Ep. 37 Mending the Mother - Navigating Birth Trauma and Healing
Release Date: 12/11/2024
Do I Really Hate Men?
In this heartfelt solo episode, Ang opens up about a deeply personal milestone—sending her youngest son off to Royal Air Force basic training—and the emotional impact of empty nest syndrome. She then turns her focus to those in the early, raw days after separation or divorce, offering compassionate guidance on what to expect and practical strategies to help you cope through one of life’s toughest transitions. If you’re in the whirlwind of emotions, confusion, and uncertainty that comes with the first month post-separation, this episode is your companion and roadmap. Ang breaks down the...
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Ep. 61 Kids & Separation: What Happens to Our Children During Divorce? w/ Nadine Pittam In this episode, Ang welcomes back Nadine Pittam, a BACP-accredited psychotherapist and host of the podcast "This Won’t Fix You." Nadine returns to the podcast once more to discuss the emotional and psychological impact of divorce on children, drawing from her professional experience and her own childhood. The conversation explores the importance of boundaries, emotional validation, and understanding behavioral changes in children during family separation. Nadine offers practical advice for parents...
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In this heartfelt episode, Ang celebrates the incredible role of parents everywhere, inspired by Global Parents Day. She reflects on the challenges and triumphs of parenting, especially through the lens of divorce and single parenthood. Ang honors all types of parents—biological, adoptive, stepparents, grandparents, and caregivers—recognizing the unique and powerful impact they have on shaping the next generation. Drawing from her experience speaking at the Divorce Fair in London, Ang shares insights on the importance of self-care (or restorative care) for parents navigating difficult...
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In this week's episode, Ang welcomes Bernadette Willems, a mediation specialist, to discuss the vital role of mediation in divorce and conflict resolution. The discussion explores Bernadette's journey from being a solicitor to becoming a mediator, the benefits of mediation over the traditional court process, and how mediation helps in dealing with various conflicts, including business disputes and professional breakdowns. They delve into the importance of communication, the challenges of co-parenting, and the impact of mediation on creating lasting change. Bernadette shares her insights on the...
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In this powerful solo episode, Ang returns from a rejuvenating holiday with fresh energy and a transformative message for women navigating life after divorce. Today’s topic: the hidden forces shaping your life—your beliefs—and how you can break free from the limiting stories that hold you back. Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or already moving toward your next chapter, this episode is a roadmap for unlocking the confident, worthy, and fulfilled version of yourself that’s waiting to emerge. Ang shares actionable strategies to identify and reframe limiting beliefs,...
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This week Ang is joined by Natalie McCabe, a practical visionary and dedicated single parent coach with over 30 years of experience in education. Natalie shares her inspiring journey from teaching and raising two children as a single mom, to becoming a parent coach who empowers families to find joy and resilience in parenting. Drawing from her personal story and her book Sink or Swim Parenting, Natalie discusses the challenges of single parenting, the importance of emotional regulation for both parents and children, and practical strategies to navigate difficult behaviors and family dynamics....
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Ang has talked a lot on the show about co-parenting and how to do it smoothly for the benefit of your children, but, this week Ang is exploring a different type of parenting, and one that worked for her - Parallel Parenting. Designed to give each parent more freedom over their individual choices and decisions on how they raise their child, parallel parenting is a very viable option for a lot of single parents, and one that more and more people are turning to. In this episode Ang goes into detail on what parallel parenting is, the cases where it is a better option than co-parenting and how you...
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This week Ang is joined by the wonderful Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers. A licensed sex and gender feminist physiotherapist, author, researcher and professor whose expertise covers sex therapy, spiritual intimacy, parenting and social justice. In this expansive interview with Ang, Tina shares her valuable insights on the importance of creating strong bonds with your children. Sometimes that will be through difficult conversations and sometimes through your actions. However, being open and honest, as Tina explains, is a pathway to a wonderfully rewarding parent and child relationship. KEY TAKEAWAYS ...
