Self Gratitude Is A Muscle That Needs Reps

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What we cover

• Self-gratitude, defined. Appreciating and acknowledging yourself for who you are and what you’ve actually done—without chasing external approval.

• Bitter vs. better is a choice. The default is bitterness. Choosing better takes practice, self-awareness, and repetition.

• Regret, comparison, and the inner critic. How we reflect on past choices can inflame regret or dissolve it. Comparison is on my daily “surrender” list.

• Belonging and contribution. Underneath our titles and paychecks, most people want the same two things: to belong and to contribute—and to be appreciated for it.

• Leadership blind spot. Great leaders praise in public, correct in private. Appreciation is the most missing leadership behavior I see.

• Environment matters. Negative rooms and isolation will eat your mindset. Choose your company and your inputs.

Mark’s daily practice (the muscle)

I share my three-part morning ritual:

1. Love: I send quick love/thanks toward five arenas—God, my kids, my work, my health, my girlfriend.

2. Surrender: I write down the junk (comparison, regret, self-doubt, impatience, pride… about 7–8 items) and hand it off to God—“They’re yours for today.” I ask my inner critic (the “little guy”) to be kind.

3. Visualize: I picture the life I’m building and the energy I’ll bring into rooms. Most days the payoff is quiet; some days it hits like a wave.

Jim’s story: gratitude → impact

Jim walks us through his 18th annual Hayward High Football Alumni Campout:

• Full varsity team in his backyard. Food, mentorship, standards.

• Message #1: Show up. Ninety percent of life is showing up—on time, every time, prepared.

• Message #2: Transitions matter. From “last whistle” (football) to “last bell” (graduation) to real life. Keep showing up when the spotlight moves.

• Message #3: Filtration is real. Life tries to filter you out. Earn your way into the 10% who keep going.

• A moment of firm kindness: A junior who lost eligibility asked to come. Jim told him no—then challenged him to fix his grades and earn it next year.

• The payoff: former players are now coaches, ADs, husbands, fathers—and they came back to lead. That’s impact you can touch.

Quotes we reference

• “All comparison leads to misery.”

• “Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.”

• “People may forget what you said, but they’ll never forget how you made them feel.” — Maya Angelou

Why this matters (to you and me)

• Self-gratitude is internal work. It’s how you talk to yourself when no one’s around.

• It changes rooms. I walk into trainings and tell myself: I’m going to light this room up. Gratitude fuels that.

• It sustains legacy. Not ego—purpose. Belonging + contribution over time becomes your life’s work.

Try this this week

• Write a 3-line gratitude check each morning (love → surrender → visualize).

• Praise someone in public today. One sentence. Be specific.

• Audit your inputs: one negative feed out, one positive conversation in.

• Do one “show up” rep when you don’t feel like it. Then notice how you talk to yourself afterward.

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