Dare To Share Your Untold Story

‘Dare To Share Your Untold Story’ has been brought to you with the intention to break down the barriers of mental stigma, embrace mental beauty and invite guests to a safe place to share with vulnerability, without holding back, their true and full story - no matter what part of the journey that they are in, beginning, middle or end. As a society we are conditioned to keep some of our most painful stories a secret. No matter what we each have suffered with - whatever the struggle, hurdle or strife we face there is always a part of our story that remains untold. The ‘untold story’ has a lot to do with the impact on mental health which we shy away from sharing. So let’s expose what we suppress and embrace the invitation of mental beauty. The notion of embracing ‘mental beauty’ is the next way to see mental health…and when you dare to share...you break the silence, speak your truth, use your voice, and inspire others to do the same. TOGETHER – we can dare and share…so let’s take a vow to ‘dare to share our untold stories’!

Episode 120: Panic, Pain, and Progress: One Man’s Fight for Mental Health 09/10/2025

Episode 120: Panic, Pain, and Progress: One Man’s Fight for Mental Health In this courageously shared episode, Brian vulnerably opens up about a lifelong struggle with panic, anxiety, and the deep nervousness that began in his early teens and followed him well into adulthood. He walks us through how this internal storm took shape—especially in his dating life—and how anxiety seemed to hijack his thoughts, body, and sense of self during intimate encounters and high-pressure moments. From his early teens, Brian recalls the early signs of spiraling thoughts and nervous energy that became familiar companions. What followed were experiences marked by intense rumination, thoughts of doom, a racing heart, excessive sweating, and a sense of mental fog that made it nearly impossible to speak in clear or coherent sentences. Although he didn’t know it was panic at the time, the emotional toll left him questioning whether his body would betray him again, whether every relationship was doomed, and whether he could ever feel safe in his own mind. He developed a painful narrative: relationships equal panic, panic equals pain, and pain equals failure—a story that repeated itself for over a decade. Brian also shares how this pattern extended beyond romance and into broader social interactions, fueling deep social anxiety. Over the years, he explored countless mental health resources, experimented with a range of coping mechanisms, and truly believed he had made significant progress. But the weight of his internal world continued to challenge him. Through raw honesty and reflection, Brian helps normalize the silent suffering that so many experience and yet seldom name. His key message to the listeners is to get out of your head, don't ruminate or let resistance take over, give yourself permission to let thoughts go, and turn the dial down -- you have that control, so much suffering comes from your thoughts alone — so to heal, take time to find ways to think different thoughts that run better patterns in your mind. /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/38143770

Episode 119: Mental Beauty Segments 06/18/2025

Episode 119: Mental Beauty Segments As we continue to prioritize the unique concept of mental beauty, episode 119 of the Dare To Share Your Untold Story Podcast, Mental Beauty Segments, focuses on Abuse and Red Flags, finding courage, dealing with Narcissism. In relation to this episode topic the prior episode 61 has been selected for further exploration and deeper dive. In episode 61, titled “Relationship Toxicity, Red Flags, Abuse and the Impact of not Even Knowing it”, with guest, Dr. Shelley Morgan. Her journey is a powerful example of what it means to reclaim oneself after enduring emotional, verbal, and financial abuse. Her story sheds light on the insidious nature of toxic relationships and the transformational power of self-rediscovery. Dr. Shelley’s open sharing serves as a reminder that abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of intelligence, success, or background. It's a call to recognize the red flags, break free from the cycles of manipulation, and embrace the healing process of finding oneself again. She reflects on how her mental health impacted her physical appearance, it reminds us of the intricate connection between our inner and outer selves. As she says, when you're happy on the inside, it can't help but show on the outside. Good mental health radiates beauty. This idea aligns beautifully with the concept of Mental Beauty—the consistency between what we feel internally and what we project externally. When we prioritize our mental well-being, it reflects in every aspect of our lives, from our relationships to our self-expression. Dr. Shelley's headline, "Woman Finds Herself Again," encapsulates the heart of her journey. It's about rediscovering the vibrant, active person she once was, before nearly losing herself in a toxic relationship. It's a story of resilience, of coming back to life after facing mental and emotional death. 3 Practical ‘Mental Beauty Tips’ inspired by Episode 119: 1. Cultivate a Daily Self-Connection Ritual Abuse often disconnects you from your own feelings, needs, and desires. Re-establishing this connection is crucial: Set aside 10–15 minutes daily for a grounding practice such as journaling, mindfulness, or deep breathing. This ritual reminds you that your emotions and needs matter and creates a space where your voice is heard—by you. 2. Create a Financial and Emotional Safety Plan Abusers often use financial and emotional control to keep you trapped. Reclaiming even small amounts of independence can help you stay anchored to your sense of self: Open a private bank account and begin saving discreetly, even in small amounts. Build a support network of trusted friends, family, or a therapist to validate your feelings and remind you of your worth. These small steps toward independence reinforces your ability to make choices and gives you a foundation for reclaiming control over your life. 3. Reaffirm Your Identity Outside the Relationship Abuse can make you lose sight of who you are outside of the relationship. Reconnecting with your values and interests strengthens your sense of self. Make a list of things you once loved doing or were passionate about before the relationship. Choose one activity to reintroduce into your life, like reading, taking a class, or reconnecting with old friends. Exploring your personal interests reminds you that your identity is multifaceted and not defined by the abuse or the relationship. Episode 119 Takeaway: A self-care technique called ‘The Love Letter to Self’: Grab a Notepad or Phone: Set a timer for 5 minutes to keep it short and intentional. Write as if to Someone You Deeply Love: Imagine you’re writing to someone you care about unconditionally—except this time, it’s you. Use loving, kind, and affirming language. For example: “Dear Self, I just want you to know how proud I am of you.” “You are enough exactly as you are, even on hard days.” “No matter what happens, I’m here for you. I’ll always be on your side.” Reflect on One Strength or Victory: End the letter by naming something you admire about yourself or a small win, like: “I’m amazed at how resilient you are, even when things feel tough.” “Thank you for being so kind to others and for showing up for yourself today.” Close With an Affirmation: Wrap up with a loving affirmation: “I love you, no matter what.” “You are my safe place, and I’ll always have your back.” Of course, remember, if you want to share something amazing that you would like to have a shout out for on your behalf, just send an email to [email protected]. Spread Mental Beauty, Stop the Stigma! /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/37027815

Episode 118: Mental Beauty Segments 06/04/2025

Episode 118: Mental Beauty Segments As we go extend to prioritize the unique concept of mental beauty, episode 118 of the Dare To Share Your Untold Story Podcast, Mental Beauty Segments, focuses on it’s more than just a diagnosis, coming to terms with mortality and death. In relation to this episode topic the prior episode 43 has been selected for further exploration and deeper dive. In episode 43, titled “The Journey is more about my death than it is about the cancer”, with guest, Rishma Dhalla. Her journey is a profound example of what it means to confront our deepest fears and find meaning in the face of life's greatest challenges. Her story sheds light on the transformational power of embracing vulnerability, facing mortality, and redefining our relationship with death. Her open sharing serves as a powerful reminder that healing is not just about treating a physical illness—it's about nurturing our mental and emotional well-being, even in the most trying of times. Rishma's courage to explore the depths of her fears and find purpose in her journey is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit. Her words perfectly capture the essence of the Mental Beauty Rethink. She says, I love the phrase "mental beauty" because it evokes positivity, hope, and optimism. It's about shifting our perspective to the positive and recognizing that there is always room for growth, no matter how optimistic we may already be. It's about removing the shame and stigma surrounding mental health and embracing a new way of thinking. Rishma's headline, "My death, my way," is a powerful declaration of her journey. It's about facing our own mortality and claiming a level of control over what the end of life might look like, regardless of when it happens. It's a way to engage with the process of dying and find peace in the uncertainty. 3 Practical ‘Mental Beauty Tips’ inspired by Episode 118: 1. Grounding Through Breath and Body Awareness When fear of uncertainty overwhelms us, the mind often spirals into worrying about the future. To counter this, grounding techniques help reconnect to the present moment. A simple yet powerful method is focused breathing: Take a deep breath in through the nose for 4 counts, hold for 4 counts, and exhale slowly through the mouth for 6 counts. Repeat this cycle 5 times. This exercise calms the nervous system; shifts focus away from future-based fears and allows you to settle right into the here and now. 2. Journaling for Gratitude and Clarity Fear often stems from a feeling of powerlessness. Journaling can provide structure and control by helping process thoughts and refocus on what is within reach. At the end of each day, write down: Three small things you are grateful for that happened today. One action you can take tomorrow, no matter how small, to feel more in control. Gratitude journaling trains the mind to notice positive moments, while identifying actionable steps shifts focus from uncertainty to small, achievable progress. 3. Naming and Confronting Fears Uncertainty often grows stronger when fears remain unspoken. Naming fears out loud or writing them down creates space to confront and reframe them. Write down your top three fears and ask yourself: What am I truly afraid of here? Challenge each fear by asking: Is this within my control? What small steps can I take to prepare for this? By exploring fears directly, their intensity often decreases. Naming fears gives them form and allows you to identify solutions or acceptance. Episode 118 Takeaway: A self-care tool called ‘Affirmation-Based Body Scan’: To practice, find a quiet space and take slow, deep breaths. Starting at the top of your head, slowly move your attention down to each part of your body. As you focus on each area, pair your attention with a calming affirmation, such as "I am safe and grounded"; “I am okay in this moment.”; "I trust myself to get through this." Notice any sensations without judgment and breathe gently into those areas. Conclude with a full-body affirmation: "I am present, I am connected, and I am okay." Allow these affirmations to settle deeply within you. This tool serves as a gentle reminder that the body holds calm and safety. Of course, remember, if you want to share something amazing that you would like to have a shout out for on your behalf, just send an email to [email protected]. Spread Mental Beauty, Stop the Stigma! /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/36833640

