4218 Making Room for Us
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The love is real. You know you love him. But somewhere between the school pickups, the dinner, dishes, and dogs, and the dozen things on tomorrow’s list, you realize something unsettling. You have not actually been with him in days. Not really. You have been in the same house. Maybe even in the same room. But making room for us — for the two of you — has quietly slipped to the bottom of a list that never seems to end. And what gets pushed to the bottom eventually gets forgotten. That is not because you do not care. It is because life is loud. And marriage, by nature, is patient. It does...
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4217 She Gave Everything and Called It Love
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There’s a tiredness that sleep doesn’t fix. It’s not in your body — it’s in your soul. It’s the kind of exhaustion that shows up when you’ve been pouring and pouring and no one ever thought to ask if you were empty. You made breakfast, signed the permission slips, held the crying child, smiled through the chaos, late-night conversations — and when the house finally went quiet, you realized you had nothing left. Not for them. Not for yourself. Not for the woman you used to recognize. She gave everything and called it love — and you know her because you’ve been her or might...
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4216 Hold On To What You Cannot See
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Some seasons ask you to keep going when nothing around you looks any different. The bills are still there. The relationship still aches. The answer you’ve been praying for hasn’t shown up at your door with a bow on it; no overnight delivery. And somewhere in the quiet of another ordinary morning, you wonder if anything is actually happening at all. My friend — you can hold on to what you cannot see. Because the most important work rarely announces itself. It moves underground, in the places your eyes will never reach, building something your circumstances haven’t caught up to yet....
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4215 Don't Pick the Bud
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You see it happening. Something in you is shifting — the way you pray, the way you respond, the way you hold your peace when you used to lose it. There’s new growth forming in your spirit, and it’s real. But before you rush to show the world, before you post it, proclaim it, or perform it for an audience, don’t pick the bud. "The bloom’s beauty comes from its budded heart that has had time to become. You can’t rush what is not ready." ~ Kristianne Wargo Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #WellspringWednesday #CreateYourNow...
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4214 Put the Mask Down
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Pretending takes so much more energy than people realize. It’s not just one lie — it’s a thousand tiny adjustments every single day. You’ve been carrying it for a while now, haven’t you? That careful smile. That practiced answer — I’m good, I’m fine, everything’s great. And maybe you’ve gotten so good at wearing it that even you’ve started to believe it. But it’s time to put the mask down because you’re finally ready to be whole. Otherwise, you find youself adjusting your voice and your posture. You rearrange your face before you walk into the room. You swallow the...
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4213 The Weight of What-If
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You've done it before: lying awake at night replaying a conversation that hasn't happened yet, mapping out every worst-case scenario before getting out of bed. You've carried the weight of what-if, and you didn't even realize how heavy it was until you couldn't stand up straight anymore. Fear-based thinking doesn't always look like panic. Sometimes it looks like planning. What a concept! Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #MindsetMonday #CreateYourNow #PersonalDevelopment It's the mental rehearsal of everything that could go wrong —...
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4212 Before You Say A Word
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You know that moment right before the words leave your mouth — your pulse is up, your thoughts are racing, and everything in you wants to say the thing. To set the record straight. To be heard. To fire back. But before you say a word, what if the most powerful thing you could do in that moment is nothing at all? What if the gap between the feeling and the speaking is actually one of the wisest places God has given you to stand? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #SweetSpirit #CreateYourNow #SoulfulSunday We live in a world that...
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4211 The Power of "I See You"
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Something powerful happens in a marriage when one person turns to the other and says, with quiet, deliberate presence — I see you. The power of “I see you” is not about fixing anything, solving a problem, or checking something off a list. It is about pausing long enough to notice the human being standing right in front of you. The one who shows up day after day, doing the things no one claps for. The one who carries burdens they have not fully named. When was the last time you looked at your spouse and let them know that who they are matters to you? Desire to be supported and...
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4210 The Myth of the Empty Vessel
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Somewhere along the way, somebody decided that the holiest version of motherhood looks like a woman who has nothing left. Pour out. Give more. Skip the meal. Skip the rest. Run yourself completely dry and call it faithfulness. And if you've ever whispered a prayer through clenched teeth because you had nothing left to give — then you've already bumped into the myth of the empty vessel. But today, you're dismantling it — because that myth was never God's design for you. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #ConfessionsOfAnUpsetMama...
