493- Fall in Love With Your Spouse Again: Kay’s Story
Release Date: 07/23/2025
519-Have Compassion on Your Husband's God-Given Desire
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Have Compassion on Your Husband's Desire This is a tender topic. And for some of you, even reading this headline might make your chest tighten. Because desire can feel complicated. Painful. Loaded. Or honestly… just exhausting. And yet, this conversation matters—not to shame you, not to pressure you, but to invite you into compassion. Not obligation. Not fear. Not duty-driven compliance. Compassion rooted in God’s design for marriage. The Enemy Thrives on Distraction One of the enemy’s most effective strategies in marriage is not always obvious sin. It’s distraction. Distance....
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518-Husbands, Draw Her Back: Order of Operations
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Husbands, Draw Her Back: Order of Operations Gentlemen, you have likely heard that you are meant to be the leader of your home. You've likely heard it from the pulpit, maybe from your own family. We know there's been some confusion around that in culture, asking men to take a back seat or not be as assertive and lead–even though it is their God-given design. But we fully believe that it is the biblical design for men and that it is good for men to take up their role. And you likely have a deep sense that this is how it's meant to be as well. But what happens when the people you are meant to...
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517-From “You Were Never There for Me, Dad” to “I Want to Marry a Man Like You”
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It is our honor and privilege to have Charles on the podcast with us today. Many of you have maybe already spoken to Charles. He serves as one of our Clarity Advisors here at Delight Your Marriage and has done an incredible job of listening to your stories and giving you next steps, but most importantly, giving you hope. What you might not know about Charles is that he spent many years as a very successful businessman. I mean, he was (and is!) a force! And that's what people saw on the outside: 40 years in business, two homes, active in ministry, a wife of 3o years, two grown children....
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516-A Pastor with a “Prostitute” Mindset Changed His Ways: Jerry’s Story
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516-A Pastor with a “Prostitute” Mindset Changed His Ways: Jerry’s Story There’s a quiet frustration many good men carry. You’ve tried to talk. You’ve tried to suggest counseling, books, podcasts—something. You’ve even tried explaining your heart. And still… she doesn’t seem to listen. Doesn’t engage. Doesn’t change. If that’s you, let me say this gently but clearly: God may be asking you to go first. And yes—that can feel unfair. But it is also where real transformation begins. When You Find Yourself Becoming Someone You Didn't Want to Be One husband recently...
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515-New Years Resolutions with Hope
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515-New Years Resolutions with Hope Happy New Year! If you’re reading this a couple days into 2026—welcome. And if you’re reading this in the middle of 2037, it still applies. Because God is still on the throne. He is still a good Father. And He is still interested in crafting and molding your heart—especially in the middle of real life… including the hard parts. Put Your Growth Mindset On (Yes, Literally) If you’ve been in our Delight Your Marriage sphere for any length of time, you know I’m a little obsessed with growth. So, the New Year is one of the things I look forward to...
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514-40 Years of Broken Trust to Safety & Celebration: A Christmas Miracle (Laura's Story)
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514-40 Years of Broken Trust to Safety & Celebration: A Christmas Miracle (Laura's Story) There is a kind of marriage pain that does not look dramatic.It’s not an outward struggle.Just a quiet ache.A marriage that functions but does not feel alive. Laura lived in that space for decades. From the outside, her life looked good. Forty years of marriage. Seven children. A faithful husband. A stable home. A shared faith. Everything a good Christian marriage is supposed to be. And yet, beneath the surface, something was missing. Emotional Safety.Real connection.Being fully seen. For a long...
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513-The Christmas Reset: Peace Over Perfection (Interview With My Sons)
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Christmas can feel magical.It can also feel exhausting. If you’re a parent who secretly feels pressure rising as the holidays approach—the expectations, the mess, the emotions, the memories—you’re not alone. And sometimes, the clearest wisdom doesn’t come from another parenting book or productivity hack. Sometimes it comes from children. I sat down with my two sons for a conversation about Christmas. I expected sweetness and laughter (and we definitely had that). But what I didn’t expect was how profoundly wise their reflections would be—for moms and dads who want to keep Christ...
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512-What Turns Her Off — and What Godly Husbands Do Instead
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What Turns Her Off — and What Godly Husbands Do Instead Have you ever wished you could just…get inside your wife’s heart for a moment? Not to manipulate, but to genuinely understand her. To love her in a way that makes her feel safe and wanted—not pressured or confused. My husband Darrow and I sat down to talk through something men rarely get honest insight about: Her biggest turn-offs. And not because we want to shame or scold—but because clarity brings freedom. When you finally understand what shuts her down, you also discover what opens her heart. So take a deep breath.You're not...
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511-Forty-Five Years Married and Afraid of Retirement: Patty's Story
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Forty-Five Years Married and Afraid of Retirement: Patty's Story Patty had a life most people would admire. Forty-five years of marriage. Four children. Seven grandkids. Retirement. A kind, steady husband. From the outside, it looked like she had it all. But inside? Patty was scared. Not because she didn’t love her husband. They laughed together, they got along. But underneath the “good,” there was a quiet ache. A deep disconnection she didn’t know how to fix. And as retirement began and the rest of life slowed down, and the thought of spending more time with her husband began to feel...
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510-Is it Possible to Have Joy in Lovemaking?
