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4152 The Woman in the Mirror

Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Release Date: 08/12/2026

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

You cross the finish line. You hit the milestone. You reach that thing you've been praying over, grinding toward, and believing God for — and you exhale. And that's a wrap. Or is it? When you accomplish a goal or finally touch a long-held dream, do you stop? Do you sit down, dust off your hands, and call it done? Or does something inside you whisper, "There's more?" It's very interesting how we see life. The moments can feel like a year, when it might have been only a day. But nothing worth having comes in a moment.  Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

There are seasons in life when the darkness feels closer than it should. When the weight of what you're walking through presses in from every side and you start to wonder if the light you once felt so sure of is still there. Maybe it's grief. Maybe it's uncertainty. Maybe it's a weariness that has settled so deeply into your bones that you can't remember what rest feels like. Wherever you are right now, whatever shadow has crept into the edges of your story, do something simple and holy — come and see. Come and see that the light has not gone out. Desire to be supported and encouraged by...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

You married your best friend. You chose each other. And somewhere along the way, the life you're building together started pulling you apart — not because the love faded, but because everything else got louder. You're not fighting. You're not even frustrated with each other most days. You're just missing each other; sitting in the same house but living in different rhythms. And that quiet distance? It didn't happen because of one bad day. It happened one full week at a time. So when life crowds in on your marriage, don't let the calendar replace the connection. However, the biggest threat to...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

It's not that unheard of to want to explain everything to your children. We carry decades of life behind us, and we think if we can just say the right thing at the right time, we can spare them the pain. But regardless of their age and stage of life, what they need is your presence. Not your lecture. Not your five-point plan. Your presence; listening is love. You don't have to have all the answers. You don't have to be the problem-solver every single time. What they need from you is ears to hear. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . ...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

There are moments in life when everything feels like it's pressing in — the deadlines, the demands, the weight of expectations, and the relentless pace that never seems to slow down. And right in the middle of all of it, you realize something: the heat is on. Not just the kind that comes from outside pressure, but the kind that rises from within, the fire that tells you it's time to move, to grow, to step into the fullness of who you are and who you are created to be. No matter what happens in your day, at some point you have to be willing to go the extra mile, play full out, and do whatever...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

People will tell you about the blooming, the breakthrough, and the moment they finally stepped into the calling God placed on their life, where everything clicks because He has been planning it all along. But nobody really talks about the soil no one talks about — the stuff underneath the surface that made the bloom possible in the first place. The seasons that felt more like a burial than planting. The prayers that seemed to bounce off the ceiling. The plans you laid out in good faith that God, in His gentle sovereignty, folded up and tucked away. And if you've been in one of those...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Have you ever watched a tennis match and noticed the winner isn't always the one hitting the hardest? Sometimes it's the one who knows when to slow down, when to push forward, and when to reset between points. With the US Open in full swing right now, there's no better time to be reminded that the way we approach our daily lives mirrors what's happening on those courts in Flushing Meadows. It's time to set the pace for your daily race — not someone else's, not the world's, but the one God specifically designed for you. Tennis is a game of rhythm. Every elite player has a routine between...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

There's something beautifully ironic about Labor Day. It's the one day of the year when we're told to stop laboring — to set down the to-do list, fire up the grill, and just breathe. But as the burgers sizzle and the kids splash in the last pool days of summer, a quiet question has a way of surfacing: What am I really working for? Today, as we celebrate the gift of rest, let's talk about Laboring for What Lasts — and why the answer to that question shapes everything. Jesus said it plainly in Matthew 6:21 (NIV): "For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." Desire to be...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

There is a rhythm to our days that we rarely stop long enough to notice. We wake, we push, we strive, and we do it all over again. We wrap ourselves around careers, achievements, milestones, and ambitions so tightly that we forget whose we are and who we belong to. But what if this weekend, during this beautiful pause, it became the moment you chose to notice God's goodness? God did not create us to chase all the earthly things. He did not breathe life into us so we could spend every waking moment climbing ladders and collecting accolades. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other...