Episode 117: Mental Beauty Segments 05/21/2025

Episode 117: Mental Beauty Segments As we proceed to prioritize the unique concept of mental beauty, episode 117 of the Dare To Share Your Untold Story Podcast, Mental Beauty Segments, focuses on Reframing Struggles: Finding Flow Through Adversity. In relation to this episode topic the prior episode 87 has been selected for further exploration and deeper dive. In episode 87, titled “From Survivor of Circumstance to Warrior of Flow”, with guest, Inga Tkachenko Ramage. Her journey is a profound example of what it means to embrace the Mental Beauty Rethink in the face of life's greatest challenges. Her story sheds light on how we can transform our perception of struggles, moving from a mindset of merely surviving to one of thriving and finding flow. Inga’s open sharing serves as a powerful reminder that adversity can be a catalyst for growth and self-discovery. By reframing our challenges, we unlock the potential to not only overcome but to emerge stronger, wiser, and more resilient. Her words perfectly capture the essence of the Mental Beauty Rethink. When Inga speaks about redefining what truly matters in life, it reminds me that we always have the power to reframe our experiences. A single shift in perspective can open up new possibilities and pathways for growth. It's about creating a new foundation, a new way of seeing ourselves and our journeys. Inga also touches on the stigma surrounding mental health, especially in the context of trauma and accident recovery. In her field, there's often resistance to seeking psychological support due to misconceptions about what it means to prioritize mental well-being. Her role is to educate and empower, helping others understand that mental health is not about labels or diagnoses but about honouring our emotional experiences and finding healthy ways to cope. 3 Practical ‘Mental Beauty Tips’ to Move from Isolation to Empowerment and Reframe Struggles inspired by Episode 117: Cultivate Self-Compassion Through Mindfulness Begin with small practices of self-compassion to shift how you respond to challenges. When faced with difficult emotions or self-doubt, ask yourself: What would I say to a loved one in this situation? Then, offer that same kindness to yourself. Incorporate mindfulness techniques like deep breathing or grounding exercises to stay present, especially when overwhelmed by stress or trauma triggers. Remember, self-compassion isn’t about ignoring pain—it’s about embracing it with gentleness and understanding, creating the foundation for healing and growth. Set Boundaries That Protect Your Energy Learning to set boundaries is an act of empowerment. Identify areas in your life where external demands—be it from work, relationships, or systems—are draining your energy or interfering with your recovery. Start by practicing small, assertive "no's" or delegating tasks that feel overwhelming. Protecting your mental and emotional health is not selfish; it’s a necessary step toward reclaiming control over your life. This shift allows you to prioritize actions that align with your values and long-term goals. Reconnect and Seek Support Breaking away from isolation starts with taking small steps to connect with others. Reach out to someone you trust, whether it’s a friend, family member, therapist, or support group, and share your story. If asking for help feels too vulnerable, start by engaging in environments where connection happens naturally—community centres, volunteer opportunities, or local classes. These spaces create opportunities to rebuild your sense of belonging and allow you to see your struggles through a broader lens, transforming pain into a source of resilience and strength. Episode 117 Takeaway: A self-care technique called ‘Reframe & Reclaim Journal’: Divide a Page into Three Sections: What Happened: Briefly describe the struggle or challenge you’re facing. Write it objectively, focusing on facts rather than emotions to gain clarity. What It Taught Me: Identify at least one thing the experience has taught you about yourself, others, or life. Even small insights—like recognizing your resilience—can be transformative. How I’ll Move Forward: Write one action you can take to reclaim control or find meaning in this struggle. This could be as simple as seeking support, setting a boundary, or practicing gratitude. Of course, remember, if you want to share something amazing that you would like to have a shout out for on your behalf, just send an e-mail to [email protected]. Spread Mental Beauty, Stop the Stigma! /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/36652845

Episode 116: Letting Go of All That Was Familiar to Her, and She Climbed a Brand-New Ladder, Right to the Top? Featuring Genevieve Piturro 05/07/2025

Episode 116: Letting Go of All That Was Familiar to Her, and She Climbed a Brand-New Ladder, Right to the Top? Featuring Genevieve Piturro In this deeply personal and inspiring episode, Genevieve shares the journey of redefining success and reconnecting with her heart’s true calling. As the firstborn in a traditional Italian family—with a father who immigrated from Italy—the expectation was clear: get married, have children, and follow a conventional path. Though raised in a supportive environment, Genevieve always felt something was missing. From a young age, she held an unshakable wonder about where her family would come from, knowing instinctively that her path to connection and motherhood would look different. Influenced by societal norms and her upbringing, she pursued what she believed was success: a high-achieving career in a male-dominated business world. For 12 years, she thrived on productivity, accolades, and material comfort. But in a quiet moment of reflection, she thought: If this were the next 30 years of my life, it wouldn’t be enough. That whisper of truth opened a door to something she could no longer ignore—a deep yearning success couldn’t satisfy. She began shifting her energy toward helping vulnerable children. What started as reading bedtime stories in emergency shelters grew into something far more profound. She discovered that while these children were safe, many lacked even the most basic essentials—some had never owned a pair of pyjamas. One child’s confusion over what pyjamas were, struck her deeply. It wasn’t just about clothing; it was about love, stability, and the emotional nourishment every child deserves. Her key message to the listeners is that our loves can have many chapters and it’s never too late to start a new one; we don’t have to follow the script we are handed, we can write our own; trust what shows up in your hearts; stop silencing the parts of you that you have pushed aside; it’s okay to do something different; you don’t have to do it alone – and you’re never too late to begin again. /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/36464765

