4127 Are You Sleeping with a Stranger?

Release Date: 07/18/2026

Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

As parents, it's easy to lose sight of the goal. We stress about how good we are at this — replaying conversations, grading ourselves on tone, wondering if we handled the moment the "right" way. Somewhere in that pressure, we start believing our job is to have it all put together. So when we're handing our children the lessons we think they need, all we can hear in our own head is: hear me out. Because the last thing you want is your child shutting down your wisdom. You've lived what you're teaching. You've got the scars, the hindsight, the answers. You want to be heard — and that want...

4132 Been There, Dump That

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You know the phrase, "Been there, done that." It's the verbal shrug we give when something no longer impresses us, no longer scares us, or no longer has anything left to teach us. To put a twist on the phrase to serve you better, why not enhance it: been there, dump that. Because here's something we never sit around and talk about when it comes to growth — it's not just about picking things up. Those new habits, new skills, new mindsets. Growth is just as much about what you're willing to put down. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . The...

4131 Fear Isn't Who You Are

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Fear rarely shows up looking like fear. It shows up looking like "that's just who I am." It shows up as "I've always been this way." It shows up in the sentence that starts with "I'm not the kind of person who..." — and ends right before you find out you actually could have been. That's the sneaky part. Fear doesn't usually announce itself. It just quietly moves into the identity you've built for yourself, unpacks its bags, and starts paying rent. And over time, you stop noticing it's even there. You just think it's you. But fear isn't who you are. We all carry a version of ourselves...

4130 Find the Gift in the Grind

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Some days don't ask permission. They just show up — loud, full, and relentless. The alarm goes off before you're ready. The inbox is already three messages deep before your coffee's even brewed. Somewhere between the meeting that ran long and the errand you forgot, you look up and realize the whole day has passed you by, and you can barely remember a single moment of it. This is the trap of a busy life: we get so wrapped up in doing that we forget to notice we're living. And in that forgetting, we lose something precious — the ability to see the good that's been sitting right in front...

4129 Why Your Hustle Needs A Pause

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How many times have you pushed through the day fueled by caffeine and sheer will, only to realize by evening your decisions are fuzzy, your energy is gone, and your brain feels like mush? Your decisions are only as good as the sleep you got the night before. Your actions are only as strong as the rest of your body took the day before. Your productivity hinges on how still and quiet your mind has been — not how fast it’s been spinning. It's no wonder why your hustle needs a pause. The culture today glorifies nonstop motion as the only path to success. But the consequence is a society on the...

4128 The Room is Never Empty

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There's a version of faith that lives in a building. You walk in on Sunday, sing the songs, hear the message, maybe even feel something shift in your chest. Then you walk out, get in the car, and by Tuesday afternoon you're back to running your week on your own steam — making decisions, carrying stress, fighting battles — like you're the only one in the room. You know that gap between the sanctuary and the rest of your life is where a lot of us quietly live. Not because we stopped believing, but because we started treating God like a scheduled appointment instead of a constant presence....

4127 Are You Sleeping with a Stranger?

Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

People change. That’s a truth we all accept, or at least give a nod to in passing, yet rarely sit with deeply. Time moves on, circumstances evolve, and the very essence of who we are shifts in subtle and profound ways. So why does it feel so strange with the person you share a bed with—are you sleeping with a stranger? When you lie down beside your spouse tonight, take a moment to ask yourself: Are you sleeping beside the person you once knew, or a stranger who lives in their skin? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Change Is the Constant...

4126 You're Not Lost, You're Just Sightseeing

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Life doesn’t come with a map. It twists and turns, throws detours at us, and sometimes drops us in places we never expected. This reality hits even harder when you’re raising kids—because now you’re not just navigating your own path; you’re guiding little explorers through their own confusing journeys. Overwhelm can take over, leaving you with questions: “Am I doing this right? Are we lost?” But the thing is that you’re not lost; you’re just sightseeing. When you’re sightseeing, you don’t panic because you’re off-course. You pause. You take in the landscape. You explore...

