Self Gratitude Is A Muscle That Needs Reps
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I open this one with a simple ask: if our stuff helps you, drop a quick rating/review on Apple. It really does get this message in front of guys who need it. What we cover Self-gratitude, defined. Appreciating and acknowledging yourself for who you are and what you’ve actually done—without chasing external approval. Bitter vs. better is a choice. The default is bitterness. Choosing better takes practice, self-awareness, and repetition. Regret, comparison, and the inner critic. How we reflect on past choices can inflame regret or dissolve it. Comparison is on my daily...
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Self Mastery - 12 Principles For A Rich Life
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Mark introduces the topic of self mastery and self transformation. Jim found 12 rules of self mastery online Discipline Focus Resilience Consistency Solitude Energy Mind Body Legacy Time Surround Untouchable Jim explains how he was attracted to this framework He connects this exercise to self awareness. He shares that our life is “on us”. No one is coming to help. We are responsible for our lives Mark begins by reading the definition of each word. First is discipline. Mark suggests there is no destination. It’s a journey. Jim suggests discipline requires us to do hard things every day....
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What Life Teaches Us About Self-Discovery - Reflection, Humility, and Belonging
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Mark introduces the topic of Self discovery He frames the topic with Carl Jung’s definition of what happens in life when we reach the age of 60 and then shares additional context about the beginning, middle and tail end of life and how we can “rediscover” ourselves many times over the course of our lives Jim views life in 5 and 10 year “stages”. He doesn’t think everyone goes thru self discovery exercises and then he brings the flywheel framework for context. He shares his research for this episode. He appreciates his solitude as an example of his self discovery and how the...
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Subconscious Self Doubt - The Silent Partner You Never Chose
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Mark introduces the topic of the subconscious mind and the emotion of self doubt. He cites the science that shows we are driven by our subconscious. Somewhere between 85 and 95% of our actions are from subconscious memory Jim shares his opinion about how this topic fits into our wheel. He aligns the discussion to the wheel. He heard a podcast that talked about self doubt and money. He quotes the podcast and agrees with Marks incite into the science of the subconscious. Mark talks about his frame of reference being the people he knows that have varying degrees of emotional balance. Happy people...
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Why Neurodiverse Minds Crave "Frameworks"
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Mark brings up the topic of frameworks and mentions Jim’s recent adoption of hi “5M Framework” Manifesto Methodology Mentality Machine Mindset Jim found a manifesto that Mark had written 2 years ago while preparing to do some promotion of the podcast and he ties that in to the IMC framework. Our 5 areas of life flywheel Jim shares that the actual topic came from my being 1 minute late (I’m never late). Jim then goes over our flywheel of life framework and the 5 areas. He reflects on where he was in life when we first met. He was out of sorts and seeking answers. Then he talks about his...
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What Advice Would You Give Your 15 Year Old Self?
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Mark introduces the topic of Jim’s interaction with his young niece at 15 asking him what he might do differently looking back at his 15 year old self Both guys thought it was cool for such a young person to ask such a wise question Mark reads the response that Jim sent in a text message to his niece Jim reflects on his response and how context and circumstance are so important. Mark agrees and cites the difference between good and bad advice. He iterates on the value of what you don’t do versus what you should do. Jim feels that what you should not do is more important than what you...
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Your Self-Narrative: Hero or Hostage?
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Mark introduces the topic of one’s self narrative. He says you either take personal responsibility or seek blame. Mark reads the definition. He says it’s important to know what you can and can’t control. Jim relates the topic to the wheel. The self’s in the center. Jim says he’s been more aware of the self narratives of other people he’s encountered. He thinks conflict in this country is at an all time high. Jim brings up a recent encounter where trust was lost. He feels like he’s being judged as a white man. He said that this encounter was unnecessary. Mark thinks we’ve made...
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Your Inner Critic - Rewriting the Story You Tell Yourself
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Mark introduces the deep dive Jim took into the writing of Carl Jung and the specific topic he writes about - self talk Mark thinks most us have more negative self talk than positive Jim adds context - Jim likes stuff related to our podcast and our wheel. Particularly the self. He goes around our flywheel. When you’re challenging yourself, self talk can creep in Mark says this voice is powerful and not always positive. It’s also often subconscious. Mark reads the definition Mark reads Jung’s 5 archetypes The Good Student The Silent Healer The Starving Artist The Invisible One The Over...
