When Sex Turns Extreme: Porn, Trauma, and Boundaries in Relationships — Thomas’s Story
Release Date: 12/28/2025
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info_outlineThomas shares a rare male perspective on porn, trauma, violent sex, and the struggle for boundaries, consent, and healing in modern relationships.
What happens when love collides with extreme sexual expectations, past trauma, and pornography’s influence? In this raw and courageous episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Stephanie Boye and Dr. Chez Leeby sit down with Thomas, who bravely shares his story of navigating a relationship shaped by violent sexual behaviors, unspoken boundaries, and emotional conflict.
From the normalization of rough and extreme sex to the generational shift fueled by porn and peer culture, Thomas offers a rare male perspective on how these dynamics affect mental health, intimacy, and self-worth. Together, they explore the psychological toll of violent sexual expectations, the struggle to balance love with discomfort, and the importance of open conversations about boundaries, consent, and healing past trauma.
Listeners will gain insight into:
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How pornography rewires sexual expectations and behaviors.
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The emotional consequences of violent sexual practices.
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The pressure men face to “perform” in dominant roles.
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Why trauma often resurfaces in intimate relationships.
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Tools for communication, boundary setting, and self-awareness.
This is an essential episode for anyone questioning cultural sexual norms, struggling with intimacy, or seeking healing after difficult experiences.
Resources Mentioned
- The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk – Link: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com – A deep dive into how trauma is stored in the body and impacts relationships.
- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – Call 988 for free, confidential mental health support.
- 7 on Sundays Website: https://www.7onsundays.com – Additional resources, past episodes, and community discussions.
Timestamps
00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning
00:17 Thomas's Story Begins
01:14 Introducing the Hosts and Guest
01:34 Discussion on Sexual Strangulation
02:20 Age Gap and Pornography's Impact
03:10 Thomas's Relationship Dynamics
06:26 Emotional and Sexual Discord
13:24 Thomas's Struggle with Strangulation
17:10 Impact of Pornography on Preferences
25:39 Therapy and Unresolved Issues
30:56 The Prevalence of Abuse
31:13 Normalization of Sexual Assault
31:37 Impact of Pornography on Perception
32:34 Peer Influence and Sexual Behavior
32:55 Communication and Misunderstanding in Relationships
35:11 Male Perspective on Sexual Expectations
37:48 The Trauma of Sexual Strangulation
41:32 Healing and Moving Forward
44:59 The Need for Open Discussions
56:05 Final Thoughts and Resources
Resources Mentioned
- The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk – Link: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com – A deep dive into how trauma is stored in the body and impacts relationships.
- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – Call 988 for free, confidential mental health support.
- 7 On Sundays Website: https://www.7onsundays.com – Additional resources, past episodes, and community discussions.