Episode 115: Mental Beauty Segments 04/23/2025

Episode 115: Mental Beauty Segments As we proceed to prioritize the unique concept of mental beauty, episode 115 of the Dare To Share Your Untold Story Podcast, Mental Beauty Segments, The Cost of Always Being Strong: Navigating Emotional Labour and Compassion Fatigue. In relation to this episode topic the prior episode 54 has been selected for further exploration and deeper dive. In episode 54, titled “She Smiles, She Empowers, While Simultaneously Grieving & Mourning”, with guest, Saidat Abari. Her journey is a profound example of how embracing vulnerability and allowing ourselves to grieve can lead to deeper healing and growth. Often, we believe that resilience is about powering through life’s challenges without pause. But Saidat reminds us that resilience can also mean slowing down, feeling our emotions fully, and finding the courage to share our pain. Her story speaks to the heart of what we call Mental Beauty—redefining strength and recognizing that true empowerment comes from integrating both our light and shadow. Saidat’s willingness to share her untold story sheds light on a crucial truth: even those who radiate positivity and strength need space to release, reflect, and renew. Saidat’s Mental Beauty Rethink challenges us to embrace every part of our emotional journey. Her headline, “Powerful Woman Feels Weak”, is a poignant reminder that strength and vulnerability coexist. Even someone known as the “happiness infuser” can carry deep, unspoken pain. But as Saidat reflects, healing begins with giving herself permission to feel. She’s learning to get “comfortably uncomfortable” with sharing her grief, a process that’s foreign yet deeply necessary. 3 Practical ‘Mental Beauty Tips’ inspired by Episode 115: Acknowledge Your Full Range of Emotions: Resilience isn’t about pushing through or ignoring difficult emotions; it’s about allowing yourself to experience them fully. Take time to recognize and validate your feelings, even the uncomfortable ones. Embracing your vulnerability creates space for true inner strength to grow. Release Self-Imposed Expectations: Notice where you may be placing unrealistic expectations on yourself to always appear strong or positive. Give yourself permission to let go of these pressures. Resilience includes self-compassion and understanding that you don’t need to have it all together all the time. Find Safe Spaces for Authentic Expression: Surround yourself with people and environments where you feel safe to be your genuine self. This could be through therapy, supportive friendships, or personal reflection practices. These spaces allow you to explore your emotions freely and strengthen the connection to your true, resilient self. Episode 115 Takeaway: A self-care practice called ‘Mindful Self-Compassion Journaling’: It involves setting aside a few minutes each day to write down your thoughts and emotions without judgment. Start by reflecting on any challenges or difficult feelings you’ve experienced, allowing yourself to acknowledge them openly. Then, shift your focus to self-compassion by writing supportive and kind responses to your inner struggles, as if you were speaking to a dear friend. Finally, note one or two strengths or positive qualities that helped you navigate these experiences, even if it’s simply the courage to reflect. This process not only promotes self-acceptance but also strengthens resilience by fostering a gentle, understanding relationship with yourself. Of course, remember, if you want to share something amazing that you would like to have a shout out for on your behalf, just send an e-mail to [email protected]. Spread Mental Beauty, Stop the Stigma! /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/36273450

Episode 114: Mental Beauty Segments 04/09/2025

Episode 114: Mental Beauty Segments As we go forward to prioritize the unique concept of mental beauty, episode 114 of the Dare To Share Your Untold Story Podcast, Mental Beauty Segments, Extracting the Beauty Tangled in Knots of Fear-Based Living. In relation to this episode topic the prior episode 71 has been selected for further exploration and deeper dive. In episode 71, titled “Untangling Beauty from Her Tangled Web of Fears”, with guest, Garcia Hanson. Her journey is a profound example of what it takes to break free from the grip of fear and self-doubt. Her story sheds light on how we can find resilience, self-worth, and ultimately, beauty within the messiness of life’s challenges. Her journey truly embodies the essence of Mental Beauty. It’s a testament to the transformational power of embracing vulnerability and using it as a tool for growth. When we consistently prioritize our mental and emotional well-being, we unlock the ability to live more fully. Garcia highlights this beautifully when she says: “The definition of success is the grace to make changes.” This idea resonates deeply—it’s about breaking free from fear, making room for growth, and allowing ourselves the space to redefine success on our terms. Garcia reminds us, success doesn’t come from perfection or from meeting external expectations. Instead, it’s rooted in finding the courage to untangle those knots and embrace our true selves. Garcia’s Mental Beauty Rethink challenges us to confront the hidden fears and self-doubt that often define our lives. Her story is a powerful reminder that behind every perfect facade lies a more complex, vulnerable reality. 3 Practical ‘Mental Beauty Tips’ inspired by Episode 114: Name and Reframe Your Fears: Start by naming the fears you feel. Write them down, and identify any underlying beliefs tied to these fears—such as “I’m not enough,” or “I’ll be judged.” Reframe these beliefs by challenging their validity and reminding yourself of what’s true about you. For example, replace "I’m not enough" with "I am doing my best, and I deserve to be valued." Reframing gives you a more supportive inner voice, allowing you to embrace self-acceptance while seeing fears for what they are: mental constructs, not certainties. Practice Self-Compassion with Small Acts of Courage: Fear often keeps us from stepping outside our comfort zone. Start by taking small, manageable actions toward self-acceptance. For instance, say “no” to a request when you’re already overwhelmed, or express a genuine feeling with someone you trust. Each small act of courage helps you build resilience and reinforces the message that you’re worthy of acceptance, exactly as you are. Visualize Success and Lean into Your Values: Visualization is a powerful tool for reprogramming your mind to view unfamiliar situations more positively. Spend a few minutes each day picturing yourself navigating challenges with confidence and strength. Tie this practice to your core values—ask yourself how embracing courage or acceptance aligns with your true values (e.g., authenticity, growth, love). Visualizing yourself succeeding in alignment with your values strengthens your resolve to act, helping you move from a fear-driven mindset toward one where you can live freely, guided by your truest self. Episode 114 Takeaway: A self-care tool called ‘Mindful Grounding’: This involves taking a few intentional moments each day to pause, breathe, and reconnect with your immediate surroundings. Begin by finding a quiet place, then close your eyes and take three deep breaths, focusing on the sensation of the breath as it fills your lungs and leaves your body. Once you feel centred, open your eyes and slowly observe five things you can see, four things you can feel, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste. This grounding exercise gently pulls your mind away from anxious thoughts by anchoring you in the present moment. Of course, remember, if you want to share something amazing that you would like to have a shout out for on your behalf, just send an e-mail to [email protected]. Spread Mental Beauty, Stop the Stigma! /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/36058420

Episode 113: Mental Beauty Segments 03/26/2025

Episode 113: Mental Beauty Segments As we extend to prioritize the unique concept of mental beauty, episode 113 of the Dare To Share Your Untold Story Podcast, Mental Beauty Segments, transformation of the imposter, the uncertainty and her infertility. In relation to this episode topic the prior episode 45 has been selected for further exploration and deeper dive. In episode 45, titled “Ending the Era of the Uncertainty, the Imposter, & the Infertility”, with guest, Alyza Raithatha. Her journey is a deeply moving exploration of resilience, self-acceptance, and breaking through the barriers of mental health stigmas, particularly in the South Asian community. Her candid storytelling offers a window into the struggles that many face but rarely voice—imposter syndrome, uncertainty, and the emotional weight of infertility. Her story shines a light on the inner battle between the image we project to the world and the reality of our internal struggles. As Alyza puts it, “the external world will never know my imposter”. This powerful statement captures the essence of her journey toward embracing her authentic self, even when it feels like the world demands a façade. Her episode highlights the power of reframing mental health. Instead of viewing it as a silent struggle or a hidden flaw, Alyza embraces the concept of Mental Beauty. Mental Beauty challenges the way we think about mental health. It invites us to view it as an integral part of our overall well-being, just like physical health. It’s a shift that empowers us to embrace our vulnerabilities, recognizing them as part of what makes us beautifully human. Alyza’s journey perfectly encapsulates the essence of the Mental Beauty Rethink. It’s about moving away from shame and secrecy and stepping into a space of self-acceptance and empowerment. 3 Practical ‘Mental Beauty Tips’ inspired by Episode 113: Reframe Your Inner Dialogue: Practice Self-Compassion: Start by identifying the negative thoughts that arise when you feel like an imposter. Instead of judging yourself harshly, try to speak to yourself as you would to a friend. Acknowledge your feelings without letting them define you. For instance, instead of thinking, I don’t deserve this success, reframe it to, I worked hard to achieve this, and it’s okay to feel proud of my accomplishments. Use affirmations to remind yourself of your strengths and achievements regularly. Embrace Vulnerability and Share Your Experiences: Open Up to Trusted People: Talking about your feelings of inadequacy with friends, family, or colleagues can help diminish their power. Sharing your experiences can foster connection and show you that many others feel the same way at times. You might consider journaling about your feelings, which can also help you process them and recognize patterns. By expressing your vulnerabilities, you’ll realize you’re not alone, making it easier to combat feelings of imposter. Set Realistic Goals and Celebrate Achievements: Break Down Goals into Manageable Steps: Instead of overwhelming yourself with lofty goals, break them down into smaller, achievable tasks. This approach helps you build confidence as you complete each step. Additionally, take time to celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small. Create a ‘success log’ where you record your achievements and the efforts it took to get there. Reflecting on these successes can help counteract the imposter feeling and remind you of your capabilities. Episode 113 Takeaway: A self-care tool called ‘The Practice of Self-Reflection Through Journaling’: By setting aside a few minutes each day to write about your thoughts, feelings, and experiences, you create a space for honest self-exploration. This allows you to identify the triggers and patterns associated with your imposter syndrome. Begin by noting moments when you feel like an imposter and the thoughts that accompany those feelings. Ask yourself questions like, What evidence do I have that contradicts these feelings? or What achievements can I celebrate today? This practice not only helps you confront and challenge negative beliefs but also reinforces your accomplishments and strengths. Over time, you'll build resilience and a clearer understanding of your self-worth, empowering you to take charge and silence that inner critic. Of course, remember, if you want to share something amazing that you would like to have a shout out for on your behalf, just send an e-mail to [email protected]. Spread Mental Beauty, Stop the Stigma! /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/35862890

