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Confidence Isn’t a Trait, It’s a Practice

Imperfect Mens Club

Release Date: 04/24/2025

Your Self-Narrative: Hero or Hostage? show art Your Self-Narrative: Hero or Hostage?

Imperfect Mens Club

Mark introduces the topic of one’s self narrative. He says you either take personal responsibility or seek blame. Mark reads the definition. He says it’s important to know what you can and can’t control. Jim relates the topic to the wheel. The self’s in the center. Jim says he’s been more aware of the self narratives of other people he’s encountered. He thinks conflict in this country is at an all time high. Jim brings up a recent encounter where trust was lost. He feels like he’s being judged as a white man. He said that this encounter was unnecessary. Mark thinks we’ve made...

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Your Inner Critic - Rewriting the Story You Tell Yourself show art Your Inner Critic - Rewriting the Story You Tell Yourself

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Mark introduces the deep dive Jim took into the writing of Carl Jung and the specific topic he writes about - self talk Mark thinks most us have more negative self talk than positive Jim adds context - Jim likes stuff related to our podcast and our wheel. Particularly the self. He goes around our flywheel. When you’re challenging yourself, self talk can creep in Mark says this voice is powerful and not always positive. It’s also often subconscious. Mark reads the definition Mark reads Jung’s 5 archetypes The Good Student The Silent Healer The Starving Artist The Invisible One The Over...

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Navigating Our Response To Trauma With Grace show art Navigating Our Response To Trauma With Grace

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Mark introduces the topic of trauma and how we respond to trauma This topic came up from some family events and aging and how people respond to trauma Jim brings a framework to the discussion…The 5 “F’s” Jim fits trauma into our flywheel framework. He breaks down the 5 areas and we decide to focus on relationships and The Self We can’t seem to discuss anything without coming back to self awareness Jim got this framework from a podcast he listened to about trauma. The 5 F’s of trauma response are Fight Freeze Fawn Flop Flight Jim thinks most people opt for flight. They run Mark says...

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Self Alignment Toward That Self Alignment Toward That "One Thing"

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Mark brings in the topic in the context of our Wheel. The concept of focusing one only one thing until you momentum and can diversify with only the cash flow from that one thing. Simplicity Jim brings up the idea of focus and how that is bolstered with simplicity. He expands on our wheel and the five areas of life and the center of the wheel, the self Jim and Mark share their experience with the mainstream news. Both guys share that they have tried life with it and without it…and the impact is real. It’s a massive distraction Jim brings in self alignment in the context of being self...

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Self Identity - It's Hard To Look In The Mirror show art Self Identity - It's Hard To Look In The Mirror

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Mark introduces the topic of self identity The guys joke about their lack of Biblical knowledge around God’s statement to Moses “I am who I am” Jim refers to a podcast he heard that mentioned the we’re never ready and you just have to face your fears Mark reflects on his career and how he speaks with everyone he helps about their self identity. It’s the most important part of his work. You have to be able to tell your own story. He thinks most people cannot tell their own story. Jim agrees Mark reads the definition of self identity Mark reflects on the 1000’s of people he’s...

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Reinventing Yourself At Any Age - How To Be Clever About It show art Reinventing Yourself At Any Age - How To Be Clever About It

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Mark introduces the topic of reinventing yourself in the context of a personal brand. Both guys have been working on their brands. Jim is finishing up a formal effort with his brand Mark puts his career up as a reinvention experience Jim shares his view of how stories and brands have evolved over time and explains why he has made his recent investment of time and money working out his brand and messaging. Contextually he explains this journey as one with three parts. The past, present and future. He talks about the work and the advisor he hired. He brings our 5 key areas of life framework Mark...

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Worldview: Politics, Perspectives & People Who Still Talk to Each Other show art Worldview: Politics, Perspectives & People Who Still Talk to Each Other

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“You cannot kill a thought. It needs to die of old age or natural causes” Mark introduces the topic of worldview and the different belief systems we all have…and where we get them Jim adds the influence of the political distress specifically in LA and brings in the flywheel Mark clarifies the politics of it all and both guys laugh at how everything is about politics Jim says most of us don’t like to have our belief systems challenged, but agree it’s important to do so Mark reads Jim’s 5w’s assessment…What, why, where, when and who Jim brings up self awareness and Mark agrees...

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Trump Derangement Syndrome And The 10 Commandments show art Trump Derangement Syndrome And The 10 Commandments

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Mark introduces the topic by reading the definition and symptoms As much as the guys believe it to be real, it’s also funny Jim asks Mark what “Psychic pathology” means and he takes a shot Jim shares his opinion about friends and family that seem to struggle with this Jim talks about his mom. She exhibits physical manifestations Mark thinks this physical reaction indicates a pretty severe condition Jim calls it impulsive Mark calls Trump insensitive and crass. He’s a fighter and not a politician Mark talks about one friend who is very smart, but can’t remain objective when Trump’s...

