I find your lack of commitment disturbing
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What has got 2 Per-Specht-ives Podcast host Joshua Specht “almost ready to swear”? It has to do with him and co-host David Specht talking about getting people to commit.
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Quit making New Year's Resolutions
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Ring in the New Year with the 2 Per-Specht-ives Podcast! You father and son hosts, David and Joshua Specht, talk about how to show up differently in 2022 versus 2021.
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What the health? Talking COVID, vaccine, priorities
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This week’s 2 Per-Specht-ives Podcast hosts, David and Joshua Specht, ask, “What the Health?” and tackle the vaccine issue.
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Make a decision already!
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This week’s 2 Per-Specht-ives Podcast sees father and son hosts, David and Joshua Specht, coaching you on how not to be paralyzed by making a decision.
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Don't be an "Ask-hole"
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Do you have a friend who is constantly consumed with drama and wants your advice but ignores it? Do you have an employee who asks 1 million questions about their job, but never has a solution?
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Protecting the environment; it's not what you think
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This episode of the 2 Per-Specht-ives Podcast has father and son hosts, David and Joshua Specht, crossing the generational divide to discuss the importance of creating a positive work environment.
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Pedestals are for statues, not people
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The 2 Per-Specht-ives Podcast talks about crawling down from the pedestal in this week’s episode. Your father and son hosts, David and Joshua Specht, give you tips on how to take your blinders off when it comes to admiring others.
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When bad things happen
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Why do bad things happen to good people?
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While methods may change, principles don't
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The times, they are a-changin’ in this week’s 2 Per-Specht-ives Podcast. Father and son duo David and Joshua Specht share their thoughts on how technology has changed the business world. While it evolves almost daily, they dive into how the COVID-19 pandemic accelerated the use of technology to conduct day-to-day business.
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Curb your enthusiasm, bro.
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This week’s 2 Per-Specht-ives Podcast talks about frustration in growth and development. Father and son hosts David and Joshua Specht bring a generational perspective on the friction caused by making changes to improve your business or personal life, which generates frustration for you and/or the people around you. Your generational lesson: If you want to enact change on something you’re excited about or have strong opinions about, but it’s not being received, recognize it’s because the audience is
info_outline“People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” — Theodore Roosevelt
We all have people in our life that we want to help. And, sometimes we find that helping those people causes nothing but frustration.
Maybe in your life it’s a spouse, child, friend, or even coworker who you can give a different perspective about their life and actions to, but you’re met with the glass-eyed, blank stare. And, your advice, your help falls on deaf ears.
Luckily, a process to help you when helping others exists. It’s called Intrinsic Validation, and is a core element of the book “Today I Being a New Life” by Dave Blanchard.
The Process of Helping Others
- Recognize that everyone has a wall of resistance.
- Step into their world.
- Ask empathetic questions.
- Recognize when the time is right to offer advice.
- Be prepared to begin the process over.
We all have unhealthy habits of thinking, and sometimes it takes an outsider to point that out to us. So, try the following steps to help others along their, and your, journey:
- Recognize that everyone has a wall of resistance. Their resistance could be towards a change that causes disruption in their daily lives, even if they know what your offering is better for them. It may be to protect themselves after being hurt in the past, or it may have to do with comfort.
- Step into their world. You have to put aside what you think and begin to see things from their perspective. In order to bring down their wall of resistance, that person has to feel safe and understood. Try to connect with them and make them feel safe and understood, that you’re not trying to fix them. But I can tell you that as a health coach, when that person feels safe and is ready to make a change, that is the most rewarding part of my job.
- Ask empathetic questions. A key question is, “Tell me more about that”. Then you have to listen to understand. Don’t listen to answer or try to solve the problem, this is not the time for that.
- You have to recognize when the time is right to offer advice. Look for nonverbal cues to make sure they are comfortable and their walls are down. When their walls are down, then you can say, “If I was in your shoes, I would…”
- Be prepared to take several steps back. If they’re not ready, then you will have to go back into intrinsic validation mode. As a health coach, I have to assess whether someone has a strong enough reason to work toward. In my life, I took my health back because my grandson was my reason why I had to work toward being an active grandfather.
Intrinsic Validation has a major effect on you — it changes you to have empathy. But it also cna be incredibly rewarding: The amount of satisfaction you have as the confidant, guide, or helper in this journey is through the roof.
If you have people in your life who you want to help but are frustrating you by not receiving your advice, just know that you can work to get to the place where their wall comes down and they will accept your help.