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4209 Release What You Buried
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There comes a point in every season where you have to stop and take an honest look at what you've been carrying. Not everything that weighed you down was meant to travel this far with you. And today, right here, right now — it's time to release what buried you. But some of what pressed you into the ground was soil. God placed it there with purpose. It was the covering you needed, so the seed inside you could crack open, stretch its roots, and begin to grow into something only He could design. Yet some of it was never soil at all. It was just weight. Dead weight. And you've been dragging it...
info_outlineSomething powerful happens in a marriage when one person turns to the other and says, with quiet, deliberate presence — I see you. The power of “I see you” is not about fixing anything, solving a problem, or checking something off a list. It is about pausing long enough to notice the human being standing right in front of you.
The one who shows up day after day, doing the things no one claps for. The one who carries burdens they have not fully named. When was the last time you looked at your spouse and let them know that who they are matters to you?
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We live in a world that is loud and fast. Between work and kids and bills and schedules and the sheer weight of just keeping life together, it is easy to fall into the rhythm of coexisting. You are both in the same house, sitting on the same couch, sleeping in the same bed — and still somehow missing each other. Not because you do not care. But because exhaustion has a way of pulling your eyes to everything except the person beside you. And over time, when someone does not feel seen, they start to disappear. Not physically — but emotionally. They pull back. They stop sharing. They stop hoping that you will notice.
That is why this matters so much.
Genesis 16:13 tells us, “She gave this name to the LORD who spoke to her: ‘You are the God who sees me.’”
Hagar — alone, afraid, cast out — was met by a God who did not look away. And the very thing that changed everything for her was not that He rescued her from her circumstance in that moment. It was that He saw her. He saw the real her. The struggling, scared, overlooked her. And she was never the same.
Your spouse needs that from you. Not perfection. Not performance. Just presence.
Think about it — When was the last time you acknowledged the things your spouse does that nobody else sees?
- The way they check the locks before bed.
- The way they push through their own exhaustion to make sure the kids are cared for.
- The small, steady, unspectacular acts of love that hold your household together.
These things are easy to overlook because they are consistent. But consistent does not mean unimportant. Consistent means faithful. And faithfulness deserves to be honored.
Proverbs 20:5 says, “The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out.”
That is what seeing your spouse is all about. It is not just watching — it is drawing out. It is going beneath the surface of “I’m fine” and “It was a long day” and pressing in with curiosity and care. It is choosing to know them at a level that no one else gets to reach.
Lao Tzu once said, “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
Seeing your spouse deeply—and letting them know — is one of the humble, kindest things you can do in your marriage. Because it requires vulnerability. It requires slowing down. It requires letting go of your own agenda long enough to be fully present with someone else’s heart. Notice what matters.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Notice what matters!
So how do you actually do this in real life? How do you move from intention to action?
1. Acknowledge What Goes Unnoticed.
Maybe it is the way they always lock the door at night, how they make sure the kids have what they need, or the quiet sacrifices they make when no one is watching.
Do not let it stay silent. Say it out loud: “I see what you do, and it matters.” Those words land differently than “thanks.” They say, I am paying attention. You are not invisible to me.
2. Eyes Up, Heart Open.
Put your phone down for one full conversation this week. No multitasking. No half-listening. No scrolling while they are mid-sentence.
Give them the gift of your undivided attention. Eye contact is powerful — it tells the other person, right now, you are the most important thing in my world. One real conversation will do more for your connection than a dozen distracted ones.
3. Ask a Deeper Question.
Go beyond “How was your day?” Try something that actually opens the door: “What is on your heart right now?” or “What is one thing I can do to make this week easier for you?” or “What can I do to serve you?”
You might be surprised at what they share when they realize you genuinely want to hear the answer.
TRUTH — Your spouse is not asking you to be perfect. They are asking you to be present. They are asking you to look up from the noise and see them standing there. Not the version of them that shows up at work or at church or at the family dinner. The real one. The one who is tired and hopeful and doing their best and wondering if anyone notices.
You get to be the one who notices.
Marriage is not built on the big moments alone. It is built on the Tuesday nights when you turn to each other and say, “I see you. I am glad it is you.” It is built in the ordinary, unremarkable, sacred space of choosing each other — over and over again.
So this week, slow down. Look closer. Speak life into the person who shares your life. Because when your spouse feels seen, they feel safe. And safety helps love grow deeper.
Just keep falling in love all over again.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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