4218 Making Room for Us
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
The love is real. You know you love him. But somewhere between the school pickups, the dinner, dishes, and dogs, and the dozen things on tomorrow’s list, you realize something unsettling. You have not actually been with him in days. Not really. You have been in the same house. Maybe even in the same room. But making room for us — for the two of you — has quietly slipped to the bottom of a list that never seems to end. And what gets pushed to the bottom eventually gets forgotten. That is not because you do not care. It is because life is loud. And marriage, by nature, is patient. It does...
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4217 She Gave Everything and Called It Love
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
There’s a tiredness that sleep doesn’t fix. It’s not in your body — it’s in your soul. It’s the kind of exhaustion that shows up when you’ve been pouring and pouring and no one ever thought to ask if you were empty. You made breakfast, signed the permission slips, held the crying child, smiled through the chaos, late-night conversations — and when the house finally went quiet, you realized you had nothing left. Not for them. Not for yourself. Not for the woman you used to recognize. She gave everything and called it love — and you know her because you’ve been her or might...
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4216 Hold On To What You Cannot See
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Some seasons ask you to keep going when nothing around you looks any different. The bills are still there. The relationship still aches. The answer you’ve been praying for hasn’t shown up at your door with a bow on it; no overnight delivery. And somewhere in the quiet of another ordinary morning, you wonder if anything is actually happening at all. My friend — you can hold on to what you cannot see. Because the most important work rarely announces itself. It moves underground, in the places your eyes will never reach, building something your circumstances haven’t caught up to yet....
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4215 Don't Pick the Bud
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
You see it happening. Something in you is shifting — the way you pray, the way you respond, the way you hold your peace when you used to lose it. There’s new growth forming in your spirit, and it’s real. But before you rush to show the world, before you post it, proclaim it, or perform it for an audience, don’t pick the bud. "The bloom’s beauty comes from its budded heart that has had time to become. You can’t rush what is not ready." ~ Kristianne Wargo Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #WellspringWednesday #CreateYourNow...
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4214 Put the Mask Down
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Pretending takes so much more energy than people realize. It’s not just one lie — it’s a thousand tiny adjustments every single day. You’ve been carrying it for a while now, haven’t you? That careful smile. That practiced answer — I’m good, I’m fine, everything’s great. And maybe you’ve gotten so good at wearing it that even you’ve started to believe it. But it’s time to put the mask down because you’re finally ready to be whole. Otherwise, you find youself adjusting your voice and your posture. You rearrange your face before you walk into the room. You swallow the...
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4213 The Weight of What-If
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You've done it before: lying awake at night replaying a conversation that hasn't happened yet, mapping out every worst-case scenario before getting out of bed. You've carried the weight of what-if, and you didn't even realize how heavy it was until you couldn't stand up straight anymore. Fear-based thinking doesn't always look like panic. Sometimes it looks like planning. What a concept! Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #MindsetMonday #CreateYourNow #PersonalDevelopment It's the mental rehearsal of everything that could go wrong —...
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4212 Before You Say A Word
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You know that moment right before the words leave your mouth — your pulse is up, your thoughts are racing, and everything in you wants to say the thing. To set the record straight. To be heard. To fire back. But before you say a word, what if the most powerful thing you could do in that moment is nothing at all? What if the gap between the feeling and the speaking is actually one of the wisest places God has given you to stand? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #SweetSpirit #CreateYourNow #SoulfulSunday We live in a world that...
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4211 The Power of "I See You"
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Something powerful happens in a marriage when one person turns to the other and says, with quiet, deliberate presence — I see you. The power of “I see you” is not about fixing anything, solving a problem, or checking something off a list. It is about pausing long enough to notice the human being standing right in front of you. The one who shows up day after day, doing the things no one claps for. The one who carries burdens they have not fully named. When was the last time you looked at your spouse and let them know that who they are matters to you? Desire to be supported and...
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4210 The Myth of the Empty Vessel
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Somewhere along the way, somebody decided that the holiest version of motherhood looks like a woman who has nothing left. Pour out. Give more. Skip the meal. Skip the rest. Run yourself completely dry and call it faithfulness. And if you've ever whispered a prayer through clenched teeth because you had nothing left to give — then you've already bumped into the myth of the empty vessel. But today, you're dismantling it — because that myth was never God's design for you. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #ConfessionsOfAnUpsetMama...