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Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

There is a quiet kind of tired that has nothing to do with sleep. It's the exhaustion that settles into your bones when you've poured out every ounce of who you are for the people you love and you look around and wonder, "Who's pouring into me?" If you've ever felt that heaviness, if you've ever smiled through the day while silently breaking underneath, then you already understand what it means when holding it all together is pulling you apart. You are not alone in this. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #RelationshipBuilders #CreateYourNow...

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There's a moment — and if you're honest, you know exactly the one I'm talking about — where you catch your reflection and the first thing that crosses your mind isn't kind. It's not always about what you look like physically, although sometimes it is. More often, it's deeper than that. It's the look in your own eyes that says, I thought I'd be further along by now. It's the quiet measuring of the woman in the mirror that happens when you compare who you are today against who you imagined you'd be at this point.

And just like that, the woman staring back at you becomes not enough.

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But here's what I want you to sit with today — right here in the middle of your week, right in the thick of whatever you're carrying — that woman in the mirror isn't behind. She isn't falling short. She isn't the rough draft of someone better.

She's the real version. The one doing the work. And she deserves more than your criticism. She deserves your compassion.

We do this thing where we hold two versions of ourselves in tension. There's the woman we are, and then there's the woman we think we're supposed to be. The problem isn't aspiration. Dreaming and growing and reaching — that's beautiful. The problem is when the future version of ourselves becomes the standard we use to beat up the current one.

You wouldn't look at a garden in the middle of its growing season and say, Why aren't you blooming yet? You'd tend it. You'd water it. You'd trust the process because you understand that growth takes time and the right conditions.

So why don't we offer ourselves that same grace?

Psalm 139:14 says, "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." And notice — it doesn't say will be wonderfully made. It doesn't say once I get it together I'll be wonderful. It's present tense. Right now. As you are. In the middle of the mess and the growth and the not-quite-there-yet, you are already a finished work in progress. That's not a contradiction. That's the beauty of how God operates — complete in His eyes and still becoming in yours.

Maya Angelou once said, "We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty."

And I think that's the piece we forget when we look in the mirror. We want the butterfly. We want the wings. But we dismiss the season we're actually in, as if the cocoon stage doesn't count.

It counts.

Every single layer you're peeling back right now counts. Every hard conversation you've had with yourself this week counts. Every time you chose to keep going even when you didn't feel ready — that counts.

So let me ask you this: when was the last time you looked at yourself — really looked — and simply said, I see you, and you're doing a good job?

The K.I.S.S. ~ See her and say so!

What are you saying to yourself now? How's that working for you?

You need to see yourself and acknowledge that you are doing a good job. So what does that look like in real life?

  1. Stand in the mirror for sixty seconds — not to fix, but to notice. Before you reach for the critique, just look. Look at the woman who showed up today. The one who got out of bed, who carried things no one else can see, who is still standing in the middle of her week. Let that be enough for sixty seconds.
  2. Write down one thing you've grown through this year — and thank yourself for it. Not something you accomplished. Something you grew through. A hard season, a tough conversation, a shift in how you think. Put it on paper and let it remind you that progress doesn't always come with a trophy. Sometimes it comes with quiet survival.
  3. Replace one "I should be" statement with an "I am" statement. The next time you hear yourself say I should be more patient or I should be further along, stop. Rewrite it. I am learning patience. I am exactly where I need to be for this season. Words shape how we see ourselves, so speak to your reflection the way God already sees it.

As Paul wrote in Philippians 1:6, "He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."

That means the work isn't yours to finish alone. Your job is to stay in it. To keep showing up. To stop demanding perfection from a woman who was only ever asked to be faithful.

The woman in the mirror isn't finished yet. And that's not a flaw — it's the whole point.

You're becoming. And becoming is holy ground.

"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"

 

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Music by Mandisa - Overcomer

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Song ID: 68209
Song Title: Overcomer
Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia
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