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No One Taught You How to Grieve And Why That’s a Problem

Grieve That Sh!t

Release Date: 05/01/2026

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Episode Description

“You’re not broken. You’re trying to heal something you don’t even understand.”

In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down the real reason so many people feel stuck in their grief.

After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief isn’t just about loss. It’s about what happens when you’re left trying to survive something no one ever taught you how to process.

No one gave you the language.
No one gave you the instructions.
And now you’re trying to figure it out while you’re in it.

In this episode, Sharon walks through why grief feels so overwhelming, how misinformation and avoidance keep it stuck, and why staying busy, pushing it down, or trying to “get over it” only makes it louder over time.

She also explains how grief actually works in your body and mind, why the pain keeps coming back, and what it really takes to move through it.

This conversation is not about doing grief perfectly.

It’s about understanding it.

Because when you understand your grief,
you stop fighting yourself.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

  • Why you feel stuck in your grief
  • How lack of understanding keeps grief from moving
  • Why staying busy and avoiding emotions makes it worse
  • How grief shows up in your body, thoughts, and identity
  • The difference between surviving and actually healing
  • Why grief keeps coming back stronger when it’s not processed

Questions to Sit With After Listening

Take your time with these.

  • Do I actually understand what grief is… or am I guessing?
  • Am I trying to survive this… or actually heal it?
  • What have I been doing to avoid feeling my grief?
  • Where am I fighting against something I don’t understand?

Homework for You

Write this at the top of a page:

“What do I not understand about my grief?”

Then answer honestly.

Not what you’ve heard.
Not what sounds right.

The truth.

Because you cannot move something
you don’t understand.

Resources + Next Steps

If this episode hit you, it’s because something in you is ready to stop guessing and start understanding your grief.

You don’t have to stay stuck here.

👉 Learn more: https://stan.store/TheGriefSchool

Because healing doesn’t happen by accident.

It happens when you finally understand what you’re going through.