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4209 Release What You Buried
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
There comes a point in every season where you have to stop and take an honest look at what you've been carrying. Not everything that weighed you down was meant to travel this far with you. And today, right here, right now — it's time to release what buried you. But some of what pressed you into the ground was soil. God placed it there with purpose. It was the covering you needed, so the seed inside you could crack open, stretch its roots, and begin to grow into something only He could design. Yet some of it was never soil at all. It was just weight. Dead weight. And you've been dragging it...
info_outlineThe love is real. You know you love him. But somewhere between the school pickups, the dinner, dishes, and dogs, and the dozen things on tomorrow’s list, you realize something unsettling. You have not actually been with him in days. Not really. You have been in the same house. Maybe even in the same room. But making room for us — for the two of you — has quietly slipped to the bottom of a list that never seems to end. And what gets pushed to the bottom eventually gets forgotten.
That is not because you do not care. It is because life is loud. And marriage, by nature, is patient. It does not scream for your attention the way a crying toddler does or the way a work deadline breathes down your neck. Your marriage will wait for you. But here is the truth — it will not wait forever without cost.
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Marriage often gets whatever time is left — leftover time produces leftover connection. Leftover intimacy. Leftover closeness. And after enough days, weeks, and months of leftovers, you start to feel like roommates instead of lovers. Partners in logistics instead of partners in life. You look across the table and wonder, when did we stop being us?
The answer is usually not one dramatic moment. It is a thousand tiny ones, a thousand times something else came first.
But you can change that. And you get to start now.
Marriage was never meant to survive on scraps.
God did not design your covenant to live in the margins of your calendar. He placed it at the center. Before children. Before career. Before ministry or friendships or anything else you pour yourself into. He brought two together and said, this is good.
Mark 10:9 says it plainly: “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
And while we often read that verse in the context of outside threats, let us be honest — sometimes the thing separating us is not another person. It is our schedule. Our busyness. Our unwillingness to slow down long enough to reconnect.
Creating space for your marriage is not selfish. It is really being obedient. When you protect time for each other, you are protecting the very thing God called good. You are honoring the covenant He witnessed. You are saying, this matters to me because it matters to Him.
But here is where it gets real — this must come between two people. You cannot build connection alone. You can open the door. You can set the table. You can create the space. But someone has to walk through it with you.
“It takes one to start, and two to finish.” — Kristianne Wargo
Maybe you are the one who initiates. Maybe you are the one who says, “Can we just sit together tonight?” That is okay. One person starting is not weakness — it is leadership. But finishing? That requires both of you choosing each other.
Think about Song of Solomon 7:10 — “I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me.”
There is a mutual turning toward one another in that verse. A leaning in. A claiming and being claimed. That does not happen, though, by accident, and it certainly does not happen when every evening is consumed by everything except each other.
At some point, you have to realize it's time to protect the space between the two of you.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Protect the space between you!
It does not have to be extravagant. It does not require a weekend getaway or a reservation at a nice restaurant — though those are wonderful when they happen.
Making room can be as simple as deciding that the two of you are worth fifteen uninterrupted minutes. That your marriage deserves more than the tired silence between climbing into bed and falling asleep.
Mignon McLaughlin once said, “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”
And she was right. But you cannot fall in love with someone you never spend time with. Falling requires presence. It requires showing up — not just physically, but with your full attention, your full heart, your full self.
What does it look like in real life to protect the space between you?
1. Schedule a Weekly “Us” Moment
Treat it like an appointment you cannot cancel. It does not have to be a fancy date. A walk around the block after the kids are in bed. A cup of coffee on the porch before the day starts. Thirty minutes with no agenda except being together.
Put it on the calendar. Block it out. And guard it the way you guard every other commitment that matters.
2. Audit Your Calendar Honestly
Pull it up. Look at it. Where is your marriage on the list? If it falls below work, kids’ activities, social obligations, church committees, and everything else — something needs to shift.
You do not have to overhaul your entire life in one day. But move one thing this week to make space for connection.
Cancel one obligation. Say no to one invitation. Trade one hour of screen time for a conversation. Just one.
3. Create a Device-Free Zone or Time
Whether it is the dinner table, the bedroom, or the first fifteen minutes when you are reunited at the end of the day — designate a sacred space where it is just the two of you. No scrolling. No notifications. No half-listening while your eyes are glued to a screen.
Presence is the most powerful gift you can give your spouse. And it costs you nothing except the willingness to put the phone down.
Your marriage does not need more time — it needs protected time. There is a difference. You will never “find” time for your relationship. Life will always fill the gaps. You have to make it. You have to carve it out, fence it in, and refuse to let it be the thing that gets bumped when the week gets full.
"Because what you protect, grows. What you neglect, drifts. And the space between you and your spouse is either going to be filled with connection or filled with distance. You choose." ~ Kristianne Wargo
So choose us. Choose to make room. Choose to turn toward each other instead of past each other. Choose to stop treating your marriage like it can survive on whatever energy you have left at the end of the day. It won't survive long-term, and honestly, it should not have to.
Give of your heart by making room for us!
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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