Episode 112: Complete Burnout, Life Stripped Away, Lost Identity, Leaving her to ask Herself Who Am I? 03/12/2025

Episode 112: Complete Burnout, Life Stripped Away, Lost Identity, Leaving her to ask Herself Who Am I? Jennifer shares her raw and transformative journey from burnout to self-reinvention, proving that it's never too late to rewrite your story. Approaching her 50th birthday, Jennifer found herself at an unexpected crossroads—divorced, an empty nester, unemployed, and bedridden with a stress-related illness—all within a single year. The weight of these life changes led to complete burnout, forcing her to take a few leaves of absence from work. She felt stripped of her identity. She had always been a wife, a mother, and a successful professional, but suddenly, those roles were gone. Overwhelmed with a sense of defeat, she spiraled into deep depression, questioning, “What’s wrong with me?” Self-blame took over as she grappled with the belief that she had done everything right—checked all the boxes of a "successful" life—yet still ended up here. What she didn’t realize at the time was that her entire foundation had been built on a deep-seated narrative of “I’m not enough.” She had spent years proving her worth through achievements, promotions, and external validation, unaware of the toll this took on her mental health. The pressure to be more had been relentless, yet no amount of success ever quieted the inner critic that told her she was still falling short. Despite being driven, accomplished, and well-compensated with prestigious job titles and perks, she had always felt the need to prove her value to the world. But in the depths of her struggle, Jennifer came to a life-altering realization: this wasn’t the end—it was an opportunity. She had the power to redefine success on her own terms and build a life that truly aligned with who she was, not what she achieved. Her key message to the listeners is that no matter where you are starting from, you can choose again, one decision and choice at a time. /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/35648870

Episode 111: Mental Beauty Segments 02/26/2025

Episode 111: Mental Beauty Segments As we proceed to neutralize the unique concept of mental beauty, episode 111 of the Dare To Share Your Untold Story Podcast, Mental Beauty Segments, an empath’s healing journey despite mental health barriers. In relation to this episode topic the prior episode 29 has been selected for further exploration and deeper dive. In episode 29, titled “The Breakthrough of a High-Functioning Empath Meets Malfunctioning Mental Health Habits”, with guest, Parul Pandya. Her journey is an open window into the struggles of being a high-functioning empath navigating a world that often misunderstands mental health. Her story highlights the delicate balance between showing up for others and recognizing when you need to prioritize your own well-being. Parul’s candid sharing offers not only a permission slip to be vulnerable but also a guiding light for those of us who sometimes feel isolated in our struggles. As she beautifully puts it, “Through growing my self-resilience, I found my own form of resistance”. Her breakthrough moment came when a compassionate supervisor asked her a simple but life-changing question: Are you okay? For the first time, she admitted she wasn’t, allowing herself to be vulnerable and accept help. This pivotal moment gave Parul the space she needed to begin her healing journey. She took time off work, explored holistic healing methods, and learned to tune into her body’s needs. Parul’s journey is a shining example of what I like to call the Mental Beauty Rethink. It’s about shifting the narrative from striving for perfection to embracing our full humanity, flaws and all. Mental Beauty isn’t about putting on a brave face 24/7. It’s about recognizing when we need to rest, when we need to set boundaries, and when we need to ask for help. Parul’s story shows that resilience doesn’t mean pushing through at all costs; it means knowing when to step back and refill your cup. 3 Practical ‘Mental Beauty Tips’ inspired by Episode 111: Speak to Yourself with Compassion: Notice your inner dialogue, especially when facing challenges or setbacks. If you catch yourself being self-critical, try to reframe those thoughts with compassion, as you would for a close friend. Practicing this daily helps you recognize and soothe that inner critic, creating a safe space for you to be yourself. Honour Your Needs Without Guilt: Self-acceptance means acknowledging what you need and giving yourself permission to prioritize those needs. This could mean setting boundaries or saying ‘no’, even if it’s uncomfortable. By honouring your needs, you reinforce the message that your well-being matters. Share Your Truths with Safe People: Vulnerability is a practice, and it helps to start small. Try opening up about something personal with someone you trust, even if it’s a little uncomfortable. Each time you do, you reinforce a healthy belief that your authentic self deserves to be seen and valued. Episode 111 Takeaway: A self-care practice called ‘Mindful Presence’: Start by finding a quiet space where you won’t be interrupted. Sit comfortably, close your eyes, and take several deep breaths. As you breathe, bring your attention to your body, noticing any areas of tension or discomfort. Allow yourself to simply observe, without judgment. Imagine each breath filling you with a calming light that softens and releases any stress. As you continue, visualize connecting with your inner core—the part of you that feels safe, steady, and whole. It may take time to tune into this part of yourself, but with patience, you’ll start to feel a sense of groundedness. Let your thoughts come and go like passing clouds, gently redirecting your focus to your breath and that feeling of connection. Of course, remember, if you want to share something amazing that you would like to have a shout out for on your behalf, just send an e-mail to [email protected]. Spread Mental Beauty, Stop the Stigma! /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/35433210

Episode 110: Mental Beauty Segments 02/12/2025

Episode 110: Mental Beauty Segments As we carry onward to neutralize the unique concept of mental beauty, episode 110 of the Dare To Share Your Untold Story Podcast, Mental Beauty Segments, focuses on self-love, learning it fully and embodying it completely. In relation to this episode topic the prior episode 83 has been selected for further exploration and deeper dive. In episode 83, titled “Her story unravelled as she commenced the de-layering process of unworthiness stemming from childhood”, with guest, Tara Myshrall. Her journey is a powerful example of persistence, de-layering and self-discovery. Her story, grapples with the depths of unworthiness, leaving her to fee; misunderstood and unseen in an earlier time, shows that by unleashing yourself at your core and letting go of external validation allows change to take place. Tara’s open sharing serves as a permission slip for all of us to expose our deep narratives and openly connect to the revelations, with courage and hope. As Tara beautifully puts it, “unleashing the wise feminine warrior within “. What's particularly striking about Tara's perspective is how the term 'mental beauty' opens up new avenues for expression. She believes it encourages people to share their stories more willingly - stories that need to be told and heard. This approach honours not just the outcome of our experiences, but the entire process, including the beauty found in our struggles. Tara's enthusiasm for the mental beauty concept is palpable. Her message connects the dots between our challenges and the unique beauty they create within us. It's a perspective that celebrates our whole selves, not just the parts that society deems 'successful' or 'normal'. Listen to this episode as we take a deeper dive into this topic. 3 Practical ‘Mental Beauty Tips’ inspired by Episode 110: 1. Engage in Creative Play: Set aside time each week to engage in activities that your inner child would enjoy—whether it’s drawing, painting, dancing, or playing a musical instrument. 2. Practice Inner Child Meditation: Incorporate guided inner child meditations into your routine. 3. Write Letters to Your Inner Child: Writing letters to your inner child can be a powerful way to improve self-worth. Episode 110 Takeaway: A self-care mantra to address unworthiness: Þ "I am worthy of love, respect, and kindness. My value is inherent and does not depend on anyone else’s approval. I honour and embrace my true self, knowing that I deserve to be treated with compassion and care." Þ Repeat this mantra daily, especially during moments of doubt, to reinforce your sense of self-worth and to remind yourself of your intrinsic value. Of course, remember, if you want to share something amazing that you would like to have a shout out for on your behalf, just send an e-mail to [email protected]. Spread Mental Beauty, Stop the Stigma! /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/35264030

