fulfill. So don’t shrink back! Life will never look the way you imagine it should. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . That’s because we craft stories in our minds — stories built from past wounds and hopes for the future. But those mental scripts don’t tell the whole truth. They distract you from the only moment that truly belongs to...
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4052 Run the Race Meant for You
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It’s human nature to look around and see what everyone else is doing—who’s winning, who’s falling behind. Social media makes it even harder; we see highlight reels of success, hustle, and overnight wins. But your dreams and goals are not finished by someone else’s actions or accomplishments. They're only fulfilled by your moves, your focus, and your relentless commitment to run the race meant for you. Because if I were a betting girl, which I'm not, my bet would be that you already tried running someone else's race. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded...
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4051 Is God Mad At You?
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What do you do when everything feels heavy, and you seem to be lost? Maybe for you, it's that feeling of the disappointments stacking up, the dreams that seem to slip through your fingers, the isolation pressing in like a weight you can’t shake. If you’re like me in this season, it’s easy to wonder if God has forgotten you. Or worse, is God mad at you? And then I read Zephaniah 3:17: “The Lord your God is in your midst; he is a warrior who can deliver. He takes great delight in you; he renews you by his love; he shouts for joy over you.” Desire to be supported and encouraged by other...
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4050 I Do, But Not Today
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There’s a raw, undeniable magic in the early days of love. When two people are madly in love, everything seems bright, shiny, and flawless—or at least, as close to flawless as humanly possible. Each partner carries a pair of rose-colored glasses that mask faults, differences, and even potential deal-breakers. The world is new, and so is each other. It’s the honeymoon of life. But time is relentless. Years press forward, and those blazing mornings turn into years that roll into decades where life happens. No wonder your attitude is "I do, but not today." Life doesn’t pause or hit reset....
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4049 Just In Case You Missed It
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Why let life get so unruly, especially when it comes to your family? Busyness does not need to be a convenient excuse to soften the blow of your absence when you tell your kids that you cannot be there for them. Don't be that kind of parent. Hang on with your presence just in case you missed it. Because you can’t be everywhere all the time. Trying to be a superhero with endless energy leads straight to burnout—and that’s no life, no legacy. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Instead, be strategic about your presence. Because when...
info_outlineMarriage is often painted as the ultimate partnership — two people becoming one, sharing everything, and fully supporting each other. The truth is, too many spouses lose sight of themselves along the way. We start doing everything our partner wants: changing how we dress, altering how we act in public, shelving our own dreams for theirs, meeting their needs while our own are quietly ignored. Somewhere between “I do” and “we,” we forget that real > perfect.
Dating was different. We were curious, eager to discover everything about our partner, putting our best foot forward.
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But after the vows, the natural rhythm shifts. Not because commitment demands it, but because life’s messiness and daily demands pull our focus into a thousand directions, especially toward our spouse’s needs.
Think back: What has happened since you got married?
What changed for the better? What changed that you wished didn't? What changed that you never thought you would be there in that season?
Supporting your partner is crucial, but not at the expense of losing who you are — your passions, your voice, your growth — who you are becoming!
So don't you think it's time to get real?
The K.I.S.S. ~ Get real!
Here are three ways to keep yourself whole in marriage without turning selfish, because real > perfect:
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Set Boundaries That Protect You
Boundaries aren’t walls; they’re the lines that keep you healthy and sane. Whether it’s carving out time for your hobbies, asking for space to think, or simply saying no when something overwhelms you, boundaries ensure you don’t dissolve into your spouse’s world completely. It’s okay to say, “I need this time to recharge.” Real marriage isn’t about losing yourself; it’s about showing up as your best self. -
Keep Your Dreams on the Table
Marriage isn’t an excuse to put your goals on hold. Talk openly about what you want — your career, passions, goals — and work toward them alongside your spouse. Supporting each other’s growth makes your bond stronger, not weaker. When you stay committed to your own future, you bring more energy, passion, and authenticity into your relationship. -
Communicate Honestly — The Good and the Uncomfortable
Perfect spouses say only what is expected or what will please. Real spouses talk about how they truly feel — their frustrations, their hopes, their needs. This is how trust deepens. Don’t bury who you are under the weight of keeping the peace. Speak your truth gently but firmly, so your spouse comes to know you, not a polished version of who you think they want.
Marriage shouldn’t ask you to be anything but your real self, even if that self is messy, evolving, and sometimes imperfect. Striving for perfection in your role as spouse is a lose-lose game. You’ll exhaust yourself, and your relationship will shrink under the pressure.
Instead, choose to be real. Be the messy, human, evolving person worthy of love and respect — who keeps growing, keeps dreaming, and keeps their boundaries. It’s not about being perfect; it’s about being present, authentic, and whole. Real > perfect! And that’s the kind of love that lasts.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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