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90% Of Life Is Just Showing Up show art 90% Of Life Is Just Showing Up

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Mark introduces the topic and frames it in the context of his recent experience with having a plumber show up at his home to do some work He shares how gratitude plays a part in the discussion. He expresses a concern that the topic is so rich that staying on topic might be tough Jim reflects on the story Mark has already told him Jim expands on the “Showing up” concept Jim shares his perspective having been a tradesman and having gone into many homes and being treated poorly, more often than not. He applauds Marks treatment of the plumber Jim expands on the notion of appreciation and gives...

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The Disingenuous Epidemic - Cowards, Clowns, and Characters show art The Disingenuous Epidemic - Cowards, Clowns, and Characters

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Mark introduces the topic of disingenuous people. Both guys have had recent experiences with people who were being disingenuous. Mark asks whether he thinks people are born this way or do become this way based on environment or circumstance. Jim says he’s been using that word more often lately Mark reads the legal definition of the word Jim shares his definition. He clarifies the nuance of this activity being intentional Mark says there are different levels of it, but that some people are just stupid Jim shares his recent encounter with a disingenuous neighbor Deception from the get go. Jim...

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Mark introduces the topic of confidence.  Self-confidence

The topic originated with Jim’s interest in elitism - entitlement - self-accountability - confidence

In order to be self accountable, one must be confident

Jim ties in the current news events and his recent book as he frames his view of confidence. Particularly sports and business

He distinguishes between confidence and the competence required to be confident

Jim brings up academia. See civically Harvard…and entitlements/elitism

He shares the academic idea that perfection is attainable. We both support the reality of imperfection

Mark observes that confidence can be under done and over done

He shares his vision of where confidence comes from. Genetic and environment. Confidence starts to develop early

Jim thinks it’s all relative. People have very different perspectives on these issues of elitism and confidence

Jim shares his trade background and how educated people looked down on him and made him feel less than. Jim thinks the more “educated” you are, the less wisdom you have

Mark distinguishes between knowledge and wisdom. He shares his upbringing close to the Boston Ivy League and his disdain for this specific elitism

Mark thinks the family is huge in it’s role of confidence building

Jim moves into sports  He agrees about the family influence. Jim thinks sports really emphasizes and exaggerates the importance and influence of confidence. Jim brings up the example of Eli Manning who is referenced in this book as to his mental blocks before winning

They joke about the Giants-Patriots games and Tom Brady comes up as the consummate mind-body guy

Mark connects all the life areas in the wheel and shares his experience when one area is operating at his peak…how the other areas benefit

Mark shares his thoughts about momentum and how contgious confidence can become

Marks ask about ignorance and brings up Mike Tyson as an example of this

Jim references his book again and shares the idea of a mental bank where confidence can be pulled from or deposited into. Managing the highs and lows by ignoring, forgetting and living in the moment

Mark thinks confident people look at failure as an opportunity to learn

Expectation management is required to keep the lows land highs regulated

Jim talks about how some recent wins got him a little high and he’s keeping an eye on being let down

Mark recalls feeling very confident and what a great feeling it is. But, he cautions that when you get that feeling, you have two choices:  I deserve this…or I’m grateful for this…and that’s a Big difference. Mark says gratitude creates a “landslide” of more confidence.

Now Jim moves to the next topic from his book…the personal narrative. How the brain can produce adrenaline like a performance enhancing drug

Mark shares his daughter’s experience with anxiety and fear and her overcoming the fear by facing it head on…and your confidence can return. Jim says you can reframe your fear

Mark shares his story about nerves during his 12 year old Little League Allstar game. How his dad talked him down and taught him how to channel nerves

Jim brings up the next topic of filters and the power of reframing your focus toward success versus failures

Mark brings up his “worst case scenario” strategy. If the worst case is a loss…so what. He then shares the value of either ignoring others or paying no attention to the criticisms of others. The mental filters

Persistency and patience are two other qualities Jim brings up in the context of his patents and recent successes

Another point is how little we have control over as we’re trying to accomplish something. Jim also appreciates how you can view the world as happening to you or for you

Mark shares his daughter’s journey to business success…and frames it over the persistence required over 20 years

Then he talks about her generous reference to him as the force that kept her going when she wanted to quit Then Jim asks Mark to recount the time his daughter almost lost her business some years ago to a cease and desist order

Jim believes the Government position to shut her down was just another form of elitism. Both guys think the food and drug departments in government are being fully exposed now

Elitism - entitlement - self accountability - self confidence