Episode 129: Perfectionism as a Shield: Rewriting a Childhood Marked by Sexual Abuse
Dare To Share Your Untold Story
Release Date: 01/21/2026
Dare To Share Your Untold Story
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In this episode, Nicole shares the story she once believed she would never speak — the decade of childhood sexual abuse she experienced while the world around her saw a bright, high-achieving, “perfect” young girl. At fourteen, a single, intuitive question from her mother led to a moment of truth that changed everything. Nicole reflects on her mother’s immediate protective actions and the fear, shame, and uncertainty that followed in the aftermath. Nicole describes how she learned to push her emotions down, stay busy, and shape herself into whatever version of “okay” she believed...
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info_outlineIn this episode, Nicole shares the story she once believed she would never speak — the decade of childhood sexual abuse she experienced while the world around her saw a bright, high-achieving, “perfect” young girl. At fourteen, a single, intuitive question from her mother led to a moment of truth that changed everything. Nicole reflects on her mother’s immediate protective actions and the fear, shame, and uncertainty that followed in the aftermath. Nicole describes how she learned to push her emotions down, stay busy, and shape herself into whatever version of “okay” she believed people wanted to see. She explains how perfectionism, people-pleasing, emotional shutdown, and keeping up appearances became her survival strategies. Together, we talk about the difference between true resilience and toxic positivity, the pressure she felt to make others comfortable with her story, and the lifelong impact of fear, threats, and chronic nervous-system activation. She also speaks openly about how these early experiences spilled into adulthood, affecting trust, relationships, boundaries, and her ability to feel safe. This conversation sheds light on what it means to stop carrying the emotional responsibility that never belonged to you, to understand yourself before relying on others for understanding, and to reconnect with your voice after years spent hiding in plain sight. Nicole’s journey is one of courage, honesty, and reclaiming inner safety — reminding us that healing begins when we stop performing strength and finally allow ourselves to be seen. Her key message to the listeners of the show is: sometimes you have to tip-toe out of your hiding spot and do things afraid — it’s scary but it has benefits; find your courage within yourself to find your own voice and use it, even when you know it is scary, because on the other side there is something good.
Guest Bio:
Nicole is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, an author, advocate, and global activist who has spent more than two decades giving voice to awareness, prevention, and healing. She is the author of four books, producer of two films, host of the OneVOICE Podcast, and the executive director of OneVOICE4freedom — a non-profit dedicated to stopping child sex trafficking through prevention education and support for vulnerable children and families. Nicole has spoken to some of the most at-risk populations around the world, as well as to leading universities, companies, treatment centres, faith communities, and conferences. Her work has reached people across the world, empowering survivors to break their silence, reclaim their truth, and begin healing.
Known for her candour, warmth, and transparency, Nicole connects deeply with audiences of all ages and backgrounds. She recently created UNLEASH, an eight-week online healing course for survivors, and launched a live virtual support community that she leads weekly. When she’s not blazing trails in her advocacy work, Nicole can be found in Columbus, Ohio, playing pickup basketball with her three boys. Her presence — on stage, online, or in community — inspires hope, authenticity, and the powerful reminder that every story matters.
URL for shoutout: onevoice4freedom.org
OneVOICE4freedom — Nicole’s non-profit dedicated to preventing child sex trafficking and supporting vulnerable children and families worldwide.
Where to find me:
Website: iamonevoice.org
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OneVOICE Podcast: https://iamonevoice.podbean.com
Nicole's Books: https://www.iamonevoice.org/store
Nicole's online support community and e-course for survivors "UNLEASH": https://www.iamonevoice.org/unleash