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Self Identity - It's Hard To Look In The Mirror

Imperfect Mens Club

Release Date: 06/26/2025

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Mark introduces the topic of self identity

The guys joke about their lack of Biblical knowledge around God’s statement to Moses “I am who I am”

Jim refers to a podcast he heard that mentioned the we’re never ready and you just have to face your fears

Mark reflects on his career and how he speaks with everyone he helps about their self identity. It’s the most important part of his work. You have to be able to tell your own story. He thinks most people cannot tell their own story. Jim agrees

Mark reads the definition of self identity

Mark reflects on the 1000’s of people he’s helped and shares that most people who are in career transition are burdened by other emotions that make self reflection harder. Shame, self doubt, etc…

The concept of an agent comes up and both guys see great value in using a qualified agent for self reflection

Jim tells his story about a young rugby player who is lost after finishing his professional rugby career. He has tried to help and isn’t sure if the kid will follow his lead or even come back for more coaching. He’s 27 now and has no experience that he can articulate. Jim believes that the skills it takes to be a professional athlete are transferable

Mark offers his opinion on how he might help this kid, including building up his self esteem and how to overcome fear

Before “Who you want to be”, “Who are you”

Mark reflects on his techniques with helping people looking for something else. Jim shares more about this young man. No car, no network…

Mark tells his story about anxiety/fear before his most recent webinar that same morning. He thinks we all have to overcome fear

Jim’s quote. “I’d rather die trying…than not try at all”

Mark shares some of his inner work. He thinks people avoid the inner work because it’s too hard

Jim says this inner work energizes you

Another quote “people seek out the truth”. Then Jim uses Trump as an example. We are drawn to people who you think are filled with truth

Mark suggests that this kid just needs to get started

Jim brings up the instability and anxiety in the world

Mark reflects on his profession and self reflection. Then he expresses how hard the noise is in the world and Jim agrees. The news and the noise makes us anxious

Another quote from Jim. “We are all actors in this world. He or she that plays the best role wins”

Mark ends with his position on acting in the face of fear

He then tells his tory about the toxic manager

He says you can’t let people treat you poorly. “You promote what you accept”

Jim shares the importance of self awareness

Last quote “All comparison leads to misery”

Mark shares his opinions on comparison and how to respond to a disrespectful person