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Navigating Our Response To Trauma With Grace
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Mark introduces the topic of trauma and how we respond to trauma This topic came up from some family events and aging and how people respond to trauma Jim brings a framework to the discussion…The 5 “F’s” Jim fits trauma into our flywheel framework. He breaks down the 5 areas and we decide to focus on relationships and The Self We can’t seem to discuss anything without coming back to self awareness Jim got this framework from a podcast he listened to about trauma. The 5 F’s of trauma response are Fight Freeze Fawn Flop Flight Jim thinks most people opt for flight. They run Mark says...
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Self Alignment Toward That "One Thing"
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Mark brings in the topic in the context of our Wheel. The concept of focusing one only one thing until you momentum and can diversify with only the cash flow from that one thing. Simplicity Jim brings up the idea of focus and how that is bolstered with simplicity. He expands on our wheel and the five areas of life and the center of the wheel, the self Jim and Mark share their experience with the mainstream news. Both guys share that they have tried life with it and without it…and the impact is real. It’s a massive distraction Jim brings in self alignment in the context of being self...
info_outlineMark introduces the topic by reading the definition and symptoms
As much as the guys believe it to be real, it’s also funny
Jim asks Mark what “Psychic pathology” means and he takes a shot
Jim shares his opinion about friends and family that seem to struggle with this
Jim talks about his mom. She exhibits physical manifestations
Mark thinks this physical reaction indicates a pretty severe condition
Jim calls it impulsive
Mark calls Trump insensitive and crass. He’s a fighter and not a politician
Mark talks about one friend who is very smart, but can’t remain objective when Trump’s name comes up
Both guys say they’ve never seen anything like it
Neither guy feels that he’s a bad guy. He’s not treated fairly in their opinion
Neither guy is interested in defending Trump
Mark says if you can’t talk about this guy without losing your shit…it’s likely some form of mental illness
Both guys are more interested in issues than personality
Jim shares another story about his mom and common ground. He also doesn’t tell people who he voted for
He also shares his daughter’s experience and some friends
Mark says people are more nuanced. Liking one issue doesn’t necessarily put you in any other groups, but people do assume and presume
Mark asked Jim’s opinion on what the political climate is like living in California
Mark shares his opinion on living in Florida
Mark shares his experience wearing a Trump shirt
Both guys are entertained by people with TDS
Jim says, in CA people take immediate positions. Red team or blue team
He shares his recent encounter with a woman who got emotional when she discovered Jim’s friend was a Trump guy. She mellowed a bit after getting into the discussion. She expressed pride in being an “American”
The woman brought up the pending law in Texas about hanging up the 10 Commandments in public schools
Jim’s position is against it and Mark disagrees
Mark shares his view of how nuanced this woman was after getting deeper into the discussion
People aren’t as obvious as they might seem to be
Both guys respect people with strong positions. That stand for something and have some humor and self deprecation. Jim has no time for the passive aggressive people who get lost in emotion. He seeks common ground
Mark reminds people that Trump behaves on purpose. It’s a strategy that people with TDS don’t even understand
Jim’s friend asked her where she was from and she dug into being an American
The discussion became more interesting after a few drinks
Mark cites this an another example of why we can’t assume things about people and their beliefs
Mark feels that Trump has repositioned the US as a strong nation
Jim explains the political landscape of different areas of CA. Red and blue areas
Jim voted more against the blue team than he did for the red team. He feels his vote didn’t matter, but he also believes in voting. His was a “protest” vote
The guys introduce the 10 Commandments topic that this woman asked about
Jim agreed with the woman. No religion in the school
Mark disagrees. He feels that the US was founded on Judeo Christian values so putting the Commandments in schools is OK. It’s different than teaching religion
Both guys add context to their positions. They agree to disagree go deeper into their respective positions
Mark shares the 10 Commandments and each guy gives his thoughts about each and some of the hypocrisy around sins
Mark feels like the TDS people hold Trump to a higher standard than others
Mark share the last 7 Commandments and suggests they would provide for a good life without the religious flavor
Mark feels that Christianity can’t be watered down
Mark shares his position on his faith and his awareness that other people might push their beliefs on others
He shares his opinion on Notre Dame’s celebration of Pride month and his response
He shares his response about the difference between “accepting” others and “promoting” others