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Is it Possible to Have Joy in Lovemaking? Physical intimacy can be one of the most painful topics in a woman’s life. Maybe you’ve felt shame for years. Maybe your husband brings it up constantly, and all you want to do is shrink away. Or maybe, deep down, you wonder if something is just wrong with you. If that’s where you are, I want you to know—I've been there. I’ve felt the fear. I’ve felt the pressure. I’ve carried the shame. And I want to walk with you through what I’ve learned on the other side: There is healing. There is hope. And yes, there is joy. The Pain Is Real—But...
info_outlineFall in Love With Your Spouse Again: Kay’s Story
Marriage is one of God’s most beautiful gifts—and one of His most powerful tools for growth and sanctification. But even after decades of love and commitment, many couples find themselves asking the quiet question:
What happened to us?
Maybe you're feeling distant from your spouse.
Maybe you’re still under the same roof—but it feels like you're living parallel lives.
Maybe you’ve stopped hoping things can change.
That’s where Kay was after 33 years of marriage.
But her story is a powerful reminder: It is possible to fall in love again—and to restore love in a marriage that feels broken.
When You Feel Stuck in Your Marriage
Kay and her husband had built a wonderful life: children, a family business, retirement, and shared dreams. But beneath it all, their connection was quietly dissolving.
Kay shared with us, “We weren’t arguing every day, but there was tension. There was distance. He finally told me, ‘If this is what the next 20 years are going to look like—I don’t want it.’”
Their marriage wasn’t hostile—but it was cold.
No more playfulness.
No more laughter.
And for Kay, no clear idea of what to do next.
Christian Marriage Healing Starts in the Heart
One night, Kay came across our podcast. She listened to a wife share her story—and saw her own reflection in the words. That night, she played the episode for her husband.
Both of them ended up in tears.
That was the moment God began softening her heart. But what came next wasn’t a joint effort. It wasn’t couples therapy. It was one wife, taking one faithful step forward.
Kay didn’t wait for her husband to change.
She didn’t try to force him into a process.
She simply said yes to the work God wanted to do in her. And that’s what began to heal everything.
How to Save Your Marriage Alone—One Surrender at a Time
There’s a common lie in marriage restoration: If my spouse won’t change, there’s no hope.
But Kay’s story offers a different story: Sometimes the most powerful transformations happen when one spouse surrenders first.
As she worked through the DYM program, she began seeing all the ways she had unintentionally pushed her husband away—through resentment, control, harshness, and silence.
“I didn’t realize how disrespectful I had become. How little admiration I showed. I had no idea how my own attitude was closing his heart off from me.”
Through prayer, scripture, and community, God began to soften her heart. And without pushing, demanding, or even explaining—it softened his too.
“He started coming home earlier. Laughing again. Helping more. And I never once asked him to.”
When you let God begin with you, healing has a way of rippling outward.
Biblical Marriage Advice for Wives Who Feel Disconnected
When you’ve been married a long time, it’s easy to assume the disconnection is just part of life.
But biblical marriage advice doesn’t teach resignation—it teaches hope, humility, and the power of the Holy Spirit to change hearts.
If you're feeling distant from your spouse, here are some biblical truths and tools Kay leaned into:
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Let go of resentment. Carrying old pain closes the heart. Forgiveness opens it again.
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Replace criticism with admiration. Notice what your spouse is doing right. Thank them. Respect them—even when it feels hard.
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Spend time with God. Let His Word renew your mind and fill the empty places. Healing starts vertically before it ever flows horizontally.
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Surrender the outcome. You can’t control your spouse—but you can invite God to transform you.
“I realized this wasn’t just Christian wife marriage help—it was God restoring my identity and softening my heart.”
How to Reconnect After Years of Marriage
When you've shared decades together, the idea of starting over may feel impossible.
But learning how to reconnect after years of marriage isn’t about erasing the past. It’s about allowing God to do something new with the years ahead.
Kay didn’t try to recreate her early romance. She let God build something deeper, wiser, and more joyful than before.
After 33 years, their hearts are tender again. Their home is peaceful. And their future is bright.
When You Don’t Feel Loved in Your Marriage—There Is Still Hope
For so many, the pain isn’t anger—it’s loneliness.
The ache of not being seen.
Not being pursued.
Not feeling cherished.
If that’s where you are—when you don’t feel loved in your marriage—you are not disqualified from healing.
Kay didn’t feel loved when she started this journey. But as she learned to love God more deeply, and love her husband with grace and strength, she began to feel loved again too.
Not because she was striving. But because she was surrendered.
Christian Wife Marriage Help That Changes Everything
Kay thought she was doing this program to fix her marriage. But God used it to fix something deeper: her heart.
She discovered that Christian marriage healing isn’t just about relationship tools. It’s about identity. Surrender. Courage. And the quiet willingness to say, God, start with me.
Friend, if your marriage feels cold, quiet, or disconnected—you’re not alone.
If you’re longing for intimacy, peace, and laughter again—it is not too late.God is able.
He is faithful.
And your best years together could still be ahead.
With love,
The Delight Your Marriage Team
PS - If you're ready to take the next step in healing your marriage, we would love to chat with you. Schedule a free Clarity Call with one of you Clarity Call Advisors today.
PPS - Like what you hear? Wish your church was teaching something like this? Well, it can! To learn more about the Church Training program we are developing, check out Delight Your Marriage Church Training
PPPS - Here is a quote from (another) recent graduate:
"Lack of sexual intimacy and communication. No variety in sex...I felt like my wife did not care about me. I had stopped initiating and I felt discouraged...Unhappy and unfulfilled would be the best words to describe my feelings but I tried to keep the feelings buried. [Now, my wife] gives me joy that pours into our marriage, my love for God, my family and others. God is love and I can better comprehend it when I am loved by my wife. Belah has transformed my life. I will never be the same. She has given me joy, hope, confidence and the realization that it is OK to be a man!"