Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
The love is real. You know you love him. But somewhere between the school pickups, the dinner, dishes, and dogs, and the dozen things on tomorrow’s list, you realize something unsettling. You have not actually been with him in days. Not really. You have been in the same house. Maybe even in the same room. But making room for us — for the two of you — has quietly slipped to the bottom of a list that never seems to end. And what gets pushed to the bottom eventually gets forgotten. That is not because you do not care. It is because life is loud. And marriage, by nature, is patient. It does...
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There’s a tiredness that sleep doesn’t fix. It’s not in your body — it’s in your soul. It’s the kind of exhaustion that shows up when you’ve been pouring and pouring and no one ever thought to ask if you were empty. You made breakfast, signed the permission slips, held the crying child, smiled through the chaos, late-night conversations — and when the house finally went quiet, you realized you had nothing left. Not for them. Not for yourself. Not for the woman you used to recognize. She gave everything and called it love — and you know her because you’ve been her or might...
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Some seasons ask you to keep going when nothing around you looks any different. The bills are still there. The relationship still aches. The answer you’ve been praying for hasn’t shown up at your door with a bow on it; no overnight delivery. And somewhere in the quiet of another ordinary morning, you wonder if anything is actually happening at all. My friend — you can hold on to what you cannot see. Because the most important work rarely announces itself. It moves underground, in the places your eyes will never reach, building something your circumstances haven’t caught up to yet....
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You see it happening. Something in you is shifting — the way you pray, the way you respond, the way you hold your peace when you used to lose it. There’s new growth forming in your spirit, and it’s real. But before you rush to show the world, before you post it, proclaim it, or perform it for an audience, don’t pick the bud. "The bloom’s beauty comes from its budded heart that has had time to become. You can’t rush what is not ready." ~ Kristianne Wargo Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #WellspringWednesday #CreateYourNow...
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Pretending takes so much more energy than people realize. It’s not just one lie — it’s a thousand tiny adjustments every single day. You’ve been carrying it for a while now, haven’t you? That careful smile. That practiced answer — I’m good, I’m fine, everything’s great. And maybe you’ve gotten so good at wearing it that even you’ve started to believe it. But it’s time to put the mask down because you’re finally ready to be whole. Otherwise, you find youself adjusting your voice and your posture. You rearrange your face before you walk into the room. You swallow the...
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You've done it before: lying awake at night replaying a conversation that hasn't happened yet, mapping out every worst-case scenario before getting out of bed. You've carried the weight of what-if, and you didn't even realize how heavy it was until you couldn't stand up straight anymore. Fear-based thinking doesn't always look like panic. Sometimes it looks like planning. What a concept! Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #MindsetMonday #CreateYourNow #PersonalDevelopment It's the mental rehearsal of everything that could go wrong —...
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You know that moment right before the words leave your mouth — your pulse is up, your thoughts are racing, and everything in you wants to say the thing. To set the record straight. To be heard. To fire back. But before you say a word, what if the most powerful thing you could do in that moment is nothing at all? What if the gap between the feeling and the speaking is actually one of the wisest places God has given you to stand? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #SweetSpirit #CreateYourNow #SoulfulSunday We live in a world that...
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Something powerful happens in a marriage when one person turns to the other and says, with quiet, deliberate presence — I see you. The power of “I see you” is not about fixing anything, solving a problem, or checking something off a list. It is about pausing long enough to notice the human being standing right in front of you. The one who shows up day after day, doing the things no one claps for. The one who carries burdens they have not fully named. When was the last time you looked at your spouse and let them know that who they are matters to you? Desire to be supported and...
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Somewhere along the way, somebody decided that the holiest version of motherhood looks like a woman who has nothing left. Pour out. Give more. Skip the meal. Skip the rest. Run yourself completely dry and call it faithfulness. And if you've ever whispered a prayer through clenched teeth because you had nothing left to give — then you've already bumped into the myth of the empty vessel. But today, you're dismantling it — because that myth was never God's design for you. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #ConfessionsOfAnUpsetMama...
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There comes a point in every season where you have to stop and take an honest look at what you've been carrying. Not everything that weighed you down was meant to travel this far with you. And today, right here, right now — it's time to release what buried you. But some of what pressed you into the ground was soil. God placed it there with purpose. It was the covering you needed, so the seed inside you could crack open, stretch its roots, and begin to grow into something only He could design. Yet some of it was never soil at all. It was just weight. Dead weight. And you've been dragging it...
info_outlinePretending takes so much more energy than people realize. It’s not just one lie — it’s a thousand tiny adjustments every single day. You’ve been carrying it for a while now, haven’t you? That careful smile. That practiced answer — I’m good, I’m fine, everything’s great. And maybe you’ve gotten so good at wearing it that even you’ve started to believe it. But it’s time to put the mask down because you’re finally ready to be whole.
Otherwise, you find youself adjusting your voice and your posture. You rearrange your face before you walk into the room. You swallow the hard thing and smile over the top of it, and then you wonder why you’re so tired by noon. That is the weight of carrying something you were never meant to hold.
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And here’s something you must remember about the mask: it doesn’t just hide your pain from other people. It hides you from God’s work. Because it's harder to heal what we refuse to uncover. God is not going to force His way past the walls we build with our bright smiles and our “I’ve got this” speeches. He waits. He’s patient like that.
But He’s also persistent — and every time that mask slips, even just a little, grace is already rushing in.
Paul understood this. He had been given a thorn — something painful, something he begged God to take away. Three times he asked. And instead of removing the struggle, God whispered something that changed everything: My grace is enough for you. My power shows up best when you stop pretending you’ve got it all together. (2 Corinthians 12:9, NIV.)
God is telling you to stop performing strength, and let Him be strong through you. The very thing you’re trying to hide is the exact place where His power wants to be.
Be present.
Think about that for a moment. You’ve been exhausting yourself trying to prove you’re unbreakable — and all along, the broken places were the entry points for something far greater than anything you could manufacture on your own.
There’s a line that says, “She was powerful not because she wasn’t scared, but because she went on so strongly, despite the fear.” Atticus wrote that, and it lands differently when you read it in this light.
Because when you put the mask down, it doesn't mean you stop being brave. It means you redefine what brave looks like.
Brave isn’t the woman who never struggles. Brave is the woman who says, I’m struggling — and I’m still here. I’m still showing up. I’m still trusting God with the parts of me that don’t look polished enough for public display.
That’s real strength. Not the manufactured kind that crumbles in private, but the kind that’s rooted in truth — the kind that can hold weight because it’s honest about what it’s carrying.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Put the mask down!
When you set the mask on the table and let people see you, you might be surprised. The world doesn’t end. The people who love you don’t walk away. And the ones who do walk away? They were loving the mask, not you.
But the people who stay — and more importantly, the God who has always stayed — they meet you in a place that pretending could never reach.
You start breathing again, not the shallow ones, but the deep, full, honest breaths. The kind that comes when you stop holding everything in. The kind that sounds a lot like surrender — and feels a lot like freedom.
You don’t have to have it all figured out this week. You don’t have to stand on a stage and announce your mess.
But you can start small. You can answer honestly the next time someone asks how you’re doing. You can sit in prayer without performing for God — just showing up, raw, real, and open-handed. You can let one tear fall without immediately wiping it away and apologizing for it.
Because every time you choose truth over performance, you make room. Room for healing. Room for grace. Room to become the woman you already are underneath all the pretending. And that's the woman God has been speaking to this whole time, even when you couldn’t hear Him over the noise of keeping it all together.
Put the mask down, my sweet friend. You don’t need it anymore. What’s underneath it is more beautiful, more powerful, and more loved than anything you could ever pretend to be.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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