4125 It's Okay to Look Back

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Looking back at your past is natural. It’s part of being human. We reflect on where we came from, what we’ve endured, and how we’ve grown. But there’s a line between glancing at your history and living inside it. Be careful how long you hang out with your past. Like Doris Roberts said, “It’s okay to look back, just don’t stare.” Some people get stuck in their past like it’s a favorite hangout spot—even a safe one. They replay old mistakes, clutch grudges, or drown in regrets. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . This isn’t...

4124 Put the Phone Down

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We live in a world wired for distraction. Endless notifications, the addictive drag of social media feeds, and the constant buzz of other people’s highlight reels can pull us from what truly matters. We wonder why we feel stuck—trapped in what has happened, fixated on what didn’t work, and overwhelmed by the noise of life. But here’s the brutal truth: if the past leads your present, you’re not moving forward—you’re treading water. Put the phone down. Stop scrolling through other people’s curated moments, the endless barrage of “perfect” lives. Desire to be supported and...

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People change. That’s a truth we all accept, or at least give a nod to in passing, yet rarely sit with deeply. Time moves on, circumstances evolve, and the very essence of who we are shifts in subtle and profound ways. So why does it feel so strange with the person you share a bed with—are you sleeping with a stranger?

When you lie down beside your spouse tonight, take a moment to ask yourself: Are you sleeping beside the person you once knew, or a stranger who lives in their skin?

Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com

Change Is the Constant We Ignore

Twenty years ago, he might have been leaner, stronger—maybe a bit less wrinkled, less worn by life’s battles. Sure, the belly has appeared, and without complaint, I recall how my own body transformed through childbirth, sacrifice etched into every curve. Life demanded it. Bodies changed. Priorities shifted.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us, “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.” This includes change—unavoidable, unstoppable change that touches us all, including our closest companions.

We talk often about the importance of change in personal growth, career, or faith, but rarely do we apply that lens to our marriage. How often do we stop learning about the very person we vowed to love fully?

If Life Is Always Changing, Shouldn’t We Keep Learning?

A spouse is not a fixed entity. They are not the person they were when you said “I do,” nor are they wholly the person they will be tomorrow. They are a living story unfolding in real time. So the real question isn’t “Are you sleeping with a stranger?” but rather, “Are you still a student of your spouse?”

The K.I.S.S. ~ Be a student of your spouse!

To grow alongside a partner, here are three ways to stay engaged, curious, and connected:

Ask Genuine Questions and Listen Deeply
Pause the routine and dig beyond the “How was your day?” Seek to understand fears, dreams, and daily victories. Proverbs 20:5 says, “The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out.” Reading beneath the surface invites intimacy with the evolving soul beside you.
Create New Experiences Together
Shared memories are the glue that holds couples through change. Try something new—a hobby, a trip, a project—so you can witness fresh facets of each other. Hebrews 10:24 exhorts us, “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works.” Stirring the pot of your shared life keeps connection vibrant.
Practice Daily Gratitude and Affirmation
Don’t let familiarity breed neglect. Celebrate the quirks, the growth, the tiny victories. Speak words that build up. Ephesians 4:29 commands, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up.” Affirmation is the language of love that says, “I see you, truly, and I choose you every day.”

So yes, people grow and change. The person looking back at you in the moonlight may not be the same as twenty years ago, but that’s not a reason to turn away or feel strange. It’s a call to lean in, to rediscover, to keep learning. Because marriage is not about holding onto a frozen version of someone—it’s about walking together through seasons, time, and transformation.

Are you sleeping with a stranger? Or are you actively becoming better friends, deeply interested students, and loving partners to the evolving person beside you?

Remember the words of 1 Corinthians 13:7: “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” Endure the changes, learn the new chapters, and don’t settle for anything less than a connection that grows deeper every day.

"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"

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Song Title: Overcomer
Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia
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The K.I.S.S. ~ Be a student of your spouse!

"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"

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