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Ang has talked a lot on the show about how to deal with the immediate effects of divorce and how life can flourish once the memory of divorce is in your rear view mirror. However, what has remained unaddressed is how you get from A-B. That’s why, on this week’s episode, Ang is here to share with you how to get from the saddest of places to the happiest. From practical tips to Ang sharing her first hand experience this episode is all about transforming your life after adversity so that you can prosper and be the best version of you. How to transform your life after adversity. KEY...
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This week Ang is joined by Amanda Bell who started her career as a divorce lawyer before founding ‘SeparateSpace’, an online, affordable divorce platform, that Amanda co-founded after realising that the majority of people that need legal support during a divorce simply can’t afford to access it. In this interview with Ang, Amanda breaks down what the major hurdles people going through a divorce face, some of the common mistakes that can prove extremely costly, what is missing from traditional legal support and how Separate Spaces solve all these problems so that you can access the...
info_outlineThis week Ang is joined by Lynn Schulte, birth healing specialist, pelvic health physiotherapist and founder of the ‘Institute for Birth Healing’, which helps women heal from all the issues they face after birth. Directly after birth all women shift their entire focus on to their newborn, any lingering pain or discomfort the mother may feel is chalked up to ‘the difficulty of giving birth’. But, what most women don’t realise is that the trauma of giving birth can lead to pain, both mental and physical, that will last a lifetime if it is not addressed. In this episode, Lynn covers the whole topic of birth related trauma, the consequent pain and how to heal in the short term so that your body and mind are where they need to be.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
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With 30 years of experience as a physiotherapist Lynn had to move states and start her practice from scratch. It was here that she discovered a revelation that led to her work with postnatal women.
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Giving birth is a beautiful, yet traumatic, experience. Lynn explains how the body and mind react to this trauma and how the pain and problems that women experience after birth are a direct result of this trauma.
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Once the trauma associated with the pain is identified it is time to work on healing. Lynn breaks down how she works with her patients to heal their bodies, and their minds.
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Lynn talks about the various positions that women lie in when giving birth and how they affect the resulting pain and problems they can incur post birth.
BEST MOMENTS
“Our issues remain in our tissues until we get help with them.”
“The cells of our body get stuck in that place of trauma and we need to heal them so we can move into present day awareness.”
“You can need from the mind alone, you have to reconnect it to your mind."
https://directory.instituteforbirthhealing.com/
https://centerforbirthhealing.com/
https://youtu.be/JRUPAwTN1P4?si=GH1srYGpyNlhFuKD
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ABOUT THE PODCAST
Do I Really Hate Men?
Interesting question and one I have asked myself many times. This is not an ‘I hate men’ podcast neither is it just an account of my divorce and the many awful events leading up to and during it. This podcast is a safe space to delve into what happens when relationships end, it provides guidance on how to carry on being a functioning adult and/or Single Mum when you feel broken inside.
This podcast provides hope sprinkled with humour, at times its emotional at times inspiring and at times sad. I have a message to share with women around the world, come join me and your global sisters for a weekly dose of Superhero Mum inspiration and stories.
My mission -to help women and mothers globally to recover from relationship pain, lead meaningful happy lives and inspire their children to succeed.
NOTE – I need you to know that I don’t hate men! It’s important that you know there are many great men out there. Many fantastic fathers and single fathers trying hard to do a great job. I know little about the struggles of single fathers; however, I presume they are numerous common issues we share with these amazing men who strive to do the right thing by their children.
ABOUT THE HOST
Ang is first and foremost a very proud Mum. She is on a mission to share her experiences of both divorce and life as a single Mum. With a 25 year career in the corporate world, she has always been passionate about empowering women and those around her. She is a fully qualified life coach of 20 years and a self confessed self development junkie.
Ang has written her first book called 'Do I Really Hate Men', due to be released later this year which NEEDS to be read by women worldwide. With a high level of emotional intelligence she works tirelessly to improve the lives of womankind through her words, both digitally and at speaking events globally.
With a six year divorce behind her, Ang represented herself in court a total of 6 times. She has been a single parent of two boys for a total of 14 years. She has lived through the struggles and come out the other side. Her words, honesty and humour captivates her audience.