Unlock Your Influence: Executive Presence, Confidence, and Leadership Strategy with Vernessa Hopkins

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Loralyn Mears, PhD, aka “Dr. LL,” brings you thoughtful conversations with entrepreneurs and small business leaders navigating visibility, leadership, and growth. Thank you for being here.

Core pattern: People assume their capability will speak for itself, then accidentally leave their “first impression story” to chance. When that happens, others decide what you mean, what you’re worth, and whether you’re credible, before you ever get to show your work. This shows up everywhere: founders, consultants, leaders, job seekers. They are doing real work, but their presence, framing, and positioning are not carrying it.

Overview There’s a quiet mismatch many business owners and leaders feel but rarely name: you are doing the work, yet people still do not read you the way you intended. You show up sincere, capable, and prepared, and somehow the room lands on a different story. Then you spend the rest of the conversation trying to undo an impression you did not choose. This is a pattern that shows up across industries: when presence is unclear, perception takes over.

👤 Guest: Vernessa Hopkins VHH Consulting Leadership influence, executive presence, and change management

⚠️ Core Problems Discussed: - Why titles do not automatically create leadership, influence does - How appearance, energy, and “approachability” shape credibility in the first seconds - Where people get stuck: limiting beliefs, perceived barriers, and giving away the driver’s seat

🧠 The Bigger Pattern Dr. LL Sees: - Across many businesses, visibility breaks down when people expect competence to carry the message without actively shaping the context. - When you do not define your brand in the room, others do it for you, fast. - The result is that good leaders and strong operators get underestimated, misread, or priced below their value.

🥡 Practical Takeaways: - Decide what you want to be known for before you walk in, then make your choices match it - Reduce “interpretation space” by naming who you are and how you work in a grounded way - Use strengths as a strategy tool: build around what you reliably do well, and stop apologizing for what is not you

⏱️ Timestamps (high value moments):

00:03:19 Influence starts with you, and “what got you there won’t keep you there”

00:06:53 How “showing up” has shifted, and why brand decisions still matter 

00:12:09 The reality of being assessed fast, and how to work with it

00:21:14 The Influence Matrix and building stabilizing statements for hard moments

00:28:10 “Don’t be mad at where you’re parked when you let someone else drive.”

 

🔖 Who This Episode Is For: Small business owners who feel stretched thin Consultants and coaches building trust online Solopreneurs who feel stuck or unseen

A Supportive Next Step This episode highlights a pattern we see often: you are capable and committed, but your credibility is not arriving at the same speed as your effort. You might be getting polite interest instead of clear yeses. You might notice that people “don’t quite get it” until you over-explain, over-prove, or over-deliver. That can feel personal, but most of the time it is not. It is a visibility gap: the way your value is framed, found, and understood is not keeping pace with the work you are actually doing.

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