Episode 109: Mental Beauty Segments 01/29/2025

Episode 109: Mental Beauty Segments As we continue forward to normalize the unique concept of mental beauty, episode 109 of the Dare To Share Your Untold Story Podcast, Mental Beauty Segments, focuses on the grit it takes to halt the deep perpetual abuse cycle. In relation to this episode topic the prior episode 69 has been selected for further exploration and deeper dive. In episode 69, titled “Until She Believed in Herself, the Cycle of Abuse Continued”, featuring Alexandra Pinto. Her journey is a powerful example of breaking free from the cycle of abuse and how turning inward and cultivating self-trust, boundary setting, and committing to yourself fully and wholly, shows how true inner strength emerges and flourishes. Alexandra’s open sharing serves as a permission slip for all of us to rely on our inner power to set ourselves free from challenging experiences. Alexandra's Mental Beauty rethink is a powerful testament to the transformative power of self-love. She emphasizes that true beauty resides within us, and the key is to believe in our own worth. Even when confidence feels out of reach, Alexandra highlights the importance of daily positive self-talk as a way to build self-worth over time. Her approach embodies the essence of Mental Beauty. It's about self-acceptance, owning who you are unapologetically, and cultivating self-love regardless of external negativity. Alexandra’s words about finding strength in self-love and breaking cycles of abuse are both empowering and liberating. Alexandra's journey reminds us that even in our darkest moments, we have the power to rewrite our story and cultivate self-worth. Listen to this episode as we take a deeper dive into this topic. 3 Practical ‘Mental Beauty Tips’ inspired by Episode 109: Journaling for Self-Reflection: Dedicate time each day to write in a journal as a way to process your thoughts and emotions. Mindful Breathing and Grounding Exercises: When dealing with intense emotions or memories related to abuse, practicing mindful breathing and grounding exercises can help you stay present and connected to yourself. Affirmations and Positive Self-Talk: Rebuild your self-worth by integrating affirmations and positive self-talk into your daily routine. Episode 109 Takeaway: A self-care technique that is particularly effective for grounding during the cold winter season is a Warmth and Sensation Meditation: Create a Cozy Environment Focus on Your Breath Tune Into Sensations Visualize Stability Affirm Your Presence This meditation technique helps you stay connected to your body and the present moment, providing warmth and grounding when the cold winter season can sometimes make you feel detached or isolated. Spread Mental Beauty, Stop the Stigma! /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/35071755

Episode 108: A Stroke’s Beautiful Outcome as she Moved Through the Good, Bad, and Ugly 01/15/2025

Episode 107: Mental Beauty Segments 12/18/2024

Episode 107: Mental Beauty Segments Listen to Episode 25: As we extend to prioritize the unique concept of mental beauty, episode 107 of the Dare To Share Your Untold Story Podcast, Mental Beauty Segments, focuses on re-gaining control even when you feel stripped of having control. In relation to this episode topic the prior episode 25 has been selected for further exploration and deeper dive. In episode 25, titled: ““The Dis-ease of Trauma, Murder & Death Came her way,' with guest, Carys Cragg. Her journey is a powerful example of resilience, transformation, and breaking free from the chains of tragedy. Her story, which she frames as a pursuit of understanding and healing, shows how confronting her past turned grief into growth. It's about embracing the complexity of human experiences, no matter how challenging they may be. Carys's open sharing serves as a permission slip for all of us to confront our deepest pain and admit our vulnerabilities. Her courage in corresponding with her father's murderer demonstrates that healing can come from the most unexpected places. Her story beautifully illustrates, our most painful experiences are not just scars, but potential sources of profound insight and personal growth. In essence, she shows us that even our darkest moments can lead to light - they're not blemishes, but opportunities for beauty to emerge. What strikes me most about Carys's Mental Beauty rethink is its focus on future-forward thinking. She invites us to reconsider how we view the world and mental health, encouraging us to adopt new thought processes and shifted perspectives. The term 'Mental Beauty' itself opens up a world of promise and opportunity to cultivate a deeper understanding of ourselves and others. Listen to this episode as we take a deeper dive into this topic. 3 Practical ‘Mental Beauty Tips’ inspired by Episode 107: Educate Yourself and Others: Empower yourself with knowledge about trauma and its effects. Surround Yourself with Supportive Allies: Seek out individuals and communities that understand and respect your journey. Practice Self-Compassion and Assertiveness: Give yourself permission to prioritize your well-being over societal expectations. Episode 107 Takeaway: A self-care technique to help listen to your own inner voice and inner guidance is daily mindfulness meditation focused on inner reflection: Begin each day by setting aside just 10-15 minutes in a quiet space where you won't be disturbed. Sit comfortably, close your eyes, and take a few deep breaths to centre yourself. As you settle into your breath, gently direct your attention inward, focusing on what you truly feel and need at that moment, without any external influence. Ask yourself, "What is my inner voice telling me today?" Allow whatever thoughts or feelings arise to come to the surface without judgment or the need to act on them immediately. Of course, remember, if you want to share something amazing that you would like to have a shout out for on your behalf, just send an e-mail to [email protected]. Spread Mental Beauty, Stop the Stigma! /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/34539445

Episode 106: Mental Beauty Segments 12/04/2024

Episode 106: Mental Beauty Segments Listen to Episode 19: As we proceed to prioritize the unique concept of mental beauty, episode 106 of the Dare To Share Your Untold Story Podcast, Mental Beauty Segments, focuses on mindfulness in daily life, despite your untold story. In relation to this episode topic the prior episode 19 has been selected for further exploration and deeper dive. In episode 19, titled: “Her Unwavering Faith Conquered the Cancer and Every Other Wall that Came Her way”, featuring Nadia Gulhamhusein. Her journey is a powerful example of feeling your strength right from your core and keeping steadfast in your faith, beliefs and a higher power, while putting your full trust in the universe. From childhood she developed a sense of positivity in her viewpoint of the world. During the hardships she had faced with cancer, she took the time to stop and reflect on what she was going through, she wrote about her challenges and difficulties – and then was able to integrate positivity and cheer herself on. Nadia’s open sharing serves as a permission slip for all of us to look at the cards we are dealt as a choice. She was faced with a choice to retreat or rise, and she chose to rise, chose ‘I can’, and step into her greatness, she took her pain and transformed it into purpose, knowing that God had more work for her to do. Nadia's Mental Beauty rethink is about being open to knowing that each part of our selves is as important as the others, physical, emotional, mental and spiritual aspects. She expanded her thoughts to include that there is a need to be in spaces that feel safe so that we can show up with vulnerability, and openly speak about mental health issues and take care of one's mental health. By creating safety to share and be open, we create safe spaces to hold the conversations. She talks about equalizing the conversations. Listen to this episode as we take a deeper dive into this topic. 3 Practical ‘Mental Beauty Tips’ inspired by Episode 106: Start with Daily Mindful Breathing: This practice helps ground you in the present moment and fosters a sense of calm, allowing you to start the day with a clear and focused mindset. Practice Acceptance Through Journaling: This practice encourages acceptance and helps you identify areas within your control, allowing you to approach problems with a balanced perspective. Set Intentional, Positive Focus: By consciously directing your energy toward something positive and manageable, you cultivate healthy positivity and empower yourself to navigate the day with intention and grace. Episode 106 Takeaway: Reflect on and Remember to Practice Daily: How can I show myself kindness with whatever it is that I am experiencing in this given moment? …and WTB - what's the blessing here, what do I need to see more clearly Engaging in this self-reflective process allows you to cultivate a deeper sense of self-compassion and awareness. When you ask yourself, "How can I show myself kindness with whatever it is that I am experiencing in this given moment?", you are inviting yourself to pause and acknowledge your current emotional state without judgment. The second part of the reflection, "What's the blessing here, what do I need to see more clearly?" invites you to shift your perspective and look for the hidden opportunities or lessons within your current situation. Of course, remember, if you want to share something amazing that you would like to have a shout out for on your behalf, just send an e-mail to [email protected]. Spread Mental Beauty, Stop the Stigma! /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/34259335

