4127 Are You Sleeping with a Stranger?

Release Date: 07/18/2026

Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

There is something about the start of a new school year that carries both excitement and weight. The backpacks are packed, the outfits are picked out, and the alarm is set for a time no one in the house has seen in weeks. But before the bus pulls up, before the shoes are tied and the lunches are grabbed, there is a window of time that belongs to you and your family. And what you do with it matters more than you might think. It's before the bell rings. It's that morning window, the window that doesn't just happen. It is built. And if you are a parent staring down the start of a new school year,...

4153 One More

Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

I know you're tired. I know that thing you've been carrying — that weight you keep picking up every single morning, even though nobody would blame you for setting it down — I know it's heavy. And I know you've told yourself more than once that you're not sure you have another round in you. But here's what I also know: you have one more in you! You're still here. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #Inspiration #CreateYourNow #DailyMotivation You're still listening to this. You're still showing up. You're still breathing and fighting and...

4152 The Woman in the Mirror

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There's a moment — and if you're honest, you know exactly the one I'm talking about — where you catch your reflection and the first thing that crosses your mind isn't kind. It's not always about what you look like physically, although sometimes it is. More often, it's deeper than that. It's the look in your own eyes that says, I thought I'd be further along by now. It's the quiet measuring of the woman in the mirror that happens when you compare who you are today against who you imagined you'd be at this point. And just like that, the woman staring back at you becomes not enough....

4151 Design Your Day

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Why is it that we can pour ourselves into everyone else's schedule, everyone else's crisis, everyone else's to-do list, but when it comes to our own day, we just… wing it? We wake up, already behind before our feet hit the floor, and we spend the next twelve or sixteen hours reacting. Putting out fires. Managing the chaos. Surviving until we can collapse back into bed and do it all over again tomorrow. And somewhere in the middle of all that surviving, we forget the most important thing. Our own day. The one God gave us. The one we will never, ever get back. So design your day! Psalm...

4150 Stop Going Back

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Have you ever made a decision, felt good about it for a moment, and then spent the next three days replaying it in your mind like a movie you can't turn off? You made the call. You weighed your options. You moved. And then — almost out of nowhere — the doubt crept in. Did I really think that through? What if I'm wrong? Maybe I should have waited. Stop going back! When we make a decision and clarity stalls, something uncomfortable starts to bubble up. It's the fear of being stuck. Not stuck because the decision was wrong, but stuck because we won't let go of it long enough to see where...

4149 Overflow with Hope

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When you feel like all you're doing is running away from or toward all the things, it's hard to find joy and peace in life. You can get down and out about your circumstances, and all hope feels lost. But as Paul says in Romans 15:13, "May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit." Have you ever had one of those seasons where it feels like you're just running? Running toward the next thing on your list. Running away from the thing you don't want to face. Running in circles because you're not even sure...

4148 Look For Something To Work With

Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

There's a moment in every marriage where you have to make a choice. You can stand there replaying every missed pass — every time your spouse came up short, every promise that got fumbled, every "we'll get to it" that never got to anything. Or you can do what the good ones do when the clock is running out. You can look for something to work with. Think about what you do now. Are you one who focuses on what doesn't work? Or are you willing to see what's possible? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #RelationshipBuilders #CreateYourNow...

4147 Never Miss A Beat

Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Parenting is a never-ending, rhythmic song that plays over and over again. Some of the melodies are soothing to the heart — a sleepy child curled into your shoulder, a shared laugh over something silly at the dinner table, a "thank you, Mom" that comes out of nowhere and undoes you a little. But many more of the notes disrupt the nervous system. The 2 a.m. cries. The slammed doors of the teenage years. The days when you've given everything and it still doesn't feel like enough. However you hear it, you can't run from the most important responsibility in your life. Never miss a beat. Parents,...

4146 The Circle Isn't Wasted

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There is a particular kind of tired that comes from walking in circles. You look up and realize you have passed this same tree, this same doubt, this same conversation with yourself, more times than you can count. You are moving; your legs ache to prove it, but the scenery refuses to change. And somewhere in that repetition, you hope that the circle isn't wasted. Because the real question, the one that keeps you up at night, is "does any of this matter if I don't even know where I am?" Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #Inspiration...

4145 Just Because Life Takes An Unexpected Turn

Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo

Life doesn't always unfold the way we planned. One day the road looks clear, and the next, it curves somewhere we never saw coming. Unexpected turns can leave us feeling disappointed, confused, or uncertain about what is happening in our world and what God is doing in the middle of it. But here is what remains true even when everything else feels shaky: God is never surprised by the path ahead. Just because life takes an unexpected turn, God was not caught off guard, and He is not scrambling to figure out what to do next. "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord in...

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People change. That’s a truth we all accept, or at least give a nod to in passing, yet rarely sit with deeply. Time moves on, circumstances evolve, and the very essence of who we are shifts in subtle and profound ways. So why does it feel so strange with the person you share a bed with—are you sleeping with a stranger?

When you lie down beside your spouse tonight, take a moment to ask yourself: Are you sleeping beside the person you once knew, or a stranger who lives in their skin?

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Change Is the Constant We Ignore

Twenty years ago, he might have been leaner, stronger—maybe a bit less wrinkled, less worn by life’s battles. Sure, the belly has appeared, and without complaint, I recall how my own body transformed through childbirth, sacrifice etched into every curve. Life demanded it. Bodies changed. Priorities shifted.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us, “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.” This includes change—unavoidable, unstoppable change that touches us all, including our closest companions.

We talk often about the importance of change in personal growth, career, or faith, but rarely do we apply that lens to our marriage. How often do we stop learning about the very person we vowed to love fully?

If Life Is Always Changing, Shouldn’t We Keep Learning?

A spouse is not a fixed entity. They are not the person they were when you said “I do,” nor are they wholly the person they will be tomorrow. They are a living story unfolding in real time. So the real question isn’t “Are you sleeping with a stranger?” but rather, “Are you still a student of your spouse?”

The K.I.S.S. ~ Be a student of your spouse!

To grow alongside a partner, here are three ways to stay engaged, curious, and connected:

Ask Genuine Questions and Listen Deeply
Pause the routine and dig beyond the “How was your day?” Seek to understand fears, dreams, and daily victories. Proverbs 20:5 says, “The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out.” Reading beneath the surface invites intimacy with the evolving soul beside you.
Create New Experiences Together
Shared memories are the glue that holds couples through change. Try something new—a hobby, a trip, a project—so you can witness fresh facets of each other. Hebrews 10:24 exhorts us, “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works.” Stirring the pot of your shared life keeps connection vibrant.
Practice Daily Gratitude and Affirmation
Don’t let familiarity breed neglect. Celebrate the quirks, the growth, the tiny victories. Speak words that build up. Ephesians 4:29 commands, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up.” Affirmation is the language of love that says, “I see you, truly, and I choose you every day.”

So yes, people grow and change. The person looking back at you in the moonlight may not be the same as twenty years ago, but that’s not a reason to turn away or feel strange. It’s a call to lean in, to rediscover, to keep learning. Because marriage is not about holding onto a frozen version of someone—it’s about walking together through seasons, time, and transformation.

Are you sleeping with a stranger? Or are you actively becoming better friends, deeply interested students, and loving partners to the evolving person beside you?

Remember the words of 1 Corinthians 13:7: “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” Endure the changes, learn the new chapters, and don’t settle for anything less than a connection that grows deeper every day.

"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"

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Music by Mandisa - Overcomer

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Song Title: Overcomer
Writer(s): Ben Glover, Chris Stevens, David Garcia
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The K.I.S.S. ~ Be a student of your spouse!

"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"

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