The Truth About Why Grief Feels So Heavy
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Episode Description “Your life isn’t broken. Your heart is.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down why so many grievers stay stuck in pain for years… even while trying everything they can to survive it. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon realized the problem wasn’t that grievers were weak. The problem was that nobody taught us how to grieve. So we stay busy. We avoid the pain. We push it down. And we keep trying to “get over” something our body is still trying to process. In this episode, Sharon...
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No One Taught You How to Grieve And Why That’s a Problem
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Episode Description “You’re not broken. You’re trying to heal something you don’t even understand.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down the real reason so many people feel stuck in their grief. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief isn’t just about loss. It’s about what happens when you’re left trying to survive something no one ever taught you how to process. No one gave you the language. No one gave you the instructions. And now you’re trying to figure it out while...
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Stop Trying to Protect Your Child from Grief
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Episode Description “Your child doesn’t need the pain removed. They need you to help them move through it.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down one of the biggest mistakes parents make when their child is grieving. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief isn’t something you can protect someone from. Especially not your child. Because your kids already feel everything. They feel your silence. They feel your sadness. They feel what’s not being said. They just don’t have the words for it....
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The First Year of Grief Is Where Most People Get It Wrong
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Episode Description “Grief is already painful. But the way you’re trying to survive it might be making it harder.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down what most people unknowingly do in the first year of grief that increases their suffering. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just about loss. It is about what happens when you’re left trying to survive something no one ever taught you how to process. The first year is the most confusing. The most painful. And the year you get...
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Why Your Brain Won’t Stop Replaying the Day They Died
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Episode Description “Your brain is not trying to hurt you. It’s trying to understand what just changed your entire life.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down why your mind keeps replaying the moment your person died. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just emotional. It is a full body and brain experience that records life-altering moments with intense detail. The phone call. The hospital room. The last words. These moments stay vivid not because something is wrong with you, but...
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The Stories Grievers Never Get to Tell
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Episode Description “The part of your grief that hurts the most is often the part you never say out loud.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, talks about the stories grievers carry but rarely share. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just about missing someone. It is also about the moments that changed everything—the phone call, the hospital room, the last words, the unanswered questions. These are the parts most people don’t talk about. Not because they don’t want to. But because they...
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Why You Still Feel Lost in Your Grief (And What No One Shows You)
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Episode Description “Grief doesn’t feel confusing because you’re broken. It feels confusing because no one ever showed you how to understand it.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down one of the biggest gaps in grief support: no one actually helps you understand your grief. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just sadness. It is a full body experience that affects your sleep, your thoughts, your memory, your identity, and your daily life. And yet, most people are never given the...
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The Truth About Narcissists No One Tells You with Aisha
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Episode Description “You’re not stuck because you still love them. You’re stuck because of the attachment.” In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with a narc recovery coach and author of Toxic Charm to break down one of the most confusing and painful relationship dynamics people experience. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just about death. It shows up anywhere attachment is broken. And when narcissistic patterns are involved, that attachment becomes even more intense,...
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What Is Your Grief Story
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Episode Description “Grief does not get louder because you are weak. It gets louder because it has nowhere to land.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, talks about something most grievers never receive after loss: a true witness to their grief story. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just sadness. It is the mind and body trying to process something life changing that the world around you quickly moves on from. While everyone else returns to their normal life, the griever often finds...
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Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns with Sean
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Episode Description “Unprocessed grief does not disappear. It shows up in the way you attach, the way you fear, and the way you love.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with Sean Walker, a faith-based relationship coach who helps men and women understand attachment patterns, regulate their nervous systems, and stop repeating the same painful relationship cycles. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just sadness. It is what happens when love has nowhere to land. And that same injury...
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“Your life isn’t broken. Your heart is.”
In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, breaks down why so many grievers stay stuck in pain for years… even while trying everything they can to survive it.
After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon realized the problem wasn’t that grievers were weak.
The problem was that nobody taught us how to grieve.
So we stay busy.
We avoid the pain.
We push it down.
And we keep trying to “get over” something our body is still trying to process.
In this episode, Sharon explains the real work of grief.
Not just talking about it.
Not pretending you’re okay.
But understanding what grief actually is, why your body reacts the way it does, and what it means to truly process pain instead of carrying it forever.
She also talks about “completion”, the unfinished conversations, emotions, and words that stay trapped inside the body after loss.
The things you still need to say.
The anger.
The guilt.
The love.
The goodbye you never got.
Because undelivered emotions do not disappear.
This conversation is not about “moving on.”
It’s about finally understanding what grief is trying to do inside you… so you can stop fighting yourself.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
- Why grief feels like a full-body experience
- The difference between surviving grief and processing it
- Why staying busy keeps grief stuck
- What “completion” actually means in grief
- How unfinished emotions stay trapped in the body
- Why avoiding grief makes it louder over time
- How to separate love from pain
Questions to Sit With After Listening
Take your time with these.
- What have I still not said?
- What emotions have I been trying to avoid?
- Am I processing my grief… or just surviving it?
- What pain am I still carrying that was never expressed?
Homework for You
Write this at the top of a page:
“What is still left unsaid?”
Then let yourself answer honestly.
Not the polite version.
Not the strong version.
The real one.
Because grief doesn’t stay stuck
because you loved too much.
It stays stuck
when everything inside you goes unspoken.
Resources + Next Steps
If this episode hit you, it’s because something inside you is ready to stop surviving and start understanding your grief.
You don’t have to carry this alone.
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Because healing starts
when you stop running from the pain
and finally learn how to move through it.