Episode 105: Mental Beauty Segments 11/20/2024

Episode 105: Mental Beauty Segments Listen to Episode 82: As we go forward to equalize the unique concept of mental beauty, episode 105 of the Dare To Share Your Untold Story Podcast, Mental Beauty Segments, focuses on navigating family dynamics. In relation to the episode topic, the prior episode 82 has been selected for further exploration and deeper dive. In episode 82, titled: “A Mother Learning to Effectively Parent Children with Mental Health and Addiction Challenges”, with guest Maureen Towns. Her journey is a powerful example of how to navigate complex family situations, especially when mental health and addiction issues are involved. Her story, which she frames as, ‘we see others as we are, not as they are’, highlights the importance of understanding our own perceptions and reactions in family dynamics. She also shares the importance of managing family relationships while maintaining your own well-being. This episode provides valuable lessons for anyone who is facing a similar challenge in their own family unit. She opens up about her journey from codependent parenting style to learning how to effectively manage these complex situations while taking care of her own mental well-being. Maureen's story depicts clearly a shift in her perspective. This reframing helped her to see the beauty in everyone's experience, regardless of diagnosis or challenges. Listen to this episode as we take a deeper dive into this topic. 3 Practical ‘Mental Beauty Tips’ inspired by Episode 105: Set Healthy Boundaries, by clearly defining what behaviours and interactions are acceptable to you and communicating these effectively. Practice Self-Care and Mindfulness, prioritizing activities that nurture your emotional and mental well-being. Seek Support and Perspective, allowing yourself to put in place help and support to guide you along your journey is an essential part of healing and staying connected. Episode 105 Takeaway: Create a ‘Personal Time Block’, follow these steps: Choose a consistent time slot in your day. Plan enjoyable activities for this time. Protect this time as a sacred appointment with yourself. Make it a daily habit. By committing to your own personal time block, you ensure that you are prioritizing your needs and taking intentional steps to nurture your mental, emotional and physical health. By practicing this tool, it will help you to maintain balance and resilience, enabling you to handle all things unexpected that life surprises each of us with! Of course, remember, if you want to share something amazing that you would like to have a shout out for on your behalf, just send an email to [email protected]. Spread Mental Beauty, Stop the Stigma! /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/33350282

Episode 104: The Quest of 3 Cancers, 3 Conquers, in 3 years 11/06/2024

Episode 104: The Quest of 3 Cancers, 3 Conquers, in 3 years From leading a busy and fulfilling life to battling one cancer after another, Trent faced an unexpected and devastating prognosis: less than a five percent chance of survival and potentially only a year to live. Compounding this grim news were discussions about amputating his leg. However, thanks to his father’s advocacy, alternative options became available. Throughout his health journey, Trent encountered numerous challenges, including post-surgical complications, infections, and misdiagnoses. The uncertainty of his future filled him with fear, but before that fear could take hold, he needed time to absorb the shock of each new medical update that accompanied his consultations. His cancer battle unfolded during the COVID-19 pandemic, which severely limited the support he could access; he was also thousands of miles away from his family. In New Zealand, where he was receiving treatment, methadone was prescribed for pain management. However, when he was abruptly discharged from the hospital, it left him without any prescribed medications or a plan to manage the withdrawal symptoms from methadone. Unaware that he was experiencing withdrawal, Trent struggled without support or guidance on how to cope. During this tumultuous period, he felt his mental well-being deteriorate, leading him to suicidal thoughts while trying to navigate the physical and emotional toll of his situation, which was marked by anger, frustration, and a profound sense of hopelessness. Yet, in the midst of this strife, he refused to give up on himself. He continued to fight for his life, constantly reminding himself of his goals and the strength within him to persevere. His key message to the listeners is that: invest in your life, make a decision, focus on your goal, remove the negative influences, work on yourself, be willing to help yourself, you need to make drastic changes to see drastic results. /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/33779702

Episode 103: Mental Beauty Segments 10/23/2024

Episode 103: Mental Beauty Segments Listen to Episode 77: As we proceed to normalize the unique concept of mental beauty, episode 103 of the Dare To Share Your Untold Story Podcast, Mental Beauty Segments, focuses on taking charge of your mental health and owning your parts. In relation to the episode topic, the prior episode 77 has been selected for further exploration and deeper dive. In episode 77, titled: “The Entrepreneurship Struggle: Unspoken Hardships Refined and Transformed”, with guest, Ethan Fung. His story is a powerful example of perseverance, transformation, and breaking free from limiting patterns, and it's a story which he frames as ‘becoming the generation of change’, showing how empathy for his past turned fear into faith. It's about embracing authenticity, no matter how different it may be. Ethan's open sharing serves as a permission slip for all of us to expose our struggles and admit to our own vulnerabilities no matter the rawness of them. Ethan's mental beauty rethink is about accepting vulnerability and struggle, rather than shoving it aside. It's about confidently sharing who we are and what we're going through. He gives us permission to be vulnerable with each other, reminding us that we are all human and we are all going through something significant and of importance and it should not be Swept under the rug. Listen to this episode as we take a deeper dive into this topic. 3 Practical ‘Mental Beauty Tips’ inspired by Episode 103: Practice Self-Compassion, it allows you to understand yourself well, especially during times of difficulty. Identify and Challenge Negative Self Talk, by paying attention to the internal dialogue, as that shapes your self-perception. Set Boundaries and Prioritize Self-care, learning to set healthy boundaries with others to protect your time, energy, and emotional well-being. Episode 103 Takeaway: Boost Self-Love and Self -Worth with Mirror Talk Stand in front of the mirror Recite positive affirmations Use your name Smile and breathe Feel the words Incorporate this simple mirror exercise into your morning routine, it's a great way to start your day with the boost of positivity and self-affirmation, setting a strong foundation for the day ahead. Links - Can we add direct links to episode 77 which directs ppl to the corresponding show notes page here - Links for Apple, Spotify, YouTube Of course, remember, if you want to share something amazing that you would like to have a shout out for on your behalf, just send an email to [email protected]. Spread Mental Beauty, Stop the Stigma! /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/33350207

Episode 102: Mental Beauty Segments 10/09/2024

Episode 101: Mental Beauty Segments 09/24/2024

Episode 101: Mental Beauty Segments Listen to Episode 16: Listen to Episode 17: The first of its kind, introducing the Dare To Share Your Untold Story Podcast, Mental Beauty Segments, as we have surpassed the 100th episode, it’s time to forward into a direction that allows us to continue to extrapolate learnings and shed light onto mental beauty. Up until now, we have had guests come on to the show sharing their true untold stories and its impact on their mental well-being, as well as sharing their individual take on what sparks for them when they hear the term, the mental beauty re-think. In prior episodes, by guests answering this question quite spontaneously, it has ignited rich dialogue on meaning, intention, things to remember and self-reminders. So as we introduce this new element of the podcast, this episode focuses on how mental beauty relates to the theme of overcoming stigma in mental health. In relation to the episode topic, prior episodes 16 and 17 were selected for further exploration and deeper dive. Episode 16, titled, “Getting There – An Inner Knowing, Despite the Repressed + Uncovered Memories”, with guest, Ross Taylor, and Episode 17, titled: “The Limitless Possibilities of not Knowing her Diagnoses”, with guest Barabara Arrowsmith-Young. Both guests share their journeys of rethinking life perspectives and overcoming significant challenges which had a profound impact on their mental well-being. Ross's journey highlights the importance of seeing mental health not as a burden but as an integral part of our overall well-being, while Barbara’s story showcases triumph over adversity. Listen to this episode as we take a deeper dive into this topic. 3 Practical ‘Mental Beauty Tips’ inspired by Episode 101: Reframe Negative Thoughts Practice Self-Compassion Seek Support Episode 101 Takeaway: Affirmation – “I am worthy of love, kindness and mental beauty”. Repeat this to yourself whenever you need a reminder of your worth, and even when you don’t! /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/33177382

Episode 100: Behind the Scenes with Salima as the journeys of untold stories are uncovered and discovered 09/11/2024

Episode 100: Behind the Scenes with Salima as the journeys of untold stories are uncovered and discovered Can you believe it? We have reached the 100th episode milestone, with the opportunity to celebrate and honour brave guests who have come forward, take stock of how it all began and where we are headed. Salima takes the daring seat to share the journey to the 100th episode. She openly shares thoughts she entertained as well as what she didn’t even think about as she kept her focus on spreading the word about breaking down the barriers of mental stigma and embracing the concept of ‘mental beauty’. In this episode she shares how she believes the intention of her podcast is being fulfilled and shares with the audience more about her uniquely coined term, ‘the mental beauty re-think’. Salima also shares the backend of what goes into producing an episode, how guests are selected, how guests get into the interview space and what the preparation is like, particularly around not coming in with a prepared script to share their story from. Salima shares insights about what she has learned about herself over the 99 episodes that led her to the 100th, and how she has been impacted by each guest and story, and even lets us in on some cherished moments of about seven or eight episodes that she brings to light, particularly from the first year of the podcast launch. Salima’s authentic sharing of all these episodes also touches upon her own personal growth moments as it relates to the podcast as well as what has changed for herself along the way of this podcast journey. She opened up and got personal about what her perception of mental health was growing up and how that differs from her present-day perspective. Salima shares habits that she has personally developed to take care of her own mental well-being and discusses her biggest challenge with overcoming her own difficulties. She takes time to share more about what it is like to set boundaries and implement these, and other relatable tips for the audience at large. This is a wonderful episode to listen to as she also gives a gentle nudge about what’s next on the horizon for the Dare To Share Your Untold Story Podcast, as well as what’s next to come in her overall work as a mental health professional. Find out more at Passionate about: **Join the Dare Squad: **Enroll in NTC **sign up for mental beauty webinars! /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/32750047

Episode 99: The Truth about Colourism lies Between the Shades 07/25/2024

Episode 99: The Truth about Colourism lies Between the Shades Deriving from her personal perspective of colourism and how she has been impacted by it in the form of oppression, Francoise shares her own personal experience and witnessing in her own family and with various skin shades based on the eyes of society. She delves into how emotional well-being is intertwined into colourism, and the focus and interpretation of beauty and how its perception can tie in with racism, social acceptance, and environmental factors all play a role in the by-product of colourism. Francoise talks about the tremendous negative implications on mental and emotional wellbeing as it relates to research that she has come across. Her perspective is that if one believes they are beautiful then they also show up with confidence, emotional stability, and career success levels tend to be higher. Francoise provides description of how majority of her siblings are lighter skin tones, and there are a few with darker skin tone, and they grew up feeling insecure, not feeling beautiful because she was dark, and didn’t feel she would be able to be successful in life or aspire to any sort of life due to the darkness in her skin tone. Francoise spoke about her young cousin who attempted to wash her skin colour off in the shower by rubbing stone on her skin during her shower, bleeding after her shower in attempts to look lighter skin like the others in the family. Francoise was witness to all these scenarios from the tender age of nine, and colour differential was never something that crossed her mind until these circumstances arose amongst her siblings, which then inspired her to change the world from this young age. She expresses that the stories that heard from a young age plague self-worth and amplifies the biased standards of beauty. Her key message to the listeners is that: colourism is an insidious form of discrimination that favours those of those with a lighter skin tone; when it comes to blackness, colourism takes a dimension of attack on the emotional, mental, social, and professional aspects of a person and leads to low esteem, internalized racism, feelings of unworthiness all leading people to enhance black skin tones; remember that beauty comes from within. Visit to find out more. Passionate about: Fundraising for My Skin Global Shoutout: Guest Links: LinkedIn: Instagram: Email: Website /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/32284517

Episode 98: Desperate for a pause, with no break in sight, & she didn’t even know it was burnout! 07/10/2024

Episode 98: Desperate for a pause, with no break in sight, & she didn’t even know it was burnout! Living in Toronto, Ontario, Gladys spoke about a particular time in her life during 2020/2021 where she faced extra demands in her work role, as well as marital discord as the relationship with her now ex-husband had taken a toll on her. Flooded with demands at work and on the go in her multifaceted work role and then only to return home to a negative and intense environment dealing with some tough interactions. She describes that there wasn’t really a place for her to really think she can sit down and breathe. Her mind was racing, between tasks, and thinking ahead, and preparing for the next thing before the current task is even completed. Work friends, faith community, and close heart connections are all involved in her story. It was her work colleagues who initiated an intervention to help her recognize the burnout she was facing, specifically because she was unaware of it. Initially the approach being gentle, recommending extended time off or taking a sabbatical, or encouraging her to take her vacation days. She also received messages to slow down, she endured physiological symptoms such as headaches, neck and back pain, difficulty sleeping, and overall body pain. For a long time, Gladys sat with denial, and whatever discomfort she did experience, she chalked it up to other reasons other than what was truly going on with her. After consistent messages over time, she started to contemplate the physical pain and her sleep deprivation, seeing as she was unable to stay asleep for any length of time, she started to relate her experience to the intensities of what she had been enduring in that season. Gladys expressed that it took a village to realize the state that she was in. During this difficult time, she spent a great deal of time ruminating, she shifted towards the ‘freeze’ response, as she didn’t have time to feel her feelings, didn’t feel present, and was unable to connect emotionally to people. Her key message to the listeners is that: pay attention to the people who care for you, notice the message in what is being communicated to you; stay away from reasoning or downplaying; be intentional and build and surround yourself with supports and lean on them; don’t be afraid to pause and take time off when you need it. Visit to find out more. Passionate about: Fight For Freedom Shoutout: Guest Links: IG FB Email: Website /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/32052342

Episode 97: The Identity Crisis Beyond Colour of a Queer South Asian Man Who Learned to Set Himself Free 06/26/2024

Episode 97: The Identity Crisis Beyond Colour of a Queer South Asian Man Who Learned to Set Himself Free As a child Farhan was always told that he would be a failure and that he didn’t have potential. He faced resistance from family; however, he forged a pathway forward to becoming the helping professional he is today. His story includes himself, his family and society at large. Being a first- generation South Asian queer male, growing up in Canada, he realizes that his family was doing the best that they could, though they had specific expectations that resisted the pathway. Farhan described how he consistently felt he must work harder than most, he had to find constructive ways to put aside any idea of imposter syndrome, and even went through a colour identity crisis. There were many beliefs systems Farhan had to combat, the many negative messages he received that impacted his self-perception began at age 7, and even so, he chose the path unchosen. Desire for acting was a disapproval from his family, acting on television and getting in the media was a journey of its own, first, difficult to get parts being a male of colour, and then when colour was accepted, he wasn’t the right colour. The narrative of not being good enough is something Farhan internalized deep within, leaving him to struggle with deep sense of belonging. Farhan experienced intense feelings of isolation and loneliness. He further highlighted how it all would surface, such as showing up with what he chose to share about his work and progress at family gatherings, he felt his energy got smaller, he knew he wouldn’t get celebrated by the people in his life even when he was accomplishing and having wins of his own, so anything he attempted to share with people in his world would get dismissed or ridiculed. It took time to realize that external validation was not where to focus his energy and desire. His key message to the listeners is that: it’s important to be true to yourself, fundamentally learn that you are betraying yourself when you are not true to yourself; reflect on what’s more important, yourself or others, as there will always be others who will be disapproving; choose yourself, don’t deny yourself; your path is all about making choices that don’t betray yourself. Visit to find out more. Passionate about: The YMCA Guest shoutout: Guest Links: Instagram - Website – Instagram - Podcast - Twitter - Facebook - Linkedin - /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/31866487

Episode 96: A Chaotic Way through Burnout, while Uncovering Unfelt Emotions during Political Unrest 06/12/2024

Episode 96: A Chaotic Way through Burnout, while Uncovering Unfelt Emotions during Political Unrest Olga dives in to share that even when she was on the brink of burnout, initially she could only see it as a stress leave from work. Her story unravels her experience of her lost sense of self while battling through burnout as she worked with students and clients in the international students and immigration sector. It was September 2022 when she identified there was a shift in her energy, feeling frustrations and irritability, simultaneously the political unrest that continued forward with the invasion of Russia on Ukraine. The events of this war further perpetuated another lost piece of her identity, as she expressed feeling shameful to identify herself as Russian. At her place of work, Olga supports both Ukrainian and Russian students amongst other races and backgrounds and she internalized all the suffering she experienced, witnessed, and endured. Olga mentioned that this external event affected her ability to cope, so she sought out support for her mental wellbeing and actively participated in the therapy process. The intense shame that she experienced took a toll on her physically, like stomach pain became intolerable, severe migraines and a great deal of crying and tears followed. She explains that the support she provides to her students, is beyond study permit regulations, she learns about each student’s individual life and students tend to confide in Olga with personal details of their struggles to get to Canada, which was a contributing factor of the battle that led her to burnout. It took a great deal of time for Olga to admit after being on stress leave and seeking out some additional supports, guidance and building her coping skills that she came to terms that what she was experiencing was in fact burnout. Her key message to the listeners is that: take action by allowing yourself to explore all of what you are going through; give yourself time, be open minded, explore help and resources that are out there; and even when you know what to do, do the doing because knowing is not enough. Visit to find out more. Passionate about: Ruben Gagarin (spouse) and his YouTube Channel providing a way for individuals to develop their own #mentalbeauty. Guest shoutout: YT channel: Guest Links: Email - [email protected] Website – LinkedIn – /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/31481312

Episode 95: A Cumulative Grief Experience – Teenage Sexual Assault, Shame and Regrets, Tragedies Experienced and Losing loved ones. 05/29/2024

Episode 95: A Cumulative Grief Experience – Teenage Sexual Assault, Shame and Regrets, Tragedies Experienced and Losing loved ones. Funmi shares the impact of an unfortunate teenage sexual assault, immigrating to Canada, marital challenges, the loss of both her parents within the span of 18 months, shame, and regrets along the way and how it all has forged her character and identity of who she has become today. She details that it took her a decade to work through the trauma of sexual assault and violent rape endured at age 17, which robbed her of her virginity and her innocence. This led to further impact of her sense of loss and mistrust, and amplified negative perspectives she held about men and family and maintaining long-lasting relationships. She described overall how her mental health was impacted such as, what being on autopilot looked like to her on an everyday basis; the self-blame placed on herself thinking she didn’t deserve a good life and that she brought on these problems onto herself; and what it took to break free from her patterns, learning she can work through her healing process and realized she can still claim her life. Funmi spoke about the emotional pain and turmoil of the death of each parent and how debilitating this was for her and still is on some days. Some moments of her life became unbearable to the point where she entertained suicidal thoughts, thinking that life would be easier for herself and others if she disappeared and not have to deal with any further consequences. Her key message to the listeners is that: life is totally worth living; know that there is an even deeper untold story within your untold story; diver deeper, as it will produce so much more motivation to be exactly who you are called to be; there is so much more to life than what you are currently experiencing, so rise up to your full potential; each person is a work in progress. Visit to find out more. Guest Shoutouts: Visionary Compass Accelerator Program () Guest Links: Instagram – Website – LinkedIn – Podcast - /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/31481167

Episode 94: Entrenched in Struggle and Vulnerability, a Victim’s Journey through Narcissism 05/15/2024

Episode 94: Entrenched in Struggle and Vulnerability, a Victim’s Journey through Narcissism Phoenix grew up in East Germany, still communist in 1972 with an enabling father, growing up being parented with a narcissistic mother she explains. Phoenix shares that she grew up in darkness, and her mother was lost within herself, not knowing her own identity, Phoenix slowly started to get to know herself, and as she did this, she felt she was shedding light on herself. Phoenix expressed that she really struggled to sort out who she was and what she wanted to be and felt that she was not lovable. Her childhood experiences led her to feel unworthy, insignificant, and small. She explained how she was unable to foster healthy relationships or understand how to manage conflict, or cope with difficult people and situations. Phoenix indicates that any relationship she entered, fell apart due to her insecurities and unfinished business with her prior life growing up. Phoenix shared a narrative that was running on repeat for herself was she was not enough, love could only be conditional, and this led her to learning art and precision in walking on eggshells. She later moved to West Germany, and later at the age of 21, she moved to New York to be a dancer, and found a way to express herself through dance. Along her journey, Phoenix believed that to be loved, she needed to be what the other wanted her to be. Her auto response became tuning in with every moment and plan her expressions based on what she thought they wanted her to say and how she was expected to behave. Phoenix admits that this was a mask, and this was not her authentic self, this way of expressing herself that she learned was not conscious, but felt the need to wear a mask, deeply entrenched in mass insecurities and filled with self-doubt. Her key message to the listeners is that: healing can happen, believe it; darkness may show up, but it’s not as scary as you think; look at yourself with more courage and fall in love with who you are; you are not alone, whatever you are suffering, you can hide it successfully, but it’s too isolating; isolation creates more shame; ask for help and break the pattern. Visit to find out more. Guest Shoutouts: Guest Links: Instagram: Facebook: Website: LinkedIn: YouTube: /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/31268282

Episode 93: The Dark Times, from Momentum to Chaos, ensued a Lost Sense of Self 05/01/2024

Episode 93: The Dark Times, from Momentum to Chaos, ensued a Lost Sense of Self In his early 20’s, Sergio was living his best life, while performing well in secure employment that was inclusive of salary, pension, benefits, vacation time and all the bells and whistles. Sergio was excelling in his career, landing achievements and promotions, and studying part time. His life took a sharp turn after he sustained severe injuries following a car accident as a passenger coming home from his birthday celebration. Given the driver went into shock, Sergio was the one to make the 911 call to get help, realizing that he was unable to move his body. Sergio shares details of the time it took to get back moving with ease and what it took to get his mobility to increase while his pain level decreased, he found a way to shed fear, anger, and resentment. There were many themes and obstacles that Sergio faced during his rehabilitation journey and transitioning back into his work life, describing a time where he felt like a “disabled guy”. After undergoing his second surgery to remove the hardware put in, he came to heads with seeing limitations in being able to live life the way he did pre-accident. Filled with sadness and despair, Sergio felt behind, self-defeated in areas of his career and healing relationships. Through the thick of it, Sergio described his mental health at the time was impacted by intense anxiety and minor depression, experiencing sadness as he was not able to do the things he enjoyed, performing differently in the workplace, facing irrational fears, and difficulty being a passenger in a vehicle with any driver. His key message to the listeners is that: it is important to slow down because if you are on the go on a regular basis, it can get you into some trouble; even when you want to be in a hurry, you need to slow down, there’s benefit to slowing down, take time to think things through; there is no need to get somewhere so quickly, it can actually slow you down in ways you can’t expect or desire. /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/31068203

Episode 92: Learning that her Identity is not the Crown 04/17/2024

Episode 91: The Important Reminder of Showing up for Others, Just as You’d like them to Show up for You 04/03/2024

Episode 91: The Important Reminder of Showing up for Others, Just as You’d like them to Show up for You Sonia’s untold story revolves around her breast cancer diagnosis starting in 2017. She experienced physical and emotional trauma combined with heightened feelings. She had to work hard to overcome overwhelming thoughts and emotional pain when dealing with relationships during her cancer journey. This experience has been eye-opening, particularly in learning who she can rely on as her backbone and who she felt she still needed to support while under-going her own duress. Outwardly, Sonia was perceived to be a strong individual even during her time of challenge, she repeatedly heard the comment, “you got this”, from those around her. She echoed the sentiment herself and kept busy with projects, with the aim to distract her mind. However, internally, her reality was starkly different. Sonia harboured intense fear and anxiety, and kept these and other tough emotions to herself, she didn’t want to bother anyone with her internal experience. The internal struggle took a toll on Sonia. The constant stress she suffered with on the inside, manifested physically on the outside as brain fog, physical exhaustion and felt she needed to keep it together as much as possible. Sonia shared that only few people really showed up for her to support her the way she needed to be, sharing that she felt ignored by many and felt like she didn’t matter. There were some instances she described, where people couldn’t hear her talk about her cancer experience, and these same individuals were not there for her during her time of difficulty. This further affected Sonia as she chose to isolate more to protect herself emotionally, and truly felt that she and her journey of what she underwent medically was not a big deal, resulting in minimizing her true experience. Her key message to the listeners is that: it’s okay not to feel okay, learn this; stop pretending and stop spending time in this energy zapping space; go through your feels; be kind to yourself; do the best you can and remind yourself of this regularly; have gratitude for yourself; process the pain and don’t store it in different places in your body; slow down and process what you are experiencing. /episode/index/show/daretoshare/id/30530098

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